The Magnet Empath
The Magnet Empath. This is an empathic individual who has certain magnetic tendencies which are layered onto their classification as an empath, super empath or co-dependent. The Magnet Empath is a person that people are instinctively and naturally drawn to. This person has an inner light which is easily recognised by certain people; those who are in need. The Magnet Empath might be sat on a tube train when the person next to them will find an irresistible urge to want to tell them that they are travelling to an important interview and they are feeling nervous. The Magnet Empath might be waiting in line to be served in a shop when the customer behind them begins to tell them about their concerns and worries, or where the Magnet Empath is sat watching the swans on a lake when a stranger will sit beside them and start to tell their life story. If you find that complete strangers have a tendency to share intimate and private details with you at the drop of a hat, that they feel a need to off load to you within moments of meeting you and confide in you about their hopes, fears and problems, then you have this magnetic quality.
You draw those in need to you. This is because you shine with this inner light which acts as a beacon of hope and that is what the Magnet Empath embodies; hope. Your empathic nature lights up rooms, illuminates the darkest of situations and brightens the dullest day and this is because you are a walking beacon of hope.
The Magnet Empath moves with confidence and purpose. There is no swagger or arrogance in the way that they enter a room, this person glides, they are serene and elegant. You will not witness any timid scurrying or rolling shoulder bluster, but somebody who is calm and assured. This individual has a clear sense of self – something which appeals to our kind – and this radiates wherever they are. Heads turn, eyes focus and people gravitate towards the appearance of the Magnet Empath. People’s faces light up, there is a lifting of the mood and people want to be seen with and to be next to the Magnet Empath.
Whereas our kind expects this kind of reaction from those around us and indeed seeks and demands it, the Magnet Empath accepts attention with grace and humility. They are not shy, they are not reserved, but there is none of the bluff and bragging that would accompany the engagement of a narcissist with those assembled. The Magnet Empath moves amongst people with a lightness of touch, an encouraging smile, a soft hand placed on the arm and hope shines from him or her.
The Magnet Empath will talk about themselves but in a manner which is encouraging and inspirational. Whilst our kind will also inspire it is done from a platform of declaring one’s own brilliance and you should be more like me. Those with the magnetic empathy will inspire by explaining that the listener is already empowered they just need to release it and to explain that if the magnetic empath can achieve certain aims then so can the listener. They emphasise the connectivity between them and those they interact with, demonstrating how essentially, since they are empathic individuals, they are all cut from the same cloth. The narcissist will demonstrate how we are a cut above and use jealousy and envy as motivational tools instead, demanding improvement, whipping individuals into action for fear of the consequences of not doing so, emphasising the difference between the narcissist and the listener and indicating, heavily, that the listener needs to shape up or ship out, go big or go home, if he or she is to achieve anything.
He or she is content for others to share the limelight and indeed positively encourages it which contrasts with the spotlight stealing behaviour of our kind, but this also acts as an attracting factor to our kind. We identify somebody who can capture the spotlight but does not wish to hog it, allowing us to camp on to it instead.
The Magnet Empath wants to harness potential, bring motivation through the provision of hope, the instilling of belief and the raising of optimism. The Magnet Empath is not one of practicality however. They will not assume the mantle of responsibility for an individual and will not get their hands excessively dirty on behalf of another but rather their aim is to cause those around them to feel better in themselves through their own innate abilities, to tap into as yet unharnessed skills and attributes. This person provides panache and style, bringing hope through words, rather than through actions, a person who can influence in a positive manner the lives of many. Whereas the Carrier Empath is a rugged and practical individual and tends to focus on assisting only a few people, sometimes often only one – usually our kind – the Magnet Empath can affect many people at once with their messages of hope and inspiration.
This individual always believes in hope. This is what drives them and causes them to provide extensive fuel generated by this hope. They hope that love can conquer all and therefore are significant love devotees. They refuse to give up, often flogging a dead horse, endeavouring to overcome the insurmountable. This hope often blinds those with magnetic tendencies to the reality of a situation and causes them to engage in courses of action which invariably result in harm to the empathic person. Blind hope will take them down a path which will be exploited by our kind.
Excellent fuel is generated by this gracious individual, their words inspiring, uplifting, praising and complimenting. They are content to say all of these words and expect little or nothing in return, save that the listener grasps hope and secures growth and achievement. The Magnet Empath is also easily led by false exhibitions of hope, the slightest glimmer is something that they will latch on to in the expectation of improvement and seeing changes. Where the narcissist gives this person cause to hope, it will cause the individual to remain in the grasp of the narcissist as they dangle hope before them to keep them bound.
Often this person need not say anything. Their composure and general demeanour marks them out as who they are, which means that many people engage with them as strangers, unaware that sub-consciously they are drawn to the Magnet Empath. These people are sought after as inspirational speakers, people who present prizes, open new buildings, support charitable trusts and such like and their popularity in this regard and the desire of people who just want to reach out and be touched by the Magnet Empath means that they will often find themselves pulled in many directions and spread thin. This impacts on their energy levels as they feel unable to say no to anybody, not wanting to extinguish the hope that they have begun to cultivate. Instead the Magnet Empath will often take on many different obligations and functions for a wide variety of people with not only consequences for their own ability to deliver but their interaction with our kind when we have ensnared a Magnet Empath.
The Lesser Narcissist tend not to choose those with strong magnetic tendencies. This is because the jealous nature of the narcissist as a whole, but especially the less capable Lesser, means that they fear being overshadowed far too quickly and their resentment would be palpable notwithstanding their seduction. The Lesser’s low control threshold would result in him or her being unable to keep their fury under control during seduction and thus the seduction would fail. Accordingly, it is not attempted. Furthermore, the Lesser will hate the attention that this individual would receive with the upshot that the Lesser would be ignored and overlooked. Unable to compete, the Lesser would be repeatedly wounded and notwithstanding the fuel that comes from the Magnet Empath, this would not be enough. Thus it is unusual to find a Lesser who has ensnared such a person.
The Mid-Ranger likes and wants those empaths with magnetic qualities as they encompass those attributes – charisma, likeability, people skills – which the Mid Ranger believes that he or she has and wishes to project to the world at large. Those with magnetic tendencies prove to be a double-edged sword however. The Mid Ranger will struggle to resist, naturally being drawn to this person for who they are because they are prime material for the narcissist, but find themselves awash with jealousy and envy once devaluation begins. During seduction, these traits can be kept in check and the Mid Ranger will appropriate the benign traits of the Magnet Empath for his own use, but once devaluation commences, he becomes coated in envy which will manifest as prolonged and repeated sulking silent treatments.
The Greater Narcissist revels in the Magnet Empath. Possessing similar levels of charm and magnetism, the Greater finds mirroring extremely easy in order to attract this type of empath. The Magnet Empath’s popularity is also appealing to the Greater who basks in the reflected glory of other people’s enthusiasm, praises the Greater for being with such a wonderful person and naturally soaks up the motivating and complimentary words of the Magnet Empath towards him or her. The Greater regards their acquisition as one which actually saves the Greater some work by attracting additional appliances which the Greater will draw fuel from, hijack as his own appliances and then turn against the Magnet Empath when the smearing commences during devaluation.
The Magnet Empath is a popular person with many empathic attributes, their energy level is not as great as other kinds since they engage more in words than actions, but that is not to say they do not act, just not to the same degree as other types of empath. They also have many demands on their time and attention which ultimately will clash with the desires of our kind, resulting in conflict and control. This will not only hurt this type of empath but result in them feeling torn since they feel obliged to assist others, not just the narcissist and this will result in the narcissist wishing to regulate those behaviours and isolate the Magnet Empath. Their capacity to draw people to them in whatever circumstance, even when not actively doing so, will irk the narcissist considerably during devaluation and provide him or her with the grounds for attack and triangulation.
An excellent fuel provider, both in themselves and the ability to bring others to the narcissist’s table and the Magnet Empath is someone who hangs in there, always strung along by hope, which is at the centre of the magnet’s being,usually to their ultimate detriment during devaluation and also in terms of susceptibility to post discard/post escape hovering.
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welp…. here it is. your description is flawless and its as if you know me right down to the core lol.
makes perfect sense… the hope in me still believes that your kind appreciates and adores us because of our unconditional love and ability to see thru your bullshit … & ultimately give the love and affirmation to the desperate little child that remains inside of you.
Which in turn becomes hatred and loathing.
I no longer take this personal.
Although the MRN IS clueless to what they are – I think they’d be willing to accept the Magnet component.
Oh my.
Strumming my pain with his fingers. Singing my life with his words. Killing me softly with his song.
May I point out that this is my life? This is me to a T. I’m going to read it again because it felt satisfying – like being set free from captivity for the very first time, into a wilderness full of your own kind.
My puzzle is complete – I’m a Magnet MRN.
Awww… I’m glad you’re free.
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Oh yes…. I have read about the Empaths, and not quite recognised my kind…. until I read about the Magnet. I am one, with pride, and also with the burden or being the person that others seek out… thank you for talking to me, and trusting me with your hidden truths, but I have my own issues and sometimes need the space to think….
HG sums us up quite nicely, however, he talks of us in utopian terms…. I used to be quite the magnet, the School Captain, the girl who would always have the right and empathetic word to say, the person who could relate and offer words of comfort in the right moment, with the right gesture, with the perfect look of sincerity and understanding….
However, with life, and with experience with the narcissist…. I am learning to understand that my magnetic qualities, which were once innocent and unasked for…. come with them a knowledge that I have a power, perhaps as great as the narcissist’s….
Will I use it for good or evil? My inherent traits are good, but I have now danced with the devil and I know what lies beneath….
The Magnet Empath…. Saint or Sinner HG?
Depends on whether you are painted black or white,Mai 51.
I wasn’t asking from your perspective…..
Ah, there must be some alternative interpretation of “Saint or Sinner HG?” which means not asking for my perspective!
I didn’t mean to seem rude HG…. but it was rhetorical.
I feel at this moment, I could go either way very consciously, that’s all.
You know I appreciate and am grateful for all you’ve done, for me and others.
Quite alright Mai51, I did not regard you as being rude.
I’m sorry mai51, but this exchange is cracking me up. 😁
From my perspective though (if anyong cares), empaths are neither sinners nor saints. It just means that we wear our hearts in our sleeves and we allow ourselves to be vulnerable. We open ourselves to people, even to strangers and allow/welcome them to come in. We are more sensitive than normals and people, thoughts and events affect us more. We can be sinners or saints depending on where our choices lead us. Do we follow our E.T. or do we follow our logic? And yes, HG is right, from our perspective we can be saints or sinners but it is entirely separate from what other people’s perspectives are. So for me I’m just now concerned about whether I am a saint in my perspective. Am I being good to myself? Am I being fair to others? Am I following my principles? Just my personal thoughts.
I think there’s a lot of people out there who are blind to their ‘powers’ and blind to the powers of others – good and bad.
Actions can be wasted on people, either because their intelligence is limited past a certain point or because the tech age 🎭 masks them.
Dance like nobody’s watching? They’re not watching – too bloody busy on their ‘phones!
SJ, I love what you said. It’s so true! I have been reading about mindfulness and being grounded and appreciating your surroundings. It used to be natural to us when we were young children but we outgrow it and start to get so distracted with technology and all other kinds of noise!
Same, Mommypino 🙂
It’s refreshing, basic common sense (when you think about it) and just the natural way to live. I hate the competitive rat-race of modern life – it’s been moulded by greedy fat cats. If the majority of ‘regular citizen’s’ turned against it all, we would win our lives back.
Oh my goodness…..no, I didn’t find your comment insensitive at all! HG and this community have helped me enormously…. and I enjoy reading the comments almost as much as the posts 🙂
Thank you mai51. I’m glad that I didn’t. It must just be my guilt again lol. 😜
Mai51
Choosing sucks, so why not go for both then? A little Saint(ish) in the streets, a lotta Sinner in the sheets.
NA, A sinner-saint hybrid. I like that!
LIKE! 😛
Oh NA! I love the way you think! 😉
Ha ha NA….. yes, this could possibly get around the conundrum quite nicely…
I suppose, realistically, things will never be the same after my entanglement with the ex, and I just need to remain true to myself and my values. However, going super empath towards the end and finally not just putting up with his bullshit, whilst wounding him finally, was considerably satisfying…. if that makes sense?
By the way, fellow survivors…. It has been 3 months NC and life is so calm, and lovely, and I’m even brushing off triggers with little consideration…..and zero hoovers, which of course, helps enormously!
So, to those that may be struggling…. hang in there with GOSO…. it DOES get easier, and you will protect the sense of calm, and the return to your authentic self when it returns to you x
mai51, congrats on your recovery and returning to your authentic self. There’s no better way than the GOSO that HG advocates for us. I believe that it is the only path. More power to you! And I hope that my earlier post didn’t offend you. I was cracking up with your exchange with HG because I thought that it was cute. I always get entertained when I see him exchange banters with commenters. I hope that I wasn’t too insensitive. 💕
I think we are designed for both. Have the courage to unleash the evil where evil is due. Show kindness to the innocent.
I experience this but I’m not even nice enough to be worthy of an empathic label.
Claire you are so worthy of having an empathetic label! Even without having HG’s knowledge on the subject, I am sure just by reading some of your comments I can pick a school and a few cadres! However if you want to found out for sure, there is only one thing for you to do! The empath consult! 😘🙃
I’m not a narcissist Fool me—but I am not volunteering in soup kitchens either. I’m also not normal. That is abundantly clear!
Oh Claire, that is clear!! 🤣🤣🤣🙃😘
On second thought—wouldn’t it have been awesome if part of HG’s treatment be that he had to work in a soup kitchen! For like 1000 hours!
No.
You lovely man! It would be awesome for us both! Butterfly’s fluttering and birds would sing in their glory at our acts of charity! We could even develop new recipes.
Actually I’m sure even in a soup kitchen, HG could find a way to work it to his advantage! 😉
Yes, use it to recruit some Lieutenants.
Pick pockets maybe.
But of course! 🙃
I will volunteer at the animal shelter in a second. I adore critters. People—much less so!
Agreed! 🙃
hahhha oh yes Claire! I’d love to see that!
Or a sole astronaut, where he has absolutely no contact with the outside world for a couple of years.
Oh no way—now that is a creative thought!
HG, what would the MRNs response be when reading your blogs? I can’t ask them obviously but I know of 2 that have dabbled with your articles here.
They would believe the behaviours they read about apply to the True Victim and they would likely label that person the narcissist.
That’s exactly what mine did/said when I sent him your Fuel book via post (after I’d read it, of course).
“Is He A Narcissist?” New video absofuckinglutely brilliant. Had me laughing. Can’t comment on YouTube but HAD to say. SO good. Can hear your almost frustration at our idiocy .
Thank you.
Thank you. I am one of individuals you have described here. Until I read this I had absolutely no idea what I experience daily could be explained. The magnet you describe has always been there. I knew it made me a bit different and learned I could turn it up as I got older but never could put what “it” was into words.
Googling the Silent Treatment brought me to you almost 2 years ago. I’ve been following you ever since. I’m enlightened with each topic and have to admit, hard as I try, I’ve yet to prove you wrong.
Thanks again!
Lisa, I don’t think so. H.G. Tudor knows us better than we do.
He could pick one out in a police line-up.
“Number 3!”
LIsa. The Silent Treatment had me tapping out, as well. And I only was treated to a subtle one, it had only started a bit, and vaguely, but I could not endure it and found my way here. If only our militaries, law enforcement etc. could weaponize The Silent Treatment. They could save us from a lot of Terror. I think the media gives too much publicity and credence to the mischievous sort that thrive on public notoriety. If we could cut them off media wise, without cutting off everyone else, and could be trusted to do so, that would be a good thing.