Thank Tudor It’s Friday! #1-3
I really do spoil you all, you know that, don’t you?
Not only do I answer your questions on this blog, brilliantly curate the best articles about narcissism in the world and now I record answers to more questions so you have HG in your ears just in time for the weekend!
What more could you want?
So, pump up the volume and get your Friday Fix of Fantastic Freedom courtesy of HG.
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When is your next Friday segment?
On A Friday.
Shocking!
I bet you are socially awkward HG!
Far from it.
Haha! Not Aspergers-like? Lacking social cues? Couldn’t help it..
Not at all.
Would your narcissism prevent you from knowing? Ok I’ll stop!
No. How do you think I’m so effective?
It occurred to me because you are so bright. I don’t like to think of you as “effective.” I’m hoping you are actually less effective these days and employing kinder means of carrying on. I do get it though—the concept.
Indeed.
I think I asked this somewhere but I dont remember where. With regard to the fake friend requests when they have completely blocked you? I get that normally those would be indirect Hoover’s but if they gave you blocked completely and rhey know you won’t accept the request then what’s the motive ?
It is aimed at gaining fuel and information whilst maintaining plausible deniability that it is them making the request.
I loved these videos HG. You sound wonderful and positive. I felt so happy listening to you.
I don’t agree about going no contact with a narcissist son or daughter. I think it’s situational but that is so extreme for a parent to cut off their child. As a parent you are the one who taught your child what love is.
Im on vacation in a very beautiful , tropical place While drinking very fruity and very strong alcoholic beverages I sat back on a sandy beach and listened to this:) So informative HG as usual. Love love these audios, and damn that beautiful voice of yours! Thank you so much again!
HG, Just listened to these. Your audios are excellent. I hope you will consider every Friday becoming a TTIF! Thank you so much for everything you do!
You are welcome.
“…once the fuel crisis is abated by the provision of fuel the construct recovers to its pre-crisis condition.”
Thank-you for that HG.
That is interesting.
I think I can see a specific instance where alcohol dependency is a problem for a narcissist who is consistently experiencing fuel shortages…the alcohol consumption itself causing long-term health issues of course – and just imagine how *suddenly* – once fuel sources are readily available again – one can magically be ‘on the wagon’ again.
Where is the control/cope video? I am having no luck..
Herewith
https://youtu.be/hd9wil9MUhE
The search function is your friend!
Thanks! I did search but I didn’t find it so I’m a bad investigator!
Alright.. Makes perfect sense and I looked and found the written arrangement and recalled reading it—it just means more now as it comes together more cohesively. The understanding you provide makes it difficult for me to be angry with those in my life that have been (we shall say) unpleasant. Even the worst being the marital entanglement. My father and so on.. I doubt you will answer this but you have expressed contempt toward your mother. Knowing what you know and fully understanding what you know—what point is revenge? It’s a defense mechanism and she has zero insight I still think my father did the best he could and many things he did well. It doesn’t discount his flagrantly sexually inappropriate overtures that I had to dodge—it was very uncomfortable. I just can’t think “he was all bad.” I have a strong distaste for my spouse but even he is really just pathetic and broken. Why punish the punished?
HG,
Does repeatedly losing their primary source (or having been often left in a fuel crisis) have a long-term, cumulative, deleterious affect on a narcissist?
By the way – love this Friday’s recording! Great questions by readers and very clear, concise answers from you. Also, I found it personally very helpful to hear about the ‘red mist.’
Good question WC, it might in the sense that if repeated fuel crises result in say the narcissist being injured, locked up etc those naturally impact over time (weakened physical health, criminal record, diminished financial circumstances) but once the fuel crisis is abated by the provision of fuel the construct recovers to its pre-crisis condition.
@WhoCares
My EXN worked overseas for a few years and didn’t know the empact of what it would do to his health being separated from me. I’m the ipps and he literally was in contact with me the time he woke up to sleep. He would be heading to appts and contacting me. His health went down to the point he developed a permenant disability. It was a huge shock to all of us. He was unable to recover from that disability but he absolutely recovered as much as he could after returning home. He was actually in great shape according to the dr. Fast forward to our divorce and all it entailed he now is back to falling apart from the permanent no contact I have maintained for over a year. His health is not good and I found out it really isn’t and to the point of possible five years of life left.
He is ensnared by his sister who is a higher narc (a viper) than him.If I didn’t know the secrets of her schemes I never would have divorced him. I’m a codependent I think and just knowing he will die is hard for me to swallow. But I am staying zero contact despite all my emotional thinking.
I thought my EX was a greater but I am sure now he is a possible lower or middle mid ranger and the sister upper middle ranger or greater of some sort. She controls the family dynamics. She convinced him to give her access to our savings. She didnt spend it she worked it to be in charge when he or we die. I complained about it and he raged. Blew my mind. Now that just angered me writing that..
So, that’s my take of it and hg is right. They do bounce back.
Love it!!! You make me laugh!!
TTIF!!
Aww Hg yes you do.
I’m going to double check the review s on your books at Amazon and make sure I have given you the great reviews you deserve for each book.
Exorcism is my own favourite go to book.
A piece of brilliance.
I’m too scared to read sex and the narcissist though.
Thank you for doing so. Don’t be scared of SATN, it is a game changer.
Kiki
Don’t be scared to read SATN. It explains so much and answers so many questions. Answers can never be scarier than floundering in the dark.
You know every time I see SATN I read satan I always stick that darn A between the T and N.
Twilight
Haha. I see it too and wonder if it wasn’t intentional.
Narc Angel
It probably was intentional.
“Answers can never be scarier than floundering in the dark.”
NA, brilliant and so true.
And I agree, SATN offers excellent information and surprising revelations even for those not in an intimate relationship with a narcissist.
It was not an easy read—I still don’t like thinking about a few things in it.
It’s often the case that something worth reading and absorbing ever is. This is a case where the (perceived) risk is outweighted by the information that educates and arms you about past, and against, future manipulation. The medicine that cures but tastes bad scenario.
Well said and agreed NA
I once felt like some other readers feel, I couldn’t face SATN but after a few months of reading on here, I summoned the courage and read it.
It’s not on my favourite HG book list though the information provided is pivotal in helping quash emotional thinking surrounding sex with a narcissist.
Helps build logic defences.
Hey, read it, you’ll be dead. It was one of the hardest books I’ve ever read.
Haha. Well that read as backhanded encouragement! But encouragement all the same.
I have been spoilt! I too fear SATN and I do see the Satan in that, lol.
Was talking today about that 1976 film The Omen where the creepy nurse jumps from the side of the house saying, ‘This is for you, Damian.’
Filmed in the UK, even. That film scared me as a kid but I just find it funny.
I like ’70s horror.
In any event, thanks for the answers, HG!
Kiki, SATN was the first book I bought. Still haven’t read it. I understand your fear.
Read it Mercy.
I promise it will help you xo
Yes I don’t think my self esteem could take the blow of reading it.
My self esteem with men is already very low. I think I’ll never gave a true loving relationship if I read satn I think I would end up internalising it and some way blaming myself. it’s something I do which is not good
Mercy. What is this book Satn? I have looked for and can’t find
Thanks
Sex and the Narcissist
Lob and NA. Thank you. Bought it long time ago.
Kim e, Sex and the Narcissist. I started it this morning. It’s not so bad.
Kim e
Sex And The Narcissist.
Nawwwwwww!!! Yes you do spoil us, HG. You have a loyal and ever growing following. I’m grateful, and I speak for so many others who are too. There’s only one HG Tudor and your work is unsurpassed. You already know that, but you deserve to hear it 🙂
Happy Friday – have an awesome weekend with the SM. Xxxx thank you for everything xxxx