Inanimate Compliance

 

inanimate-complianceI have a fascination for inanimate objects. Show me a beautiful watch with its intricate mechanism on display and I shall sit transfixed for a long time admiring the craftsmanship in this creation. I like to touch one of my favourite suits relishing the sensation of the cloth. I will hold it up pleased with the way it hangs and then of course admire how I wear it in the mirror. A sculpture, a painting, a car or a piece of jewellery. They all invite my admiration. They are items of beauty and superiority and as such firmly belong in my world. Moreover, they do exactly what I want. I love my dishwasher. It always works. I press the buttons and it obeys my commands, quietly churning away as it removes the residue from the expensive crockery. The glassware comes out shining, without streaks or marks. Each and every time. Objects are reliable. They perform as I require them to perform. I love nothing more than an appliance. It complies, it obeys and it delivers. I love possessions.

I love to possess you and make you an inanimate object. That is how I see you. You are an appliance which I expect to do as I demand.You are but an extension of me, placed here to carry out my demands and whims. I like to attach brand names to my ex-girlfriends. Becky was Zanussi – she was good at science, thus she was the appliance of science. Sarah was Nike since I had to tell her to Just Do It.(she called me Burger King – have it your way, I quite liked her).Another was Energizer as she kept going and going and going (but that’s another tale). I like to think I am Tag Heuer (Success. It’s a Mind Game).I objectify everybody and assess how they can be a good appliance to me. Once that is done I have to acquire the appliance. I have possession of you and you must act as I dictate. All my other possessions do, so why should you be any different?

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43 thoughts on “Inanimate Compliance”

  1. I’m an InstantPot. It’s simple, super helpful in the kitchen, has many different uses (you can cook rice in it, you can make perfect boiled eggs, perfect corn on the cobs, you can cook a whole chicken, make soups, make lava cakes etc.) But if you don’t use me correctly and break my safety features I can explode on your face and your face will be gone.

        1. What is this disdain for baking?? I absolutely love sugar cookies for instance. They are poison, but so good.

      1. Claire. HG loves to bake cakes? Wow. When and if ever it is time for HG to pay for his past mistakes, I have just the perfect job for him: In Japan you can pay a man for a non-sexual evening to come to your house and cook for you and cuddle with you and you can tell him your problems, and they sleep next to you if you feel lonely. This is a profession called Sheep Boys, in the way one counts sheep in order to fall asleep, and sheep will not harm you. Plus, the man must be handsome and smell good as part of the job requirement for the cuddling and sleeping next to you part. HG seems like he knows how to smell good, as well. I am not joking about this profession. Here is a clip that starts around 12 minutes 20 seconds…https://youtu.be/QS2QdRaW3Qs?list=PLwIqZKiv9BJRRQvZS7XBvLBEVCNafrq8e

          1. Dearest HG: The Sheep Boy Audition and Selection Committee, has noted your response. You still meet the main requirements of being handsome and smelling good. You have been booked with your first assignment for a sleepover next week and will be paid the standard $1000.00. Details to follow. Please note have never seen a rush to book one of our Sheep Boys as we are encountering with your application, when it was shown to our benevolent clients. It is Unbelievable. Congratulations. Please do not be a Baaaa Baaaa BAD boy!

        1. I could never do this because I won’t let anyone in my bedroom—it is a sterile environment. Real story!

        1. I dare him to post some baking with his lady friend for IG. Everyone loves baked goods once in awhile right? My oven is broken right now though..

    1. Mommypino: `But if you don’t use me correctly and break my safety features I can explode on your face and your face will be gone.` ~~mommypino. Hahahahaha!

      1. PSE, FM1T, NB and HG, I love my Instant Pot but I still get paranoid about it exploding so I make sure I follow safety precautions like not putting too much liquid inside if I’m cooking food that expands like barley. They have a name for people like me: Pot heads. 😊

        HG if someday you and SM will have kids Instant Pot and a sous vide stick will be really helpful. You can change the diapers and feed the kids while you’re cooking and you wouldn’t have to hover around the food cooking because the Instant Pot will automatically turn off and the sous vide stick will not over cook food because it keeps the temperature the same.👍

        1. Mommypino. Place a warning label on your Instant Pot: Narcissits Beware! Do Not use! Better To Lose Face, than to Lose Your Face! Do not remove warning label–Under universal warning code: No Contact.

          1. PSE, love that logo: “better to lose face than to lose YOUR face”!

          2. PSE you’re too funny! I love that slogan. I might just make a vinyl of that with my Cricut was to put on my IP. 😊

  2. Dearest HG: I am also reminded of the movie where a leader`s sister is applying for a formally recognized relationship with her robot, Pax. Her brother wants to stop her. She explains how her robot Pax was more of a man and that she loves the robot and that they are in rapport and the way he is programmed just for her makes her happy. (I hear that in Japan, robots are being made for relationships for both men and women). Scene starts in the movie I found on youtube of: The Return of the Humanoids, at around 35:18. https://youtu.be/xVgldYEoSoA

  3. Dearest H.G: I am reminded of Ryan Gosling and his `girlfriend` Bianca that he met on the internet in the movie I saw titled: `Lars and the Real Girl.` I think I will watch it again, now. He did have a satisfying Golden Period with her. I forgot exactly how her discard came about. Here is a youtube clip of Lars and the Real Girl from the movie:https://youtu.be/yXG75dEnhus

      1. Sniglet. these special `girl friends` and `boy friends` have been upgraded since the days of that movie: Here is a little snippet on them from youtube. They cost around $20,000.00. Twenty thousand dollars.https://youtu.be/-cN8sJz50Ng

    1. I have not thought of his as a narc but now that you have said it, I think you’re right. He does have that weird Stepford kind of perfection going on. Although he’s still in a relationship with Eva Mendez whom I think is a beautiful person inside and out. Hopefully he doesn’t break her heart.

      1. Mommypino: I liked the movie, Lars and the Real Girl, but I do not know much about Ryan Gosling. The Hollywood machine is not pushing him much into my sphere of media exposure, yet. Re: Children of ACON, mommypino, you explained on another post exactly what I am trying to say, that no child is really loved by them in the classical sense, and is therefore a faulty appliance to the Narcissist, including the Golden Child, and is a receptacle being used, no matter how the child is treated, as an appliance for triangulation, scapegoating, guilt, false responsibility, facade maintenance and competition, false pride, self-righteousness, blame shifting and really an innumerable list of other manipulations and usages. None of which is good for the child to be steeped in. Some children may have it easier by pretending to go along, but that child`s authenticity is being damaged by doing so. Some others may actually go along for their own other reasons. And, are biding their time until they are independent enough to continue the malady willingly, themselves. They are `chips off the old block.` The beat goes on. And still others may learn to pretend or to actually go along with things they should not and do not like, and continue to do so when they are adults, as well. No child wins. Many fight back, but a child that has to fight back has no home to feel safe any longer, when a safe home is so important for a child that is young and dependent. All these ACON become adults. Some just survive in manners more acceptable to their respective societies as adults, depending on the individual makeup of the individual child… It is not good for anyone to be an ACON. However, we all deal with the cards we were dealt, and some deal better than others, as you know. Many of us stay stuck in a pattern. However, after we have our epiphany, many others of us are rectifying much of what we did not approve of in our upbringing, as much as we can, over time and are taking on the difficult task of breaking the `chain of custody.`

        1. Hi PrincessSuperEmpath, I get what you are saying and it’s all very true. I think that the disagreement with Saskia was just from the definition or interpretation of a broken appliance but you are both totally accurate and you actually agree with the essence of what you are both saying. You described my life correctly. I went through phases growing up. At my earliest recollections I was incredibly sad when I saw my mom abuse my cousins and she got so mad at me when I defended them. Then as I grew up I learned to lie to please her. In Kindergarten I would tell her lies about hitting the kids that she wanted me to hit just so that she wouldn’t call me a coward. There was this boy in particular that I played at the playground and he left his shoe marks on my uniform and I can’t even remember how it happened. She said that he kicked me and I told her that he did not kick me and she did not believe me and told me that I must hit his head with the heel of my shoe. She was making me do it for days and I just couldn’t so I just lied and she was proud of me. So I learned to lie and I lied so much to her as part of my survival. Then I became her lieutenant when I was 7-8 yrs old breaking my cousin’s appliances to make her happy. She of course smeared them to me so I felt that I was doing it to bad people anyway. But my aunt caught me and it didn’t make me feel good. I felt really small and bad. So I told myself to not do bad things for her. I have always struggled in staying true to myself and escaping her wrath. I would yell back at her when I was in third grade. I was very disrespectful and some people saw me yell back at her and didn’t like me. When I was in college I caught the bamboo stick that she was going to beat me with and I took it from her hand. That was the last time that she tried to hurt me because I was stronger than her already. So in a way, I was a broken appliance because I didn’t have a healthy environment to grow and develop. And in a way I was also a broken appliance because I was not always reliable in giving her what she wanted. But I didn’t rebel just for the heck of it. I didn’t live a destructive life because I still tried to stay true to who I am and tried to do what was best for me. She always drilled me to never take drugs and I never did not because I was compliant to her but because I didn’t think that it was good for me and I wouldn’t destroy myself just to be defiant to her. I tried to live where she had as little effect on me as possible and the choices that I made in life where because it’s what I wanted for myself regardless of her approving it or not approving it.

          1. Mommypino. Wow. You did not have a dull moment growing up. I think we all are saying the same thing in various ways. The difference is, I wanted to emphasize to Saskia, and I guess I did not do so that well, that I feel exceptionally bad for the children that were so over powered that they could never protest in any way. I believe I am speaking up for them. The ones that did not have a shot to counter the abuse. I think I was triggered, as some say on here, to speak on behalf of that lot: Some children had No Way to dare resist the extreme dominance, but I am , of course, glad that Saskia could.

          2. I think that in the bigger picture all ACoNs do not have a chance to counter their narc parents while they are depending on them. Not even Master H.G.. I had a different personality in school and at home with my mom. At home I was so close to how H.G. described Codependents in his book Chained where the codependent couldn’t even pick the drink that she wanted and just let H.G. pick for her. I was so timid but I also blew up so many times when she was being unbearably ridiculous. I learned to ignore a lot of her antics that would drive most people crazy. You’re so right, there was no dull moment. It was such a low life day to day existence. I only get my dignity back when I’m at school. So glad I’m out of that. When I was with my mom visiting other people I rarely talk. I knew that it was totally her show and I’m just a prop sitting beside her. But I had moments that I was able to resist as well. Although in general we are really trapped and just bidding our time to get out.

    1. With my luck I’d be remembered as a stool softener. “She is comfort coated and offers overnight relief.”

          1. I said it many times, I love the humor in this blog. It keeps me alive.

  4. Hahahaha! This is very funny. I wonder what object would I be for my idio… I mean that guy whose name I prefer to forget.

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