Little Acons – No. 29
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“Have you heard from Bruce”…my brother moved 200 miles away to escape!😂😂😂
Check his IG.
ABW
That made me laugh.
Ha haha… I will never know what it was like to be the Golden Child. The “misfit”, yes… the “problem”, yes…
One other thing i wanted to mention about the golden child dynamic is its not personal. For years i grew up wondering what about me was not up to my mothers standards when it was never about me it was about her. Npd is about self absorbtion and their needs being met. I didnt fulfill “HER” needs plain and simple and my brother did. Its also about control and i had a mind of my own and wasnt under her total control. Her npd really started to come out around the time i graduated highschool and wanted to fly the coop. She could not handle the fact i was my own person. She wanted to control me and i wouldnt allow it. That infuriated her but my brother was always in her control and he always catered to her and in return she put him up on the golden child throne. It was never about me it was about her and having her needs met.
CM – I can relate to this too, especially the bit about “it was never about me….and my brother did”. The fact I didn’t realise this at the time fucked me up for years! I’m proud to be the black sheep of the family now! I’m the Baa Noir!!
BlkU123
Hahaha. Is that your new name? BaaNoir?
Haha, as long as it has black in it!!! But really, I love my unicorn more!! It’s a fighter!!
I think i put man husband…i meant son husband a term i came across the perfectly describes the mother son relationship in my family.
This right here! This picture says it all. Our family has been broken for 15 years. Ive not seen my brother and even when my narc mother comes over to visit which is hardly ever she still can not help herself injecting him into the visit and bragging about him in some way as if things are ok between us. He is her man husband. Not in an intimate way but in a psychological way she places him even above her own husband AND has her cerebral narc hubby so whipped he idolizes my brother as well. Its such a sick relationship. Im glad i took myself as much as i could out of that equation years ago. Ive mourned the loss of what i feel she shouldve been to me. I mourn the loss of a brother and a close family but i celebrate the freedom from toxicity! They are so consumed with each other and there was no longer room for me. It still hurts when i see close families but i remind myself theyre many others out there like me who arent close and thats ok. Life is what you decide it to be and i decide to build a happy life despite not having that. I also am making sure both my kids know their importance to me.
This looks like the facial expression my dad always had!