A Letter to the Narcissist – No. 70

SARA LETTER

 

Dear Female Narcissist (a.k.a. Greedy Fat Pig)

Thank you!  Thank you for your inadvertent help because before I was spotted and chosen by you, I had no idea that females like you existed. There’s always a school-yard bully or two with their own gang of bullies but I had no idea that adult bullies with their own gang of adult bullies, existed. I also believed that if I should ever come across an adult bully, it would probably be a male with tattoos or a yob on a stolen bicycle pushing around the younger kids. Now I know differently.
You weren’t and probably still aren’t, typically feminine looking with your almost 6 foot stature, manly gait, michellin man neck and a Desperate Dan looking chin, without the whiskers. But you had this sing-song voice, much like a toddler which made you sound gentle and kind. You found me at the local park, remember. You walking your dog and me walking mine. You told me you came almost every day and had never seen me. I said ditto. After a couple of weeks, I saw you again at the park and we walked and chatted. When we arrived back at the car park, you asked if I would mind looking after your dog for the day whilst you worked as there was no-one else available on that day. I said yes and by saying yes, that’s how you were able to infiltrate and subsequently infect, my life.
I had no idea what you were. I hadn’t heard of The Dark Triad or Extreme Narcissism or Sociopath. I’d heard of the word Psychopath but you didn’t look like Ted Bundy. I thought you were like me. I thought, from what you told me, that you were a kind, considerate, trustworthy, caring and compassionate person. That’s the reason why I liked being your friend. I had no idea that I had become your latest prey and I had no idea that you were a Greedy Fat Pig. You didn’t see why (and probably still don’t) you alone were responsible for paying off your personal debt. You took advantage of my kindness. You took me to the cleaners. You left me to fight off your gang of flying monkeys with accusations of my mental instability immediately after I told you to never, ever contact me again. You left me to defend my text message to you in which I wrote “Leave me alone, I’ve told everyone about you and they’re as disgusted in you as I am” to the police officer you sent to my door with false accusations of sending you an ‘abusive text message’. Luckily, I still had the text and the police officer said you were a bully and for me to stop contact.
I will always refer to you as a Greedy Fat Pig. A Greedy Fat Pig who not only got me to pay off your debt because it was causing major depression and your parents have never once helped you, but who lied to me about your parents. Your parents whose rental home you were living in when we met. The rental home which they sold and bought you your own home, no mortgage to pay. Whatever furniture you wanted, you got and then you were bought a new car.
You are nothing but an oversized toddler hanging onto Mummy and Daddy’s purse strings. You’re financially greedy. Everyone is your piggy-bank. Everyone has to come to your rescue. You left me and no doubt others before me, financially depleted. When are you going to stand on your own two feet?  You’re almost 46 years of age. Will you ever stop preying on others for financial gain? How much money is going to be enough?
Like a pig in muck, you’re happy with yourself. I know you are. You put in a lot of effort, conning people like me. You’re like a train without brakes. You’re a train wreck and you always will be. You know that I know what you are. I know that you know. It’s why you smeared my character so badly. You fear my knowledge and my strength. You know that I could cause problems for you. I like that. I like to think that you’re worried I might land a blow against you in the future.
You taught me a huge lesson about female narcissists.  You are very much gold-diggers with the more unattractive, manly-looking ones such as yourself, preferring to prey on women for financial gain (as a new best friend) because you know you have little to no chance of seducing a man. Not with that Desperate Dan chin of yours and a voice like a dog’s squeaky chew toy!
You screwed me over big time but guess what? I won!  I won because I get to feel happy and joyful. I win because I see and feel the beauty of this world, in spite of there being people like you around. I win because I’m on the good side. The side of Light. I win because of my newfound awareness.
I win, you Greedy Fat Pig. Checkmate!
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20 Comments

  1. Why when u write about male narcissist u don’t use name calling like fat pig but a woman u automatically. Used hate speech used against woman. Who are not narcissist??? I don’t get the discriminating description I use to describe a woman physical attributes and find it more toward. Tearing down a woman not that she is a narcissist.

    1. Sorry- poorly written/

      Why when you write about male narcissist you don’t use name calling like fat pig but a woman you automatically use hate speech used against woman daily who may. Or may not be narcissist??? I don’t get the discriminating description used to describe a woman physical attributes and find it more towards tearing down a woman not that she is a narcissist

      1. Perfectly Imperfect. Are you speaking of the letter above? It is a woman speaking about another woman that targeted her, a very greedy woman. Pigs are known for being greedy, just as foxes are known for being cunning, and dogs for being without discretion, and on and on. And this letter is from a woman and not a man calling a woman a name. She also called men potential bullies or a yob, whatever that is. Also, HG has photos of men as pigs on this site, as well. Or, maybe I am missing what your complaint is about. I probably am. But both genders are called plenty of names in life, from what I observe.

        1. Speaking in general why ugly words are used it being narcissist or just to be mean . Even being used as a woman against another or a woman to another or from a man to another

        2. If I write a response is it automatically a “complaint” ? It is the statement as such of why (no matter ) the situation being it male or female do we use words like to emotional abuse any one. If this person isn’t. Narcissist, why stoop to that low level . My statement wasn’t towards HD but towards the general public . . I am aware of what comparison .

          1. Perfectly Imperfect. Calling someone a deserving name is not mentally abusing them. It is calling someone a deserving name. Maybe something has been triggered in you by the word fat or the word pig. I do not know. If that is the case, then that is a different subject. There are men that behave exactly like fat pigs as well. But, I will call someone a deserving name whenever I want to and whenever I feel I can get away with it. Whether I call someone a creepy peeping tom, or a dirty disgusting child rapist, or a dumb gang member of maniacal bullies. Or, a fat greedy pig. If that is what they are, and if that is how they behave, I will describe them as such. And not call them a precious flower, if they are not one. Even if it is not politically or socially correct to do so. I have not as yet subjected myself to be overly politically correct. I find too much of that stuff imprisons people’s` freedom. And truth is not always pretty and can be pretty ugly. I am not sure where the mixup is, but there definitely is one, somewhere. And this is my response or complaint, or whatever it is best to call it.

          2. There is no such thing as calling anyone a deserving name – learn empathy and forgiveness and move on . What imprisons your freedom is hate .

          3. Perfectly Imperfect. Whoaa!!! Easy Tiger. By the way, as the wise proverbs say: there is a time to love, and a time to hate. But, since you appear to be brimming and overflowing with a shocking abundance of kindly and tender love at this time, for all people, under all circumstances, I shall retreat* from your soft and delicate persona. As you wish.

      2. Perfectly Imperfect
        HG did not write this. The A Letter To The Narcissist series is written by readers.

  2. Female narcs are the worst! Way worse than any of the men!
    They have the advantage of using emotional manipulation and abuse to the hilt, bc society says, “women are supposed to be emotional.” Turn on the tears to get anything you want. It’s also perfectly acceptable for a woman to not hold a job and behave jealous, controlling, and possessive.
    Sad!

    1. Oh dear. If that is what society says a woman should be, I am seriously failing society and couldn’t be happier about it.

    2. Narcissist are just that narcissist the gender doesn’t matter. Just more hypocrisy of hate speech against women

  3. I couldn’t find this funny except for the picture. Perhaps because it used abusive language.

    1. By the way HG—I’m listening again to the co-parenting package as homework:)
      Getting there. I want more than ever before to never speak to him again after being verbally assaulted the last time. It was like being slapped and I can’t even recall why he was on the phone—maybe the kids called him? Anyway, he’s not phoned any of the kids for maybe over a week as he doesn’t have them due to my vacation. It’s so telling. I call them each portion of each day they are with him. You peg these assholes like no one ever before you or that will ever come after you.

      1. Indeed and well done on re-visiting that Assistance Package, I have had a lot of feedback evidencing how useful it is and delighted people are to have obtained it.

        1. Yes everything you do is top notch. I listened to half of it while on an exercise bike—multi-tasking today! I was too lazy to peddle for two hours so will get to the rest tomorrow!

  4. Nice one! Out of curiosity- what school was she? Sounds like MR , she sounds like a greedy fat pig MR I know .

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