Healing the Hurt
This material will enable you to bring an end to the cycle of hurt you experience from the narcissist.
By utilising HG Tudor´s unrivalled insight into how the narcissist thinks and operates and how this impacts on empathic victims, this will enable you to understand what it is that YOU do which causes you to keep being impaled by the interactions with the narcissist and how this ALWAYS results in a problem for you. You may think that certain forms of interaction with the narcissist are somehow “safe” – think again. HG Tudor explains how every time you interact with the narcissist you are opening yourself up to further problems and thus why you must avoid those interactions.
This material also explains to you how you become trapped in the seemingly endless cycle of interaction and pain, hurt, anger, misery and/or frustration with the narcissist. Why you keep getting dragged back into the dynamic with the narcissist and why you are susceptible to this. HG Tudor explains in his usual direct and no-nonsense style precisely why you go around and around, wasting years on the narcissist, frittering away time, energy and money and how you can break this cycle.
No matter where you are at with regard to your journey to freedom from the narcissist, Halting the Hurt will enable you to achieve freedom and beat the narcissist.
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Thank you, Sir. But… Isn’t reading or listening to your works the third prong somehow? Often, I feel angry at myself for letting it happen and for dwelling on your website to understand.
No, because how else are you going to understand? The best medicine often has side effects. It is ET trying to pull you away from the logic you find here.
ET… Thank you, Sir ! All along I thought I was only LT… Even thought I am the narcissist hiding behind my little finger lamenting on how bad it was.
Hi HG, re number 4. There is a good chance that others will have experienced or witnessed the vile behaviour of the narcissist. I am thinking mid-ranger specifically. These people will not be passing on the conversation, more keen to be swapping experiences and tips with you. If in the workplace, this conversation at the right point in time with the right person could be a nail in the coffin.
Really interesting how you lay out the 3 prongs and the impact . As you often say – you can’t win with a narcissist and engaging with him is losing right off the bat.
Very clever.
And accurate.
Dearest HG: No wonder I was so extremely exhausted, in my entanglement with 5 workplace people, 3 were Narcissists, and regarding the other 2, one was a Bully and the other one extremely Bitter. What a team. I was really being pitchforked. A hell on earth. Inside a hellish spinning hamster Wheel. A burning labyrinth, trying to walk my way out. Now they want me to return. Of course they do. They do not have those pitchforks for no reason. Too bad. Practice elsewhere. It all is really nauseating.
This article really hit home, thank you HG. I am so stuck in emotional thinking even though I have been no contact for 4 months. I think of her all the time and still bore others about the relationship – I lose! I am really looking forward to booking the GOSO consultation, I need it.
Good and I am pleased you found it useful. It is a Prime Article and every reader should ensure they read it, understand and apply it.
HG
This would be a great addition to your YouTube video portfolio, when you have time.
I haven’t been able to find “This Time It Will Work” recently. Have you withdrawn it because you’re re-doing it ?
What a wonderful article HG!
You’ve presented these specifics of the N/E dynamic in an engaging and thorough expository manner.
Very well done!
Thank you!
Thank you
Great piece. Great examples. I appreciate direct, honest information to fully comprehend this addictive dynamic. After decades of an eroded self-worth due to my hyperactive ET, hypervigilance, and reactivity it is important to realize that I am a sovereign being and that I matter, also.
E&L
You certainly DO matter!
You’re a precious person.
That is a really great article and an incredibly powerful reminder! With a really helpful three pronged approach – I like it very much!
HG, would a greater go as far as to arrange for someone to burgle your house? There was something specific he was after which is now securely locked away in an offsite location only known to me.
This is a greater (as with all I’m sure) who would definitely have lieutenants ready and willing to commit this act on his behalf. I wonder because this particular one, I engage with fairly frequently. When he calls me, he calls me on WA rather than a mobile call. He kept asking me the dates of my holiday, not obsessively, but enough to arouse my suspicion. Stupidly I told him, but when he asked the second and third time I became suspicious. On the third occasion I WA after saying I had made a mistake and these were the dates (giving him incorrect dates this time). When I was on the very first day of my holiday abroad, he called me mobile to mobile rather than via WA. I am certain he did this to test whether I was away as the ring tone would have been different so he would know I was not in the country. Very clever, I thought. I let him know what a nightmare weekend I’d had before I traveled (a total lie), I told him my sister had turned up at my home with all her children (he knows she lives pretty far away from me and that we’re not at all close) because she was having problems with her husband. I whinged about how annoyed I was because she would be staying for at least a couple of weeks, and that I didn’t like the thought of her staying at my home etc whilst I was away.
Is this feasible? or was this over cautious of me? None of the other Ns I interact with give me cold chills like this one does!
Yes.
Gosh! Thank you so very much for your reply HG. And thank you so very much for all your hard work! I could never have second guessed this without you, not even in the slightest. I know I have an alternative way of dealing with my post N knowledge but I have learned from you things which I could never have dreamed of. I could give you 100s of examples like this where your teachings have saved my skin in so many different ways.
I know you already know this. But you truly are the most amazing teacher and therapist and ultra narc! And to all mid rangers out there, I am not part of a cult. This is real knowledge with real value and real learning and development!
I haven’t checked what I’ve written so I hope it makes sense.
Thank you and you are welcome.
Three little letters more than make up for the torment you’re causing me in the anticipation of Boris. 💋
Ha ha, your torment is self-inflicted dear AS2016.
I’m learning this HG. And I have applied patience and silence and genuinely forget about any N who is trying to manipulate me, personal or business. It works wonders. But you’re very deserving of some fuel