A Very Royal Narcissist 2

A VERY ROYAL

Over a year ago, Prince Harry married Meghan Markle who is now known as the Duchess of Sussex. Just prior to their wedding I wrote A Very Royal Narcissist which identified from the evidence available many determinative factors demonstrating that a narcissist was about to marry in to the Royal Family.

A year has passed since then and with such a prominent individual it is very worthwhile placing the Duchess under the TudorScope once more to ascertain whether the initial determination was incorrect or whether her behaviours underline and affirm the first determination. There is a plethora of information that can be utilised and in the interests of brevity and accessibility I have not used everything that available and therefore if certain examples and instances are not included, that is why.

Before we embark on the analysis let me make something clear for the Hard of Understanding. This is nothing to do with race. It is about narcissism. Not because the Duchess identifies as biracial through having black and white relatives. It is irrelevant whether she is white, black, yellow or a mixture. Narcissists are white, black, brown, yellow, male, female, transgender, straight, gay, bisexual, religious, not religious – we come in many different packages. This is focussed on narcissism and not race, so if you try and make it about race not only have you missed the point, you are also making yourself look stupid.

Furthermore I know there are other narcissists in the royal family (they will get their turn under the Tudorscope worry not) so you do not have to keep piping up about that. Miss Markle is prominent and therefore a very worthwhile subject to enable people to understand more about narcissism.

With those points established, let’s get down to some analysis. I would also recommend that you read The Empathy Cake because this will help you place the behaviours in a context viz a viz empaths, empathic people and normal people. Where narcissistic indicators are identified, they are listed after each example of behaviour.

Something Smells Off

The marriage ceremony (like may others before, along with funerals) took place at St George’s Chapel. Miss Markle requested that atomisers be used throughout the chapel for the purpose of removing the apparent musty (but not unpleasant) smell. It is an old building and therefore has such a smell. Her request was deemed inappropriate. Even when this was pointed out to her, she maintained that she wanted the atomisers placed there. One might overlook not realising it was inappropriate, but then the following insistence is an indicator of narcissistic behaviours.

Sense of Entitlement

Poor Boundary Recognition

Tiara Trouble

The Queen apparently had to have stern words with her grandson, Prince Harry in the lead-up to his wedding, after both he and Meghan were upset that she could not wear the tiara she initially picked out from the royal treasury. According to reports, Meghan wanted to wear a tiara studded with emeralds, but because the provenance was not known, the royal family refused. Such refusal is done with good purpose as if the provenance is not known this could cause potential future embarrassment to have jewels of dubious provenance paraded by a member of the Royal Family.

There was a very heated exchange that prompted the Queen to speak to Harry, as a consequence of this failure to follow Royal Protocol. Remember, Miss Markle was well aware that she was marrying into an established institution which has protocols, standards and responsibilities. It is the Queen who selects the tiara but both Miss Markle and Prince Harry tried to alter that. It is evident, from the first article, that Prince Harry’s demand arose from wanting to please Miss Markle given her evident influence over him.

The Queen stated ‘Meghan cannot have whatever she wants. She gets what tiara she’s given by me.’

The message from the Queen was very much Meghan needed to think about how she speaks to staff members and be careful to follow family protocols.

Sense of Entitlement

Triangulation

Poor Boundary Recognition

 

Staff Turnover and Operation

Problems have arisen with regard to the relationships with staff and the turnover of staff. Now there are always going to be changes in personnel and doubtless certain pressures associated with a demanding and high profile situation will also result in such changes, however, what is noteworthy are the number of resignations, the short period of time held by these people in their positions and the comment which has surround them. This evidences a pattern. Consider this, how often will a narcissist have a haphazard employment history and/or a string of failed relationships yet when this is pointed out, the narcissist will always declare that it was the fault of the others and not the narcissist. Such numbers however speak for themselves and even more so, with the comments allied to them.

 Meghan’s personal assistant resigned “suddenly” after just six months on the job. Other resignations within the Kensington Palace team include Samantha Cohen, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex’s private secretary, Edward Lane Fox, Prince Harry’s private secretary and Kensington Palace senior communications secretary Katrina McKeever, who left the team in September.

The Duchess has been known as the Duchess Difficult by the palace staff since she got married. It is well-known how her staff kept leaving due to her difficult behaviour (which is very unlikely for the members of the royal family). Four resignations in less than one year were no small thing.

Following such losses of staff, it is clear that Prince Harry and the Duchess were mindful of risking further losses in staffing (and the impression this creates) and therefore opted to manage matters more directly and did not hire a nanny right after the birth of their son..  Meghan Markle wanted to do everything by herself for her new born son. She would not even allow her mother Doria to hold the baby in her absence. Hence, appointing a nanny seemed out of question.

Following this period, Harry and the Duchess have now hired a nanny whose name has not been disclosed yet. Unlike Prince George, Princess Charlotte, and Prince Louis’ live-in nanny Maria Borrallo who is a graduate of the famous Norland College, Archie’s nanny does not have any such background. Maria Borrallo also travels with the royal family whenever they take children along. Also, this nanny will have a day job and leave in the evening. Weekends will also be days off for her.

As much as the press is eager to see Archie’s pictures, they are also curious to know about his nanny. Maria Borrallo is almost as famous as Prince George as she was always seen by his side. However, this time it will be different. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle are very private when it comes to their new born Archie. His birth announcement was also not made in the traditional way. The nanny is not allowed to speak publicly about her role. According to the royal commentator and author Katie Nicholl, the nanny is also supposed to sign an extensive nondisclosure agreement.

It is interesting to see how the damaging impression that has arisen as a consequence of these losses in staff has then resulted in the exertion of greater control and the management of appearances through the differing approach with regards to the nanny to the Duke and Duchess’ son.

Haughty Behaviour

Lack of Empathy

Sense of Entitlement

Exertion of Control

Façade Management

 

Use and Dispose

The broadcaster Piers Morgan has criticised the Duchess of Sussex describing her as “a piece of work” and comparing her behaviour to that “of a Kardashian” as opposed to a member of the royal family. It is always entertaining to have one narcissist comment on another. We should not pay so much attention to the language used by Mr Morgan but rather the behaviour he described.

Morgan said he felt “conned by the Duchess, claiming that he was with her before she met the Prince Harry for the first time and never heard from her again because “she’d met someone more important”.

“I had a bad experience with Meghan Markle, I’ve talked about it a lot,” Morgan said.

“I’m afraid, she’s a bit of a piece of work,” he added, arguing that Markle “drops people as soon she gets someone more important in her life”.

Morgan went on to explain how he disapproves of the way the Duchess “treats her family”, pointing out that none of them, bar her mother, Doria Ragland, were present at her wedding.

“I was of use to her when it suited her,” he explained. “I was conned by her, I thought she was nice, I thought she was a nice person.

“I put her in the cab to meet Harry, never heard from her again, she met somebody more important and that was it, gone, bang, ghosted.”

Morgan, a narcissist himself, responds to this shelfing behaviour with a suitable provocative complaint and accompanying Pity Play. Nevertheless, just because he complains of the behaviour the fact of it occurring underlines that typical narcissistic behaviour of not showing accountability in a social relationship and using it as a means to an end, having no empathy for the feelings of the other person in that relationship.

Morgan is not the only person to complain of such treatment.

Following her split from former husband Trevor Engelson, Miss Markle became friendly with a television personality, Lizzie Cundy. Miss Markle wanted a new man and said that she had two firm conditions, firstly he had to be English and secondly he had to be famous, according to Cundy. Cundy explained that she assisted Markle with regard to potential involvement with football Ashley Cole and X-Factor Matt Cardle but once Miss Markle began dating Prince Harry, Cundy found she was dropped by Miss Markle and offered just comfort crumbs with regard to their supposed friendship.

Sense of Entitlement

Lack of Accountability

Grandiosity

Lack of Empathy

Shelfing

Wimbledon Woe

Recently, the Duchess attended the tennis competition at Wimbledon and more evidence arose with regard to her behaviour and what it signifies.

In the photo below, a man who appears to be a royal bodyguard can been seen approaching a man holding his phone. The man holding the phone was 58-year-old Hasan Hasanov, who was accused of invading the Duchess of Sussex’s privacy when he took a selfie in front of the royal during the match.

Photo credit: Getty Images

Hasan insisted that he didn’t know Meghan was there when he stopped to take the selfie. “I honestly couldn’t really care less about taking a picture of Meghan, Harry or any of the royals—and, if I did, I’d ask first,” he said. “I was much more interested in getting a video of Roger Federer in action.” The fact that it was assumed that Mr Hasanov wanted to take a picture of the Duchess might be regarded as grandiosity, however being a public figure it is not unreasonable to expect this to happen and therefore it was an understandable mistake. The manner in which the bodyguard was dispatched and the Duchess’ failure to intervene (one can see how close she is to Mr Hasanov) demonstrates a degree of haughtiness and also the contradictory behaviour often evident with such figures ‘You must take pictures of me except when I decide you cannot.’

The Wimbledon woe did not end there. The Duchess created problems with regard to attending wearing jeans and failing to watch a Brit play tennis. There appears to be other unspecified behaviour which resulted in a Wimbledon official stating “It was a nightmare, she was a nightmare,” the Wimbledon official. While that official didn’t elaborate as to what was meant by that statement, another source reportedly claimed, “She wanted to come incognito but there were problems. They couldn’t invite her into the royal box because she was wearing jeans but that didn’t really matter because all she wanted to do was come and watch Serena Williams. Andy Murray was on Court 1 afterwards and it was a massive faux pas not to watch a Brit when she is signed up to the Royal Family.”

Sense of Entitlement

Poor Boundary Recognition

Contradictory Behaviour

The Bananas of Empowerment

Miss Markle visited One25, a Bristol, UK charity which supports female sex workers who are trapped in cycles of poverty, violence and addiction. Miss Markle assisted making packed lunches for the sex workers. Wearing an expensive Oscar De La Renta dress, Miss Markle wrote with a Sharpie on the bananas phrases such as “you are strong”, “you are brave”, “you are loved.”

A sex worker stated, “people out here struggle to eat and sleep and she gifts us some words on a piece of fruit”.

There is no doubting that the Duchess meant well through this gesture, but this is the instinctive and unaware behaviour associated with Mid Range Narcissists, namely they think they are doing something good but cannot actually see (because their narcissism blinds them) to how crass and unempathetic their behaviours are.

What drove this act of charity was the unconscious narcissism whereby it was predicated on a lofty position she sees herself as holding. Her words are special, motivating because after all, surely the sex worker could regard themselves as strong, brave, loved but that will not turn around matters for them. No, the words must come from a ‘higher power’ namely the Duchess because her words matter. The Duchess does not realise this manifestation of the narcissism.

She of course believes that her gesture was well-intentioned , but failed to realise how condescending and ultimately pointless her act was.

In addition, in the footage of this act, you can see Prince Harry immediately recognises this is a bad move but he does nothing other than look on as the crass moment unfolds. After all “What Meghan wants, Meghan gets” as his own words come back to haunt him. Her failure to pick up on his discomfort is a further indicator.

Grandiosity

Magical Thinking

Lack of Emotional Empathy

 

MeAgain Label

Whilst the media relish giving people labels, this happens because there is a basis for them. There are plenty of examples of this Ralph ‘Five Times A Night’ Halpern, John’ two Jags’ Prescott,  Doris Day ‘The Professional Virgin’, Aretha Franklin ‘The Queen of Soul’, Madonna ‘The Queen of Pop’ and so on. The fact the Duchess is known as MeAgain demonstrates that there has been repeated recognition of self-absorbed behaviour and self promotion by many others.

Grandiosity

Self Entitlement

Pregnancy Promenade

Naturally a mother to be is proud of the baby she is carrying, but the bump/pregnancy will be used by a narcissist for the purposes of gaining fuel and exerting control. The Duchess was repeatedly filmed and photographed touching her bump, cradling the bump, flicking her coat open to ‘reveal’ the bump and accentuating it. This exaggerated cradling and posing was witnessed many times including at the British Film Awards, the Mayhew Animal Home visit, Brinsworth Care Home and at Admiralty House in Sydney, to name but a few.

Not keeping the bump under flowing maternity dresses like previous royal mothers to be, but a parade of tight clothing allied with stances/gestures to highlight the bump and adopting entirely unnatural poses (contrast how Kate Middleton stood/presented) and this, taken in context with all of the other behaviours in this article and the previous one tell a further story of narcissistic behaviour.

Sense of Entitlement

Fuel Seeking

Triangulation

Changing of the Ring

Miss Markle received a stunning engagement ring from Prince Harry after he popped the question in November 2018. The Duchess of Sussex, showed off her huge sparkler in a BBC TV interview and for her official engagement photos. Since then the  piece of jewellery has been flashed by the duchess on numerous royal outings.

Meghan flaunted the ring at Trooping the Colour in June when she also showed off a new pavé diamond eternity ring, believed to be a present from her husband.

There has been a major change to her engagement ring less than two years after Meghan first slipped it onto her finger.

This is interesting as her original ring  was designed by Prince Harry himself and includes two diamonds from his late mother Princess Diana.

Editor-in-chief of Majesty Magazine Ingrid Seward stated “I find it a bit odd Meghan would want to alter a ring that her husband had especially designed for her.

“A royal engagement ring is a piece of history not a bit of jewellery to be updated when it looks old fashioned.”

Meghan has altered the band despite Harry saying “yellow gold” was her favourite.

Speaking at the time of their engagement, Prince Harry said: “The ring is obviously yellow gold because that’s her favourite and the main stone itself I sourced from Botswana and the little diamonds either side are from my mother’s jewellery collection, to make sure she’s with us on this crazy journey together.”

Meghan added: “Everything about Harry’s thoughtfulness and the inclusion of Princess Diana’s stones and obviously not being able to meet his mum, it’s so important to me to know that she’s a part of this with us.”

Having played on such importance at the time (when of course it suited during the seduction period) the necessity to assert control through an alternative method has resulted in altering a ring (something which is highly unusual in itself – not including altering it so it fits) and trampling over the feelings of her husband. It is not a surprise to find Miss Markle previously looking to emulate Princess Diana and once embedded removing this particular trace of the deceased Princess.

Sense of Entitlement

Contradictory Behaviour

Exertion of Control

Lack of Emotional Empathy

There are plenty of other instances, including clashes with Kate Middleton, the refurbishment of Frogmore House and Harry’s failure to attend the memorial service to 11 marines (he is Colonel in Chief of the marines) and instead go to the Lion King Premiere instead with the Duchess. There is plenty more evidence available which contains similar instances of grandiosity, poor boundary recognition, haughtiness and a lack of emotional empathy. The gift keeps on giving.

It is evident based on the original article and the multitude of indicators highlighted from the above behaviours that the Duchess if very much A Very Royal Narcissist.

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144 Comments

  1. I take back what I have said re JC being the best comedian!

    I just watched the interview with Prince Andrew, Jesus it was total cringe comedy!

    HG, what the hell was he thinking doing this interview and where on earth were his advisors?. I mean if he didn’t look like a big enough liar already he just went and made it a whole lot worse.

    His revision of history though, would he have actually believed he did not know what was going on and would he have believed he never had sex with the 17 year old? Or is it just a public facing revision of history.

    Absolutely astonishing! even to the untrained eye it’s quite obvious he’s talking total tosh.

    Would there be people out there gullible enough to believe him? I consider myself pretty gullible.

    1. Alexis, I agree. He would lose every pound he bets in a poker game. If someone offered to prepare him for this interview, he must have arrogantly declined (overestimating his abilities). He demonstrates a significant inability to navigate his own thoughts on the fly. He frequently stutters when he lies (among other nonverbal signals). I would guess him a MMRN at best. In the interview, he liberally uses the narcissist’s twin lines of defense. In addition, he also exhibits massive entitlement, uses numerous pity plays, blame shifting, revision of history and grandiose self-proclaimed compliments. Quite revealing. Yet I bet he thinks he did a great job.

      1. Hahahah FYC your last sentence had me in stitches! It’s so true though, I bet he did. Pre HG I would have always had doubt in my mind whether someone did/didn’t – how can you be sure?

        But now, everything is clear as day. Like HG says it’s like having night vision goggles on. There is no doubt in my mind whatsoever.

        You’re spot on though with everything you said FYC. He used it all! Since I wrote my comment yesterday I’ve learned his PR advisor resigned after warning the prince against the interview.

        HG when you do your analysis of him please, please, please can you also include a bit about what the fuck was going through Jason Stein’s head when the Duke decided to go ahead. Oh my god even the N press must have been having panic attacks before the interview just in case it didn’t get aired. I bet they were all drooling at the mouth when it did.

      2. I hope and pray for those girls that this goes all the way and they truly get the justice they deserve. Perhaps it will even prompt some significant backing from a royal or celebrity to help all these poor young women who are trafficked every day. Not just those who Epstein was responsible for.

        FYC – I’m intrigued what other body language you observed. I noticed a couple of things in particular which really stood out to me, one was when he was nodding (as if unconsciously saying yes) whilst simultaneously saying no he did not remember her. The other thing I noticed was that he said the photograph was of he and the girl upstairs and that he had never been upstairs so that couldn’t have been a genuine photo. But how did he know it was upstairs if he’d never been up there?

      3. FYC – I’m now having second thoughts. Perhaps we have all misjudged him after all.

        Do you think it could be possible that he has done this as a selfless act to steer the press away from Meghan? Because now all of a sudden she doesn’t seem quite so bad after all.

        1. Oh my goodness, Alexis! You are too kind and your ET got to you. Do not make excuses for those who do not deserve them. Zero altruism resident in that man and MM is as she ever was. So a definite no to your last question. Your original reaction was spot on.

          Nonverbal communication encompasses not only physical gestures but also vocal intonations, breathing, pace, posture, pauses, adaptations and self-soothing habits and more. Of these, the prince displays many signals that individually and collectively indicate he is not being forthright. Note his eye movements, his hand and foot gestures, his pauses and self-interruptions, his clumsy self-convincing behavior, his contrary communication patterns, his backward leaning and head movements, his word choices, the speed with which he answers questions that are forthright (i.e., no cognitive dissonance) versus his responses that he needs to craft or qualify or revise. This questioning was very polite and controlled and I am sure this was a condition of the interview. Andrew did not seem well prepared. I would guess he had prior conversations with others with regard to what could be proven and what would be assumed, since some of his answers indicate premeditation (e.g. “…from the investigations that we’ve done, you can’t prove whether or not that photograph is faked or not…”. The Prince did not seem well prepared from a PR perspective whatsoever and Emily Maitlis remarks on this in a post interview. I don’t know if you saw the bit on Sky News with David Flint attempting to do some clean up after the fact. In my estimation, he makes matter worse.

          1. Andrew was a mess. I expected denial and deflection but he was a carnival. The thing that stood out to me was that he kept repeating that he met with Epstein to tell him face to face that since he had been convicted, it would not be prudent to be seen with him. He didn’t say that he expressed being appalled or shocked at the charges or describe any conversation they had where he denounced being associated with anyone capable of the behaviour charged. He left the impression with me that there was no problem between them, only that continuing to associate or pal around would be problematic for his position P.R wise. I wondered why the interviewer didn’t call him out on it, but that she was astounded at “unbecoming” was an obvious clue to him that he had just erred hugely and his attempt at damage control was laughable.

          2. I agree NA. Zero empathy for the teen girls trafficked and abused. Massive entitlement. Clueless display on so many counts. No visible means of PR prep on his side, or the worst I’ve seen if any took place. From the media side I am sure there were ground rules communicated to Maitlis.

          3. Goodness FYC you’ve really got it sussed on the non-verbal. I should read up on this some more. I find it difficult to remember things and then I get confused when assessing people but i should make more effort it’s an important part of it.

          4. No worries Alexis, your first instincts were excellent. The majority of communication is nonverbal and unconscious, so it is interesting to learn about. I wish I had the same level of knowledge on narc detection. Now that would be really useful! Thankfully I’m getting better at it and learning more here daily.

          5. Ah I’m reasonably okay at spotting an N, I think that’s possibly because HG is a pretty good teacher (waiting for a reaction, if I don’t get one I’ve had the last word). I’m not always so great with the schools, I’m getting better with it though.

            But picking up on body language would be helpful. I’m a tad reluctant to read other sites. Perhaps the master could do a session on this…

          6. FYC, NarcAngel & alexissmith2016,

            Great conversation…and HG, I second Alexis – teach us on body language!

            I know that when I’m dealing with someone I suspect is a narc, and I use some criticism, I tend to watch for signs of micro- aggressions. But I would love to know more!

  2. “Even when this was pointed out to her, she maintained that she wanted the atomisers placed there. One might overlook not realising it was inappropriate, but then the following insistence is an indicator of narcissistic behaviours.” I am only this far into the article and I need to comment. As a sensitive nosed person, and it being my (royal) wedding, I would want the air incensed definitely. Smell is very important (think Frankincense Catholic Church, in fact any temple type place is filled with lovely freshly wafting scents). I dont think personally this means she is a narc but perhaps more conscious than most folks. Old fuddy duddies sticking to tired unworkable traditions are more the problem here, attempting to shame her because she wants her WEDDING!!! to smell nice and pleasing, set the atmosphere, connect to Spirit as one does with scents (think sweet grass for the First Nations, sage etc).

    1. No, it does not mean she is a narcissist in itself, it is an indicator of entitlement and boundary transgression which is analysed in aggregate.

      1. Considering the source of the analyst, the entire agglomeration coagulates in a monochromatic brush stroke pretty much

  3. It has always been most baffling to me why there is such a high occurrence of ‘I have been ruined by a narcissist’ -type stories in social media. If narcissists are as thick on the ground as the barrage of such reports seems to suggest, how is it possible that I never encountered one?

    Having read your articles about Markle – a truly high-profile case – I now think I have indeed met plenty.
    I doubt I ever classed any of them as de facto narcissists. I simply appear to recognize an intent of manipulation fairly easily, and rather enjoy taking it apart which – I must assume – marks me as a non-target.

    An apt example is your good self.

    Out of interest I listened to some of your YouTube content. The somewhat forced timbre, the elongated, dipping sentence endings, the tightly controlled, artificial spacing of words – primarily in your educational pieces – were most telling.
    You sound somewhat more authentic reciting poetry, although the indulgence in your own voice is still palpable.
    I also detect an odd luft at the core of it all. Uncertainty. I would say you do wobble and get offended rather more easily than your commercial persona should suggest.

    As an online source/analist I find you informative and very entertaining. Should you be someone acting in my vicinity, I would enjoy you even more, I think. Certainly for a while. I would (do) have countless questions to you.
    I find myself agreeing with your analysis of Markle’s step-by step strategy playing out in plain sight, and I very much doubt that it will end well for Harry. He is, plain as day, being systematically isolated from his natural support system, and obviously guilt-tripped into taking political stances he understands little about.

    I raised many points here and would welcome your view on all or any, should you care to respond. As of now, I find you and your work rather intriguing, and a great source of further discussion and behavior profiling.
    Side note: why “Tudor”? Do you see Henry as your cultural ancestor, or is it more complex?

    1. Hello Maria/Koko,

      “Silly article.” Not at all. It is well-reasoned and well-received. Unlike you.
      “by a narcissist” The only item in your sentence that is accurate.
      “who uses her” I am a man.
      “bum to think” No. I use my brain to think, which is stark contrast to you, since you neither think nor use your brain.
      “instead of jigger infested brains.” I do not know of any brains which are infested by someone who dances a jig or by a machine, or by a small measuring device or by a metal golf club with a small face.

      You see, it is a comment such as yours which has neither evidential support or intellectual reasoning and thus means you are clearly not very bright.

  4. I would feel sorry for Harry, but he did chase the little gold digger. he needs to wise up or the queen is going to boot them out of Frogmore House. Which she should do anyway. Markel is just a fraud on borrowed time.

    1. Rowwdy Colt
      I kinda doubt Ahrry did the chasing. I believe he was ensnared just like the rest of us common folk

      1. Hello Koko/Maria,

        “Silly article.” Not at all. It is well-reasoned and well-received. Unlike you.
        “written by a silly journalist.” No, I am not a journalist, although in fairness it took your half an hour between this comment and your next comment on this article to work out that I am a narcissist.

        Back to the circus for you.

  5. Hi HG,

    Around the same time as I left that comment about wanting to take a ride (the little discussion about planes) (8/2/19 at 19:14), I had read maybe four short articles that you wrote. I wanted to come back later and ask you a question or two on them, but I cannot find those articles now. They were short and interesting to me. One of them was about your favorite color and you expanded on which colors you like and those that you dislike, and why.

    This may be a silly question, but it makes me curious to know what color your car(s) is/are? Also, your plane(s). I believe that you stated that one of your favorite colors is azure (my car is metallic blue!) and that your favorite color is white. Is that correct? I think this is a fun topic.

    Thanks!

      1. But HG! You wrote your favourite colour was white, we talked about this! Are you Blacklighting us!?

        1. I was asked what colour my car was, Desiree, and I explained that it is black, like my heart.

          1. True and I liked to hear that. With regards to your favourite colour being white, I was thinking about “Colouring my thinking”. Did you leave white by the wayside and moved on to blacker pastures? I could understand that

          2. Haha good point although I’ve been told in those climates, white cars are a necessity as they stay cooler compared to darker colours. I doubt that makes much difference but I have no experience in this matter.

  6. HG – I don’t want poor Harry to have his heart broken! Can’t you do something please…

    1. Alexis—I’ve determined everyone must suffer in some way for true change. I can’t give anyone motivation, nor can HG. It’s an internal drive and often the result of having touched a hot stove.

      1. Yes I know, you’re right Lorelei. I just don’t want to watch it play out. Harry is too lovely for that.

  7. HG,

    I noticed that you have a new picture icon next to your name. It makes me want to ask – are you a pilot?

    I like my new icon, by the way. Thank you.

      1. Cool!

        What sorts of planes? Can you fly a jet? A plane with propeller(s)? This is interesting..

          1. Was that your loud jet that I heard buzz my home? Haha..

            Can you also fly a helicopter?

            I feel like a little kid asking these questions!

          2. … please do, I just love those music video scenes where Jamiroquai flies around chasing a Porsche.

            /can never decide whether it’s the music or the video that is coolest.

      2. I watched the Blue Angel’s airshow last weekend. I could picture HG in one of those F/A-18 hornets.

  8. Hi HG,

    Thank you for updating us about these Royals.

    In your opinion, is Prince Harry’s wife a succubus?

      1. Thank you, HG, for getting me to be more specific! I don’t want to give the false impression that I am hearing, seeing or experiencing unworldly apparitions!

        I mean “succubus” as a label for a woman who uses sex and/or words to manipulate a man and cause him to alter his thoughts and behavior in a way that is detrimental to his health, happiness and/or well-being..

        The opposite of a succubus is a woman who does these things just to please her man and would not want any harm to come to him. I don’t have a label for this type of woman.

        I asked if you thought the Duchess is a “succubus” because she seems to display behavior such as touching Prince Harry a lot and inappropriately. Also, hasn’t she been seen dressing in a way that is inappropriate and meant to tantalize? Finally, it seems like she has caused a lot of trouble for Prince Harry and he seems different since Meghan has become a fixture in his life. Do you know if people who know Prince Harry think that he is different and if they are concerned for his health, happiness and/or well-being?

        I hope that I explained myself well enough to ask if you think that the label “succubus” would fit Meghan Markle (and all of the other names that she is using these days)? What do you think??

        1. I understand succubus to mean a female demon believed to have sexual intercourse with sleeping men. Demons are folklore. Therefore succubus does not apply.

          A woman who uses sex and/or words to manipulate a man and cause and cause him to alter his thoughts and behavior in a way that is detrimental to his health, happiness and/or well-being is a narcissist.

  9. Piers Morgan (yum, yum) has just written a new article about “Me-Me-Meghan” on the Daily Mail that is pretty spot on.

  10. I believe Harry is an empath and Megan a narc and Diana was an empath too , I think Harry subconsciously married an outsider because he was taking up for his mom who was treated like an outsider , my question for you hg is do u think if Diana was alive she would have liked and approved of Megan or been able to see through her ?

          1. HG , ot but, can you link me any articles on Contagion I might’ve missed ? Search bar isn’t bringing Me much

          2. HG do you have any further info on the “Contagion Empath”? It’s a category to choose from in the polls, but unlike every other category, I haven’t yet seen a video or article that fully explains what a Contagion is – so essentially I had to eliminate that from my choices bc I don’t understand it. Have I missed anything? Others have said , in explanation to me, and I’m paraphrasing, that a contagion feels everything like 100x more than a standard empath .
            Is there any other info you could recommend?
            Thx

  11. The writer refers to Katherine Duchess of Cambridge as Kate Middleton, she is not. Her surname is Mountbatten Windsor. Calling the Duchess of Cambridge Kate is disrespectful too,in my opinion.

      1. Oh, HG, did you see that Harry and Meghan’s neighbors were handed a list of rules for NOT interacting with them? Wonder whose idea that was!!

      2. Hi HG,

        I was hoping that you could share the link to an article that I found yesterday which you wrote about Duchess Kate Middleton (I am not British, so please excuse me if I do not refer to her correctly). I think that it was titled “Dark Eyes” and you wrote it maybe two years ago (sorry, I do not remember the year).
        The search results listed other articles, but not the one that I was hoping to find again.

        Thank you!

      3. Hahaha and that is a healthy response. Much like anyone not wanting to be imprisoned by protocol. Time to break down barriers held down by guilt and shaming. I dont know MM’s motivation but wanting wear jeans to a tennis match, be incognito, not wanting a nanny sounds pretty reasonable. Taking the diamonds from lady Di out of her engagement ring though, that is pretty creepy sounding.

    1. As you feel a strong need to respect Catherine…..
      Her name is Catherine with a “C”.
      Not “ Katherine” with a “ K”.

  12. I tend to agree with a lot of points raised in this article. Megan’s sense of her own importance is overwhelming and always on show, you would have to be blind not too see this. Most people here in the uk are not taken in by her false “niceness” and are quite wary now of her attention seeking ways, enough is enough, she has to knuckle down and respect the position she finds herself in, or take her hard won prize and sod Off.

  13. She is also isolating him from his brother and family. Another narc trait. Moving out of Kensington palace to frogmore. Separating the charities so to no longer be a part of William and kate team anymore. Isolating him from his closest friends by telling him to cut ties. Breaking protocol with the birth and christening of their son. So glad he wrote this article because it confirms what I was seeing.

    Having been manipulated and controlled by a narc relationship I feel bad for Harry. He has been through a lot with losing his mom. I think he is starting to see some things as being off but now what to do.

  14. And in other news…

    Sparkles reminds me of what I had considered to be my best friend. She was (obviously) not.

    Very good looking but in a somewhat androgynous way. Lithe, tanned, no tits or arse but great pins. (Why DOES she wear shoes that are too big? An aware person would NEVER do this.)

    She is, as HG eruditely described, a skulking Middler. Incredibly easy to manipulate. Too easy for the Gs. By controlling Harry she perceived she has got the entire establishment. Poor, deluded fool. They have her. She’s about to be thrown to the dogs. This will coincide with revelations about that clown BoJo.

    Mark my words.

    1. Her doctor probably suggested that if she must wear heels to wear them loosely after she had surgery to remove her bunions about 5 years ago. The scars are still visible on her feet. I don’t think she has nice pins;, they looked somewhat atrophied. I don’t know how she holds her own weight on them. Must be her bird frame.

      1. Now, after being with my ex for 18 years (GEN), I can categorically state that no Doctor or Chiropractor would ever advise a person to wear shoes that are too big. It’s extremely bad on the posture notwithstanding the feet.

        She wears shoes that are too large because it is more comfortable for her. It’s a shame, makes her look like an idiot. Same goes for that tit Victoria Beckham.

        1. I am reading online that it is suggested that you go up a 1/2 size, when needed, to give your toes more room. But that is just what I’m reading online. Irregardless of the reason, I agree, she looks like a little girl playing dress up. It makes it hard to take her seriously especially since she is already battling a rags to riches storyline. Is she really worthy? Will Cinderella lose her shoes at midnight? She is no Cinderella though.

          1. Am snurting here. You are very funny. To paraphrase ‘The Royals’

            “But hey, it’s just like my character in ‘Suits!’

          2. To shoes – I get why she is doing it. Her feet are fucked. But the silly airhead doesn’t understand that by wearing shoes that are too big, she is causing even more problems to her feet and indeed her body and especially the spine.

            Men really do love a women in heels. It’s like the gorgeous Marilyn Monroe said, ‘I wear fuck me shoes, if you can catch me in them, you can fuck me’

            Sparkles is no Monroe, as much as she likes to think that.

            Feel a bit sorry for her tbh because she is about to see the establishment crash down on her in a way that probably hasn’t been seen since Princess Margaret couldn’t keep her knickers up. Should be entertaining at the very least!

            Apologies. Have cold and cynical head on tonight.

          3. Is “snurting” a common British word? I think I like it ☺

            And no apologies for any cynicism necessary, I have actually enjoyed your assessment of Meghan and hope you feel better soon.

        2. Thank God being comfortable is more important than giving a shit about random strangers subjective opinion. One looks like an idiot but may have massive integrity, be someone of value. Another dresses to please the demanding masses and is perhaps internally a piece of shit. We have come far from trying to please people we do not know, who do not care for us, over our own personal choices. About time.

      2. Ive never wore heels nor will i. Comfort is first and foremost! I did once to a wedding and that was the last time. Shorter heels on boots are ok but high heels no thank you.

    2. Yes no matter how much they exercise, keep the bottom supertight, it still remains a bit ‘flat’, doesn t “stick out”.

      1. Precisely;y so and just like my ‘friend’. Indeed the parallels are uncanny. She was good looking, great body but very androgynous., Her nickname at Uni was ‘boy bum’. Intelligent but not well read or even understood how shit works. Cos she was working on the instinct and not awareness.

        This has made her laughably easy to manipulate by the female Greater in the group.

        But Sparkles, just like my friend, married into money, wealth and prestige. One might say she was very single minded about that. My ‘friend’ is ‘Lady of the Manor’. Puts on firework displays for the prolls. Pathetic.

        1. Absolutely Sometimes I have wondered whether this butt-thing is a thing. Their hormones didn’t get to develop in their adolescense due to tension/stress. Maybe.
          Narcs usually look fantastic up by their shoulders, though.

          1. CB – I have fallen in love with you!

            You are bang on the biscuits IMHO. Narcs DO tend to hold themselves straight. Shoulders back, head up. To my contagion eyes, they ‘glimmer’ to.

            It’s a very difficult thing to explain.

            I was at Blue Dot this weekend, a festival which is based at Jodrell Bank. I was absolutely fascinated watching people. Vast majority where, as we would expect to be neutral. Saw many narcus narcus and even a few Gs. One guy, wow, was camped opposite. With his female partner. Amazing. Talk about Gs nodding their heads to each other.

          2. Glad you enjoyed, Renarde ;-) Aside the butts, I’m totally vibed by music festival stuff myself, so entertained by your review :-)

      2. This is bullying. Lots of snickering bullying going on here, makes me sad and feel shocked by the amount of it really.

  15. There has been a lot of shit thrown towards Survivor X’s way. Not on to be honest. A fair few on here need to wind their necks back in, frankly.

    Survivor – You are stuck honey and you are trammeling. No biggie. We all do. Just chill. x

    Harry is not a narc. He’s just a very silly little boy. A boy who underwent unspeakable trauma when his mother died. Not very many people on this planet have undergone the depths that this poor person has endured.

    Harry deserves our compassion and our empathy.

    So, he wears an ersatz ‘Nazi’ uniform. Huh. What actually is the betting that one of his so-called ‘friends’ put him up to it? And then arranged the photographer to be there? Does this now make more sense?

    Hal trusts the wrong people. I wouldn’t go as far as to say he is one of my Brethren but he is definitely on the scale. Invictus Games is proof of that alone.

    Hal’s greatest problem is that he is surrounded by Greaters by the very nature of his position. Poor lad, he deserved better than this. Diana tried so hard to shield him and his brother. She took on the entire establishment and to my mind, she won. She was authentic, beautiful and real. The crowds adored her.

    So now, let’s turn to Diana.

    Diana’s father was not the Earl of Spencer, it was James Goldsmith. That means that the next heir to the throne is partly Jewish. This is a very VERY big deal. I say this not because I am anti-Semitic, it’s because of the agency it will give others,

    Look at the bigger picture folks and try to stop being distracted by smoke and mirrors.

    1. I saw no shit being thrown, but rather people expressing their opinions and politely correcting repeated misconceptions. Indeed, the repeated behaviours and name-calling flowed in one direction only. Given what you state Renarde with regard to Harry,if you read through the thread you are likely to see the actual picture.

      1. HG, I sometimes imagine you wearing a toga and giving public speeches.. the listeners in awe, almost hypnotised, unable to take their eyes off of you, losing notion of time..
        If you had lived in those days you would have made it to dictatorship, no doubt.

        Have you studied rhetoric by any chance?

        I read that (the Greater Narcissist) Margaret Thatcher found it very easy to defeat the leader of opposition in open argument. His style was “emotional and wordy”, while she “kept to specifics” and prepared very, very carefully for questions.

          1. Would you just stay away from a Thatcher sort of woman to just avoid the headache HG?

          2. Shows how little you understand about the narcissist. We thrive on emotions, they are fuel to us. Yum, yum.

          3. You thrive on them like a parasite. You have no regard or respect for them and that HG is your down fall

          4. On the contrary, they are the sustenance for surviving and thriving and nothing to do with a downfall. Wrong again.

          5. “Always master your brief. Always use the evidence, not emotion.” Yeah not wrong. Proof is in this quote and the fact that you dont know that is your downfall.

          6. There once was a fellow named Rocco
            and a seagull that wanted his taco
            The bird crapped on his table and was clearly unstable
            as it squawked on with its senseless bravado

            Rocco said to the bird
            You make no sense with your words
            There is no point you see
            to give this energy

            The seagull left hungry for fuel
            in search of an empath to fool
            A lesson was learned by onlookers defenseless
            Feeding the birds is always quite senseless

          7. You champion silly bullies and you are one. and you Are. Wrong. Again. You. May, Have. The Last. Word. If. You. Must. But. I Know. Your. Source. And. Therefore. Understand. Your. Skewed. Point. Of. View.

          8. I neither champion “silly bullies” nor am I a “silly bully.”
            Evidence of championing them? None. Wrong again.
            Am I bully? That description could apply, but in a conventional sense. Silly? Oh, far, far from silly.

          9. Parasitic survival. Sadly, madly, manically absolutely everything to do with a downfall. You are down and you stay down. You are a parasite. Which is wrong. Again.

          10. The fundamental problem you have is that you keep asserting a downfall but do so with absolutely no supporting evidence. Thus, you are wrong again.

  16. Hilarious. I got so many laughs from this article, my fave being
    “A sex worker stated, “people out here struggle to eat and sleep and she gifts us some words on a piece of fruit”.
    😆 😆 😂 😂
    Ok so I’m late to the party and I can’t scroll thru 400 comments

    I’m gonna guess LMR somatic . I’m betting she uses heated fury as much as cold fury aka pity plays or STs

    Did you tell us HG? If so, would you repeat it for me?

    1. I also got a kick out of her being such a troll to the Royal Fam. Sucks for Harry , but I immensely enjoy the idea of what a pain in the arse she is for the rest of em 😂

  17. Hi NB, I tried finding and reading all of your comments to see what your internal struggle may be. I am not certain, but if it is pertaining to a concern that you are a narcissist, I would like to offer that in the 9 months I have been here I have seen no evidence of you being one (quite the opposite). Take heart and do not over think this one. We are all imperfect, have made mistakes and have regrets. We all have narcissistic traits (in fact, those traits ensured our survival as a species). It’s complicated. So embrace and love the whole you. Forgive anything that you regret; lessons learned. Enjoy your break, but know you are appreciated here for all that you are so we look forward to your return and do not judge you.

    1. FYC,

      I tried to find the comment you’re referencing but cannot. Is nunya biz leaving?
      I enjoy reading her contributions.

      NB, if that’s the case; take care! 💛

      1. Hi WC, NB said she was taking a break. She mentioned her feelings about a couple of recent comment threads. She was not specific, but I had been reading her comments on a couple threads and took a guess. I just wanted her to know she need not worry. She is very open and honest and gives a lot to her comments and that can take a toll.

        1. Thanks for your update, FYC. Yes, NB gives a lot in her comments and that can definitely take a toll overtime and dependent on what we are tackling in our day to day life. I hope she is well.

          I can’t keep up right now with all the threads and just dip my toe in here and there. I know I’m missing out on a lot of great conversations. I really appreciate some of the chuckles though, lately. The banter here is priceless.

          1. “I really appreciate some of the chuckles though, lately. The banter here is priceless.”

            I completely agree, WC, and you are appreciated whenever you add to the conversation. I hope all is well with you and moving in a much healthier, happier direction without the N.

        2. Thanks you guys and to everyone on ‘the thread that shall remain unnamed’. I was just feeling overly immersed (I get like that) and ping-pongy/reactive. Not about one particular thing, just a little drained, which is my problem.
          Feeling better with some head space and started a new project. I just have to remember my balance. Actually the BLL analysis and an HG consult (about WHY I am/feel x,y,z) did the trick and I’m a little more clear, very helpful!

    1. It will be when the Royal Family have had enough and rally around Harry and intervene to occasion his escape. The Duchess is not going to disengage any time soon, Harry is too compliant and there is a massive residual benefit associated with being in the Royal Family.

  18. Survivor X

    Don’t go from here .I really do like you and your wit .
    Things can get emotional here look only the other day I was having a fit about SM shoe size bit embarrassed now 🙁

    It’s ok so what , stay you are very welcome and liked

    Kiki

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