A Bowl of Cherries

A BOWL OF CHERRIES

I have an Inner Circle Friend. He is what people would generally regard as a ‘good man’. He is older than me, not old enough to be a father. More of the younger uncle who is solid but enjoys a little spice to his life. He tackles fraud in government organisations, enjoys a beer, loves his sport, a keen family man, devout and plays a part in his local church, plays musical instruments, writes poetry and every Saturday he picks up the shopping and spends an hour chatting with a housebound friend of his. He and I enjoy Italian food and a good debate as we set the world to rights. He enjoys a fierce discussion and it is all good fuel but there is never any grudge afterwards, even when I have twisted and spun in order to avoid conceding a particular point. Every time we meet up he always begins by reminding me that my life is a bowl of cherries.

“Yes HG it is bowl of cherries. Look at you. An educated man with many friends, good job, well-read, able to do as he pleases and you travel. You organise your time so you can spend time with lots of people and most of all the girls. Holy Toledo, the girls. You get through them and no mistake but you are never troubled by it are you? Sometimes I wish I was single and younger so I could join you in these adventures. You are a man comfortable in his own skin. I can see that and this means you are able to have a life which is a bowl of cherries.”

I always enjoy this little speech of his. It is important to people to recognise my elevated position and the rewards that come with it. He never displays any jealousy nor does he judge what I do (albeit of course he does not know it all). He regards my behaviours as ‘hi-jinks’ and ‘ capers’ . The preserve of the younger man with the world at his feet. I will relay the latest tale of my activities as he sips from his rioja. He laughs and shakes his head as I detail to him what I have been doing, but he is never alarmed by what I tell him. He is a big believer in living life to the full, seizing opportunities and setting the world alight. All of which I naturally do. There is only topic where he passes comment in a slightly adverse way. Children.

“So HG,” he will begin before swallowing more of his wine and lighting yet another cigarette if we are dining at his house,”when can we expect some children? All these ladies and you cannot tell me that they do not want a little HG to share the cherries with?”

“Maybe one day,” I lie since I have no intention of having any children. He is unaware I took care of that some time ago.

“Well you are in your prime so those cherries will keep on appearing, juicy and ripe, but seriously, a man should have children. I have four. Two by each wife. Children are a great comfort. Tells you that someone can bear you if they want to carry your offspring, they give you something to strive for, something to live for and then you have a legacy as you see them go into the world making their own way.”

I smile and allow him to say all of this. I hear it each time that we meet up.

“You must have met the right lady by now, surely? You have no problem attracting them with your big bowl of cherries now do you?”

“True enough but there is so much to do and sharing those cherries isn’t really on the agenda.”

“Come now,” he smiles, “you have more than enough and you should share. You should be showering your gifts on someone special and your offspring. It is the right thing to do. You have no need to worry, my lad, about sharing those cherries you know. You always have a bowl full and if you share a few around then you will always be able to pick some more won’t you?”

“There is never enough though and I have to be careful you know, there are too many who would steal my cherries from me and leave me with nothing.”

“No there isn’t,I have told you before, the cherries are there to share, not to hoard. You need to listen to me. Share and keep picking.”

I smile and let him continue with his monologue about cherries and children. He is right though I am the cherry picker. I am up on high,elevated above everything else around me and I reach those places that the little people can never reach. I can move from side to side, up and down and ensure that I always obtain the tastiest and most succulent cherries before anybody else. I can see them dark red and with that polished lustre just waiting to be picked by me and me alone. So many out there to collect in order to try and fill my bowl. If only I could figure out some way to plug the hole in my bowl, maybe then I might just be tempted to share.

 

18 thoughts on “A Bowl of Cherries

  1. readMangas says:

    to me, the fact that you don’t want children is a form of empathy, you know that given your state you will somehow harm them, so i don’t think that you are beyond redomption PS: i use your videos to improve my english accent

    1. HG Tudor says:

      No it’s because they get in the way

      1. Pati says:

        If they get in the way then why do Narcissits have them in the first place .

        1. HG Tudor says:

          To control. I’ve written about this in articles previously. They are an object to be used as and when the narcissist sees fit, I see no use for them so I’ve not had any

          1. readMangas says:

            if i may, i really suggest that you read (or watch ) hunter x hunter you will identify to hisoka and his view of the word. (and it’s a master piece of course)

          2. Pati says:

            HG thank you for explaining this! Control is what they want with everything and everyone .
            It fits their purpose I guess. Again thank you for explaining this.

  2. Pati says:

    HG it sounds like you have popped a few ladies cherries over the years. Your friend sounds like a very nice man . So you took care of not having children I take it Good for you for at least doing that . I enjoyed reading this HG you always have such interesting stories .

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you

  3. cogra002 says:

    I didn’t know you already had children. Have u been married, as well.
    I am an usual woman, in that I never have been.

  4. Sabine says:

    from a person with some empathic traits: the content of your words sounds “worthless” and “empty”, I would feel empty and looking for some “filling” (“fuel”) to release from this internal “black whole”. I feel sorry for you but I know this feeling does not worth it because you feel great in your disorder. But appreciate your educational work!

  5. Claire says:

    The last sentence is very sincere and sad. May you find somehow a way to plug the hole in your bowl, HG . We know that might be not possible at the present, but, on the other hand, miracles do happen.

    Your friend sounds very wise man.

  6. Veronique Jones says:

    So when you discard someone do you expect that they still remain faithful to you even though you have moved on?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Disengage.

      Yes, we own you.

    2. Desirée says:

      The narcissistic concept of ownership is confusing to me. My narcs evidently don’t “own” me and never have. No more than they own the cashier that checks out their groceries. Is the idea of owning everybody required in order for the narcissist to feel like adequate control is achieved, even if the appliance is not currently around?

      1. HG Tudor says:

        They do not own you from your perspective, but we do own you, from our perspective. We need control, to control something, you must own it, hence that mind set.

  7. kaydiva3 says:

    HG, is this inner circle friend also a narcissist?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      No

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