The Porn Supremacy

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There is a significant correlation between our kind and the use of pornographic material. Once upon a time, one might imagine that the size of a person’s porn stash might have been a rough and ready indicator of their reliance on porn and their potential for being one of our kind. Nowadays the availability of porn through the internet means that millions of images and videos are available at the click of the mouse. No longer is it necessary for people to buy top-shelf magazines, visit an “adult sex shop” to purchase videos or DVDs, or import some hardcore material from another jurisdiction.

It is far easier to go online and obtain a porn fix there instead. If you have been entangled with our kind, it is highly likely that porn featured on the agenda. Initially, it will have been used as an aperitif to sexual activity, watching a film together or surfing for some interesting snippets in order to get us both in the mood or enhance the mood further.

It would provide a basis for discussion between us as to ascertaining sexual mores and appetites. During seduction we would garner from you what worked for you, what turned you off and what intrigued you. Some of that knowledge would be put to use as part of the seduction and some of it would be stored away for later use. Porn would be used in an effective and healthy manner.

Our true use of porn would be suspended by the needs arising from effecting the seduction, embedding you and extracting your positive fuel.

Porn appeals to each cadre of narcissist as a consequence of its availability and ubiquity. I will detail below a host of reasons why narcissists of all cadres and schools utilise porn, especially during the devaluation period, but to begin with, a brief mention as to why porn is specifically appealing to these groups.

The Victim Narcissist – with low energy levels and often a low libido, porn provides an easy and available option. Some Victim Narcissists also suffer sexual dysfunction and therefore watching porn is an easy substitute for something they are less able to do.

The Somatic Narcissist – porn is his playground. His obsessions with body and performance come together in a glittering array of writhing and gyrating bodies. Porn is the cradle of the somatic.

The Cerebral – whilst he may have less interest in the sex act, he still wants to know plenty about it and watching extensive amounts of porn, understanding techniques, observing scenarios and so forth enables the Cerebral Narcissist to stockpile his sexual arsenal for later use through spoken and written communication.

The Elite – quite obviously a combination of the reasons that attract the Somatic and the Cerebral means that the Elite finds much to relish in the world of pornography.

The Lesser –  the power and control which come with porn appeal to the lesser. His lack of imagination is also catered for by watching such a massive array of porn.

The Mid-Range –  acquisition of knowledge about porn enables him to portray himself as more capable than he is and enables him to talk a good game.

The Greater – the access to depravity and humiliation appeals especially to the Greater. Whilst such actions will also be evidenced in the Lesser and Mid-Range, it is the Greater who makes more extensive use of porn in this fashion.

Accordingly, porn provides some kind of use to each school and each cadre of our kind. If your narcissist did not appear to access porn, then it is probably the case that you just never caught them doing so. Secrecy is a significant part of the narcissistic lifestyle and secret tablets, activity in the bolthole and password locked devices will invariably be masking a use of porn.

Why do our kind make such extensive use of porn? The use of porn naturally is nor per se a bad thing and many victims enjoy viewing porn as a stimulating and vibrant addition to sexual activity. Those reasons are for stimulation, increasing knowledge and technique in order to please themselves and their partner and in essence for reasons which would be regarded by many people as “good”. Our reasons are far more varied.

  1. Objectification. I have explained previously how we regard people as objects because they are our appliances. This is even more so when we watch porn. Our grandiosity and sense of omnipotence means that these objects are performing for our benefit. We sit before glowing screen akin to a director as these objects interact at our say so. If we want to watch two women and a man together – click, we find the video. If we want anal – click, we find the video. She males, enemas, bondage – whatever we decide the objects should do, we just click and the relevant objects appear to do what we want. We consider ourselves as commanding them to do our bidding.
  2. Lack of intimacy. Our inability to feel many emotions means that intimacy is abhorrent to us. Yes, it will be faked during seduction because of the greater aim that exists but once there is no need for this, it is readily jettisoned. You may (not always admittedly) seek intimacy in your sexual union with us. We will not want that during devaluation and therefore this will result in an ignited fury response. In order to avoid such a scenario arising we take refuge in the world of porn where there is no intimacy. It is cold, clinical and two or more objects performing as we decree.
  3. Control of the environment. We do not want the environment to control us. We must control the environment. This is why control ranks so highly in our day to day dealings. In the arena of pornography, we are in complete control of the environment. We transport ourselves into the scenario as god-like we control it, directing people to place this here and that there, do this, do that, take this, take that. Porn is the ultimate place for us to be able to control the environment.
  4. Reflection. We do not exist save by reflection. This is why we have such an incredible need for external approval and why we seek fuel from everything that we interact with. Your emotional responses (good or bad) provide us with validation that we exist, that we matter and that we are important. We also take your characteristics to use as our own in order to further our construct of what we want to be. Porn facilitates this also. The supreme Olympic performances of those in the videos that we watch, we consider to be us. Therefore, we take those characteristics for ourselves. We also regard the reaction of those in the videos, their orgasmic screams of delight, their groans of pleasure, even the harsh words issued by a dominatrix to be directed as emotional reactions to us and thus fuel is gained and we receive validation by these people recognising us. We become a participant in the porn. If the video is a POV (point of view) production the effect is heightened.
  5. Withdrawal. By choosing to spend our time watching porn rather than being in bed with you we gain fuel from your response. Sometimes it will be Thought Fuel as we think of you lying there in a lonely bed upset and wondering why we spend so long locked in our bolthole and other times it will be Proximate Fuel as you berate us for watching porn or become upset when we reject your advances and head for the study instead. Our extensive use of porn is utilised to belittle you, thus drawing fuel and reinforce our superiority over you.
  6. Lack of challenge. We hate being challenged, after all, we are superior beings and you are inferior therefore any challenge you may issue to us in the sexual arena is unwelcome during devaluation. You are not allowed to make demands on us, have sexual needs which require fulfilment and the like. Those on the screen do not challenge us. Instead they comply with us and facilitate what we want and thus they are preferred.
  7. On tap. We require repeated validation and recognition of our importance and what better way than to receive it from a medium which is always there, always delivers and does so in spades? It does not feel tired; it does not have a period nor does it have a headache. It does not baulk at a certain demand or resist a depraved act. It performs when want it to and it provides us with what we need. This is how our appliances should operate and how we expect them to operate.
  8. Shame. We feel safer operating in an environment that  does not require an emotional obligation on our part. Not always, but you will often expect an intimate connection with us during sexual activity and we do not want to provide this as we cannot. Whilst we take fuel from your emotional reactions, you often want this reciprocated in the sexual arena more than any other and we are reminded of our inability to provide certain emotions to you and this creates shame. This is a criticism which will then ignite our fury and cause us to withdraw or lash out at you. We do not wish to experience this shame and therefore by engaging in viewing porn we are not subjected to this emotional demand from you. (This is also a factor in our kind’s use of one night stands and prostitutes).
  9. Uniqueness. By delving into deviancy and taboo activities online this reinforces our sense of being unique, special and above everyone else. Vanilla sex is available for everyone but we are not everyone. Watching the more deviant and kink sexual activities is not done in order to gain a sexual kick from doing so (although one will be present) the main aim is to reinforce our sense of being unique because we watch (and by extension engage in) such activity.
  10. Triangulation. We will use the watching of porn to triangulate with you. Either through withdrawing from sexual activity with you or using what we have viewed as the basis for insisting on you engaging in similar activities and telling you why we want you to do this. This allows fuel to be obtained and enables our superiority to be reinforced.
  11. Social media. Our porn habits during devaluation are usually solitary activities in our boltholes where we are also able to reach out and gain fuel from a wide range of appliances through social media at the same time. This creates a heady brew of fuel from our porn viewing and our interaction with appliances through social media. This is highly edifying for us and by combining the two we feel especially powerful. We receive fuel but we are also god-like as we command the people on screen to do our bidding as we pull the strings of those we message and text.

 

Accordingly, porn is something which appeals considerably to our kind.

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59 thoughts on “The Porn Supremacy

  1. lickemtomorrow says:

    What bothers me most about this article is the image … why is he in the kitchen?

    He should expect a frying pan around the head from me if caught in this manner.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      He’s a narcissist, he wanks where he wants – sense of entitlement and lack of accountability.

      1. lickemtomorrow says:

        Of course.

        In that case a frying pan is not going to make him less entitled or more accountable.

    2. NarcAngel says:

      The kitchen seems appropriate for a meathead and his sausage (as long as it’s HIS kitchen). Also handy for fixing a sandwich in the afterglow. They can be creatures of efficiency.

      I think the sock must keep the cloud down so they can still see the porn.

      1. lickemtomorrow says:

        Haha, NA, to the meathead and sausage. And I see you put HIS in capitals. Not in MY kitchen in other words 😛 I can see the practical applications with regard to the ‘afterglow’, but I must confess innocence again when it comes to ‘keeping the cloud down’. Seeking further enlightenment if appropriate.

        1. NarcAngel says:

          If not for the sock, the talc would cause a cloud to form from the furious fist pumping action and create a haze over the porn on the laptop.

          Sock on – all clear and no clean up on aisle 3 once Vienna sausage has sizzled.

          1. Violetta says:

            Okay, whatever appetite I had when I saw the word “kitchen” is now gone.

            Vienna sausages…those are the 1-1/2” ones, right?

            Btw, NA, I had a comment on support of you on the “Dark Cupid” thread (I actually disagree with you and enjoyed the puzzle, but I didn’t like the tone of the criticism you got). My comment did not make it through moderation. Just so you know it’s my Tact and Diplomacy wanting, not loyalty to someone I consider a friend.

          2. Asp Emp says:

            Just imagine – the claiming of insurance for a replacement laptop 😉

          3. NarcAngel says:

            Vi
            Thank you for that, but I don’t think loyalty should enter into it. People should be honest in their opinions. The problem is when the message is misinterpreted and/or turned into something else which is what I find happens as things drag on, but no matter – when you give strong opinion you should also expect to receive it, and I do. We all said our piece and have hopefully moved on.

          4. lickemtomorrow says:

            Haha, NA, not what I expected, but it makes perfect sense 😉

            LMFAO

            It’s nothing if not inventive! Is this why we can never find matching socks?

        2. Fiddleress says:

          LET: ” Is this why we can never find matching socks?”
          This was so funny! I think you have just solved one of the greatest domestic mysteries.

          1. lickemtomorrow says:

            Haha, Fiddleress 🙂

            It is indeed a domestic mystery which is yet to be explained …

      2. Asp Emp says:

        OMG, “Also handy for fixing a sandwich in the afterglow”. A Lesser wouldn’t even wash his hands, oh, I can’t even go there……

    3. JB says:

      Exactly what I thought too, LET! Grim! 😂

    4. Asp Emp says:

      “He should expect a frying pan around the head from me if caught in this manner.” – that made me laugh.

  2. December Infinity says:

    I have noticed that there are far too many men who spend way too much time indulging in porn on the internet. I have met the odd one on occasion who while they profess to want to meet someone for a relationship, it becomes clear that the man does not. Why? A relationship would require time and a level of intimacy, not to mention resources. The internet, with the selection of porn and a vast array of dating sites, provides the choices, options and thrills at the click of the mouse. So then the man is less invested in spending time with actual women (or men, depending on the preference), and more time on the internet. It is easy to see that these men, in certain instances, are unable or even unwilling to even engage in conversation with someone in person, because they prefer to play online.

  3. leelasfuelstinks says:

    It´s clear that narcs prefer wanking to sex with another person. When there´s somebody around, they get aroused by control and power, right?

    But how do narcs get aroused when nobody is there and there´s no porn? Just by nature because the body needs it? By phantasy? Just by playing around?

    How and why do cerebral narcs get aroused when somebody is around? They don´t use sex for fuel. They get aroused and then they withhold. Do they get aroused only by sadistic withholding? Or the body which just reacts by nature?

    Is it true that cerebral narcs like more “special” stuff than the somatic ones?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      See Sex and the Narcissist, that is why I wrote it.

      1. leelasfuelstinks says:

        H.G.: I read it 3 times! And still have questions, cause I don´t get it. Too stupid to understand the complex sexuality of the narc. 🙁

      2. Renarde says:

        I have such a great temptation here.

        I shall resist otherwise I might get sent to…The. Dungeon.

  4. Vandenboss says:

    So many qwestions emerge all of a sudden.like,does this counts for female narcissists to the same degree? And is nimfomania actually narcissism? Could an erection and orgasem be compared with an emotional response in the sense of fuel? Excuse me for thinking out loud.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      1. Yes.
      2. Nymphomania is hyperseuxality which is invariably a manifestation of narcissism.
      3. Both an erection (where noticed) and an orgasm are fuel where caused by the narcissist.

      1. leelasfuelstinks says:

        Only an erection and wanking is already fuel?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          If a narcissist causes an erection in another person, that is fuel.
          If a person is wanking off because of a narcissist, that is fuel.

          1. leelasfuelstinks says:

            Aw, thank you.

            And now: The elites and the somatics will gather more fuel then by the act itself and the victiim is not really capable of that und the cerebal will withhold in purpose and prefer the wanking?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            See Sex and the Narcissist.

          3. leelasfuelstinks says:

            Alright alright, I read those passages again instead of getting on sensei´s nerves 😉 😀

          4. HG Tudor says:

            Your assumption and an incorrect one.

          5. leelasfuelstinks says:

            Thank you, sensei 🙂

      2. Vandenboss says:

        Thank you so much!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You are welcome.

      3. autiempath says:

        HG,
        Did you watch the movie Nymphomaniac, by Lars von Trier?
        If so, what are your thoughts on the lead caracter Joe?
        A Narcisist or…damaged in some other way?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          No, it is on my list. Uma Thurman is in this film isn’t she? I enjoyed Melancholia, Von Trier directed that.

          1. autiempath says:

            Yes she is, in a supporting role.
            Charlotte Gainsbourg is playing the lead caracter Joe.

            When you find the time to watch Nymphomaniac, i think you enjoy that one to.
            And then Iam curious what your thoughts are on the caracter Joe.
            Melancholia is on my list.

            Thank you for your answer.

  5. Eternity says:

    This guy looks like he is going to explode my goodness!

  6. Duchessbea says:

    By any chance, is that you in the photograph HG?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Don’t be ridiculous.

      1. Eternity says:

        Ha Ha , I knew that wasnt you HG. This guy looks a bit silly.

  7. Asp Emp says:

    Unless the guy in the pic has a hedgehog on his lap, I’ve no idea what he is “up to” – that is not an expression I have ever seen a guy do – whether porn is involved or not.

    Seriously… OMG. LOL! I recall, now, (with disgust, actually)…. The Lesser (oh, it would be only the Lesser that would do this!! – or maybe I am wrong on this one)….. he was sat in the lounge, very late at night, with a sock and talcum powder. And the channel he was wanking to? F.F.S it was summat like ‘Babestation’. That’s NOT porn, di**head. Only the Lesser would put narcissists to shame….. and he tried to hide the sock but couldn’t close his dressing gown in time…… (oh, I am so fking glad that he didn’t stay long, cos I threw him out & refused to sleep with him for a long time before I caught him with his sock and MY talcum powder, damned cheek).

    RE: The Lesser on this article – proves my point “His lack of imagination is also catered for”.

    Great to see explanations of the schools of narcissists and how they respond to porn. Should be interesting – only when the covid-s**t – if ever – is over and the resuming of social life returns – to ask the question “so, what are your thoughts on porn?”

    1. Fiddleress says:

      Right, Asp Emp, time for me to learn something new (again): I am not at all accustomed with men’s ways in this field of activity so, could you enlighten me as to the use of … talcum powder?? What use is that? (I am really laughing my head off here, writing this, as my mind reels…).
      The sock, I can imagine what for, though the idea is… amusing and entertaining! But the talcum powder? Is that because the wooly sock would be too scratchy? Haha, this just made me laugh even more!

      1. lickemtomorrow says:

        I would imagine to reduce friction and provide a more effective gliding motion for the task at hand 😛 Not sure any kind of gel is going to be as easy to wash out of a sock! But, as another ‘innocent’ answering, it’s just a guess.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          A guess? Pffftttt.

          1. lickemtomorrow says:

            Would you at least agree to my ‘innocence’?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            No. Guilty!

          3. lickemtomorrow says:

            Haha, HG.

            I was focused on mechanics (in my defense) 🙂

            But, of course, must accept the judgement handed down to me.

            Is it off with my head? Or just early to bed?

          4. HG Tudor says:

            No, I am just going to tape these mittens on to your hands which you have to wear for a month.

          5. lickemtomorrow says:

            Oohhh, mittens. I love soft cosy things.

            Doesn’t seem like much of a punishment, HG.

            Could make it difficult to type, though :O

            Slinking off to my little kitten corner now 🙁

        2. Alexissmith2016 says:

          Talc for sweaty bollocks and ****! Ewwwwwy!

        3. Asp Emp says:

          LOL. I think the sock would be ‘fked’ either way LOL

          1. lickemtomorrow says:

            Hahahahaha, Asp Emp 😛

            Definitely!

          2. Asp Emp says:

            Ah, bless, some of the conversations are hilarious. Such a tonic. 🙂

      2. Asp Emp says:

        LOLOL, sorry, your comment made me laugh. Are you serious? You don’t know? Is ‘Google’ not returning any search results? LOL.

        Ok, the talcum powder goes into the sock and so does the cock. The hand (left or right) does the (FFS, I can’t believe I’m actually typing this LOL)….. do you get it now? Using the sock on it’s own is probably worse than carpet burns….. LOL it’s not even 8.30am!!!

        1. Fiddleress says:

          And pray thee, what should I have written in the google search bar? ‘Sock, cock and talcum poweder?’ Or ‘Why do men use talcum powder in a sock when w*****g?’ Haha, still laughing like a

          1. leelasfuelstinks says:

            I don´t get it either. What on earth is the sock for?

          2. leelasfuelstinks says:

            Aw, excuse me, I got it. I googled “masturbation”+”sock”. So, the sock is not for the wanking itself but for the liquid which comes out at the end 😉 So instead of using a hanky you use the sock.

            The powder may be for more friction?

        2. Fiddleress says:

          Oops, hit send without realising.
          Still lauging like a school girl. But Asp Emp, I still do not think of googling anything up, or hardly ever.
          Why not simply use his hand? And hankies afterwards. No sock burn, and you get to keep your talcum powder and use it to ease yourself into one of those latex outfits for an interesting night out, haha !

          1. Asp Emp says:

            Well, I once had conversations with a guy who explained to me why not use their bare hands…… apparently they sometimes use soft gloves……

            Let’s look at it another way – some animals like being brushed and it’s scratching their backs as opposed to a person’s hand stroking them – the sensations are different……

            Latex outfits?!?!?! I’ve owned one. Probably wouldn’t start now either LOL

        3. Eternity says:

          Ha ha, ouch that does sound painful. The things people do to reach an orgasm.

          1. Asp Emp says:

            I meant to include the word ‘never’ – I’ve never owned one!

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