The Geyser Empath

THE GEYSER EMPATH

The Geyser Empath is an individual who is empathic in nature with the additional tendency to fountain with emotion. All empaths are emotional, it goes with the territory but some empaths are far more emotional than others.

This type of empathic tendency is marked by high energy levels. One might even go so far as to say that shades of hyper activity start to appear with the Geyser Empath. He or she is always on the go, heading here and travelling there, seeking out people to see how they are and to exhibit their significant caring side with plenty of suitable expressions of concern, empathy and understanding.

The Geyser Empath is very useful for our kind because of how expressive they are with regard to their emotions. Their responses are exaggerated. This does not mean that they are false, far from it, the exaggeration appears as a heightened response which is very useful for us to witness and then allows us to mimic it.

There is no subtlety involved. When the Geyser Empath is happy it is shown as a torrent of joy, their concern is grave and focussed and their hurt is not of a silent tear but the wail and tears of the tortured. Such displays may seem melodramatic to some, but they are not, they are exactly how the Geyser Empath feels.

The Geyser Empath, owing to the high energy levels talks often about how he or she feels but this is not a case of them explaining that because it must be all about them, but rather they will convey those feelings in order to help others by causing them to better understand. When someone talks about being in despair, the Geyser Empath will relate how they know despair only too well and will articulate that feeling in order to demonstrate that they understand how the listener feels.

This person has a tissue thin skin and is highly sensitive. They are very easily hurt and when we lash out against them, they respond with a fountain of emotion. If they are praised, their thanks will gush from them with greater intensity than a Gwyneth Paltrow Oscar acceptance speech. If they are denigrated, the tears will not flow but they will cascade along with that trembling bottom lip and a near histrionic response to the pain caused by wounding words.

The Geyser Empath is unable to put on a brave face. Whilst the Carrier Empath is dogged and stoic in the face of adversity, focussing their empathy on resolving the situation in  a practical fashion, the Geyser Empath will dissolve in a bubbling mess of tears. They are completely unable to conceal their emotions, even for a short time. A Carrier Empath can do so because they shift their feelings on to solving a problem. The Geyser Empath does not have that function. They are excellent at tea and sympathy, kind and comforting words flowing, but of little use practically.

Unlike the Magnet Empath, the Geyser Empath is better dealing with intimate and one-on-one situations rather than handling a crowd. The Geyser Empath loves nothing more than finding an individual as their project and wanting to use their biggest asset in order to resolve issues; their utter devotion to love.

They are the greatest love devotees of all empaths, they truly believe that with love everything can be solved. Love conquers everything, all you need is love, love will save the day. If you were to ask them just how this happens, they could not answer, but explain that love works in mysterious ways and by being loving, showing love and acting with love in each and everything they do, this will resolve problems, heal hurt and bring happiness to all.

This devotion to love means that the Geyser Empath is big on romance and will readily fall prey to overt exhibitions of passion, love and romance from our kind. Any narcissist which presents as the knight in shining armour will have the Geyser Empath’s attention from the beginning as he or she believes they have found a kindred spirit.

The Geyser Empath’s overt displays of emotion make our task of mirroring so much easier. He or she will wear his or her heart on their sleeve and they will suffer repeated heartbreak. Notwithstanding this outcome, the Geyser Empath is undeterred. They will suffer misery and pain from this broken heart and they will then affirm their belief in love and bounce back.

No matter how devastated they are following the shattering of their heart, they will piece it back together and will do so with greater speed amongst the empathic types. They may suffer considerable pain and they will exhibit the effect more greatly than other empathic types but they also re-charge with a greater speed as a consequence of their devotion to love. Their belief is unshakeable.

No matter how many times they are let down, hurt, cheated on and so forth, they will soon bounce back. They are not naïve but rather have an undimmed and undented belief in the power of love. This capacity for returning to the arena of love so promptly after heartache means that they are ideal candidates for post discard and post escape hoovers as they ‘refuel’ so quickly.

The Geyser Empath is highly sensitive and will be moved to tears regularly be they tears of joy or tears of pain. There will often be a need for a tissue when this person is around. One might be moved to consider them as someone pathetic but that would be an inappropriate label. Yes the Geyser Empath is very easy to manipulate into spurting out fuel and because of their beliefs they will suffer repeated hurts but their strength lies in their unwavering belief in love and how they soon bounce back following their set backs.

They will do Misery 2.0 when they are wounded and hurt, the sobbing, the wailing and the tears will be extensive but it will not last. They do not wallow, but wipe away the tears, reapply the mascara, smooth down the rumpled clothes and climb right back on to their Unicorn of Love and Hope and gallop into the fray once again. The Geyser Empath can exhibit unpredictability of response.

There will always be emotion, which suits our kind, but the extent and intensity of it may at times be so startling that it actually affects the standing of the narcissist with third parties who look on and witness what appears to them to be histrionics and melodrama. Exerting control over this emotional output can at times prove difficult for all save the Greater Narcissist.

The Geyser Empath lacks the serenity of the Magnet Empath and there is no cool deliberation of the Carrier. The Geyser will erupt with emotion with squeals of delight at the good news of a friend who is to be a parent, the triumphant praise for a colleague who has secured a promotion and the devastated collapse following the death of a loved one. The Geyser Empath believes that everyone has the capacity to love and that once they do, all their ills will be solved.

This person appeals to all schools of narcissist because of the high fuel content that is provided and the ease by which it can be provoked. They are easy to seduce but tend to suffer swifter devaluations than other empaths because they shine brighter and thus run the risk of our kind becoming familiar with their fuel in a quicker time so that the potency loses its lustre sooner.

As explained above however, they are prime candidates for hoovers and often the hoover bar is lower for them as a consequence of the narcissist knowing that so much delicious fuel will become available with the added bonus of it being hoover fuel and furthermore because the devotion to love means that the Geyser Empath has a greater susceptibility to giving second, third and fourth chances.

The Geyser Empathic tendency is evident in all of the classes of empathic individuals. This tendency is often seen amongst the Co-Dependent class when this tendency manifests in an extreme form. Its presence will exist in Empaths but tends to be mixed with other empathic tendencies as well so the effect will be slightly diluted but not muted.

With regard to the Super Empath it is unusual to see the Geyser Empathic tendency because of the Super Empath’s inherent resilience to both a sudden devaluation and being hoovered, however it will be seen amongst those who are borderline personality disorder as their displays of emotion and tissue thin emotional skin exhibit when their empathic side is unleashed and the resilience of the Super Empath is demonstrated when they lash out and withdraw.

The Lesser is drawn to those with this tendency because the effort required is so minimal to prompt a response and thus accords with the Lesser narcissist’s lower energy levels and reduced cognitive function for manipulation and machinations.

The Mid-Ranger will also be attracted because of the fuel on offer and the ease by which it can be harvested but the emotional volatility can become wearing to the Mid-Ranger because he will struggle to assert control to achieve some of his aims.

The Greater revels in those with Geyser Empathic tendencies finding the sudden eruptions amusing and playing straight into his portrayal of the individual as unbalanced and unhinged. He or she will take a perverse pleasure in provoking the Geyser into giving more and more fuel.

14 thoughts on “The Geyser Empath

  1. Bibi says:

    I am a geyser. I am Yellowstone. (Albeit for me personally, geyser not only implies my tears but also my eruptions of happiness. It’s as though everything is amplified.)

    When I was in midst of my ensnarement a number of folks thought I was bipolar. I am not–I am just up and down. I get the sense that many who are in midst of their ensnarement are mistaken for such. Hear from the narc and one is happy. Then following the onslaught of devaluation and it is a trail of tears–endless sobbing and woes.

    I wonder how many have been prescribed antidepressants for these ups and downs when these shifts of moods are in fact being brought on by narc ensnarement and ET.

  2. Whitney says:

    HG I’m having a sad weekend. Sorry I’m venting here because Geyser is my type.

    1) my brother. Alcoholism, drunk fight, wanting help at 2am. I’m like his atm machine.

    2) a baby at a BBQ. Underweight. Crying 😭 wanted more milk. They didn’t give more 😭 giving a dummy instead. The baby kept crying. Starving. I told the mum, she was surprised. I told them again and again, in various ways. They would have been offended. I had to pull over on the way home to cry. The baby was skinny. They need to feed her more each day.

    Sorry if this upsets anyone 😢

    1. Whitney says:

      Anyone with a baby: if it cries, feed it. Keep feeding it. If a baby cries, it’s probably hungry. Babies don’t want to cry. It takes up energy. Young babies want to either sleep, or drink milk.
      You can tell the babies hungry before it cries.
      If the eyes of a young baby are open, it’s probably hungry.
      If it’s crying for another reason, go to the doctor.
      The more you feed it, the better it will sleep.
      If your baby can’t sleep, feed it.
      Don’t listen to modern advice about caring for babies. Just do what the baby wants. The baby will tell you.

      1. lickemtomorrow says:

        You are right, Whitney, the baby does give cues around its needs. One of them is for food, another is for sleep and there are more, including one for play. A good routine suits a baby best. And parent’s must determine their babies needs, so listen to the baby is correct. But, food and sleep is not all they need and anyone who is unsure should look up information around baby cues.

    2. lickemtomorrow says:

      Whitney, that sounds like a terrible weekend, especially for a Geyser empath 🙁 You are feeling it for all these people and it’s hurting you, too. I’m sorry to hear about your brother. That he relies on you must make it especially difficult as I’m sure you’d find it hard to turn him away. In the circumstances, I hope he is OK, but that’s one merry go round he has you on with him. Maybe it’s time to get off.

      As far as that baby goes, how distressing. You did all you could in the circumstances of the BBQ and I’m not sure you could have done more except rip the baby out of the mother’s arms to feed it yourself. Personally, I’d be inclined not to let that one slide. Child Protection services exist for a reason and that’s because there are shitty parents out there who don’t look after their kids. And the kids have no one to speak up for them. At the same time, I don’t know the family’s circumstances, and maybe they need extra support right now. There could be a whole lot more to that situation, but you did what you could at the time, Whitney.

      The tears for both are tears from Heaven. That’s my perspective on it. I hope the situation for both improve.

      And, as usual, as an empath you take it back on yourself Whitney. I hope you feel better soon x

      1. Whitney says:

        Lickemtomorrow Thank you so much for you kind message. It was a big comfort. You really understood my feelings and validated them, and you helped me understand my situation with your phrase “merry go round”.

        Sorry Eternity I know it’s sad. This will make you feel better. The parents are doing their best. The baby apparently vomits if she drinks too much. I told the mum she needs to feed the baby more often then. I told her she needed to feed it again in 30 minutes.

        Yes Lickemtomorrow babies need things other than food. Sorry sometimes I’m exaggerated haha. Babies need to eat, burp, sleep, nappy change, be the right temperature, socialise, play etc.

        But I believe that for newborns, they mostly just want milk. And I disagree about a routine being the best. I think the best is to respond to their needs. I think trying to follow a feeding routine/schedule is the reason that newborn was skinny. They had her on a “feeding schedule”. That is bad. Sleeping and feeding schedules are bad. If a baby is hungry or tired they will eat or sleep. You can’t schedule it. Trying to follow a routine or schedule only makes the parents and babies life harder. You are fighting nature.

        1. Eternity says:

          I agree. I dont agree with the crying it out either method. Babies need to held and rocked to sleep.
          if the baby is on formula and vomits it could be allergic to the protein in the cows milk and may need to switch the formula. This formula you would have to special order. Once the baby starts solid foods it should be able to gain some weight . I hope all works out! Plus babies will eat when they are hungry.

        2. lickemtomorrow says:

          Happy to see you got some more info on that little one, Whitney, and were able to reassure yourself as well as us. Eternity may be correct about an allergy, so hopefully the parent’s are looking into it and there are also things like gastric reflux, etc. It needs a proper diagnosis. And when it comes to routine the main thing is that it’s responsive to the child.

          I’m glad you found my comment helpful in terms of your situation with your brother. It’s one that could tear your heart out and I hope you both get the support you need in the circumstances <3

    3. Eternity says:

      My goodness that must have been terrible to witness.Did the mother not have any milk to feed this crying baby ? Did anyone at the barbecue notice? Sometimes babies get colicky and you don’t know what they want,but if the baby was indeed hungry and they were at a barbecue, how can they not feed it. So many unanswered questions.
      I feel sad right now thinking about it.

      1. Whitney says:

        Eternity, Lickemtomorrow and anyone who felt upset:

        The baby is doing well!

        I saw the mum again and she was non-stop trying to feed her baby! The baby was even sometimes declining the offer. I’m sure the baby will gain weight now that the mum is constantly offering milk.

  3. Cup Cakes says:

    GREAT ARTICLE

  4. JB says:

    This is fascinating. You have described someone in my family to a T! Everything is starting to piece together now, thank you. Can I ask, the descriptors of the different types of empath, are they general knowledge or were you the person who coined the terms first?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      If you are referring to the cadres, I coined them.

      1. JB says:

        Ok, I thought that might be the case.

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