The Heart Hooks No. 1 – Narc Sayings of Seduction

WE ARE SOULMATES

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Did the narcissist say this to you? How was it conveyed, when was it conveyed and what was your response?

Do you believe in the concept of soulmates? If this phrase (or similar) was said to you, how did it make you feel? What did you believe by it?

5 thoughts on “The Heart Hooks No. 1 – Narc Sayings of Seduction

  1. Ciara says:

    Thinking back it was similar, I thought here we go again. Actions speaks louder than words!

  2. Jessica says:

    Yes. For 13 years, all the way up to disengagement. It was said everytime I got a reprisal. Then during devaluation he would say that he never loved me. That he only stayed because of this or because of that. Then he or his mom woukd excuse it by saying “everyone says things they don’t mean when they are angry”. When I started to repeat what was being said to me during arguments, it did not phase him. It did not hurt him, but it hurt me that I was saying these things. That’s when I knew I had to get out. When I realized he had eroded me so much, that I was turning into him. And I didn’t like it.

    1. NarcFreeandLovingIt says:

      I can relate. When I experienced the icky feeling that came along with trying to give as good as I got, I knew that I had to leave. It wasn’t worth the erosion of my soul. I’m grateful to be free. Ten years out and When I think about it all, I feel absolutely nothing but disgust that I allowed such a vermin into my life. He continues with attempts to Hoover. Sad, sad pitiful stories of regret and love lost.

    2. njfilly says:

      Jessica,

      I’m glad you escaped and I understand too.

      When I was with my narcissist boyfriend, in the beginning, he would do strange immature things and I would ask him “how would you feel if I did that to you?”. He would look at me in this strange way, with a childish quizzical expression. As if he never even considered that. I would think to myself, how bizarre that I have to point out basic thoughtfulness and consideration to a man in his 50’s.

      As time went on, and we were at the end, I did do some things to put him in his place. But like you, I did not want to lower myself to his level. I showed him I was strong enough to retaliate, but wise enough to know it wasn’t worth it to continue. I did things just enough to evoke his fury, then left him and blocked him from contacting me further, depriving him of the ability to direct it toward me.

      I never want to be him or anything like him, or my father (or my mother or brother, for that matter). Their pitiful weakness disgusts me.

  3. lickemtomorrow says:

    Love this image <3

    Still a sucker!

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