Ten Tells of Triangulation

 

TEN-TELLS-OF-TRIANGULATION

 

Triangulation is a staple manipulative device in our arsenal. Triangulation is a convenient way to describe an affair, having a bit on the side, flirting, playing away, investing in a new prospect, having a form of distraction, a plaything and so on. The reality is that triangulation offends the principles of why two people are in a relationship and is a method of manipulation which is used to gain fuel, cause confusion and exert control.

The principle reason that we engage in it is because we are able to derive two sources of fuel from two different appliances. Sometimes the fuel is doubly positive and others both positive and negative. This is edifying and invigorating. You may be triangulated with a person or an object.

There may be triangles operating within triangles. Triangulation provides fuel but also allows us to generate confusion and engage in distraction tactics whereby you and the other person attack one another, failing to realise (or perhaps not wanting to be seen to realise for fear of being regarded as losing out) that is us that has caused the triangulation.

Usually you will not be aware that you are being triangulated with the other person. It is easier to keep you and the other person separated and we enjoy our time with them and then our time with you. We draw fuel from you both and neither of you know about the other.

We see no problem in behaving like this. We are never accountable; we are entitled to do as we like. We do not distinguish between you because you are just appliances to us and therefore entirely interchangeable. Before we decide to up the ante and reveal your opponent to you, thus heightening your reactions and responses, you may actually be able to ascertain that you are being triangulated as there are certain tells which exist.

These are more obvious amongst the Lesser and Mid-Range of our kind as they may lack the higher function to remember things that they have done or said and occasionally slip up, thereby revealing the tell.

If you confront us with this tell we will spin some yarn, persuade you that there is nothing in it, this person is a friend, there is a glitch with the ‘phone, somebody else did it, you are imagining things, you are over-reacting and in our time-honoured fashion we will deny and deflect and even go on the attack if need be in order to protect our investment in both you and the other person. If you do see these tells, do not challenge us about them.

You are only giving us a chance to draw fuel from you, confuse you and worm our way out of it. If you see these tells you now know what they mean. You are being triangulated.  Here are ten of those tells.

  1. Our mobile ‘phone will have duplicate messages. We send the same message to you and the other person, often within seconds of the first message.
  2. We will buy you a duplicate gift having already given it to you a week or so ago.
  3. We will tell you something that we have already told you before, more or less word for word.
  4. We will make reference to something you said even though you have not said it (it was the other person who said it).
  5. We will make reference to something we apparently did together which you will not remember. (This is because we did it with the other person).
  6. We will call you by someone else’s name.
  7. You may hear us say things under our breath such as “She wouldn’t do this” or “she would agree to do it”.
  8. We will fail to acknowledge you doing something for us thinking it was done by the other person, for instance a surprise gift.
  9. We will remark we don’t want to do something again even though we have never done it with you. (We did it with the other person).
  10. We will ask a question which is out of context. For instance, asking how your dad is recovering when there is nothing wrong with him. (It is of course the other person’s dad who is ill).

4 thoughts on “Ten Tells of Triangulation

  1. Chihuahuamum says:

    Smh laughing at these lol A few years ago these would’ve had me in knots upset, but that’s the beauty and freedom of knowledge and also of no longer caring. Once you know why, you realize it means that it’s more about “them”. If they were as confidant in themselves and together they’d not need to triangulate.
    The narc is a lot older and i’m starting to see the strong exterior crack all over. A lot of the tactics have vanished bc it’s evident they no longer work on me. It’s been a nice change once i realized i had the power to learn and also once the fantasy disssolved. There’s no sexier fantasy then being in charge of your own life and your emotions i’ll take that any day!

    1. WhoCares says:

      “There’s no sexier fantasy then being in charge of your own life and your emotions”

      This is a great statement, Chihuahuamum.

      1. Chihuahuamum says:

        Hi Who Cares…It’s been a journey and still is and probably always will be. It has gotten easier, but i’m still working on myself.
        I do find it amazing to look back over the years and see how things have changed. There’s a lot to to work on, but it’s reassuring 🥰

    2. A Victor says:

      Awesome comment Chihuahuamum, much to consider in it. Thank you for sharing your observations.

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