The Magnet Empath
The Magnet Empath. This is an empathic individual who has certain magnetic tendencies which are layered onto their classification as an empath, super empath or co-dependent. The Magnet Empath is a person that people are instinctively and naturally drawn to. This person has an inner light which is easily recognised by certain people; those who are in need.
The Magnet Empath might be sat on a tube train when the person next to them will find an irresistible urge to want to tell them that they are travelling to an important interview and they are feeling nervous. The Magnet Empath might be waiting in line to be served in a shop when the customer behind them begins to tell them about their concerns and worries, or where the Magnet Empath is sat watching the swans on a lake when a stranger will sit beside them and start to tell their life story.
If you find that complete strangers have a tendency to share intimate and private details with you at the drop of a hat, that they feel a need to off load to you within moments of meeting you and confide in you about their hopes, fears and problems, then you have this magnetic quality.
You draw those in need to you. This is because you shine with this inner light which acts as a beacon of hope and that is what the Magnet Empath embodies; hope. Your empathic nature lights up rooms, illuminates the darkest of situations and brightens the dullest day and this is because you are a walking beacon of hope.
The Magnet Empath moves with confidence and purpose. There is no swagger or arrogance in the way that they enter a room, this person glides, they are serene and elegant. You will not witness any timid scurrying or rolling shoulder bluster, but somebody who is calm and assured. This individual has a clear sense of self – something which appeals to our kind – and this radiates wherever they are. Heads turn, eyes focus and people gravitate towards the appearance of the Magnet Empath. People’s faces light up, there is a lifting of the mood and people want to be seen with and to be next to the Magnet Empath.
Whereas our kind expects this kind of reaction from those around us and indeed seeks and demands it, the Magnet Empath accepts attention with grace and humility. They are not shy, they are not reserved, but there is none of the bluff and bragging that would accompany the engagement of a narcissist with those assembled. The Magnet Empath moves amongst people with a lightness of touch, an encouraging smile, a soft hand placed on the arm and hope shines from him or her.
The Magnet Empath will talk about themselves but in a manner which is encouraging and inspirational. Whilst our kind will also inspire it is done from a platform of declaring one’s own brilliance and you should be more like me.
Those with the magnetic empathy will inspire by explaining that the listener is already empowered they just need to release it and to explain that if the magnetic empath can achieve certain aims then so can the listener. They emphasise the connectivity between them and those they interact with, demonstrating how essentially, since they are empathic individuals, they are all cut from the same cloth.
The narcissist will demonstrate how we are a cut above and use jealousy and envy as motivational tools instead, demanding improvement, whipping individuals into action for fear of the consequences of not doing so, emphasising the difference between the narcissist and the listener and indicating, heavily, that the listener needs to shape up or ship out, go big or go home, if he or she is to achieve anything.
He or she is content for others to share the limelight and indeed positively encourages it which contrasts with the spotlight stealing behaviour of our kind, but this also acts as an attracting factor to our kind. We identify somebody who can capture the spotlight but does not wish to hog it, allowing us to camp on to it instead.
The Magnet Empath wants to harness potential, bring motivation through the provision of hope, the instilling of belief and the raising of optimism. The Magnet Empath is not one of practicality however. They will not assume the mantle of responsibility for an individual and will not get their hands excessively dirty on behalf of another but rather their aim is to cause those around them to feel better in themselves through their own innate abilities, to tap into as yet unharnessed skills and attributes.
This person provides panache and style, bringing hope through words, rather than through actions, a person who can influence in a positive manner the lives of many. Whereas the Carrier Empath is a rugged and practical individual and tends to focus on assisting only a few people, sometimes often only one – usually our kind – the Magnet Empath can affect many people at once with their messages of hope and inspiration.
This individual always believes in hope. This is what drives them and causes them to provide extensive fuel generated by this hope. They hope that love can conquer all and therefore are significant love devotees. They refuse to give up, often flogging a dead horse, endeavouring to overcome the insurmountable. This hope often blinds those with magnetic tendencies to the reality of a situation and causes them to engage in courses of action which invariably result in harm to the empathic person. Blind hope will take them down a path which will be exploited by our kind.
Excellent fuel is generated by this gracious individual, their words inspiring, uplifting, praising and complimenting. They are content to say all of these words and expect little or nothing in return, save that the listener grasps hope and secures growth and achievement. The Magnet Empath is also easily led by false exhibitions of hope, the slightest glimmer is something that they will latch on to in the expectation of improvement and seeing changes. Where the narcissist gives this person cause to hope, it will cause the individual to remain in the grasp of the narcissist as they dangle hope before them to keep them bound.
Often this person need not say anything. Their composure and general demeanour marks them out as who they are, which means that many people engage with them as strangers, unaware that sub-consciously they are drawn to the Magnet Empath. These people are sought after as inspirational speakers, people who present prizes, open new buildings, support charitable trusts and such like and their popularity in this regard and the desire of people who just want to reach out and be touched by the Magnet Empath means that they will often find themselves pulled in many directions and spread thin.
This impacts on their energy levels as they feel unable to say no to anybody, not wanting to extinguish the hope that they have begun to cultivate. Instead the Magnet Empath will often take on many different obligations and functions for a wide variety of people with not only consequences for their own ability to deliver but their interaction with our kind when we have ensnared a Magnet Empath.
The Lesser Narcissist tend not to choose those with strong magnetic tendencies. This is because the jealous nature of the narcissist as a whole, but especially the less capable Lesser, means that they fear being overshadowed far too quickly and their resentment would be palpable notwithstanding their seduction. The Lesser’s low control threshold would result in him or her being unable to keep their fury under control during seduction and thus the seduction would fail. Accordingly, it is not attempted.
Furthermore, the Lesser will hate the attention that this individual would receive with the upshot that the Lesser would be ignored and overlooked. Unable to compete, the Lesser would be repeatedly wounded and notwithstanding the fuel that comes from the Magnet Empath, this would not be enough. Thus it is unusual to find a Lesser who has ensnared such a person.
The Mid-Ranger likes and wants those empaths with magnetic qualities as they encompass those attributes – charisma, likeability, people skills – which the Mid Ranger believes that he or she has and wishes to project to the world at large. Those with magnetic tendencies prove to be a double-edged sword however. The Mid Ranger will struggle to resist, naturally being drawn to this person for who they are because they are prime material for the narcissist, but find themselves awash with jealousy and envy once devaluation begins. During seduction, these traits can be kept in check and the Mid Ranger will appropriate the benign traits of the Magnet Empath for his own use, but once devaluation commences, he becomes coated in envy which will manifest as prolonged and repeated sulking silent treatments.
The Greater Narcissist revels in the Magnet Empath. Possessing similar levels of charm and magnetism, the Greater finds mirroring extremely easy in order to attract this type of empath. The Magnet Empath’s popularity is also appealing to the Greater who basks in the reflected glory of other people’s enthusiasm, praises the Greater for being with such a wonderful person and naturally soaks up the motivating and complimentary words of the Magnet Empath towards him or her. The Greater regards their acquisition as one which actually saves the Greater some work by attracting additional appliances which the Greater will draw fuel from, hijack as his own appliances and then turn against the Magnet Empath when the smearing commences during devaluation.
The Magnet Empath is a popular person with many empathic attributes, their energy level is not as great as other kinds since they engage more in words than actions, but that is not to say they do not act, just not to the same degree as other types of empath. They also have many demands on their time and attention which ultimately will clash with the desires of our kind, resulting in conflict and control. This will not only hurt this type of empath but result in them feeling torn since they feel obliged to assist others, not just the narcissist and this will result in the narcissist wishing to regulate those behaviours and isolate the Magnet Empath. Their capacity to draw people to them in whatever circumstance, even when not actively doing so, will irk the narcissist considerably during devaluation and provide him or her with the grounds for attack and triangulation.
An excellent fuel provider, both in themselves and the ability to bring others to the narcissist’s table and the Magnet Empath is someone who hangs in there, always strung along by hope, which is at the centre of the magnet’s being,usually to their ultimate detriment during devaluation and also in terms of susceptibility to post discard/post escape hoovering.
HG.
You analysis of characters from films and television programs is excellent.
In your opinion, is the character of Clarice Starling from Hannibal a magnet empath? And is this why Hannibal was so drawn to her?
You will have to use Show Me The Empath from the KV.
Wait – you do this for movie characters too?
Do what for movie characters?
I’d definitely submit Holden Caulfield.
Do you have any guesses for Holden KitKat?
“Do what for movie characters?”
‘Show Me the Empath for movie characters’…but, I guess that makes sense since you have done characters in series like “Big Little Lies.”
But you do not do the Empath Detector for someone who wishes to apply it to another real life person, correct? (Only if someone purchases the Empath Detector and applies to themselves – if I understand you correctly.)
Yes, you can use SMTE for movie characters.
The EDC is only to be applied to yourself.
Thank-you for the confirmation & clarification, HG.
When I first arrived here and was trying to make sense of the various schools and cadres of empath I found some of the comments in threads confusing.
The Super and Supernova threads often have readers talking about their experiences of being Super or going Supernova – which are sometimes hard to assimilate with the descriptions HG provides, and the Magnet threads something similar seems to happen. It’s probably because all these things sound so good.
Below is the phrasing in the article that most stands out to me, and it’s what I look for in comments from those with the magnet school to help me understand the cadre. If I don’t see these, I become a bit wary…
‘The Magnet Empath accepts attention with grace and humility….there is none of the bluff and bragging that would accompany the engagement of a narcissist with those assembled. The Magnet Empath moves amongst people with a lightness of touch, an encouraging smile, a soft hand placed on the arm and hope shines from him or her.’
‘The Magnet Empath will talk about themselves but in a manner which is encouraging and inspirational….[They] will inspire by explaining that the listener is already empowered they just need to release it…. They emphasise the connectivity between them and those they interact with..
He or she is content for others to share the limelight and indeed positively encourages it.’
‘The Magnet Empath wants to harness potential, bring motivation through the provision of hope, the instilling of belief and the raising of optimism. …..This person provides panache and style, bringing hope through words, rather than through actions, a person who can influence in a positive manner the lives of many.’
‘[Their] words inspiring, uplifting, praising and complimenting. They are content to say all of these words and expect little or nothing in return, save that the listener grasps hope and secures growth and achievement. ….Their composure and general demeanour marks them out as who they are…’
Annaamel,
This is the essential experience of the magnet, as stated in the article:
“If you find that complete strangers have a tendency to share intimate and private details with you at the drop of a hat, that they feel a need to off load to you within moments of meeting you and confide in you about their hopes, fears and problems, then you have this magnetic quality. You draw those in need to you. This is because you shine with this inner light which acts as a beacon of hope and that is what the Magnet Empath embodies; hope.”
The gentle encouragement and raising of hope occurs in real life between an approaching individual in need and the magnet empath. (Not on an internet board.) And they do approach regularly, sensing somehow those other qualities.
I have never discussed my experience with this anywhere else, I don’t shout it from the rooftops, but this seemed like a place to open up about it, and anonymously. As HG also writes here, magnets are not blustering but we are not timid either. Hope that clears up some of your confusion.
I can’t help myself. I ended up DOING IT. Bigger than I even planned. Not with malice, but with conviction. My light is now a burning fire. HG, how difficult to be a conscious ‘unfortunate.’ But then look at all the good you are doing. Maybe you can still save yourself. I will stop now.
Darn, everyone around me told me my soul would be forever tarnished if I followed through with my mondo supernova blow. Is that true? I suppose if anyone was trying to corrupt my empath soul it would be HG. I am still holding my ground but alas in a smaller way.
I see: It´s also time again for funny prejudices 😂😂 Now the Magnet Empaths are “mommy like”, and aw, yeah, the Carrier Empaths look frumpy 😂😂😂 Oh crap,😮 forgot my cooking apron with flower prints, my old-granny clothes, forgot to do my hair in an old fashioned bun and didn´t put my Birkenstock sandals on. Oh boy, and I even had a shower today and washed my feet! 😮🤪Shame on me! 😂🤪
#ICarryYourShitAndLookSexy! 😉😂
I envy the Magnet Empaths a bit. When a friend was sick and suffering, I was struggling to find comforting words, all I had was ice cold practical advices, what she could do about it. When someone comes to me with a problem, I can figure out very quickly what can be done about it, but some people only want some nice, warm and comforting words, which I do not have! I struggle to find them! My brain only thinks about practical solutions, what can be done about it. Until EDC I never ever thought that I could be an Empath. 🤦♀️
HG! What a masterpiece of work. Thanks for that. I never knew about the “Magnet” empath
Once again learning every day from this blog.
I am rather new here, though did already have an email consult with HG. I have always been a magnet. Exactly as described here. All the wounded and crazy and even normals open up. Over time I have gotten better at creating boundaries (ie not listening to the lady talk about white hats, whatever those are, for 30 minutes when I am trying to buy groceries.) I’ll do my best in 5-8. I am introverted. I hate that when I walk into a room I have the “presence.” But I sense it and everyone else does so what can I do? I also just have to share somewhere – I have commenced the super empath supernova. My mid range responded in a textbook fashion. Groveling in just 48 hours. Narcs – it’s not like it’s hard to treat people like garbage! We’re nice, not stupid. When we can see you, we respond nicely because you are pathetic, not powerful. My next (innocent, law-abiding) move is going to be epic, and I know it. I can picture all of the wounding and tears and rage felt by many. It’s not really fun, more funny. Glad to know I’ll be back to my good ‘ol self soon afterward. I think my husband knew he was aiming too high, but my broken bottom pushed for it. Real shame.
A clarifying thought.. while my next move will no doubt drive my man completely berserk, it is really aimed at his family. I am in a very unique position to leave them with their hearts broken and pants down for once, something I have seen them do to him too many times. AND he HAS to comply with me, given the circumstances. Will I need to leave my robot? Evidence suggests yes. But God those ugly vile worthless creatures will first pay for destroying the man I love. Perhaps this is a related but separate event?
Your brain was able to write that at 2.32 am….wow .
Thanks for the education…I didn’t know the correct term for them. . magnet empaths often feel like everyone’s ‘mummy’. People really do drop their burdens at their feet and then walk away smiling and happier.. they also repeatedly get told to their amazement
… ‘now that your here…I know everything will be alright ‘.
Haha,yeah, I’m a magnet alright–I REPEL everyone EXCEPT narcissists. My mother fit most of what you wrote there; EVERYONE loved her, even when my father drove her t vascular dementia in a 2-star nursing home that’s since CLOSED! (Waiting for you to get to the Doormat Empath. Although I listened to the video already, so I already know I am (people used to TELL me I was!) Or, at least, I WAS before I finally figured out narcissists with your help and that there IS no kernel of goodness to bring out, nor do you WANT to be ‘fixed’ even when pretending you need help figuring out what’s wrong with you and why you don’t love us anymore, but that you find it an entertaining form of fuel watching us pathetic wet dishrags TRY! Now I think you’ve helped turn me into … the disillusioned, cynical version of a Savior Superempath! No platitudes and looking on the bright side for me! Just putting on my cape and … trying to protect my fellow empaths from your ‘kind’!)
PS: Please … weaponize me, HG!!!