But Why Did the Narcissist Do That?

I have heard this said so many times, read about it from bewildered and perplexed people and know from experience the confusion that accompanies this question. “But how could he do this to me after everything else? But why would he behave like this? But who would do such a thing as that? He said […]

Ten Poisoned Messages of Devaluation

  We avail ourselves of the use of technology through all the various stages of the narcissistic cycle and the period of devaluation is no exception. We will use the sending of messages, be they of the text, messenger or e-mail variety, to roll out our devaluation against you. These poisonous messages are sent because […]

A Letter to the Narcissist – No. 7

For you, S******  It has been two years since we were together as a couple, and I still think about you, purely because I loved you. I have come to realize through reading a most wonderful author, HG Tudor( I suggest you look him up to understand why) that you never loved me as you […]

The Final Discard

“He told me he never wanted to see me again so long as he was alive. That is it. This time it  really is over.” “She told me I was useless, pathetic, that she hated me and she would call the police if I came near her again. I don’t understand what is going on, […]

What’s It All For?

    The sudden silences. The periods of no communication when before the airwaves crackled with the send and return exchange of text messages. The repeated calls throughout the day to talk of something and to talk of nothing, now gone and empty. The absence of a morning greeting. The absence of any greeting. Just […]