“Fire and swords are slow engines of destruction compared to the tongue of a gossip.” – Richard Steele True words indeed. Gossip is a sure fire way to destroy your imposition of no contact. When you have implemented no contact you will have most likely have ensured that you stay out of our […]

  A second common mistake which occurs when somebody implements no contact is thinking that there will not be a hoover from us. As I have explained, the hoover takes place at various points in the dynamic between narcissist and victim. In this instance, it concerns the post escape or post disengagement  hoover. Where you […]

  It is well understood that no contact is the effective approach to tackling our kind. Whether your entanglement with a narcissist was in a romantic context, familial or a friend, the aim is to cut that person out of your life forever so that the cessation of fuel supply forces the narcissist to seek […]

“I have gone no contact but the narcissist keeps on texting me.” That is not no contact. “I have gone no contact but I keep seeing him driving past where I live” That is not no contact. ” I have gone no contact but he keeps turning up at my house and we end up […]

No Contact. This is what anybody who has been a victim of our kind must achieve. Whether that status of victim stems from being a friend to a narcissist where you are taken for granted, used when the narcissist needs a lift or someone to moan to or whether it is the beaten down and […]