10 years ago on this day I began this blog, “Knowing the Narcissist”.
The first post was titled “HGTudor : Who Am I?” and it certainly ranked amongst my pithier postings for it stated :-
“I have been given a label by those have been charged with treating me. I am labelled a narcissist. A narc. That label is irrelevant. Why? Because I am your husband, your mother, your sister, your boyfriend, your best friend, your boss, your neighbour and your favourite film star. I am everywhere. You need to wake up and realise this.”
Succinct and entirely accurate.
The first comment came from someone using the name “Stacey” and she asked “Is your treatment working?” Over 441 000 comments later I am still here. Your comments and questions continue and I answer them.
In the last ten years, millions of people have accessed thousands of free blog articles and in so doing they have been enlightened, entertained, educated, enraged and freed. Nowhere else provides such clarity, such detail and such perception into the mind of the narcissist.
The average age of a blog is just two years. Together we have have smashed through that restrictive time period and ensured that for those willing to look for it, the answers are available.
Many people have come and gone and then come again to this place. I know there are some of you have been with me from the very beginning, from day one. Some of you may not have been there from the blogs first day but you have been there from the early stages. You may not have always made your presence known but I know you have continued to read, both article and comments, ensuring that you not only keep your mind clear and applying logic but so that you can advocate this work to others as when the time arises. I am not going to mention the many names which are flooding through my mind as I write this, I do not want to miss out any of the names, but know this, you are known. Those of you who have supported my work, advocated it elsewhere, consulted with me, used the detectors, recommended the material, referred people to me, posted your thoughts and experiences and interacted with the many other readers of my work, you have been integral in the success of this work.
Through the hundreds of thousands of comments we have seen tales of misery, stories of confusion and proclamations of triumph. Dark deeds have been aired and solid no contact regimens have been implemented. We have seen the spats and fights between commenters, the unaware narcissists that from time to time haunt these pages and you have marvelled at those who have broken free of their narcissists and shared their salvation with you. There have been moments of despair, levity and many of success. We have witnessed some batshit fruit loops offer the slops of their delinquent minds as like that proverbial seagull, they have flown in, shat all over and then been expelled. We have observed recollections which I know have moved one of you to tears.
This is where it all started. Whilst my work has proliferated on Facebook, X, Instagram and particularly YouTube, this is where Knowing the Narcissist began and grew. It is where you learned of my many books which furnished you with such excellent understanding. It is where you have pored over the articles and nodded as you thought “yes, that is what happened to me” or you shook your head at the terrifying accuracy of what you read. This place has stirred your feelings, resurrected memories but most of it all it has provided you wish a sanctuary where you can read, understand and express.
I want to thank all of those you who have read my work here and particularly those of you who have commented and contributed in this place, adding to its brilliance. Knowing the Narcissist cannot exist through edifice article alone but must be a living construct, charged with the thoughts and feelings of its many readers. It is through your contributions that others also learn, where others gain validation and I also learn more about you, enabling me to decipher, explain and guide.
There are those that hate me, I understand that. There are others who love me, I also understand that. Some welcome me, others are wary of me, others again are grateful and some wish certain things for me. These ideas, thoughts and desires have flowed through the pages of this blog, electrifying it, bolstering it and lending it weight.
Many, many hours of work goes into this blog – from the articles that are written, the videos that are linked, the moderation of the comments and the answering of the questions – the input is considerable. You will have benefitted from what you have found here and should you wish to acknowledge the value of my work and its impact on you in bringing you understand and freedom you can show that appreciation here
This is a place which provides help and insight like no other with a bedrock of brilliant insight galvanised by the experiences of its readers. This led to the creation of the Angel Assistance Fund
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My thanks in advance to those of you showing appreciation and donating.
On this day, the hoover triggers are certainly firing as I recall so many of you who have graced my pages, through reading and especially though commenting. You may not have commented for some time but I invite those of you who may not have been active on the blog for some time (and those of you who remain active) to make your presence felt, even if it is a brief hello. You may wish to share your memories of the blog and what it has done for you, sharing some recollections of the events you call from its rich history.
The good news is that Knowing the Narcissist remains and shall continue. There is more work about to be released, more information about me, about narcissists, about empaths and the dynamic of those individuals. Much more to tell you about the enigma that is HG Tudor.
10 years. A milestone worth raising a drink to and posting a comment to.
Onward with knowledge and insight.
Thank you.
HG Tudor 31st August 2025