10 Years of Knowing the Narcissist
10 years ago on this day I began this blog, “Knowing the Narcissist”.
The first post was titled “HGTudor : Who Am I?” and it certainly ranked amongst my pithier postings for it stated :-
“I have been given a label by those have been charged with treating me. I am labelled a narcissist. A narc. That label is irrelevant. Why? Because I am your husband, your mother, your sister, your boyfriend, your best friend, your boss, your neighbour and your favourite film star. I am everywhere. You need to wake up and realise this.”
Succinct and entirely accurate.
The first comment came from someone using the name “Stacey” and she asked “Is your treatment working?” Over 441 000 comments later I am still here. Your comments and questions continue and I answer them.
In the last ten years, millions of people have accessed thousands of free blog articles and in so doing they have been enlightened, entertained, educated, enraged and freed. Nowhere else provides such clarity, such detail and such perception into the mind of the narcissist.
The average age of a blog is just two years. Together we have have smashed through that restrictive time period and ensured that for those willing to look for it, the answers are available.
Many people have come and gone and then come again to this place. I know there are some of you have been with me from the very beginning, from day one. Some of you may not have been there from the blogs first day but you have been there from the early stages. You may not have always made your presence known but I know you have continued to read, both article and comments, ensuring that you not only keep your mind clear and applying logic but so that you can advocate this work to others as when the time arises. I am not going to mention the many names which are flooding through my mind as I write this, I do not want to miss out any of the names, but know this, you are known. Those of you who have supported my work, advocated it elsewhere, consulted with me, used the detectors, recommended the material, referred people to me, posted your thoughts and experiences and interacted with the many other readers of my work, you have been integral in the success of this work.
Through the hundreds of thousands of comments we have seen tales of misery, stories of confusion and proclamations of triumph. Dark deeds have been aired and solid no contact regimens have been implemented. We have seen the spats and fights between commenters, the unaware narcissists that from time to time haunt these pages and you have marvelled at those who have broken free of their narcissists and shared their salvation with you. There have been moments of despair, levity and many of success. We have witnessed some batshit fruit loops offer the slops of their delinquent minds as like that proverbial seagull, they have flown in, shat all over and then been expelled. We have observed recollections which I know have moved one of you to tears.
This is where it all started. Whilst my work has proliferated on Facebook, X, Instagram and particularly YouTube, this is where Knowing the Narcissist began and grew. It is where you learned of my many books which furnished you with such excellent understanding. It is where you have pored over the articles and nodded as you thought “yes, that is what happened to me” or you shook your head at the terrifying accuracy of what you read. This place has stirred your feelings, resurrected memories but most of it all it has provided you wish a sanctuary where you can read, understand and express.
I want to thank all of those you who have read my work here and particularly those of you who have commented and contributed in this place, adding to its brilliance. Knowing the Narcissist cannot exist through edifice article alone but must be a living construct, charged with the thoughts and feelings of its many readers. It is through your contributions that others also learn, where others gain validation and I also learn more about you, enabling me to decipher, explain and guide.
There are those that hate me, I understand that. There are others who love me, I also understand that. Some welcome me, others are wary of me, others again are grateful and some wish certain things for me. These ideas, thoughts and desires have flowed through the pages of this blog, electrifying it, bolstering it and lending it weight.
Many, many hours of work goes into this blog – from the articles that are written, the videos that are linked, the moderation of the comments and the answering of the questions – the input is considerable. You will have benefitted from what you have found here and should you wish to acknowledge the value of my work and its impact on you in bringing you understand and freedom you can show that appreciation here
This is a place which provides help and insight like no other with a bedrock of brilliant insight galvanised by the experiences of its readers. This led to the creation of the Angel Assistance Fund
which still has demands placed upon it by those in need of help in Knowing the Narcissist, so they can understand and gain freedom. If you would like to help those who continue to ask for help, you can make a donation by clicking on the highlighted link.
My thanks in advance to those of you showing appreciation and donating.
On this day, the hoover triggers are certainly firing as I recall so many of you who have graced my pages, through reading and especially though commenting. You may not have commented for some time but I invite those of you who may not have been active on the blog for some time (and those of you who remain active) to make your presence felt, even if it is a brief hello. You may wish to share your memories of the blog and what it has done for you, sharing some recollections of the events you call from its rich history.
The good news is that Knowing the Narcissist remains and shall continue. There is more work about to be released, more information about me, about narcissists, about empaths and the dynamic of those individuals. Much more to tell you about the enigma that is HG Tudor.
10 years. A milestone worth raising a drink to and posting a comment to.
Onward with knowledge and insight.
Thank you.
HG Tudor 31st August 2025
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Congratulations on 10 years HG. Quite an extraordinary journey.
Thank you SW.
Dear Mr Tudor,
Your knowledge, advice and resources, along with all the lovelies and their shared journeys, have helped me to personally grow and reinvent myself. Your content has been extremely professional, funny and sarcastic. It literally has it all.
Congratulations on your successful milestone, you have been a great mentor and may your efforts continue to reap the rewards you so deserve.
My warmest and heartfelt thank you
Thank you Bubbles, I am pleased to see that this is the case.
Aww HG I’m flattered!
For me it’s been about 9 years since I found you on Facebook. I remember first being here when I was out of control, my emotional thinking was high and I said a lot of stupid things. (I still say stupid things but I’ve improved in how I express those stupid things!)
Narcissism is prevalent in my family so your work helped me to identify and/or overcome several of them (at least 6 and some that are suspected) as well as the narcs I had intimate relationships with.
I was still desperate to be loved but now I’m married to an empath. It makes me feel sick and cringe to admit this so don’t get used to it but you saved me in some ways (yuk!)
Thank you for sharing your thought, Witch. Good to hear from you.
Hello Witch – nice to see you.
Thank you good to see you too
Ten years.
It’s been a wild ride, HG. I credit the information you have provided here over those ten years in literally changing my life, and am grateful that it continues to be available so that it may do the same for others. Your work is accurate and unrivaled on the subject of narcissism, and the way in which you deliver it an emotional journey most unexpected. I never expected to laugh so much, to look inward as often, or to see so clearly what had evaded me for a lifetime. The WHY.
It has been an honor getting to Know the Narcissist, and is my greatest pleasure to continue participating here and in sharing your work as a small token of appreciation.
NA
Good to hear from you NarcAngel and for your continued contributions as a stalwart of the blog.,
Congratulations, HG, on the 10th Anniversary of the Knowing the Narcissist blogworld!!
Super Well Done on this magnificent achievement!
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The number 10 is a significant and important number in a variety of ways…
For example, in the Bible there were ten generations of man before the floods came when Noah entered the Ark. God sent ten plagues upon Egypt in order to free his people and show his judgement of the Pagan empire. And of course, there are the Ten Commandments, which symbolise God’s divine law and the complete set of principles for humans to follow.
The number 10 in numerology signifies new beginnings, leadership and a fresh start. As the sum of the individual ‘1’ and the infinite ‘0’, the number 10 represents wholeness and unity. It symbolises a cycle of completion and a positive outlook for the future. It is associated with natural leadership qualities, innovation, and a positive attitude toward achieving goals.
In everyday language, the number 10 is used to describe perfection. When we rate something to be the best it can be, we give it a 10 out of 10 to describe it as flawless, ideal or outstanding.
The number 10 is seen as a symbol of completeness and excellence. This custom stems from ancient Pythagorean beliefs that 10 is a complete and perfect numeral, having a natural representation in a divinely ordered system. The number 10 is represented in our very human anatomy considering our ten fingers and ten toes.
Where would the metric measuring system be without the number 10? The humble millimetre – of which 10 are needed to make a centimetre – is the very basis on which skyscrapers and massive bridges are engineered.
And in the world of Sesame Street, the number 10 has its own song:
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Dear HG,
This 10-year Anniversary is a momentous milestone. It is a lasting testament built on your daily efforts; outstanding creativity; laudable patience and perseverence; and a rare meticulous approach to your work.
Thank you so much for everything you have done over the past ten years. All of it is much appreciated.
Thank you WN.
Happy 10 year anniversary HG! Here’s to the next 10! 🥂
Thank you GP.
I just listened to your interview with Daily tea. Holy crap the last 20 minutes or so….. My mind floated away and my body did involuntary things so thank you!
And your very welcome. 😏😇
Dear HG,
Such a marvellous milestone! Ten years you are saving millions of lost souls from a life of misery, suffering and pain. I cannot find all words to describe my eternal gratitude.
When I discovered your work, I was a shadow of my previous self, heartbroken, sceptical, a bit of cynical. Once I read the very first article at this blog, I become an addict – for deeper understanding, deeper knowledge, in short, my eyes opened.
I stopped blaming myself for the failed marriage, I stopped questing myself ” but what if”, stop blaming myself for the delusional believe that love conquers all as this is not the case being entangled with narcissists. Reading your brilliant articles and books was a catharsis. Sharing my experience here, your wise answers and the support from the other readers helped more than any therapy. There was no judgement, no fingers pointing, but encouragement and support.
There were arguments among the readers, but we are all humans, from all walks of life, different cultural backgrounds and this was normal.
I’d like to thank you from the bottom of my heart, Sir! Your work made me the woman who I am today – stronger, wiser, I gained back my confidence, my previous self.
My No Contact – intact, my self-esteem – improved, my happiness – regained.
Thank you, all readers for allowing me to share my stories, to express my feelings without being belittled or mocked. Thank you for all your kindness and support.
You are welcome Claire, thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Happy 10th anniversary!
HG – You have made sense of what didn’t make sense. I am grateful for the knowledge you have shared and for the time you spend answering questions. I am also grateful for creating and maintaining this blog where people meet, share experiences and support each other, and for the time you spend moderating. Thank you.
Thank you to all Tudorites who are welcoming, warm and supportive. I do not participate like I did before but I am thankful to you all. I see some of you struggling these day and want to encourage you to apply what you’ve learned here – into the blog environment.
Much Love. ❤️🖤❤️
Thank you Jasmin, good to hear from you.
Great to see you Jasmin! I hope all is well! I’ve missed you!
AV
It is great to see you too AV!
I do see you more often, because I still check in from time to time to see how you and the other ladies are doing. Your silent stalker!
Yes, I’m doing well with regards to the narcissists, I think. PatriN lost his IPPS some time ago so he started to try to invade my life. I had to go back and listen to “How to handle the parental narcissist” and since then I am back on track.
My children are getting older, they are both teenagers now. I’m trying to lead them to the water and hope that they will work things out by themselves. I haven’t ones mentioned narcissism yet, but as soon as a certain behaviours pop up I take the opportunity to explain it and why it is problematic.
I’ve worked on my trust issues and I now feel I’m ready to let new people into my life, even romantically. (I’m observant initially but if I don’t pick up on red flags then I relax).
How are you doing? 😊 I miss you too.
/Jasmin
Jasmin,
Haha, at least I know there’s no need for a narc detector on you! Stalk away!
So glad to read about your life progress! Your kids being teenagers, that is such an exciting and fun time! Glad you have HG’s info to help also! Talking with my kids about narcissism as adults has been a bit more challenging.
I’m doing very well, thanks! Just moving forward day to day. I love my life now, in a way I never had before I found this blog. I would love a romantic opportunity now also but it hasn’t seemed to be in the cards for me, at this time. And that’s okay too, if it happens or not, I will be fine.
Take care, glad you popped in!
AV
Hi Jasmin 🙂
Great comment.
“HG – You have made sense of what didn’t make sense” – yes, partly because HG does not stick with one style of writing and that is why his work works.
Good to ‘see’ you.
Hi Asp Emp,
Thank you, and good to see you too! How are you?
Hi Jasmin, it was good to read an update about your life and I’m glad you’re not letting Patrinarc impacting you so much. It was interesting in what you wrote about your children, especially in regard to “problematic” behaviours of some people. Considering that as part of education, children may be taught about history, cultures, politics etc and possibly about the behaviours of / as such, yet, are any neurological differences (if any) explained alongside to the corresponding behaviours of such people?
I came across this quote and found it quite thought-provoking
“Collective fear stimulates herd instinct, tends to produce ferocity toward those not regarded as members of the herd” Bertrand Russell
Look at humanity now, what’s been happening around the world. No wonder there is revolutions occurring here, there and everywhere. Even if it was started by a narcissist, their coterie, their lieutenants, other recruitments that were manipulated to see through one lens, offering other people (‘considered’ as black sheep for not following the herd) no room for manoeuvre, or, a freedom of speech (have their own mind, their own opinion etc).
Is there any historical / cultural leader, or individual, that may have similar behaviours to aid your educating your children on such behaviours without mentioning narcissism? Do your children know about the DSM 5 list? Just a thought…..
Hi Jasmin,
Hope you’re well! Its great to see your name pop up!
“HG – You have made sense of what didn’t make sense.” – I love the clarity that Mr. Tudor has given me!
Hi Leigh,
It’s really nice to see you too. I’m doing well, and I hope you’re doing well too!
As the truth-seekers we are, few things are as frustrating as not being able to make sense of what’s going on.
Hello, HG, and congratulations on your 10 year anniversary of this blog. I don’t very often comment here, because the blog (WordPress) hates me. It tells me I need to log in but when I do, it says I don’t have an account and need to subscribe, which I did ages ago; but if I try to re-subscribe, it tells me I already have done, and sends me an email to confirm my account, with a link that doesn’t work. All very frustrating, so I rarely bother. Anyway…
I haven’t to my knowledge been ensnared by a narcissist (or psychopath), though have dealt with people at work who I now suspect, having learned a lot from you, to have been narcissists. I dealt with them as best I could at the time and without damage (to myself), but I’m sure that if I had found your work then, things might have gone better and more smoothly for me. Also, I now wonder about someone I met online (no, not a dating site, just online through a game I play), but that was in the past, and at this point it’s truly irrelevant whether he was a narcissist or not – the same applies to those I may have worked with in the past. They are all exactly that, in the past.
Basically, while I can see that others are helped by you, and hope that more will be, I can just enjoy learning from you and also enjoy the times when you are entertaining while doing so. I particularly enjoy the psychopathy aspect, which I find fascinating. So, thank you, again, HG.
Thank you Pat AN for battling the dark forces of WordPress to leave a comment.
It’s been just a few months since I found you and your work. I am now an avid reader as you have clarified the reasons for the words and actions of others (as well as mine). Your eye opening insight fuels my need to learn more. Thanks.
Welcome on board Barbara.
Congratulations HG! Ten years is an accomplishment! I arrived 5 years ago this same week, so thankful you were here and continue to be also!! You and this blog changed my life for the better! 🩷
Thank you A Victor
Congratulations, HG! You sure have put in the spadework! I haven’t been around for the entire decade, but I have for the past seven and a half years. My life has truly been changed since finding your work. You handed me the keys to understanding the mind- f***ing behaviors of the most difficult humans on the planet. All I had to do was read and accept. Accept what they are and remove myself from their effect on me as there is no changing them. I can spot the behaviors fairly quickly now and dispose of them guilt-free. Most don’t bother with me very long as my default setting is to ignore as much as possible so they move on to the less enlightened. I will never say never, but my chances of being ensnared are low with HG’s voice in my head, “Once you know, you go”. I don’t always use the word for it, but I share the knowledge and the work. “Toxic” is more palatable than “narcissist” to most.
Forever grateful for ‘Knowing the Narcissist’ that is HG Tudor.
~MB
Hello MB! Thank you and pleased to see you drop by. I haven’t slain any glittery unicorns today!
Hello MB 😊 – long time no see!
Ooooooohhhhh.
HG.
Ten years!
Of your brilliance that became more polished as time went by. What I’ve learned through your work is not available in any other educational format. Your work was the answer, the key, the not so invisible ‘holy grail’. Your Legacy fills a gap within the realms of understanding the less obvious (grinning here, as some narcissists are SO obvious!) and hidden behind facades of humanity that has always existed. Yet, with increased awareness, more people now talk about narcissism (including those that are unaware of what they are……grinning again). Through the evolution of humans, so has the ‘skills’ of adopting / creating facades, or, wearing of masks that has unfortunately become a ‘need’ by those who developed as such through life experiences. Not everyone develops a better ‘understanding’ of oneself, or, other people, simply by observing / listening to what is around them. your work aided me in doing so.
Thank you.
I’d like to thank those who I ‘met’ through KTN blog, YouTube (when YT decides to provide the function for why it exists without their Bots being too slap-happy !).
Yes, for me, finding your work, all started via Fackbook, oops, spelt it wrong then 😉
You helped me, to re-wire my brain, from the way I used to look and feel about things…. life….. people.
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for existing, behind the mask of HG Tudor. xxx
Thank you Asp Amp.
Hello Asp Amp!
“You helped me, to re-wire my brain, from the way I used to look and feel about things…. life….. people.”
This, exactly. It’s a true rewiring of one’s brain. HG’s work helps drain the go-to emotional reactions to people’s behaviour and re-wires these pathways to make more logical associations based on knowledge of the motivations behind the behaviour – and not just that of narcissists.
Hi Whocares,
Thank you for your reply, Hope things are ok with you.
I grinned at “and not just that of narcissists”……. ooohhhh….. miaow. I agree with you though. And understand what you mean.
Even though e may have learned a lot through HG’s work, this is the type of education that will not stop (no end to the cycle of unlearning – learning – relearning).
After seeing this post, I remembered my story. I met my first (and main narcissist) 11 years ago. In 2014, there was absolutely no information. I offered to write him a book about him, about his “superpowers”, to which he only smiled. Unfortunately, back then I had no idea about the terminology, I called him a “sociopath” and myself an “empath”. That’s why I didn’t google the word “narcissist”. Perhaps, then I would have come across this site in time and perhaps it would have saved me from this horrific story and this bloody battle in which I lost myself. Unfortunately, history does not tolerate the subjunctive mood. If I had the opportunity to get into a time machine, I would definitely make sure that he never met me in my life, and I would never know that narcissists exist. But we have what we have. True, back then in 2014, when I was 21, I couldn’t even imagine that there was someone similar to my narcissist “superman” – and that’s exactly what I considered him to be. Back then in 2014, I couldn’t even imagine what awaited me next……. How many more times will I have to go through all this and meet “another guest” in my head. When it happened for the first time, after my “main narcissist”, it was a shock, but then I advanced in my understanding. I don’t remember how it happened, what exactly I wrote in the search bar, but somehow I got to this site. And if before that, I read Sam Vaknin and thought “damn, well, something is similar… but very little information, only some isolated hints”, then when I got to this site, it blew my mind. Finally, there was a person (or not a person?) who understood me so much… not denying, but recognizing. Everything, absolutely everything written here matched what I was thinking and feeling. On the one hand, it was a huge relief to understand that I was not “crazy” and did not “make up” all this. That there is at least someone on this damn earth besides my narcissist (with whom I have had no contact for many years) who can understand what I have been through and support me. On the other hand, it was painful and bitter to realize once again that the only solution is “no contact”. There is another amazing thing about this site: I have a question inside, I go to the site, and here H.G. Tudor writes a post on this question, it feels like he read my mind. Amazing. In fact, my pain significantly decreased when, thanks to the work of H.G. Tudor, I realized that I could not do anything. It became easier. When my “Pandora’s Box” with thoughts about my narcissist opened and I began to idealize him, I read this site, the darkest posts and it sobered me up.
H.G. Tudor – You are unique. You made the impossible possible in my opinion. Thank you SO MUCH! There are not enough words to convey what you have done for people. Thank you again and with the best wishes for you!
P.S. I don’t know anymore whether I am an empath or a narcissist (because I definitely have narcissistic traits), I think it will become clear to me after a consultation with H.G. Tudor.
That, definitely, I am glad that I once got here, no matter how sad it was….
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Josephina.
Dear HG,
So many life changing events in the last 10 years that simply would not have happened without you and the knowledge that you have given me. You gave me answers to questions that were with me since childhood. Not only did you give me knowledge and answers about narcissists, you gave me knowledge and answers about me. You Sir know me better than I know myself, without that knowledge I would still be in that vicious cycle with a narcissist or narcissists. I am always checking in to the blog, when I see new people on the blog trying to understand what it is that they are with, I go back to that beginning and remember what that torment was like, to watch them grow and discover that they can make changes, and they do have a voice, and the right to have peace in their lives always gets those tears flowing! Please stay with HG, soak up all of his knowledge and someday you will also have that strength and peace. HG you are the only narcissist that I need and will keep in my life forever. Congratulations on the big TEN! Here is to 10 more! I love you! Xxx🍾🥂
Thank you FM1T, a stalwart of the blog.
Hello FM1T 💚
Good to see you.
Hello dear WC 🥰
Good to see you too.
Hi FoolMe1Time,
Nice to see you! 🥰
Hi Rebecca,
Nice to see you too!🥰
Hello HG!!
It’s been awhile but I wanted to say congratulations on this blog and everything that has followed. I am not surprised one bit. When I stumbled on this blog I struggled to find the answers that I was looking for. I had never heard the word narcissist in my life and about 9 years ago there was zero help out there to explain what I had just been through.
You were able to give me EVERY single answer that I soo desperately needed. I had been brainwashed
I also had started therapy at the time but she never could give me the details and understanding that you could through this blog. It was a year of hell that I questioned everything in my life from marriage, religion, people, beliefs, and everything around me.
This blog and the people that were on here at the time were lifesavers. I lived for it. I slowly got stronger and to this day I use all of the information that I learned from you. I still put every person on my narcissist scale to see what danger they might be to me. My empath aura still blinks but I can tell pretty quickly what kind of person they are. I still get all your emails and may not comment but I look all the time to see what you have been up to.
I’m very proud of you HG and thank you from the bottom of my heart for saving my life.
Thank you Snow White, good to have you drop by.
Hello Snow White,
So very happy to see you drop in. ❤️
Hello FoolMe1Time!!!
I was excited to see a familiar name. The emails have been coming since the day I started and I do miss chatting with everyone.
How is life? How r you?
Amazing to see how life has changed just from the knowledge we got here.
I was balling this morning when I saw the post because I was reflecting on my whole situation and thinking how my life could have been ruined.
Sweet Snow White,
My life has changed so much from 10 years ago. I am fine and my life is peaceful. It seems I couldn’t live without a narcissist in my home, I actually went out and rescued two cats, they are brothers and trust me when I say they are true blue narcissists. Haha. It was so good to see your comment today and to know the empath in you still shines through. Take care of your self SW.❤️
Congratulations on 10 years, sir. You blow my mind with your output volume every day. Everything is so good and so informative. I get something different from your work each time I read or reread an article, and yet there is this quality about your writing, your storytelling, your videos that is constant and consistent…timeless in a way…not in the way of The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe…your work is timeless narrative nonfiction–which is different than classic fiction.
The recent high volume of Tudor Scopes were wonderful. (Please complete Tom Hardy…please.) The abbreviated Tudor Scopes, the Angels of Death series and the Wives of Henry VIII absolutely riveting.
Educating HG–love it! (please sir, we want some more.) It’s such a beautiful look at you as a child…and the way you hint at your retaliations as a boy…I find that to be just incredible. It’s clear that the Machiavellianism was an early trait…and seeing your understanding of it vs subconscious manipulation by others at that age. Please the continuation of “if you go into the woods…” You left off at such a cliffhanger.
When This One’s Wife met HG…the best part is the view of someone whose narcissism is so well detailed in the public eye…being totally outclassed by you. Watching you with the different groups…knowing you were wearing different masks, using different names…and yet being inside your head as you smile at yourself in the bathroom mirror or as you deal with threats to control from a fan of a competing football league…learning the violence that lurks beneath…you considered violence in both meetings…stabbing a fork into the thigh of TOW and punching a man in the stomach. I found your personality to be wholly different on the surface…and yet you were the same inside.
The Psychopath Defends–possibly my current favourite. Such a brilliant full length to your video some months prior about the other psychopath who met an author in a pub for lunch. It reminded me of the way that they showed Sherlock Holmes’s mind working in the Robert Downey Jr. movies when he was in the boxing match/fight with Moriarty. I would love to know what your Tabitha expressed later that evening about that situation. She was frightened for you, but seeing you handle it so easily…I would have felt compelled to question you afterward…far more than what you shared of her response. I would love more stories like that one…not necessarily with the potential for physical violence…but in a different high stakes environments.
The way you tell stories–it feels like a pensieve from Harry Potter…like I am right there with you. In a way, it feels like being inside your mind. Yet, in another way it feels wholly separate from your mind, like you’ve taken my hand and are leading me through a labyrinth full of deadly traps. It’s watching pure power gracefully navigating the world in a way that is as compelling as it is alien. It’s an experience that none but you can give to us.
I appreciate every response of yours I get to read (to me or others). Sometimes, it’s like watching Tywin Lannister walk up those steps and stand over Joffrey or telling his guards, “The king needs his rest. Take him to his chambers.” Or what I imagine Caesar must have sounded like as he addressed the complaints of his soldiers who had mutinied. (He later put the leaders on the front lines in the fight against Cato.)
I’m looking forward to whatever is next, particularly: “There is more work about to be released, more information about me, about narcissists, about empaths and the dynamic of those individuals. Much more to tell you about the enigma that is HG Tudor.”
Thank you for everything, sir. You have my appreciation and gratitude.
Thank you Dani for your comprehensive observations and your many questions!
Happy anniversary to the most enlightening blog and author in the world! Thank you for your invaluable work, the many different articles, the comments, the answers and the understanding you are providing! My best wishes to you and all the Tudorites and readers who regularly visit and support this place!
Thank you J.
This morning I raise my mug of coffee to you, HG. (Perhaps later it will be something stronger.) Congratulations on your 10 year blog anniversary, it’s quite an accomplishment.
Thank-you for sharing your writing here with us – always engrossing and educational, and quite often entertaining and provocative.
I am very thankful for this space you have created – which has at times been a haven for me during my recovery from narc abuse and the long trek back to “normalcy”. I have recently been back to the blog because I have missed it and because what I call “normalcy” in the everyday world will never be the same again after undergoing a Narcsite education. It’s such a stark contrast from those social interactions ‘on the outside’ and the informed, intelligent discussions here. After my long-term ensnarement I had essentially dropped out of life for a time and now I am re-engaging it – armed with knowledge and insight. But because of that, the same old, tired conversations surrounding ‘difficult people’ or challenging work clients, etc., are hard to endure. The amount of questioning, complaining and ruminating over the poor behaviour of some individuals is often a waste of breathe, a waste of emotional energy that could be directed elsewhere – especially where one has the likely answer as to why a particular individual is difficult. (Insert your awesome new promo video here.)
Anyway, I will never be the same after my experience with Narcsite and your work; I am awake and weaponized and forever thankful to you.
Thinking back, I can recall many noteworthy conversations here, especially those I engaged with during my first few posts. But, in particular, the live blog Q & A sessions were always riveting and the early interactions on the KHG forum were highly memorable. Specifically, I recall sitting in my kitchen during several Q & A sessions – with a glass of wine – refreshing…and refreshing, while waiting for answers. Those were always the best!
Cheers, HG! 🍷
Glad you enjoyed them Who Cares, thank you.
Dear HG, a prince amongst all men,
I can’t properly express and articulate what your knowledge has done to me. I discovered you just one year ago, and it seems like years have passed. I was a different person back then. This process hasn’t been over yet, I’m still learning and healing, but my life has changed considerably already. I feel alive and free, I have never felt this way in my life. Your books, articles, videos, have explained so many events, people in my life, why I have been always drawn to certain type of men and why I attract them, and not only this, but the world events, in general, politics, motivations behind serial killers, music lyrics, love, religion, famous people and many other things. As Doug said, I think, in one of the interviews, you gave a code to understanding the world’s dynamic, behavior. I feel very lucky to discover the endless, mind blowing, brilliant world of HG Tudor. It really probably takes another few years to read and watch everything you have produced so far and properly process it, so it settles in. Your productivity is absolutely fantastic.
This blog is very unique and like a maze, where one can easily get lost reading, switching to another article, read comments and cycle repeats, forgetting about the time. Being here feels like being at another planet. In addition, some readers comments are so intelligent and insightful, that I feel very stupid compare to them. Telling myself maybe I better be silent. Though, I think, most people come here to learn, understand, heal from abuse and move on. There is no criteria of certain intelligence level to enter this blog, I assume.
Congratulations on this milestone, 10 years, thank you very much for sharing your invaluable knowledge with us. It has saved many lives and freed people. You have an absolutely brilliant mind, beyond my comprehension, albeit an evil one. I love your sense of humor, though I hate you sometimes, too, not that you care, actually. What can I say? My ET is still there. Now, at least, I have a proper name for it, for this enemy of a logic.
Thank you very much, Arya.
Mr. Tudor,
You and your blog have given me the insught & clarity that I desperately needed. You’ve renewed my hope! Thank you for all that you do!
Happy 10th Anniversary! Here’s to another 10 years! CHEERS! 🍾🥂
Good to read. Thank you Leigh.
HG,
I’ll try to keep this brief, though as you know through moderating me over the years, brevity has never been my strong point.
Most importantly, thank you. I will always be grateful to you for the excellence and accuracy of your work, your candid and logical responses to me when I needed them most, your humour and your graciousness in moderating my sometimes rambling comments when I really needed to get all of my emotions out. You have been the authoritative voice in the storm for me and for many.
This blog, this place you created and have dedicated yourself to maintaining for all these years, is still much needed. There is no place remotely like it on the internet. Yes, we get the occasional nut jobs in here but it’s all good entertainment and useful for us to apply what we have learned from you. I for one, feel very much safer knowing you are on the doors.
Sometimes your professional commitments mean that the blog pauses for a time, but It always springs back to life when you are back. I often see a batch of comments come through and think, “ He’s in an airport now,” or, “he’s being driven somewhere bouncing around in the back of a car with his laptop on his knee.” I can only imagine the events taking place whilst moderated comments are getting pushed through!
Relationships here mean something. We like to know that you’re ok, doing well, still alive! You are valued. This place of yours is valued and will remain so. The blog was my lifeline at one point. In terms of your work, it will always be my first love. I know you know.
To those empaths who held me by the scruff of the neck when I first got here and began hauling me to the surface, listening and supporting (NA with her calm, “I’ll see you tomorrow TS” Alexis with her “Awww TS, I’ll hold your hand” and many others besides) thank you, you made all of the difference to me and your thoughts and counsel continue to keep me from wandering off the path.
To those empaths who might be new to this special place, please stay, read, comment and question because by doing so I know that you too will find the freedom you deserve. Freedom for you, freedom for those you care about and for those you have still yet to meet.
Chin Chin HG! Here’s to your continued success and the next ten years.
(Yep, concise as ever!)
TS xx
Well stated TS, thank you and you’re welcome.
It’s a feast for the imagination, TS! Wondering what HG is doing whilst updating…
“I for one, feel very much safer knowing you are on the doors.” — I agree wholeheartedly, TS.
Hi Dani,
Absolutely it is a veritable banquet!
How is your training course going? You have been a touch quieter of late I assumed you were busy with your course. I hope it’s going well for you.
Hi TS,
I am relatively well…a bit frazzled and thrown off my typical schedule by life’s current demands. Lots of people/ideas competing for my attention. And it’s hard for me to get myself together. Would that I had Mr. Tudor’s ability to just see a day laid out and get everything done magically. It certainly looks magical to me.
Hi Dani,
That’s totally understandable. I always feel out of sorts when my schedule changes. I also prefer to concentrate on one project before moving to the next. I suppose I’m quite methodical in that respect.
You’ll find your stride. It might feel wobbly to start with until you find a system that works. Allow yourself that adjusting time. Start with the ‘need to do’ tasks and over time you’ll settle and find space for the ‘nice to do.’
Easy to say sometimes I know!
Xx
Happy blog birthday again! Guess what the flower for the tenth wedding anniversary is? Right in one, the daffodil. Could there ever be a more fitting connection? You certainly have been most faithful to your blog over all these years. Cheers!
Thank you AP. That is most apt.
Dear HG,
Congratulations on the 10 year Anniversary of the blog! Your work is the best and it’s helped me and many others! I will continue learning more here and I will continue sharing your work, online and in my personal life, where sharing it can help even more people.
I’m so grateful for the insight and knowledge I gained from you and your work. I now understand so much about my narc mother, my psychopath brother and the dynamics I was stuck in with them for so long. I also understand now my attachment and addiction to them. My eyes are open and for that I thank you, thank you for the understanding and the empowerment! I’m so grateful I found your work! Thank you again! Xx
Thank you Rebecca.
You’re very welcome, HG. Xx