Our control and domination of you commences when the seduction begins and from our perspective this will continue through the golden period (although it all feels wonderful) through the devaluation and beyond when we hoover you and smear you. This control and domination is central to the extraction of fuel. This control and domination keeps you where want you. This control and domination has significant consequences for you, consequences which we aim for. We aim for them because they signify to us that our machinations are working. We aim for them because they reduce your ability to resist and tell us that in this ongoing war we are winning and you are losing. Our approach is always one zero sum. We can only win what you will lose and this is why our need to win and succeed has such devastating effects. Here are twenty signs we aim for once we have you ensconced in the grip of our devaluation.
- You do not trust us.
- You regard our control as paternalistic, since you are not trusted to make your own decisions.
- You require our permission to do anything.
- Hoping that things will return to the golden period again and stay that way,although they never do.
- Hoping that we will change for the better although that never happens.
- Always feeling like you are on the back foot.
- Repeatedly feeling humiliated by us.
- Keeping your head down in the hope we do not pick on you.
- Near constant worrying about whether you have done something right or not.
- Always saying “sorry” even when you have done nothing wrong.
- Always on edge.
- Repeatedly lying to third parties to cover-up what is really happening to you.
- Never expressing your opinion for fear that it is wrong.
- Feeling that you need us but you don’t know why.
- Preferring for us to make decisions on your behalf.
- Never feeling equal to us.
- Always being the one to compromise
- Feeling lonely.
- Unable to understand what is happening.
- Blaming yourself for what has happened.