Twenty Fuelling Admissions




There are many things that my kind like you to say. We want to hear your praise, your affection, your love and your adoration. We want to hear your anger, your frustration, your upset and your vitriol. You hear words. We hear emotions which fuel us and cause the powering flames to burn fiercer and higher. When you become ensnared by one of our kind, we make you a victim of our range of machinations. As part of this entrapment we aim to have you provide us with fuel and this is done by causing you to say certain things to us. We are obsessed with the concept of our status, our superiority and our power. We must always ensure that you are inferior to us, that we are in control and that you are obedient. If we ever feel that this imbalance is slipping, then we will fight to maintain it. We are the conqueror you are the conquered. In keeping with this need for control and domination, we want you to not only be the victim but ensure that you act as one and portray your status of victimhood at all times in your dealings with us, save when we decide to the contrary. The latter being usually for public appearances and the maintenance of the façade. We want and need to hear you reinstate your designated role. Of course this does not mean that you will declare that you are a victim, using those very words, because when we have you in our grasp you do not realise that you are indeed a victim. Instead we need to hear it through you stating certain phrases which amount to admissions that you are a victim. Understand that when you make these remarks you are fuelling us and also reinforcing the imbalance that exists between you and us.

  1. I am sorry.
  2. I just didn’t think.
  3. I don’t know what I am supposed to do.
  4. I can’t understand what you want.
  5. I can’t take this anymore.
  6. I will do anything for you.
  7. I just want this to work.
  8. I’m not giving up on us.
  9. I deserve better than this.
  10. Why are you doing this?
  11. Please stop.
  12. Please talk to me.
  13. Am I not good enough for you?
  14. Why is it only me that is treated like this?
  15. I just want to be happy.
  16. Tell me what you want from me.
  17. I didn’t realise.
  18. I always put you first.
  19. I want to make you happy.
  20. What’s happened to us?

50 thoughts on “Twenty Fuelling Admissions

  1. Lisa says:

    YES I know that 😀 So are you both cerebral and somatic

    1. HG Tudor says:

      That’s what elite is.

      1. Lisa says:

        Oh ok thank you , I must have missed that explanation

  2. Lisa says:

    Fuel is emotions , emotional , attention of any kind ? Is that correct ? What have the good doctors said regarding this? I think we all know about fuel it’s everywhere that you read about narcissists , but what I still don’t understand is WHY ? What is the root of this need more than a non narc ? What is this giving the narc and what and why is this happening with disorder ? I’ve never seen this explained anywhere ?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Please read Fury and that will explain it for you.

      1. Lisa says:

        I will thankyou , I’ve got it but need to read it again . I know your catergories are different but if you had to choose would you say your a cerebral greater or a somatic greater ?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I am a Greater Elite.

      2. Lisa says:

        What type of narcissist is matrinarc
        Does she know what a narcissist is
        Does she know she is one
        Does she know you are one
        Thank you

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Mid-Range Elite

          1. Lisa says:

            That’s unbelievable that she knows you are but doesn’t know she is. I think they do secretly know there’s something not right with them

          2. A383 says:

            Hello HG,

            May I ask then, when you are out for drinks with Lennox and his wife, is SM the only person at the table who doesn’t know you’re a narcissist? x

          3. HG Tudor says:


            The sommelier is in the dark.

          4. A383 says:


            You should tell her while the going is good.

            She will still ‘love’ you x

  3. Mona says:

    HG, seize the power. I do not want to see you some day with thin eyebrows.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Ha ha, you need not have any concern about that Mona.

  4. Mona says:


  5. Mona says:

    Yes, it is always about control. You have to control everything around you. I did not know it in past, I know it now. Your kind and my kind do not fit together. I am so tired of all that stuff. I still believe in some kind of love. But that is totally different to your strange concept. After your experiences in childhood with your parents and family members I understand a little bit what led to your development. And I see similarities in the development of many people who have a disorder like yours. Many of you have been very alone at special points of your childhood and many of you were forced to look only on yourself. And many of you have been manipulated as a child. When then there are specific character traits that support such a development, then a new narcissist grows up. I just observe it at another place.
    Yes, I used some of those phrases too until I realised what was really going on. These are the same phrases I asked my mother. I will never ask and say them again. It makes no sense.
    She will consider that as weakness. So, it is better I lie and let her think she has everything under control. And I will live with her in some kind of strange peace.
    Last, not least, I saw my personal devil last week by chance. He desperately tries to look like a young man. His eye brows are so thin (what a hairdresser!) , that he looks like his own mother. OH, oh , oh I cannot believe anymore that I was infatuated in that man. It is over.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are seizing the power Mona and who thought that the thinness of eyebrows would unlock that?!

      1. Mona says:

        Yes, sometimes it is an unimportant detail, which makes the difference.But if you would know his mother….
        By the way, your analysis about Trump was quite good and objective.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Thank you Mona. Only quite good!!?

  6. Jenna says:

    He said #1-5, #10-12, #16-19.

  7. Jenna says:

    My ex said most of these to me! Yikes! I’m not the narc am i?! Of course not. I’m borderline and co-dependent.

  8. Rosie says:

    Good question would a male and female narc work or not x

    1. HG Tudor says:

      It depends on the type of narcissists and what you understand by the concept of “would it work”.

  9. G says:

    Ah, I want to know if you under physical pain react in the same way as normal people.Because if the hate you feel is bigger than the physical pain I can imagine you would be able to withstand more torture unitl you die or you would give up and just do what the captures want you to do. Or, would you kill yourself?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Why would I kill myself?

      I feel physical pain. I have a certain mind set to endeavour to overcome it.

      1. Disassociation?

      2. Twilight says:

        Do you think an empathy could develop a mindset to overcome pain?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Possibly although I think it is unlikely.

          1. Twilight says:

            Why would you believe it is unlikely?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            It is very hard for people to achieve this.

          3. Twilight says:

            I agree, just not impossible
            Thank you

  10. G says:

    If you were the king of the world and everybody in the world do what you want and give you the fuel need.
    So, today you are the king and you have everything you want. Everybody is suffering while giving you fuel, including your parents.
    What would you do tomorrow? Sit in your chair and just enjoy or would you get bored?

    What would you feel If another person was the king, and would put you in a jail and torture you every single day? Physical torture. How would you mentality react if you were submitted to physical torture?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      1. I don’t sit around. I do.
      2. Focus on securing revenge over my captors and enduring the physical pain.

      1. G says:

        2. you said what you would like to do. But my question is how would you mentally react . It means, would you hate your captors?Would you ask them to stop? Would you be submissive? In order to try so see if they have mercy and release you so that you can plan your revenge.But what if the captures are like you, and they want to get fuel from you by leaving in a wet room, dark, cold and they would just pretend they would release you but they would never. Just because they want to see the hope in your eyes for revenge.
        Don’t you think it would be terrible?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          If you think pleading for mercy with someone who is engaged in torturing you is going to make them stop, you are mistaken. I will give them nothing emotionally and feed them information which they will think is useful so I secure my release. Once achieved then the scheming I engaged in to see me through the torture would be implemented. People who torture do it in the pretext of gaining intelligence but it is done because they enjoy it. Physical torture is an ineffective method of gaining intelligence but rudimentary individuals still do it.

          1. Asp Emp says:

            This is another comment that I found interesting to read, HG.

          2. Joa says:

            Asp Emp, you are wonderful at finding “Pearls”. Thank you!

      2. shantily says:

        Hmmm is this part of the motivation behind your blog and books? revenge ? Revenge fuel by exposing narcissist tactics for what they did to you once upon a time ? Do you feel any kinship towards your kind when you meet them in business or on the street or are you indifferent? Fuel is a thought based a gain for you somehow … like you said power, superiority… I know the simple answer is fuel but there are thoughts and reasons behind the fuelling …sorry a two part question but like a good little empath I’m always wanting to know “why” 🙂

        1. HG Tudor says:

          My motivation is because I like to write, I want to convey what this is really like and how you can understand and counter it (in order to correct some of the rubbish that is written about our kind which is out there – only today a reader sent me a link to a YouTube video where the individual was suggesting various ways to irritate our kind, much of which was not only inaccurate but dangerous to the victim) and it appeals to me to be weaponising you empaths to rise up against your narcissist oppressors. It is also part of a Grand Design which I will tell you about when it is in place.

          I do not feel any kinship no, but I have a kind of respect for fellow Greaters.
          Thank you for your questions.

          1. Jenna says:

            Grand design?!!! This sounds huge!! Can you give us any hints now?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            I can.
            There is a design.
            It is grand.

          3. Jenna says:


          4. Asp Emp says:

            HG, I really like your comment here. It was good to read it.

  11. G says:

    We know you don’t want to feel in this way forever..

    “‘We are obsessed with the concept of our status, our superiority and our power. We must always ensure that you are inferior to us, that we are in control and that you are obedient. If we ever feel that this imbalance is slipping, then we will fight to maintain it.”‘

    Have you ever been on a date with a girl with NPD? If yes, how was it?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      No I do not engage in romantic ensnarements with our kind, there is no point.

      1. IJ says:

        Can you tell right away if someone is one of your kind? Especially if they are a Greater? What gives it away?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Not always immediately no.

      2. Tappan Zee says:


        No I do not engage in romantic ensnarements with our kind, there is no point.

        * was going to say lucky. But it’s not that. It’s a wise choice.

  12. DJ says:

    And repeat… Plus ‘your perfect partner does not exist, nobody can ever live up to your expectations’. I must have said that a million times. Yet still I tried.

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