7 Sorrows of the Narcissist



1. I am sorry I went away.

You probably said something that I did not like, you may not have said anything at all, but you did something which criticised me and I wanted to punish you so I disappeared. I am not going to tell you what I was doing whilst I was gone but I only thought about you when I looked at your pleading texts and missed calls. The rest of the time I spent it with your predecessor who I wanted to be with because, well, she hadn’t criticised me. Of course, she spoilt it and that is why I have come back to you pretending to be sorry. I need your fuel again, so here I am with my false remorse.

2. I am sorry I didn’t listen.

I didn’t listen to you because you have nothing of importance to say. Ever. That is compared to me. You should listen to me more because I do not like it when you do not. In fact I hate it. I rarely hear the words you say anyway, you are actually wasting your breath. I am far too focussed on the emotion that is spewing from you, your hurt, your frustration, your anger and your hatred. That is what I want to listen to. That gives me the fuel that I crave. I will pretend I will listen to you in the future so you provide me with some positive fuel for a while and then I will become deaf to what you have to say once again.

3. I am sorry that I hit you.

You made me do it because you will not do what I want and you will not give me what I need. I am torn between needing you and being disgusted by the fact that I am bound to someone as pathetic as you, when I am so brilliant. I am concerned that what I did may be detected by others and consequently the façade that I have created and maintained to everyone outside these four walls will be damaged. I am concerned I may have to spend some of my precious time charming law enforcement if you are treacherous enough to report me.

4. I am sorry I was unfaithful.

If you paid me more attention I would not have to do it, or at least, perhaps not as often. It was your fault that I went elsewhere because you do not admire me like you used to do. You should do so. Everyone admires me and you should be no different. I am irritated that I got caught because I thought I had covered my tracks and been cleverer than you. I am annoyed because you have scared off the other woman with your histrionics and now I am going to have to use my time and energy to find someone else now. I had a great little set-up there and you have ruined it with your interference. Just as you always spoil everything.

5. I am sorry I wasn’t there for you.

I really cannot be bothered having to support you when you are unwell. I find it a waste of my time because everything should be about me, not you. I do not like to be reminded of weakness. I see too much of myself when I do. I need my energies and time to carry out my machinations and gather fuel, not to play nurse maid to you. I do not care that you have looked after me, that is your role. I am too great to tend to you, it is beneath me. I am concerned that my lack of caring and attentiveness has proven the last straw however and my false contrition is purely designed to stop you leaving me.

6. I am sorry I am not a better person.

I am better, way better than you and everyone else, but I know you are fixated with the idea of making me better, changing me and healing me, so I say this to make you feel sorry for me and to hint at the fact that I want to change and become someone better. I am never going to change but I do love to keep you hanging on thinking that I will as this stops you leaving me and deserting me when I need my fuel. I will keep mentioning this so you stick around until such time as I have lined up someone else and I have drained you, then you disappear for all I care. In the meanwhile I will continue to insinuate that I am capable of change and improvement so that you do not go anywhere else. I need my fuel after all.

7. I am sorry for myself.

At least this one is true. I feel very sorry for myself and with good reason. I am just trying to get through life and deal with the jealous people, the envious people and the horrible people who are trying to hurt me. I know there are hundreds of them and I have done nothing to them, yet they insist on trying to hurt me. It is a terrible burden to carry, knowing that there are so many people out there against you, especially when you are as a wonderful and as brilliant as I am. I need your pity, your sympathy and your empathy. Give it to me. It is all fuel. I do not deserve to be treated like this do I? I am human too you know.

7 thoughts on “7 Sorrows of the Narcissist

  1. NarcAngel says:

    Every man in my life has been told from the outset:

    I have been exposed to violence and I will not tolerate it.
    If you ever hit me you’d better make it count because you’ll be judged by 12 or carried by 6.
    That’s a promise.

    1. blackcoffee30 says:

      My parents are not narcissists, but had a volatile relationship. I’m an empath because of it, but this is something I won’t tolerate.

  2. Asp Emp says:

    A great read. Another great image.

    “I am human too you know”. I’ve never disputed that.

  3. Mary ibarra says:

    I went thru each one for 8 years! He cheated on me twice n said it was my fault n to get over it. Always had hickies saying he got scrayes at work. He would hit me but the moment i decided to defend myself…he leaves!!! It was the best decision he ever made. My mom died a month ago n he leaves …last time…..bcuz i was just at the funeral n he was hungry at home…JOBLESS!!! Im going thru a severe depression and being able to grief would bullshit around feels good. I dont know what i miss fom him or why i love him. But i would never consider taking him back ever again.

  4. blackcoffee30 says:

    1. You’ll pay, but I’m grateful you’re gone now.
    2. Surprisingly, you did.
    3. NEVER EVER FUCKING hit me. Ask the only man who hit me what happened.
    4. Me too. Not sorry.
    5. Meh.
    6. Hahaha, at least I wasn’t the trapped IPPS.
    7. Sure, Jan.

    This applies to #1 and #2– very much alike.

    1. lickemtomorrow says:

      Love it BC30!

      Especially your response to No.3.

      No.2 is always surpising to me, too.

  5. December Infinity says:

    I never really received any of these except maybe the odd dose of the sixth one. That goes to show how entitled the last narc was.

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