The Terrible Gas Lighting Twenty

 

You are familiar with gas lighting where we twist reality over and over again in order to create doubt. You begin to question yourself, doubt your recollection and feel like you are losing your sanity.

It is an insidious tactic and one which we always use in order to destabilise you and maintain our control and the upper hand. We change history, re-write what has happened and we will do so even when faced with what you think is incontrovertible truth and evidence. Our confidence and certainty in the way we approach this, combined with the patronising appearance of caring about your tired and failing mind is especially bewildering. Our aim is to cause you to question your reality so you much more readily accept the false reality that we create and operate in.

The Greater Narcissist consciously does this. We know what we are doing, why we are doing it and want the outcome of fuel and control – it is a calculated response on our part. Our narcissism compels this behaviour and our increased awareness allows us to plan it and revel in its success as we witness its impact on you. We know it is regarded as wrong, but we do not care and we see it is as necessary and justified to achieve our aims.

The Lesser and Mid-Range Narcissists do not calculate. It is an instinctive response borne out of their altered perspective. Their narcissism compels this behaviour although they do not see that they are doing anything wrong – indeed, their narcissism causes them to see what they are doing as a natural response to the antagonistic behaviours of the victim. It is the victim who is the problem, who is twisting reality and being awkward. The Lesser or Mid Range Narcissist truly believes their response is correct, right and justified  – it is the victim who is manipulating, going mad or is forgetful and misremembering.

Here are twenty of our favourite phrases which are used to gas light you and in some instances allied with other forms of manipulation.

“It never happened.”

(Denial)

“You are lying.”

(Projection/Blameshifting)

“You imagined it.”

(Denial/Blameshifting)

“You haven’t remembered it correctly.”

(Blameshifting)

“Yes, you did do it because I remember distinctly.”

(Blameshifting/Assertion of Superiority)

“Are you calling me a liar?”

(Insult)

“If I look for it you had better hope I don’t find it. Oh, what’s this? Just where I said it would be.”

(Threat/Triangulation)

“I never told you to do that, why would I ever say that?”

(Denial)

“Your dad wouldn’t do that to you.”

(Triangulation)

“You are suffering from delusions, I think we need a doctor for you.”

(Projection/Triangulation/Insult)

“You like to cause an argument out of nothing don’t you?”

(Projection)

“You twist my words, I did not mean it like that.”

(Blameshifting)

“You never told me that at all, I would have remembered.”

(Blameshifting/Assertion of Superiority)

“Nobody likes you, they’ve all told me this.”

(Insult/Triangulation)

“You need help, it is caused by your anger problem.”

(Insult/Blameshifting/Projection)

“Why are you inventing things again? You are such an attention seeker.”

(Projection)

“That never happened.”

(Denial)

“Dear me, you always make things up, you’ve done it ever since you were a child.”

(Projection/Triangulation)

“We are just friends, you are reading too much into it.”

(Triangulation)

“That couldn’t possibly have hurt you, why are you saying it did?”

(Invalidation)