The Ten Tests of Competing Prospects



I have grown weary of the incumbent primary supply. The fuel that ought to be provided at a premium level has become diminished in quantity and quality. Whilst it still flows as part of the devaluation that continues, the time has come to audition for your replacement. I am courting you following my usual preparatory work once you have been targeted and I have now commenced your seduction. You are not alone. I am seducing someone else as well. It makes sense to have an insurance policy after all. You won’t know about this competitor (at least not yet) but believe me that when you are in the early stages of being seduced by our kind, it is highly likely that I was seducing someone else. In order to identify the best source of fuel so we choose the most effective primary source, we will set a number of tests. These tests are not so arduous that they will risk the seduction failing, but are designed to ascertain which of the two, or more, competing prospects provides the best fuel. This current performance amounts to a strong indicator of future performance. Here are ten of the tests that are commonly utilised.


  1. Sending the same text message to both prospects to see who responds the fastest.
  2. Sending the same text message to both prospects without concerns as to the speed of reply but as to which provides the best fuel-laden response.
  3. Arranging a date with both prospects and then cancelling (with a view to re-arranging of course) to determine who is the most disappointed and which of the prospects tries to keep the date alive by making adjustments and alternative suggestions.
  4. Calling both prospects in the middle of the night to see who answers.
  5. Sending the same gift at the same time to see who thanks us the fastest and in the most appreciative manner.
  6. If sexual coupling has occurred at this early juncture, then sleeping with you both in the space of 24 hours (or less) in order to determine who is the more fuel accomplished lover.
  7. Feigning a minor emergency and seeing who responds the fastest and with the greatest concern and compassion.
  8. Suggesting a date when I know that the prospects have something else on to see who will break their existing engagement in order to see me.
  9. Having a lieutenant try to arrange a date with you to see if you rebuff him and make mention of me.
  10. Holding a social media challenge to see how many likes, re-tweets, comments each prospect applies to my postings in a three-day period to see who posts the most and provides the most fuel.


Not only does this contest between the two prospects provide us with plenty of fuel coming from two fuel lines, it enables us to determine who we should focus our greater efforts on to ensure they are seduced and become our intimate partner and primary source. If the contest is too close to call after the ten tests above, then additional tests will be applied and the ten above will be re-run also. The winner becomes our intimate partner but the loser does not go home empty handed, not at all. They are likely to be awarded the status of inner or outer circle friend and they will be kept within our sphere of influence as a supplier of fuel. They also a future role to play in a prospective triangulation and there may even be a promotion in the offing at some point….

13 thoughts on “The Ten Tests of Competing Prospects

  1. December Infinity says:

    No wonder the narcissist spend so much time on their phone. He/she is always on the hunt for new prospects as no one person satisfies the narcissist for very long. I always felt that I wasn’t the only one. Hmm. This makes sense.

  2. lickemtomorrow says:


    I’m going to go back to “Do Narcissists Plan Their Manipulations?”

    This sounds like a well thought out plan to me. Far from instinctive, though cavemen may qualify.

    Are we talking about a Greater Narcissist here? I mean this is no knee jerk reaction being used in order to assert control. It is a fuel gathering exercise. And it does seem there is a level of planning involved. Especially when it comes to the replacement IPPS. A narcissist is not going to take a chance on that one unless he is desperate.

    Perhaps it is one of the those “in the moment” impulses during devaluation of the current IPPS.

    I am trying to understand.

    1. Asp Emp says:

      “though cavemen may qualify” (sniggering) – can you imagine HG saying “that’s an ET response” 😉

      Certainly a Greater would think it. Other schools would act on it rather than think it. The book ‘Fuel’ is useful and I know there are also some articles but cannot think of any right now (sorry, being a bit useless at the mo)…..

      1. lickemtomorrow says:

        Thanks AE. That was an ET response 😛 This one has me churning as I see the narcissists game being played. I agree a Greater would think of it. No doubt lessers would play the same game without considering why they are doing it. I’ve got to separate out the two in terms of their behaviours, as well as put my own thinking on hold as I take on the narcissistic perspective.

        You are not being useless, and if anyone is being useless it’s me xox

        I have Fuel which will always be a great reference tool.

        1. Asp Emp says:

          Honestly, you would be able to tell the difference whether it is a Lesser or a Greater. A Greater does not drag his knuckles on the ground when he is walking past……

          Glad you have got the book ‘Fuel’ (laughing at what you actually typed….. “I have Fuel” – use it wisely LET, use it wisely). xx (thank you)

          1. lickemtomorrow says:

            Hahahaha AspEmp 😛

            I never even thought of that when I typed it! It’s like pinning a sign to your back and saying “Come and get me” 😉 I promise I will use my fuel wisely x

            LOL to the Lesser being the one dragging his knuckles on the ground. Maybe I wasn’t too far off with the caveman reference after all. The Greaters, of course, would be much more sophisticated and I’m sure their planning is impeccable.

            Thanks for your response x That really brightened my day <3

          2. Asp Emp says:

            “LOL to the Lesser being the one dragging his knuckles on the ground. Maybe I wasn’t too far off with the caveman reference after all” – correct (sniggering).

            “That really brightened my day ❤” – thank you for that, good to know x

    2. BC30 says:

      I think the manipulations are quick trigger reactions, but this is not a “manipulation” (the action of manipulating someone in a clever or unscrupulous way). An empath or normal might be on the search for other lovers throughout a relationship, but not manipulate in the same way.

      If a normal/empath is confronted with video evidence of an affair they might confess, not a manipulation. The narcissist deploys the twin defenses HG talks about and instinctively deflects or lies and gaslights. The narcissist would only “confess” to assert control, not because they were in the wrong or feel bad.

      That’s all I got. I’m trying to put this together and understand too.

      1. HG Tudor says:

        “The narcissist would only “confess” to assert control, not because they were in the wrong or feel bad.” Nailed it, well done.

      2. lickemtomorrow says:

        Thanks, BC30. There may be some confusion on my part over what is actually a manipulation. Is testing others in the sense of this article a manipulation? That’s the way I saw it. Let’s see how answers first, who is willing to jump through the hoops I set, how fast can they do it, and so on. Perhaps it is as straightforward as having choice and testing those choices. That would not be considered a manipulation, but a standard procedure for determining the best possible outcome.

        Maybe I just don’t like the thought that I have been tested this way. And maybe I need to consider what tests I have applied in the past to help determine the choices I made. But there’s no doubt there is world of difference between the thinking of the narcissist and the thinking of the empath.

  3. Asp Emp says:

    HG, I would like to ask you a question – I am not referring to people or fuel sources – if you are shopping for a new fridge or oven for example – do you look at the pros & cons of the makes & models?

    I was prompted to think this because you refer ‘fuel sources’ as appliances and it was curiosity.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I obtain recommendations and then consider the pros and cons of the recommendations.

      1. Asp Emp says:

        Same here. I don’t rush into buying things that I need and I analyse over the ‘features’ – using those as comparing an item against another. Even if it takes me ages to reach a decision – that’s me all over!

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