My mother has said many times to me that she did not see my siblings and I as individuals and as a result treated us all exactly the same. She was right, and while her treatment of us across the board was abhorrent, that comment told us everything about how she viewed us. She did not see me as a person, nor my brother or sister, we were not allowed boundaries, freedom of thought or speech, we were used as her relief valve when her personal stress overwhelmed her etc. When I had children and she saw that I raised them all as individuals, having unique relationships with each, this is when she began making this comment. But, her treatment of us, and my children and their children, continues on the same, minus the physical abuse. We are all viewed as her pawns, put here to do for her, give to her, make her happy etc. It is sickening.
I think part of the concept here is that narcissists see us as an attachment to them, rather than as an individual person. So they ‘objectify’ us in the sense that we are not separate to them. This is how they have the ability to use us, as opposed to appreciating us for the unique and separate individuals that we are. And you are right. It is hurtful. The narcissist doesn’t see it that way and it is hard to grasp how they do not see others the way we do. It’s not always easy to take on board what HG is explaining. It is to our benefit if we are eventually able to do that. It is one of the things that helps us to build up our defences.
This “If the narcissist was honest”-series is really brilliant, H.G. Very educating and entertaining. I laughed so hard at the toaster which fires the bread back 😀 😀 😀
Imagine, you want to toast some bread and the toaster says: “No! I don´t feel like toasting your bread today” and fires the bread back 😀 😀 😀 lol
Good advice from me: Do not eat while listeing to H.G. videos and audiotapes! 😀 😀
Good advice not to eat or drink while listening to HG. You never know when he is going to fire off something that can cause you unload a nostril full of noodle or noir.
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Sometimes the new toaster is on the fritz, so you search for the old one stored in the garage, but you can’t seem to find it. Odd that.
laughing….
My mother has said many times to me that she did not see my siblings and I as individuals and as a result treated us all exactly the same. She was right, and while her treatment of us across the board was abhorrent, that comment told us everything about how she viewed us. She did not see me as a person, nor my brother or sister, we were not allowed boundaries, freedom of thought or speech, we were used as her relief valve when her personal stress overwhelmed her etc. When I had children and she saw that I raised them all as individuals, having unique relationships with each, this is when she began making this comment. But, her treatment of us, and my children and their children, continues on the same, minus the physical abuse. We are all viewed as her pawns, put here to do for her, give to her, make her happy etc. It is sickening.
I remember thinking as a child, how unique and special each person is.
I don’t believe this because it hurts. I think they saw me as a person. Maybe it’s a Psychopath not a Narcissist perspective.
Every person is unique and special, Whitney x
I think part of the concept here is that narcissists see us as an attachment to them, rather than as an individual person. So they ‘objectify’ us in the sense that we are not separate to them. This is how they have the ability to use us, as opposed to appreciating us for the unique and separate individuals that we are. And you are right. It is hurtful. The narcissist doesn’t see it that way and it is hard to grasp how they do not see others the way we do. It’s not always easy to take on board what HG is explaining. It is to our benefit if we are eventually able to do that. It is one of the things that helps us to build up our defences.
This “If the narcissist was honest”-series is really brilliant, H.G. Very educating and entertaining. I laughed so hard at the toaster which fires the bread back 😀 😀 😀
Imagine, you want to toast some bread and the toaster says: “No! I don´t feel like toasting your bread today” and fires the bread back 😀 😀 😀 lol
Good advice from me: Do not eat while listeing to H.G. videos and audiotapes! 😀 😀
Glad you are enjoying them.
Good advice not to eat or drink while listening to HG. You never know when he is going to fire off something that can cause you unload a nostril full of noodle or noir.
True 🤣🤣
It once happened to me 😀 My meal was all over the place 😀
Barcoding is not necessary…..
“It doesn´t fire the bread back at me” 😀 😀 Lol, hilarious! 😀 😀 😀
Imagine such a toaster! 😀 😀 😀 Aaw, hilarious! 😀
This is a good reminder.