Knowing the Narcissist : The Asylum of the Grotesque : Olivia

 

Olivia was a delightful creature who was an IPSS of mine. She told me that her name meant peace and freedom. I laughed at that and told her it meant “olive tree”. I reminded her that parents often visit their inner hatred on their child when it comes to naming them. She seemed perturbed by that.

 

“But they didn´t do that to you, you have such unusual and noble names,” she responded issuing her flattery.

 

“You think? My mother looks on those around her with hatred, undiluted, unremitting hatred,” I explained to Olivia as we sat opposite one another. I took a sip of my drink and then set it down before rising to my feet and walking to the hearth.

 

“Seeing the world through hate-filled eyes is a perspective that is all too common in today’s society. Hatred is a powerful and destructive emotion that can cloud one’s judgement, distort the perception of reality, and lead to harmful actions for those weak enough to be affected by it.”

 

“But what is it really, hatred, just the absence of love, surely?” she countered.

 

I indicated for her to be silent, not unpleasantly, as I continued to explain. I would now explain to her what I understood her kind understood by hatred, which is only part of the journey to a full and complete understanding of what hatred truly is.

 

 

“Hatred is a strong and intense emotion characterized by a deep-seated animosity towards a person, group, or idea. It can stem from a variety of factors, including personal experiences, cultural influences, and societal conditioning. When individuals view the world through hate-filled eyes, they often become blinded to reason, empathy, and understanding. This can lead to a cycle of violence, discrimination, and division within society.

 

When individuals harbor hatred, their perception of the world becomes distorted. They tend to focus solely on the negative aspects of the object of their hatred, ignoring any positive qualities or alternative perspectives. This narrow-mindedness prevents them from seeing the complexity and diversity of the world, leading to a skewed understanding of reality. For example, someone who hates a particular ethnic group may generalize and stereotype all members of that group, failing to recognize the individuality and unique experiences of its members.

 

Hatred often stems from a lack of empathy towards others. When individuals are consumed by hatred, they are unable to put themselves in the shoes of those they despise. This lack of empathy prevents them from understanding the experiences, struggles, and humanity of others. Consequently, they may engage in discriminatory or violent behavior without remorse or consideration for the consequences. For instance, someone filled with hatred towards a certain religious group may commit acts of violence against its members, disregarding the pain and suffering they inflict.

 

Hatred has a tendency to perpetuate a cycle of violence and hostility. When individuals view the world through hate-filled eyes, they often seek to inflict harm upon those they despise. This can lead to retaliatory actions, further fueling the cycle of violence and deepening the divide between different groups. For example, in conflicts driven by hatred, each act of violence from one side is met with an equally violent response from the other, resulting in a never-ending cycle of destruction and suffering.

 

 

Seeing the world through hate-filled eyes is a destructive perspective that hinders understanding, empathy, and progress. Hatred distorts one’s perception of reality, leading to a narrow-minded and biased view of the world. It also erodes empathy, preventing individuals from recognizing the humanity and experiences of others. Moreover, hatred perpetuates a cycle of violence and hostility, deepening divisions within society. Overcoming hatred requires a conscious effort to foster empathy, understanding, and tolerance. By promoting dialogue, education, and compassion, we can work towards a more inclusive and harmonious world. That is how you see hatred is it not?” I asked expectantly.

 

“Well, “ began Olivia with some hesitation. I felt my sense of disappointment begin to form.

 

“I think what you have said is right and I think this is what you have learned isn´t it?”

 

I said nothing interested in where she was headed.

 

“I have always known what hatred is, but my kind of hatred is different to what you understand it to be?”

 

“How can there be two types of hatred?” she asked.

 

“Oh, most readily,” I assured her.

 

“But hatred is hatred,” she said.

 

“And people are people,” I replied with a low laugh.

 

She left her seat and walked to me, taking my face in her hands. I was tempted to remove myself from her, but fought the urge. She looked into my eyes, the care flowed from her, it was tangible.

 

“I know what hate is, but I do not think I have ever felt it,” she confessed.

 

“Really?” I asked with interest, “then perhaps we ought to change that?”

 

In that instant I saw the flicker of fear manifest in her eyes and felt the delicious surge within myself.

 

“How could I resist teaching you?” I asked, speaking more to myself than to Olivia as I took her hands slowly from my face and holding one, led her to the bedroom……