20 Cries of the Victim
We do not think of ourselves as victims, to do so would be weak and we are not weak. You are. We are better than you. We do however feel put upon, hard done by and persecuted and it is you that does these things in order to victimise us.
Evidencing our legendary double standards, we do not consider ourselves as victims as this does not accord with our sense of superiority, but we like to portray a victim mentality because doing so serves our purposes.
There are many things that we say which evidence this mentality and when you hear them you should know that we are looking for you to respond. We want reassurance, praise, an admission of fault from you, confirmation that we are brilliant, an apology and for you to do what we want you to do.
Playing the victim card allows us to gain fuel from sympathy and compassion, assistance when we do not want to do something, absolution from responsibility and preventing you from doing something we do not want you to do.
Here are twenty cries of apparent victimhood.
You make my life so difficult.
Why are you treating me like this?
You never try to understand me,
What about me?
What am I going to do now?
How’s that supposed to make me feel?
You are meant to look after me.
It’s not my fault.
I can’t help the way I am.
Why must you be so difficult with me over this?
You never listen to me.
You always make it about you, never about me.
You never do what I want.
You don’t love me like you should.
You never do what I want.
You never let me speak.
You always treat me like a fool.
You are the reason for all of my problems.
You are trying to ruin my life.
Why do you do this to me?
Watch out for these comments from our kind because they are the foreshadowing of further manipulation of you.
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Reading this article is a good reminder why I should not communicate with toxic people. These are basic translations of longer whining sessions I used to subject myself to when I contacted the toxic person from my life. I don’t know if others have experienced this…but hearing these phrases enough turns them into inner monologue of self hoovers.
Mr. Tudor, I have a difficult time imagining you using these phrases with your IPPS. Are you less likely than other narcs to pull out these phrases? In the stories you share…you aren’t using these…like with your IPPS who liked horror movies…you could have used one of these phrases…but you didn’t to my recollection. You maintained “the high ground” in a sense by withdrawing and going alone to a movie after bringing home a pamphlet about purchasing a car.
Often these articles are from the perspective of Mid Range and/or Lesser Narcissists and are not my perspective. I avoid stating as such to avoid the individual being taken out of the moment.
Thank you so much for your tume! Much appreciated.
You’ve indicated that you have “stock phrases.” You will send the same text to competing prospects.
1. Do you have a list of manipulative phrases that you carry loaded and ready to fire at unsuspecting people? If so, would you share some?
Predominantly, these are “guilt/shaming” phrases…I would think that’s highly effective against the empathic victim.
2. How do greaters and the Ultra cause the self blame cycle in more sophisticated ways?
You’ve said, Magnet Super, Contagion/Martyr are your top four choices of classification.
3. How do you personally tailor phrases for maximum impact? Is it trial/error or is it information gathering/instinct or are there other factors at play?
Thank you for your time. Much appreciated.
1. Some have been shared through my work already.
2. Exploitation of your vulnerabilities, encouragement of self-analysis, utilisation of the innate self-flagellation of the empath.
3. Use the person against themselves.
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Thank you, sir.
1. How do you handle greaters if they try these tactics, “Exploitation of your vulnerabilities, encouragement of self-analysis” on you?
It is impossible to exploit vulnerabilities when they do not exist.
Mr. Tudor,
If a greater tried (and failed) to exploit vulnerabilities in you, would it stimulate you? Your advice for the empath is to settle in for a bumpy rude when a greater is displeased with them…how do you handle them, given your shark-like nature?
Thank you for everything.
There are no vulnerabilities to exploit.
Thinking you have no vulnerabilities is one big vulnerability.
I do not think it. I know it. That is your perspective, it is my reality.
“There are no vulnerabilities to exploit.”
I have a question please HG.
I’m trying to place this statement within your perspective as a narcissistic psychopath. When you state this, do you mean that there are no vulnerabilities to exploit because the control you assert over your environment and the appliances within it ensures that any potential vulnerabilities would be negated?
It is because there are no vulnerabilities that exist that can be exploited.
Thank you, sir.
Are all self aware narcissistic psychopaths absent exploitable vulnerabilities? Or have you targeted them?
Some will have them, some will not, it depends on their circumstances.
HG I have noted a vulnerability, you said when you sleep, you go into a dead sleep and it’s like you’re dead; so that would be the perfect time to kill…or at least draw a penis on your face…
I guess I’m painted black now
Like I am dead, not dead. Nobody who would find themselves admitted to my bedroom (and allowed to remain there) would seek to kill me. I would awake before the first testicle has been completed and then you would very much regret your invasion of my personal space.
Thank you, Mr. Tudor. Much appreciated.
1. Do you have an approximate age at which you felt all exploitable vulnerabilities were gone? Is there a particular experience linked to this realization? (A three year old is vulnerable in ways a sixteen year old young man isn’t. Similarly, most teenagers are vulnerable in ways a 25 year old isn’t.)
Thank you so much for your time. Much appreciated.
No.
“There are no vulnerabilities that exist that can be exploited.”
I considered this further. Traits and behaviours are neither positive nor negative. It’s how we view the traits that is important. I could view my own traits as strengths or weaknesses depending on context and lived experience. My view of my traits therefore isn’t factual, it’s subjective, traits are just traits.
The narcissist draws the external world into himself. The psychopath pushes himself outwards into the external world and dominates it. If one dominates the world and gets their retaliation in first, then there are no vulnerabilities that exist that can be exploited.
It’s similar to expectation. My expectation contains a ‘provided that’ caveat. Psychopathic expectation comes without a caveat.
Vulnerabilities are a question of perspective linked to self concept.
Final answer. Perspective.
Well stated.
Hi Dani,
Its so nice to see you questioning again! I love seeing Mr. Tudor’s responses!
I think our empathic traits of justice and compassion often stand in the way of us seeing the victim mentality clearly. Once we do learn to see it though, it becomes blindingly obvious.