The Eight Exploitations of Empathy
You are an empathic individual. This is why we chose you. This is why we want people like you because you have certain traits which appeal considerably to us. You have traits which are ripe to be exploited by us and only someone like you can provide such an opportunity to our kind. You have certain traits which we need to exploit for our own purposes; these are eight of them
1. Trust
You cannot operate without trust. You trust us with your heart from the very outset. You readily give it to us and allow us to place our hands around it. You trust us to keep it safe and protect, unaware that our nefarious hands covet the provision of your heart. Your trust is absolute and unconditional and this enables us to exploit it repeatedly by doing as we please,acting behind your back and breaching your trust over and over again. Your reaction when you learn of our breach of this sacred trait is enormous and fuel-filled and the driver behind our need to take and shatter your trust. The concept of trust is so inviting that even though we will fracture it, we will endeavour to repair it and win it back just so we can breach it again.
2. Honesty
Your openness and honesty results in your signing your own fate by furnishing us with so much information about yourself. From your hopes and desires through to your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. You are content to detail it all to us as you live by a code of honesty, always wanting to tell the truth and for the truth to be provided to you. We know you operate by this trait and we will feign to be an honest person at the outset, free with our expressions of how we truly feel about you. How more honest can we be than to tell you that you are the person we have waited our whole lives for? Yet, honesty is for you and never for us because we operate in the shadows of dishonesty. Your honesty may be a strength in your eyes but to us it is a weakness as you have opened yourself up before us, exposing yourself to us, showing your neck to us as our forked tongue slides across our sharpest teeth.
3. Decency
You must always do the right thing. To do anything else is anathema to you and we know that this attribute of yours leaves you susceptible to our many machinations. You are polite and well-mannered. This means that you will accord with our initial overtures and listen attentively to whatever we say. You accept graciously our gifts, not realising that they are bribes to ensure you become chained to us. You always answer our calls, reply to our messages and open your door when we appear, not matter how often or how unannounced. This requirement to be civil and decent allows us to frequent you to such a degree that our charm is in and around you so often that you have no chance other than to succumb to it. You will not turn away, you will not slam the door in our faces but instead give us the toehold and time of day to weave our malign magic over you and seduce you.
4. Equality
You expect to be treated as you treat others and when the devaluation eventually commences and you find that such concepts as consideration, reciprocity and equality of treatment are missing, your alarmed and emotional response is the engine for the fuel we need. You operate by the maxim of do unto others as you would have them do unto you and thus you treat us with love, affection and kindness. Its absence by return causes you considerable consternation and upset, which enables us to draw the fuel from you in significant amounts.
5. Fidelity
To be faithful and receive fidelity in return is of significant importance to you. Your own dedication to the ideal of faithfulness means that we have little concern that you will have your head turned by others, no matter how badly we treat you. You will not transgress this ideal, even though you may suspect or even know of our own flagrant disregard for the concept of fidelity, you will remain true to it. It pains you, it hurts you but as a person of principle you will abide by it. You do not do this through any notion of pride or to seek some kind of accolade, but you do it because it is part of you. A constituent part of your moral fibre and full in the knowledge of this sterling attribute of yours, we shall do as we please with little concern that you will treat us in the same way.
6. Tenacity
You do not give up. You exhibit an indefatigable spirit which invades every element of who you are. You will not give up on the idea of you and me. You will do whatever it takes to please me, to win back my golden grace which you once delighted in. You will hang in there determined to ensure we get back on track. You will not walk away because to do so would be to admit failure and this is not something that you can countenance. No matter how bad the abuse, no matter how terrible your treatment, you will cling on as a consequence of this trait. We are well aware of this and welcome such a tenacious approach, for it provides with a guarantee of your attention and support.
7. Healing
You desire to heal and to fix is perhaps one of your most notable traits. The desire to nourish the good in people and bring it to the fore. You believe that everybody is capable of becoming better, including yourself which is why you are so selfless and giving. You strive to find the ways of making a situation better for somebody, you want to make the sad person become happy, the worried person calm and to ease the concerns of all you come across. Most of all you want to fix us because you believe we can be fixed. We will not disavow you of such a notion, not at all, it serves our purposes to keep you thinking that you can make a difference.
8. Loving
Your love is immense. Unconditional, vast and seemingly unending. Like the largest reservoir, your love is that which we must ensnare and once achieved we drink from it with an unending thirst. You are devoted to the idea of love and we will exploit this repeatedly. We exert control over you by suggesting to you that you must not love us if you will not do that what we want. We test your love for us by placing immense demands upon you knowing that you will always rise to the challenge. Your love for us is such that it is sweeter than that which might be obtain from others but it also remains intact for far, far longer. It endures the torrid devaluation and the heartless abandonment so that we know we can count on being able to come back once again and take hold of your love yet again for our own unsavoury and malicious purposes.
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I understand what you’re saying about not being able to change the past—that part is true. What happened is done. But I don’t agree that internal wounds cannot be healed.
Wounds may become part of someone’s story, but they don’t have to remain unprocessed or continue driving behavior. There’s a difference between carrying something and being controlled by it. Healing is not erasing the past, it’s addressing it so it no longer has the same hold.
With awareness, intention, and neuroplasticity, internal wounds can be healed. What was shaped through experience can be reshaped through intentional work.
It also takes courage to face yourself honestly, to stop avoiding what’s there, open the door to it, and deal with the pain instead of managing around it. Most people don’t do that, which is why they stay stuck.
Sadly, most people are unaware or uneducated about what is really going on, so they continue repeating patterns they don’t fully understand.
I do agree with you on one point—awareness alone isn’t enough if emotional thinking continues to override it. But that’s exactly why doing the internal work matters. When the wounds are actually addressed, that emotional pull starts to lose its grip.
An empath who hasn’t done that work can be exploited.
But one who has faced themselves, developed discernment, and established boundaries is no longer operating from the same place, and that changes the outcome.
What you described here is exactly how exploitation works, but let’s be clear about something… these traits are not weaknesses. Trust, honesty, decency, love, those are God-given qualities. The issue isn’t having them, it’s having them without discernment and boundaries.
What happens to the victim over time is deeper than people realize. It’s not just hurt feelings. It creates confusion, self-doubt, emotional exhaustion, and a distorted sense of reality. You start questioning your own judgment because what you gave in purity was used against you. That’s where the real damage happens, internally.
But this is also where responsibility shifts.
At some point, the victim has to step back and self-reflect. Not in blame, but in awareness. Why did I ignore what I felt? Why did I stay when it didn’t align? Why did I keep giving when nothing was being returned? That level of honesty with self is where healing actually begins.
Self-awareness changes everything. Once you see it clearly, you can’t unsee it. And from there, it becomes a choice—continue the pattern, or start addressing the internal wounds that made you susceptible to it in the first place.
Healing isn’t about becoming cold or shutting down those traits. It’s about refining them. Learning discernment. Setting boundaries. Understanding that not everyone is safe to receive what you naturally give.
An empath who is aware is no longer easy to exploit.
You cannot address the internal wounds. That is a repeated mistake that is made and causes people to remain stuck, rendering them susceptible to ensnarement and manipulation despite their apparent awareness.
The wounds are part of what you are. You cannot heal them. You must understand what they represent, how that shapes you and how you use that knowledge about what you are moving forward. You cannot alter the past, it has gone.
An aware empath can always be exploited if they allow emotional thinking to cloud their awareness. I have witnessed that happen repeatedly.
Mr. Tudor says, “The wounds are part of what you are. You cannot heal them. You must understand what they represent, how that shapes you and how you use that knowledge about what you are moving forward. You cannot alter the past, it has gone.”
This is HUGE! This is how I often feel. My wounds have made me who I am. Seeing your thoughts on this, solidifies it for me.
Thank you, Mr. Tudor!
You are welcome. I am pleased you have grasped this concept.
I understand what you’re saying about not being able to change the past, that part is true. What happened is done. But I don’t agree that internal wounds cannot be healed.
Wounds may become part of someone’s story, but they don’t have to remain unprocessed or continue driving behavior. There’s a difference between carrying something and being controlled by it. Healing is not erasing the past, it’s addressing it so it no longer has the same hold.
With awareness, intention, and neuroplasticity, internal wounds can be healed. What was shaped through experience can be reshaped through intentional work.
It also takes courage to face yourself honestly, to stop avoiding what’s there, open the door to it, and deal with the pain instead of managing around it. Most people don’t do that, which is why they stay stuck.
Sadly, most people are unaware or uneducated about what is really going on, so they continue repeating patterns they don’t fully understand.
I do agree with you on one point, awareness alone isn’t enough if emotional thinking continues to override it. But that’s exactly why doing the internal work matters. When the wounds are actually addressed, that emotional pull starts to lose its grip.
An empath who hasn’t done that work can be exploited. But one who has faced themselves, developed discernment, and established boundaries is no longer operating from the same place, and that changes the outcome.