Welcome to Knowing the Narcissist.

I am H G Tudor. I am a narcissistic sociopath (some state psychopath – this remains a matter of debate by the profession concerning the current application of sociopath or psychopath).

By my terminology I am a Greater Elite Narcissist. You will learn here what that means along with all about the other types of narcissists and empaths too.

I convey this is an effective manner based on my perspective. I know what I am and I know the best way to communicate this to you. I am a very effective communicator.

I write extensively about what this means and what I am. I have practised this dark art for many years, I have honed and crafted my abilities. I am aware of what I am and I am engaged in understanding why I am this way and why I act as I do. I am sharing these ongoing revelations.

I know my kind in considerable detail. I have several family members who are narcissists and have engaged with numerous in my life. I know the way my kind think, why we act as we do, say what we say and so much more. I understand why we target our victims and how we go about it. I comprehend why our victims think and act as they do. I have had many, watched many and listened to many. This allows me to build a formidable body of knowledge about not only my kind, but the people we engage with.

I am currently engaged in treatment which has been forced upon me. As part of this treatment and because I enjoy writing, I have been encouraged to share my knowledge. This is to engender a greater awareness of what I am on my part and also to allow the world an unrivalled view of the mind and actions of a narcissistic sociopath.

I do this because I like to write. I like to interact with people. I want to be the number one source for the reality of how my kind think and behave. I also find the weaponising of empaths and having them go into battle with my kind entirely in accordance with my worldview.

I do not do this for fuel. I do gain some fuel from the comments but since those who comment are tertiary sources (see the book Fuel for more) it is not significant. I gain far more fuel in my interactions in my private life.

I am direct. I do not speak in scientific terms. I welcome enquiring minds and those who want answers. I will give them to you. You will not gain understanding like this from anywhere else. I encourage you to read my articles and extensive collection of books which can be found on Amazon. I encourage you to contribute, ask questions and offer your own views. I read everything that is submitted to me and answer all questions, thus if your post does not appear straight away, please understand that it is in moderation and is either receiving or awaiting my attention.

The number of comments and hits are testament to the need for my knowledge and the huge usefulness many people have found from it. You will too.

Welcome on board. You will now Know the Narcissist.

HG Tudor





  1. Hi H.G.,

    A friend told me about you last weekend and since then I’ve been mildly obsessed. I haven’t had a chance to read a whole lot, but I’ve been listening to your YouTube videos while working the past few days. Your voice is lovely, very soothing. Have you considered doing audiobooks?

    I was involved with a narc for 12 years and your insight is eye opening. I don’t think our relationship was typical though. In listening to your videos I have identified him as a mid range and myself as a super empathetic, but I also have BPD along with bipolar, anxiety and PTSD.

    Your no contact strategy is basically my “go to” for every relationship and although I still get texts from him periodically, it is always him pretending to be someone else and I ignore.

    I guess I have 3 questions: 1, Do you know anything about narcs pretending to be other people? He did this often trying to manipulate me into doing something wrong. 2, What do you think about NPD and BPD relationships? Any experience there? 3, What consultation do you recommend to “pick your brain”?


  2. Hi HG
    Does the narcissistic know and realize what they do ?
    Does he realize the amount of pain that they caused to us?
    And I want to know
    Does he regret lately for that pain that make us feel?
    And I want to know
    Does the narcissistic love?!
    Can he really fall in love!?
    And if yes,will he change to protect his love!?

  3. Hi HG, I hope you’re well. I remember reading somewhere on your blog that the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour. You were talking about narcissists of course.
    Would you say that the same applies to normals and empaths?
    I often refer to you as ‘a very wise man’ by the way.

  4. Hello. I am wondering why you help others or are willing to divulge this information.
    How does this serve you? How do you benefit from it?
    What is the underlying reason or purpose behind you doing this?
    I feel like it is almost like a tiger telling you how to effectively hunt it and understand its predatory behaviors.
    Why would a narcissist or ASPD individual expose their true nature?
    Why would they expose their vulnerabilities? And tell people how to effectively deal with them when it can effect and impact their ability to exploit others and derive fuel (in their mind to survive)?
    The only reason I see is that it is possible you hate other narcissists.
    I’m just trying to understand your underlying motivations.

    1. if you read the “About” section on which you posted Tang, you will actually find answers to most of the questions you have asked.

      Why would I expose my true nature? For the reasons explained, I am doing so without compromising my identity so I still retain power and control within my private life whilst creating a legacy through this ground-breaking work.
      I am not exposing my vulnerabilities to anybody who knows me therefore this information does not adversely impact on me.

  5. Hi H.G.; I discovered your site today. Great writing and very informative; you have a way with words.

    My ex is a (i guess mid-range?) covert narc who I finally blocked yesterday amidst a 6-day silent treatment that I could no longer withstand, finally by phone. It happened not even on a low note; he’s been “trying to make things work” but I can’t get past what he’s done in the past. The last text he had sent me (six days prior, so he was commencing a silent treatment) was “I do everything and it’s not enough; you’re not down for the ride”.

    H.G, It will have been over four years of push and pull/no contact back to re-contact. But I’m 27 this month and I refuse to waste my life any longer. He will never change, right? I can’t help but feel like magically, he will give all of what he never gave me, to someone else.

    Since I blocked yesterday, t’s been that of alcohol withdrawal, though illogical. When does this get easier and what do you suggest to make the ‘getting over’ accelerate? I so wish regret on him!

    1. Welcome VA and thank you for the compliments. If he is a narcissist then he will to change. Your fear that someone else will get what you did not is common and is caused by your magical thinking which is hijacking your narcissistic trait of envy (does not mean you are a narcissist, everyone has narcissistic traits). It gets easier by following my direction and work. You need to do these

  6. Hi HG,
    In your book “Fuel” you outline Fuel in terms of potency, quantity and frequency. This is incredibly helpful to understand.

    1. Have you written about wounds in a similar way?
    2. Are some wounds deeper than others and require more fuel to heal? I know criticism is wounding, but are some criticisms worse than others? For instance is a silent response to a narcissists silent treatment a smaller or bigger wound than for instance a comment about how the narcissists car is inferior to another car (delivered fuel-free of course). Or a deliberate removal of control from the narcissist?
    3. Is there is a hierarchy of wounds?
    4. If so, how does that hierachy look, and is it cadre and school dependent?

    If I have missed where you have written about wounds just please point me in the right direction.

    I appreciate you answering my questions HG. There is literally no other place to get these kind of questions answered.

    1. Hi Mister Anderson,

      1. Please see Fury. I am pleased you found the explanation in Fuel useful.
      2. Yes the extent of wounding does vary. Ignoring us in person wounds massively compared to ignoring our text message.
      3. Yes.
      4. I will write about this, but it is not dependent on school and cadre.

      You are most welcome. Your politeness is appreciated.

  7. Hi HG,
    I have a question I have been thinking about regarding the similarities between the 7 deadly sins and typical narcissistic traits. This has been reinforced from reading some of your books.
    -Sloth (conserve fuel/energy)
    -Wrath (fury)
    -Lust (infidelity/promiscuity)
    -Envy (challenge to superiority)
    -Pride (grandiosity)
    -Greed (craving for status and wealth)
    -Gluttony (consumer of people, food and resources)

    From the experience I have had with the narcissists in my life they have shown to exhibit these traits to a large extent.

    What are your thoughts HG, could the 7 DS be an warning, a way our ancestors identified narcissists and tried to warn others? And possibly scare narcissists to dampen the expressions of these traits?

    I dont suggest they knew about the prime aims, the role of fuel and control. But it would make sense to warn of the danger of someone showing the outward expressions of narcissism. The 7 DS could be that warning. Do you have any thoughts on this matter HG? I would like to hear about them if you do.

    1. Hello Mister Anderson (I always enjoy saying that out loud). The 7 deadly sins are applicable to narcissists, I agree. I daresay they were created by an unaware narcissist as a means of controlling appliances however as opposed to setting out a warning against narcissism.

      1. Haha, I bet you do. Maybe there is a hint of Agent Smith in you?

        A way for a narcissist to dim the narcissistic traits in others in order to control them easier? I wish for my explanation to be correct but I yield that yours is more practical and obvious (now when it is pointed out to me that is).

        Occams razor favor your explanation over mine.

        Thanks HG

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