Welcome to Knowing the Narcissist.

I am H G Tudor. I am a narcissistic sociopath (some state psychopath – this remains a matter of debate by the profession concerning the current application of sociopath or psychopath).

By my terminology I am a Greater Elite Narcissist. You will learn here what that means along with all about the other types of narcissists and empaths too.

I convey this is an effective manner based on my perspective. I know what I am and I know the best way to communicate this to you. I am a very effective communicator.

I write extensively about what this means and what I am. I have practised this dark art for many years, I have honed and crafted my abilities. I am aware of what I am and I am engaged in understanding why I am this way and why I act as I do. I am sharing these ongoing revelations.

I know my kind in considerable detail. I have several family members who are narcissists and have engaged with numerous in my life. I know the way my kind think, why we act as we do, say what we say and so much more. I understand why we target our victims and how we go about it. I comprehend why our victims think and act as they do. I have had many, watched many and listened to many. This allows me to build a formidable body of knowledge about not only my kind, but the people we engage with.

I am currently engaged in treatment which has been forced upon me. As part of this treatment and because I enjoy writing, I have been encouraged to share my knowledge. This is to engender a greater awareness of what I am on my part and also to allow the world an unrivalled view of the mind and actions of a narcissistic sociopath.

I do this because I like to write. I like to interact with people. I want to be the number one source for the reality of how my kind think and behave. I also find the weaponising of empaths and having them go into battle with my kind entirely in accordance with my worldview.

I do not do this for fuel. I do gain some fuel from the comments but since those who comment are tertiary sources (see the book Fuel for more) it is not significant. I gain far more fuel in my interactions in my private life.

I am direct. I do not speak in scientific terms. I welcome enquiring minds and those who want answers. I will give them to you. You will not gain understanding like this from anywhere else. I encourage you to read my articles and extensive collection of books which can be found on Amazon. I encourage you to contribute, ask questions and offer your own views. I read everything that is submitted to me and answer all questions, thus if your post does not appear straight away, please understand that it is in moderation and is either receiving or awaiting my attention.

The number of comments and hits are testament to the need for my knowledge and the huge usefulness many people have found from it. You will too.

Welcome on board. You will now Know the Narcissist.

HG Tudor




463 thoughts on “About”

  1. After reading several of your books and many blogs, perhaps this brief introduction would have been a better beginning. Although the quest for clarity often twists through winding roads doesn’t it? For two years, my time has been spent voraciously searching for answers to explain someone very like you. Someone once very near and dear. Everything I’ve read led to one name…….. Sociopath.
    You are correct in concluding this type has an uncanny ability to sense those previously exposed and exploited. Many years of my time were previously spent under the thumb of a narcissist.

    A brief description of the differences in my observations is this: The narcissist was demanding, controlling, entitled, had illusions of grandeur, was occasionally abusive, and tantrums we’re frequent. He was however, upfront in his dealings, lacked deception, or sexual deviancy and was responsible financially.

    The sociopath was smooth, charming, deceptive, ruthless, sexually deviant, incestuous, incapable of honesty to any great extent, masterful in the art of gaslighting, triangulation and compartmentalizing. Seamlessly kept multiple relationships separate and hidden. He was extraordinarily irresponsible financially, or morally, and parasitically used others for the appearance of being otherwise.

    All sociopaths are narcissists, but not all narcissists are sociopaths. Narcissist only scratches the surface of what you are. Simplistic. Have you considered using the introduction from this page in your books? It may clarify the ensuing content for the reader.

  2. HG I am in full no contact mode. I took my ex narc to court for a restraining order and lost in court. He showed up and played the victim. His lawyer shamed me in court and I blacked out and could not speak. I was hyper vigilant already. I discarded him but he made it appear, in court, as though he discarded me. I don’t care about any of that anymore. I just want him to disappear from my life forever. Because he thinks (or maybe he doesn’t) that he discarded me and because I did file the restraining order (it’s on record) and he knows I’ll take him back to court if he contacts me again, do you think I am safe now? Any suggestions on how I can further protect myself? I am the only person in his life that knows exactly what he is. I assume he may be afraid I’ll expose him some more? Again, my only goal is to get rid of him forever.

  3. It is understandable why you write much about the narc in relationships. But I’d love to get your take on stranger or acquaintance stalking by malignant narcs. Have you ever engaged in such behavior and what insights do you have? a couple blog posts on such a topic would elucidate a common issue as well as add breadth to your blog!
    Sincere thanks and hope you can share such info.

  4. I like you say it to the point. I’m having difficulty wrapping my head around this.. I’ve only had three relationships in 52 years . I know it’s me, daddy issues etc. How do you break this cycle? I don’t want to be jaded. They mess with your head. It’s awful.

  5. I have a narcissist “friend” who comes around for about three of four days every month when he is feeling at his worst and talks to me. He spills his guts about what’s going on, from his perspective. I listen and nod and agree. He’s reached the point where he even talks about what’s going on with me, and how I feel. He has even started apologizing when he’s rude. But then I feel a change in the wind and he is unavailable for talking. It has gotten to the point I just tell him he’s too busy with his fans and image and I’ll talk to him again when he comes down from his cloud. It’s kind of a joke. He just laughs and says “ok.” If I’m ok with this, and he’s ok with this, doesn’t that make our friendship work? I’m getting from him, admittedly on his time, and I could never go to him for help, but I’ve never had anyone to go to for help.

  6. I wonder, is there a reason that some of my newer comments on articles here have popped through, but that my older ones, especially the ones with questions for HG are still in moderation after a few days?

      1. Thank you for the clarification. I look forward to seeing them appear, and your responses.

  7. I have gone no contact for 3 weeks now but we have an 18 month old daughter. My question is will he try to use her to get to me? I do not want her little life upset by him , he isn’t even remotely interested in her at the minute and hasn’t been since she was born. He has a new victim so im wondering if he will come back or not the not knowing is having a negative impact on my life.

    1. Hello Maggie, there are various potential outcomes with regard to your scenario based on the school of narcissist he is, whether you were the IPPS or not, whether he is with a new IPPS, the extent to which you are still in contact with him and other factors. To give you the accurate insight based on your situation I would need more information and that is best achieved through a consultation.

      I would state that since he has not shown any interest so far this would suggest he is likely to be a Lesser Narcissist and if he as a new IPPS he will be focused on this person and is highly likely to continue to show no interest. Thus you will have a period of respite from him. You have a risk however when devaluation of the IPPS commences as this will prompt hoovers and a child forms both an activator for a Hoover Trigger and also an avenue to then effect the hoover. I can provide you with far more certainty concerning the situation with more information.

  8. How do you mean that treatment “has been forced upon” you? Also, how did you first gain insight, accept what you were told about yourself, regarding being a narcissist? I thought that, by definition, that it was impossible for a narcissists to know or believe this about themselves.

    1. Hello Carol,

      1. My family wanted me to undergo treatment for various reasons, they did so based on certain threats and allegations. I agreed to doing it based on securing certain aims of my own.
      2. In part post university, then following this as I gained more knowledge as I observed and learned and then latterly through the therapy.
      3. A common misconception. Lesser and Mid Range do not know what they are. Greaters do. It is simplistic and erroneous to think that all narcissists are exactly the same.

    2. I thought that too , my Narcissist husband always denied his Status
      IHe has said he believes he is a good person , and that I am the evil one ..
      I have fought him over our divorce and I really feel that I am the Bar person and not him .
      Why do I feel like this

  9. I am an Art Historian and Art Dealer. I (miraculously) survived narc abuse. HG is now coaching you all into paying for his “services” ( that is: what he stole from previous targets). I really he sounds sexy: he probably is. Truth is: he is leaning on his “mummy’.

  10. I am not sure why I am here. I guess the universe conspired. I find your writings fascinating and you bluntness enticing. I may or may not have had a very long relationship with one of your kind. Or maybe I am myself one ?! Still trying to find answers.

      1. I know. I always find myself where I should be, whether I like it or not. I will most certainly come back with questions. Have a lovely day, Tudor XD

  11. Hello, dear Mr. Tudor,
    I have just listened to the Out of the box radio interviews, and – only for the case that you didn´t try it already – I would like to say how helpful a systemic family constellation can be.
    I did that about ten years ago and remember how nice it was to be able to see my mother from a distance, as a person not being my mother, but only an individual, without any relation being there to me. That was such a good kind of freedom that I felt.

    I don´t know how old you are. I am 50 years old. I wish I could turn back time. I would then share the love and the backbone of my dad with you 🙂

  12. As a self confess co-dependant searching for understanding, I stumbled across your books on amazon recently. After reading one of your books I’m amazed at the level of understanding I’ve gained from your writings – it is paradoxically both, excruciatingly painful yet insightfully empowering. I want to hate you and thank you at the same time. As you know, my kind like answers and what perplexes me about you – why would you want to write books that gives freedom to the people that you enjoy to persecute?

    1. But I don’t persecute you personally do I? There are 7 billion people on the planet, I am not going to run out of victims. Ever. I enjoy writing and weaponising you empaths to go into battle with my brethren (whom I owe no loyalty) which accords to my Pupper Master role and sense of omnipotence. I am pleased that you found the book you read of use to you and I hope you continue to read more.

  13. HG Tudor ever thought of starting a cult? Looks like you have some converts here. This is all immensely disturbing, you speak like a Svengali , it’s hilarious. You talk like we are too stupid to figure you people out on our own and need you to ‘ weaponise’ us……lmfao, the ego on it!

  14. Hi HG. I have bought and read several of your books and found them absolutely fascinating. That was after discovering you on Quora. Is there any reason you stopped writing on Quora late last year?

  15. I’ve already read some of your and a few other articles on narcissism. Recently, I’ve been trying to come to terms with my past and the emotional abuse I’ve been suffering during a short but intense acquaintance (not sure how I should call it, we were just meeting frequently for a few months).

    So as part of that I’m trying to understand better why he behaved the way he did and I found that he has many pronounced narcissistic traits: very controlling, jealous, possessive, easily offended but constantly mocking and denigrating others, self-complacency, pretension, arrogance,…
    His hubris was nowhere justified though, he just completely overestimated himself and seemed so self-assured and yet so vulnerable.

    In other words, he had all the negative narcissistic traits, which were visible from the very beginning, while lacking the more attracting ones.
    He had many other disorders too, though, which he literally boasted about. He claimed he was schizophrenic, too.
    His delusions primarily concerned me dissing him and secretly meeting other guys, that I’m fucking plenty others but not him. So it’s hard to tell if he seriously was psychotic, or his vulnerability and and excessive self-importance just made him believe all that, and used the psychosis as an “excuse” after feeling ashamed about the tantrums he would regularly throw.

    Now, I’m wondering if someone like that would still identify as a narcissist, someone who greatly lacks hallmark traits like charm, flattery, wittiness and seductive qualities, while displaying mainly the negative ones.
    To me it almost seemed as if he didn’t even regard all his flaws and his crude attitude as such, but as something positive or tried to sell it as such.

    The only charming thing perhaps was that he would give me lots of attention and compliments (only to denigrate and insult me shortly afterwards).
    He could be charming, but those moments were rare, since he was apparently convinced (or tried to convince me) that he was already perfect the way he was.
    I guess the main thing that pulled my attention to him was this paradoxical nature, with which I partly identified, which intrigued me.

  16. Whether you’re really a narcissist or this is just an incredibly brilliant way to teach others – you’re bloody fascinating. (Pardon the vampire reference there.) 😉

  17. I could never understand how my ex narcissist boyfriend is so friendly and never nasty to one of his female friends (as opposed to her being a girlfriend). When I questioned him why he is so nice to her he says “she understands me”. What a load of BS. I did everything for him yet I copped the abuse, the blatant use of intimidation, the threats, the in your face annihilation. To this day I can’t get my head around it. It’s like he chooses to behave nice to her despite me being his partner. She couldn’t understand it either.


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