About

Hello,

Welcome to Knowing the Narcissist.

I am H G Tudor. I am a narcissistic sociopath (some state psychopath – this remains a matter of debate by the profession concerning the current application of sociopath or psychopath).

By my terminology I am a Greater Elite Narcissist. You will learn here what that means along with all about the other types of narcissists and empaths too.

I convey this is an effective manner based on my perspective. I know what I am and I know the best way to communicate this to you. I am a very effective communicator.

I write extensively about what this means and what I am. I have practised this dark art for many years, I have honed and crafted my abilities. I am aware of what I am and I am engaged in understanding why I am this way and why I act as I do. I am sharing these ongoing revelations.

I know my kind in considerable detail. I have several family members who are narcissists and have engaged with numerous in my life. I know the way my kind think, why we act as we do, say what we say and so much more. I understand why we target our victims and how we go about it. I comprehend why our victims think and act as they do. I have had many, watched many and listened to many. This allows me to build a formidable body of knowledge about not only my kind, but the people we engage with.

I am currently engaged in treatment which has been forced upon me. As part of this treatment and because I enjoy writing, I have been encouraged to share my knowledge. This is to engender a greater awareness of what I am on my part and also to allow the world an unrivalled view of the mind and actions of a narcissistic sociopath.

I do this because I like to write. I like to interact with people. I want to be the number one source for the reality of how my kind think and behave. I also find the weaponising of empaths and having them go into battle with my kind entirely in accordance with my worldview.

I do not do this for fuel. I do gain some fuel from the comments but since those who comment are tertiary sources (see the book Fuel for more) it is not significant. I gain far more fuel in my interactions in my private life.

I am direct. I do not speak in scientific terms. I welcome enquiring minds and those who want answers. I will give them to you. You will not gain understanding like this from anywhere else. I encourage you to read my articles and extensive collection of books which can be found on Amazon. I encourage you to contribute, ask questions and offer your own views. I read everything that is submitted to me and answer all questions, thus if your post does not appear straight away, please understand that it is in moderation and is either receiving or awaiting my attention.

The number of comments and hits are testament to the need for my knowledge and the huge usefulness many people have found from it. You will too.

Welcome on board. You will now Know the Narcissist.

HG Tudor

 

 

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  1. Hi, just discovered and learned about you today, HG, I’m so amazed and excited as I’ve had an outstanding career of being victim of narcissists and never come across one who’s actually helpful in making me a less succesful victim.

    I intend to devour all that you’ve written within an unhealthy short timeframe and hope so much it will help me to defeat the one narc I cannot get rid off: the father of my child.
    Escaping strategically, surviving, healing a bit I can do and I did but even 10 years after breaking up and him having another girlfriend since then, he just won’t let me go.
    As totally ignoring’s not an option I need a multi level solution – also for my daughter who’s being played by him just to destroy me.

    About your intro, I’m curious: what is your treatment? As narcissism is not curable, is it?
    Do you pursue being healed, getting out of the prison?
    Well, the answers to that are probably in your books but I’m too damn impatient… 😬
    Respect and thanks for what you do! 🤘👹

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    1. Hello RHA and welcome on board. I you require a bespoke solution do organise a consultation with me. Narcissism is not curable no, although there are those who think it is.Re my treatment, see the books etc for more detail. I am not in prison.

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      1. Thanks! And will do so later on @consult.
        In which book can I find details about your treatment?
        Btw, by prison I meant mental prison, is that not how you experience being a narcissist?

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  2. Dear HG,
    first of all I would like to thank you for the insight you provide us with; your style of writing is really clear and direct and this renders the process a lot easier.
    I have been reading your blog during the last weeks and I still have a lot of reading to do; however, I am impatient to know about the different kinds of narcissists you keep mentioning. Unfortunately, it seems I cannot find the right entry (I started reading the blog in chronological order, but it didn’t help). Could you please suggest me which book of yours adresses this topic?
    Have a nice day,

    Uriel

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  3. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. We are lucky in that you possess not only a comprehensive understanding of this disorder, from within and without, but also the means to communicate it to us in all of its nuances. It is fascinating and eye opening. I’m curious – you say you want to weaponise empaths because it accords with your worldview. Would you please elaborate on that? I would like to understand your motivation in the apparent paradox of your weaponising us against yourself. I look forward to your continued posts. It’s quite marvellous what you are doing here.

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  4. Hi HG,
    I’m new to your site and have enjoyed all of your articles thus far. I’m in the middle of a battle with a Narcissist. My husband filed for divorce in October and immediately started spending time with other women, explaining that he has “moved on” and is “farther along in the process” than me. It’s as if the 15 years we were together didn’t happen, and he keeps saying our young children will be “fine.” I look forward to learning more from you… Thanks for all that you do, you’ve already been extremely helpful.

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  5. Hi HG,
    I hope you’re fine.
    I have some confusions in my mind. You may be a tourch in my foggy way.
    I had a 1 year relationship with him. We were living together. We have been sepetared for 3 weeks, but still i have confusions if he is a real narcissist or not. He is not diagnosed by a psychologist, but when i searched it internet there are enough matches ( i guess)
    What do you think? Could be it was me who was wrong and caused problems?
    1- Everything was so good that i had struggle to believe it at the beginning.
    2- Later on, I didnt have any hesitation about him. Then i totaly gave myself to him.
    3- when i completely got into this relationship, he slowly changed.
    4- He sometimes became cold, agressive, anxious man. I remember those time when i sleep lonely with him on the bad. I remember how many times i begged him to hug and kissed me. He didn’t.
    5- Then he started to be nice to me.
    6- Then he started to be agressive with very very simple thing that i barely could remember.
    7- He was so negative with everything that i couldn’t bare.
    8- The blames! I was only the one who was all the time guilty. I dont remember how many times i questioned myself if i was really guilty.
    9- whenever i wanted to do something by myself, he didn’t let me to do it.
    10- He isolated me from everyone and everything.
    11- He took slowly by slowly my positiveness, happiness, nice thoughts about life with his negativeness.
    12- I don’t remember how many time he left home with tears on my face after stupid argumants.
    13- Now we are seperate. He is telling me that he can not do without me. He is saying that he loves me.
    ***Do you think he is a narcissist?

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    1. There are significant indicators in what you have written. In order to give you a definitive answer however you will need to organise a consultation.

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      1. I have already a consultant, but he is not saying definate things for him because he is not the consultant of him.
        He is dealing with my situation instead of if he is a narcissist or not.
        Nowadays, i have terrible confusions about him. He is really trying to get this relationship again and being accepted to the house.
        Now i am confused if he is really sincere with his thoughts and words or not.
        Yes, i still love him, but i am afraid of all the words of him are totally for hoovering. What do you think? Do you think he is hoovering me by saying he loves me , he wants marry me, live with me and wants to change..etc?

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      2. Sorry, i guess i missunderstood you.
        Do i need to organise a consultation with you?
        If it is so, i really would like to.

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      3. You effect payment using the relevant button in the blog menu and I will then contact you thereafter with the next steps to arrange the consultation. It will enable you to give me more information so I can give you the most accurate insight.

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    2. He’s a narcissist. He’s abusive. GET AWAY. Please do yourself this favor. You DO NOT need him despite what he is making you believe by the hot and cold he is doing to you. I went through this and was ready to take my own life from the stress. Thank God I didn’t. Life WILL improve but only if you COMPLETELY get him out of your life. No texts calls social media communicating through friends nothing.

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  6. H G
    His Greatness just redefined “Narcissistic Supply”! The freedoms you have supplied me are to say the least infinite! I am now able to see how I am imprinted and due to this I have the authority in Jesus name to break these chains of bondage! In the words of Martin Luther King FREE AT LAST ! FREE AT LAST! OH THANK YOU JESUS FOR DIRECTING ME TO H G I AM FREE AT LAST!!!!!!

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  7. I haven’t read anything from your point of view before, only empath and victims points of view. I can’t wait to read into more of your posts. Thanks for sharing your viewpoint, and your journey!

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  8. Hello HG
    I am a super empath and have been in supernova modes many times in my life, flicking the humanity switch off to do battle is not something i enjoy but it has to do be done, flying monkeys and being labelled a psycho, being blocked by 10 people out of 7 billion is a number i can deal with….. my question is will you or have you written about this more? And what is it about this dynamic that you enjoy?

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      1. Oh cmon HG I expected a much more elitist answer. Power and control none of us have it we think we do empaths and narcissists we all think can control things either in a good way or evil and the balance sways all the time. But you are human and made of flesh, what can kill me can kill you… not the.hollywood romantised version of life and love, as humans we all have the power to inflict pain, and feel accomplished when we do…yes empathy and compassion does stop most of it, but laziness, indifference, only looking after ones immediate family and not the collective etc money capitalism etc
        What u cant control is random acts of violence, mother nature, disease, other psycho paths, people leaving you, not admiring you anymore
        No one has complete control and its freakin scary. But we live until something takes it all away….
        Thats scariest part of all something will take it away…..the question is are you ok with it? 🤔😊

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  9. No sé por dónde empezar… Así que lo haré por lo evidente.
    Soy PAS, soy lo que tú llamas una súper empática… Y tengo la sensación de haber vivido entre narcisistas gran parte de mi vida, puede eso ser así? Puede que por mi naturaleza, esté “destinada” a ello?
    Mi madre es narcisista, mi hermano también y acabé casándome con un gran narcisista… Es posible que al haberme criado entre narcisistas, normalizara de alguna manera ese tipo de relación? Que mi ex marido narcisista intuyera de algún modo que yo ya estaba “amaestrada”??
    No te lo tomes a mal… Pero necesito salir. Después de mi separación y de establecer el contacto cero con mi familia, he descubierto un mundo que no veía y a un yo que no sabía ni que existía…
    Hay personas “predestinadas” a ser un combustible “de primera” para un narcisista?
    Siempre tuve la sensación de que mi ex y mi madre echaron un pulso por mi… Fue una batalla tremenda en la que entre los dos me partieron sin escrúpulos (ahora lo sé), batalla que ganó mi ex y que mi madre creyó ganar finalmente tras mi separación (le salió el tiro por la culata, debo ser de las pocas empáticas que han sabido “pararles los pies” a dos narcisistas…
    Cuéntame… Tengo taaaantas dudas!

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    1. Eres susceptible al narcisista porque eres empático y también porque tu infancia te moldeó de esa manera. Esto significa que para ti el narcisista se siente, en un nivel inconsciente, como tu hogar. El narcisista se siente atraído por su clase, su empatía y sus rasgos especiales, y el hecho de que haya sido “estampado” en usted y, por lo tanto, dañado de esa manera, es una característica especial que el narcisista detecta instintivamente.

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      1. The essence right there eh.. And, I guess, an empath finds/seeks certain traits instinctively to have his/her void filled. Two types with damaged yet different level voids to be filled. Quite the doomed concept. By the time you find this out as an adult after leaving your typical Narc-Empath marriage to bravely “for once and for all break that chain of negativity”, you can’t help but wonder..how reprogramming yourself cognitively as an empath, and positive results of that relationship wise..would ever suit and connect with your natural drive that was molded from childhood. It might all come just as unnatural as trying to create consistency in being an attentive non abusive manipulative arse in the long run for the power Narc. Very twisted. More like a sad given in the end :(.

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  10. I believe I have been in a relationship with a narcissist sociopath for a few months now but I’m not entirely sure. He traits are paranoia and he has told me for the first time he gets jealous and feels insecure. I made him feel this way as I went down to see my best friend in April who’s was male (don’t see him anymore). I told him I was with him as he said he had a funny feeling I was with a guy and said he would make me take a lie detector test and one of the questions was was I with a guy the night before which I was and told him the truth as I new I wouldn’t be able to beat the test. My heart immediately started racing. He thinks we had sex and I understand where he is coming from as we have previously had sex before but years ago. Ever since then he goes through my phone demands my passwords for Facebook and emails which I have given them to him as I have nothing to hide. When ever a man messages me even when they don’t live in the same
    Country he is rude to them and tells them I’m a sex worker and not to contact me again. He has also told someone that I was seeing way before I met my bf that I had HIV and that he should get himself checke out..the list is endless of his embarrassing behaviour. He constantly calls me a slag and also my friends and has done to them over the phone in rages whenever I have been away from him which he makes the decision to kick me out due to him thinking I cheated on him even with his friends. He won’t allow me to bring this up with his friends ever which I found strange. I have never cheated on him and now he thinks I kissed a guy and stayed with him in London at the weekend as I left the phone call going and he thinks he heard me kissing a guy etc and now he doesn’t want me back and sent me a suicide text last night. He said I don’t care and I will have to live with the guilt forever and he hopes I kill my self as well. He keeps messaging abuse messages and said he will say goodbye to his daughter then top himself. I have paid for a lie detector test for him to make me cancel it as he thinks I will dupe the test. He is over weight and blames me, he drinks and does drugs and blames me. He doesn’t take responsibility for anything that goes wrong. All my friends think I’m mad for staying with him. He flirts with girls and acts like we are single.

    My question to you is is it worth me taking the test and do you think he’s lying about killing him self as I think he just needs the supply to keep going. Why would anyone want to be with someone that cheats and lies all the time as that what he thinks I do. He claims he has never cheated and for some reason I believe him. His dad cheated on his mum when they was younger and left him when he was young. I have received over 200 missed calls once and when I’m not in his company and at friends or at home he demands I call from their land line to prove I’m where I am? I believe he knows I’m telling the truth but I would appreciate your view on this. Many thanks

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    1. Do not take the test. The individual presents very much as a narcissist and therefore your focus should be on getting out, staying out and imposing a rigid no contact.
      He will be lying about cheating – your emotional thinking caused by your addiction to him is making you think he has not cheated.
      He is most likely lying about killing himself – false suicide threats are a particular form of manipulation by narcissists. It is very rare for a narcissist to commit suicide.

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  11. HG, did you write this, or similar :

    Dear Partner;
    I’m going to say something I’d never say or admit to you.
    When I say “I love you” I mean I love how you want to believe I love you so badly.
    I love the things you do for me. I love the power you give to me to take advantage of your kindness by exploiting your good intentions. To make you feel worse makes me feel better. I love making you feel and insignificant.
    I love the fact that your life is all about me. You fix my problems, solve my issues, relieve my pain. I love how you take all your time for me, not for yourself. How you give attention to me only.
    I love making you doubt yourself and question your own sanity. You don’t know what is right or what is real unless I tell you.
    “I love you” means I need you because I need someone who won’t abandon me. I need someone that I can use as a punching bag. Someone who will make me feel good.
    I love how my expectations of you constantly rising, while the ones you have for me gradually decline. I love the look of failure and disappointment at your face.

    When I say “I love you”, I am referring to the love of hatred for you. I love myself vicariously through the love you feel towards me. And I need you to suffer because I hate having to rely on you for this.
    I love how my happiness is your responsibility. I love how I feel when you’re around me. How I can turn myself into the victim when you try to bring up one of my many personality flaws or harmful behaviors.
    I love how I make you feel horrible when you mention something I did that hurt you. How you won’t leave me because you are hooked on this toxic relationship.
    I love how you support me and how I never need to support you. Why would I even do that? The things you will never get keep you with me.
    I love how you think you are with a person who loves you. But I’m a person who shows love and affection as a manipulation tool.
    I love how you need me and how you think you’re with the right person. How I made you feel unworthy and insignificant.
    When I say “I love you” it is not what love truly represents. When I say “I love you” it means I love how you respect my rules and how you live by them.
    You need to know I will use hurtful words and manipulative tactics under the guise of love. You will never change me.
    We both know this isn’t real. We should both know.

    Regards,
    Your Narcissist.

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  12. Narc makes up a ranking system for other narcs, and rates himself the highest, most advanced, most dangerous. How utterly surprising. What if the narcs who don’t know what they are, who operate completely on impulse are the ‘highest’ narcs because they are covert? Just a thought.

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  13. Thank you – without complete realisation until recently I was married to a lesser narc for 20 yrs. I then, with eyes half shut went into a relationship with a greater narc thinking he was so different from what I had before. I didn’t listen to the friends who warned me or stories and rumours about his philandering reputation because I thought they didn’t know him like I did etc. He played the victim so well. He cheated, lied and deceived me. I went back because he said he’d made a mistake.
    I’ve just found out, he cheated,lied and deceived me even more and devalued, boy did he devalue. So subtle but it was there. The triangulation too just as you describe. The YSL gift left out me to see in a pretty package only to find it wasn’t for me. The story about the perfume too.
    He let me believe he was single – I thought we were in a casual passionate but exclusive relationship. Turned out he had a primary source and I was the dirty secret – she and I crossed paths as one left his house the next arrived etc. I discovered this in April 2017 when a dear friend I confused in told me – after 10yrs waiting for him to be more forthcoming – he’d asked for space and no pressure. He was scared of commitment so he said.
    The sexting, the porn, the smearing of his colleagues, the chaos he caused. The pompous manner and indignity if questioned, the evasion. The smugness. Sniggering at his own unfunny jokes. I recognise it all.
    The dark night he, as a joke, pulled the most scary face I have ever seen – the mask came off – it was frightening.
    The hoovering -I tried to break it off so many times- oh the excitement of the hoover – so addictive.
    I became hypertensive, stressed and anxious, unable to make decisions. I’m a professional woman with a tough job. This was an insidious slide.
    I’m finally recovering have been no contact since Mid 2017. I still miss him and can’t believe what happened and how he was building another life – but I am getting better every day.
    I just want to say thank you HG. I’ve spent much money on counselling over the years but because they cannot view what happened to me from the eyes of a narc I have found it unsatisfactory and has never really helped me to defend/protect myself or understand.
    Your YouTube tales have helped me understand and it has quite shocked me how you have described his traits almost to the letter. How narrow are the characteristics of a narc. How restricitve, repetitive and limited the behaviour. The only thing I would say is that he displays victim & somatic behaviours with a smattering of cerebral. I haven’t been able to work out which he is. Is it possible to be all?
    He thought he was so clever with all his lies. His nickname for himself was ‘the magnificent’. I now realise nearly everything he said to me was either a lie, an embellishment, a boast or borrowed from someone else – mostly her probably. And it all had a purpose – to trick me. How can tricking someone who trusts you be clever? Pathetic.
    How I thought he would change, how I now realise he never will. How my jealousy raged for this other woman (and once discovered, all the secondary sources). How I wanted revenge.
    Now I know it will only be a matter of time until he destroys her relationship with him and her business. I could write a book there is so much to tell.
    Your stories and explanations have helped me understand and move on.
    He is in the health profession so I have some questions that I would like answered about how you view his behaviour and my suspicions about his professional life.
    Would you be prepared to discuss these in a consultation?

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  14. I’m currently figuring out why I seem to attract narcissists in my life, particularly at work. I’m a scientist and narcissists seem to be overrepresented in my tech field. Your site has been truly educational. Thank you.

    In reading through your writings, it occurred to me that you have discovered the ultimate fuel source: yourself. Your writing seems both cathartic and punitive, like two halves of yourself feeding each other.

    I hope you find some peace.

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  15. Goedenavond, wat gebeurd er als een narcist een onderdanig filipijns goudhennetje heeft veroverd met een mooi koophuis, grote auto, goede baan, kan goed koken, strijken en schoonmaken en is niet onaantrekkelijk om te zien?

    Is het zo, dat zij ook vertrapt en weggegooid wordt na verloop van tijd, of is zij materiaal om zo lang mogelijk vast te houden?

    vr.gr.
    FM.

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    1. It depends on what role that person is allocated. If that person has been made the primary source, notwithstanding all of those ‘plus points’ that person will be devalued eventually. They will be disengaged from when a replacement is found.

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  16. Thanks zo much for everything. I am a woman with a narcissist female in my building. She always tries to be friends with me and then uses our time together to insult me and degrade me.
    You saved me. I blocked her number. I can live again. Thanks.

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  17. I have a question. Maybe it’s been answered elsewhere but I find reading the comments tedious for a variety of reasons. So, if you don’t mind… do narcissists typically KNOW that they are narcissists? Do they employ their tactics as a set of go-to behaviors because they have always used them with success and they don’t think too much about them or are they aware of their status and consciously applying said behaviors?

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    1. Hello Tyler, if you find reading the comments tedious how are you going to read my comment in order to receive an answer?!

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  18. I have listened carefully to many of your YouTube posts. You have described a narcissist man that I have been involved with off and on for several years to a ‘tee’. How does one have the traits that you describe? Do they study this? Does it just come naturally? Thank you for the insight that you have provided.

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    1. Thank you for listening. The traits arise as a consequence of the nature of the narcissism. One does not study to become a narcissist but it is a natural evolution for certain people and with that comes instinctive responses. Higher echelon narcissist will apply calculation also.

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  19. I was with a narcissist, for 2 years (on and off, of course), but i sensed the danger day 1, even told him he was dangerous…. i wanted from him for more of a cuckquean relationship, but he was unwilling to provide that, even though he would talk to hundreds of women. He’d only tell me after the fact, never during. I wondered if you had any thoughts on why this would be. Seems like during would be the perfect time to get the reaction, triangulate, etc….

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  20. Hi! I have been married 40 years and finally from the help of yours and other you tube videos realize what I have been going through the last 40 years. I absolutely know that my husband is a covert narcissist, has borderline personality disorder and is bipolar (which his therapists seem to afraid to tell him). We also have a special needs son so we need to be in contact. What kind of information can I give to him to educate himself on being a narcissist? He’s interested in it so, what you tube videos or books do you recommend?

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      1. What if the Narc is interested in listening to uTube do you have one you recommend. He was the one that found some info about borderline and he said it sounded like him… he is a good speaker like yourself and reader…he also needs a team of doctors that would tell him the truth I thought I could at least give him something for my 5 grown children’s sake. I have moved out with my son with special needs because he wouldn’t.

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      2. There is no point, it is just part of the manipulation. Concentrate on yourself and your children and not him. It is just another way your emotional thinking is trying to cause you to engage with him by doing something which you believe may help.

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  21. Thanks my narc is with his girlfriend now used to be with her mom..trying to get her pregnant..I left after a yr..he states that she is his all

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  22. I really appreciate your writing which is both informative and fun. However I would like some information about the female narcissists. How do you best recognize them?

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  23. I enjoyed this article and have been devouring all I can on narcissism and codependent traits as I admit being the codependent involved with a narcissist, of course denied by him. You writing is quite eloquent and it see that trait in my narcissist, he comes through the dictionary and thesaurus as he enjoys indulging in a game of scrabble by himself to develop a large vocabulary. As he enjoys using it to baffle and or belittle others. I have a keen awareness after eight years of being involved with him to his tendencies and his pattern/s; however, it is not and almost comforting to finally see it in writing and especially from a self identified narcissist. I look forward to consuming as much knowledge as I can from your books. Not only will it benefit me but as I am a therapist, my clients as well.
    Thank you

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    1. You are welcome Sharon, welcome on board and thank you for your compliments. I look forward to your further input as you read more.

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  25. I spent the last 2 days on your site. It’s just comforting to read that so many of us go through the same nonsense and how we get confused and lose our ability to be our best self. Thank you everyone.

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  26. I have now read almost all of your books. Thank you for the extensive information you’ve provided. My one question is…if one were to confront a narcissist (in a calm, rational manner) and confirm that they the victim know what the narcissist is…would the narcissistic admit to it?

    Thanks again for your writing.

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    1. Thank you for reading.

      It is highly unlikely. A Lesser would never. A Mid Range is very unlikely to do so, but might purely to achieve an advantage but he does not actually believe that he is. It is akin to him saying “Okay okay I am a narcissist, you are right. Now, since we have got that out of the way and I have admitted what you wanted me to admit, what are you going to do for me now?” As he crossed his fingers as he makes the admission). A Greater is the one who is most likely to admit it amongst the three schools, but even then it is less likely to happen, than to happen. The Greater may admit it purely to intimidate the victim and then later deny the admission.

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      1. The Midranger would mostly reply by turning it around at you, like you’re the narcissist. Anyway that’s what my nex does with all criticism..

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  27. If this is a dark skill as you say, why can’t it be reversed? Or why can’t an empath learn to be like you? I’m half and half. I do narcissistic things then feel bad about it. It’s a living hell! I don’t want the pathetic part of my personality anymore. It only get me hurt. I understand why you built up your defensives. It works! Who wants to get hurt?

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  28. I also see that my narcissistic side is coming up when in contact with the narc- I become very manipulative and selfish. Maybe it is the empath in me absorbing the other with extreme empathy ? In school , I scored the highest woman in history at the Machiavel test. Now I am on the look out for me and observe my behaviors because I don’t want to hurt people and such them dry.

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  29. H G Tudor, do you believe narcissists are evil? I’ve known many in my life- at least people with the worldwide symptoms describing narcs, but I think it’s the empath in me that could never say outright someone is evil. Didn’t want to believe there was an outright evil in the world. Wanted to believe all people have some good in them no matter what and can change if they try and connect to it. Thank you for all your advice

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    1. Many of our behaviours accord with what a large section of society would describe as evil. We do what we do on the basis that it is necessary. I describe some of my behaviours as evil to assist people in understanding and so they are reminded as to what I am.
      I also do things which a large section of society would describe as good – albeit for my own reasons and not out of a sense of ‘doing good for goodness’ sake’.

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  30. HG,

    first off I would like to say thank you. being given an actual inside perspective on how a narcissist perceives the situation to be well as how he perceives his Target was truley valuable. I plan on doing a constant consultation soon. In the meantime I was wondering if you did anything on an elite greater narcissist taking possession right away. When I’m say possession right away it was almost immediate like he woke up and said I want that puppy . he actually installed video cameras in my office with audio he learned everything about me through what I confided in my colleagues. personal information of course I didn’t know anyone was listening on top of trolling my social media. This started when I didn’t know him yet . He actually came to me and said he made a commitment to me and we were going to be together within months he’s telling everybody we were going to get engaged next year he wanted me to look at houses… he wanted me to marry him the day my divorce was final. The kicker is I wasn’t getting a divorce to my knowledge at least . until my boss actually hired a lawyer for me to do so. nobody was to speak to me or be around me . I wasn’t allowed to leave his side for very long at all. He went everywhere with me. I’ve talked to ex girlfriends and even his ex-wife of 10 years and she said it was very out of character the way he was acting in front of her towards me very out of character usually there was a lot of love bombing and he would ghost. Is there any videos that could explain this I’m still at a loss. There is nothing special about me I was just a housewife of 11 years. This was actually the first job I had gotten.

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    1. Hello Deanda and you are welcome. In terms of the method of targeting and seduction, I suggest you read the book ‘Sitting Target’. As you identify, the specifics of your situation are best addressed in consultation.

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  31. Hello HG. I am an empath that has already weaponized myself through the profound impact your kind has had on my life. Difference between me and other empaths is I would never call myself a “victim.” I find you fascinating, actually; and clearly a very intelligent person. I too, am very intelligent, and would like to engage you in “warfare” of intellectual discourse because I believe I could objectively “win.” I know you won’t believe this, I won’t need you to. As you’ve indirectly elucidated, if I am understanding you correctly, you are a believer not in helping people heal, but an instrument of chaos. I can appreciate and understand your position. Iron sharpens iron. Let me know what you think about this proposition.

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    1. Tell me, how do you determine who “objectively wins” ?

      If you are as intelligent as you claim to be, you would realise that this is an impossibility.

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    2. Wow… going up against narcissist . Thats scary. I really hope for your sake you are not underestimating your opponent. Not to mention after rereading your question a few times .I can’t help but ask myself are you the narcissist. One perhaps dealing with a supernova ? Either way be careful .

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  32. You stole my words ! English is not my mother tongue but that is actually what I have in mind as a self healing strategy . Can’t wait to hear what HG has to say

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  33. HG, out of mere curiosity: has your activity on this blog (writing posts, replying to our questions/comments) had any ‘effect’ on you? And I don’t mean therapeutic. Thanks!

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