In Love With A Married Man

  You think about me every day. You wait for those teasing and tempting text messages which come through repeatedly during the day and then dry up around 6pm when you know that I am home with her. Once in a while there might be a sudden text at 9pm telling you that she has […]

The IPSS Shelved or Disenaged

The Intimate Partner Secondary Source (“IPSS”). Who is this? Briefly, these are ways in which the IPSS will manifest. Someone the narcissist is dating where intimacy has occurred. The narcissist is in a relationship (married, living with somebody, partners) but has a victim on the side as a mistress. As per 2, but where the […]

Has the Narcissist Disengaged Or Is It A Silent Treatment?

I am often asked how somebody is able to distinguish between being subjected to a silent treatment or whether they have been disengaged from (discarded in old money) ?  There are clear similarities between the two and of course, they are both instances which are common in respect of the narcissistic dynamic between our kind […]

Poll – How Have You Been Hoovered?

The hoover. Infamous weapon of our kind. Which type of types of hoover have you experienced? This poll is by reference to either those hoovers which formed part of the Initial Grand Hoover (when you escaped) or the Follow-Up Hoovers, down the line following disengagement or escape. Did you find yourself in receipt of repeated […]

I See Sanctuary

When I first meet you and I look into your eyes I find a certain sanctuary. Your optimistic eyes seem like paradise to me. I can see the hope, the desire and the adoration burning in your eyes. Be they brown, blue, green or grey I can see the promise of salvation. That is why […]