The Narcissist´s Five Shirks of Accountability

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The narcissist must never be accountable because this would mean submitting to the control of another. Blame must never lie with us, responsibility must never rest with us and culpability can go elsewhere.

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The Narcissist´s 5 Shirks of Accountability

39 thoughts on “The Narcissist´s Five Shirks of Accountability

  1. Clary says:

    Pitiful 🙄

  2. mlaclarece says:

    No. 2 Deal With It, a favorite phrase of mine. Those words are burned in my head.

  3. Yo says:

    Dear defective person, my Q is: what i observed about my ex defective person: when he told me something sweet, e.g. “i love u” on the 6th date hahha or when he came home in the 1st 2 months after work, his eyes always were strange…
    Pupils were extremely large.. i even thought.. what a strange thing, may be he has such high level of hormones when he see me hehhe

    And later, after silence treatment when he tried to recall the golden period i noticed these things as well, up to the special movement of his body (not only extremely large pupils), when he told me sweet words.. it was very unnatural..

    Q: it looked like he fell into some sort of trance..

    Is it possible?

    1. malignnarc says:

      Read some of the earlier articles Yo about the use of our eyes.

      1. Yo says:

        Probably you referring to that articles where u told that MN can on purpose remember their feeling of range to get this effect of pupils?

        If so, i remember them. But it does not explain FOR WHAT he needed to have pupils extremely large while he was telling me good words..

        1. malignnarc says:

          All the better to see you with, naturally.

  4. Yo says:

    Thank u, dear defective person. Noted and learned). Thanks for patience.

    Another topic:
    About Red Flags i agree. My problem is different now: in evvery single guy and evvery single phrase (especially if it is sweet and somehow expresses love/or that he likes me) i see a MN..

    e.g. “missing u and missing our moments together”..
    What would be a healthy reaction once i got this message from a guy i like?..
    Probably i would feel good or even happy..

    And what do i feel in reality?
    I feel nothing. Zero. Just something annoying and irritating..

    So my Q: how can i distinguish if he (a man) says it from his heart or it s “MN’s style message”…
    This is my main problem now..

    After recovering from the ex..

    1. malignnarc says:

      You can’t. The fact that in one message we use the same language as someone who has “genuine” intentions means we are indistinguishable and thus able to surmount your defences. The key is to be alive to the context of the comment – somebody saying I love you after six months of dating would be more appropriate, someone who says it on the second date is most likely one of us. Pay attention to the volume also. A couple of complimentary messages smack of a “normal” person being pleasant and wooing you. A bombardment of complimentary messages is our modus operandi.As I wrote you will find plenty about this in the book Red Flag.

      1. Yo says:

        Thank u.
        I also met a guy who directly on the 1st date told me he is a sociopath. )) And in the 1st meeting he told “ok, u go and look around but after that i know u will come back to me, coz i am better”
        So he didnt follow me, disnt bombed me with attention but once he noticed that didnt come back to him within a month.. he started trying to contact me like crazy (himself and through his leitenant) although he was blocked on whatsapp
        So… the conclusion: NOT ALWAYS MN/sociopaths bomb u with attention…

        So sometimes they go to the “second lline” and just wait..

        And this guy who sent me “mussing u bla bla” exactly had this behaviour, went to the 2nd line to wait which guy i am gonna choose (he told me openly about it)

        =》 with all this… sometimes they bomb… somewtimes they wait…

        I am really lost how to detect normal not defective men…

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  6. nikitalondon says:

    This time yes to ALL of them and yes I assumed fault and responsability for all. 😨😟. I did believe it was only me. 😞

  7. TheFlowerandRock says:

    Congratulations DiamonDollDeb! I wish you good strength and courage

  8. No Contact has begun. I know it will be hard. But I must FINALLY break free. Why have I continued to subject myself to almost every single thing you have written about? I have been holding on to the illusion that he is the man who I thought he was, I suppose. He is not that man. He is a monster. I must break this addiction to EVIL. Thank you again for your insight. This knowledge may have saved my very life. ❤️

    1. malignnarc says:

      You are welcome DDD keep reading to maintain your defences, the road ahead has many twists and turns.

    2. Yo says:

      Dear DDD read “evil” from right to left..

  9. Yo says:

    You r fortunate to possess both on a level of 5 y.o. child without any possibility to be developed to possess a whole personality, to possess integrity.
    What a mockery of a destiny to depend on opinion of others.., to live without harmony with yourself.. and never be able to love… Nobody, neither urself no other person..
    Never be able to feel except for deep emtiness..
    And additionally to all this, to feel that there is only U and God in this world. And that God gives u signs, because u r entitled.. what a misery…

    1. malignnarc says:

      Hello Yo and thank you for your comment. I will readily wager that my intellectual capability far exceeds that of a 5 year old child. Care to take that bet? As for emotional intelligence, my ability to read people, mimic them and understand them points to a highly attuned emotional intelligence. Those elements and others are symptomatic of a highly developed emotional intelligence. The reality is that SOME aspects of my emotional composition are missing or stunted. That much is apparent. I do feel also, as I have explained on many occasions – power, fury, jealousy and envy – admittedly by some people’s standards those are not emotions they would want but I feel them nevertheless. There is more than God and I in this world. There are the targets as well.

      1. Yo says:

        Not SOME aspects of em. competence.. you dont have the CORE of emotional competence: harmony with urself, acceptance of urself and love urself, peace with urself..

        U just not able to feel and/or get it.. and never ever will be able.
        Coz u r defected in the core..

        Such a miserable creature

        The funny thing is the dependence of Ncs on others coz they dont have it inside..

        It s the same as a person who doesnt smoke possesses what a smoker ger only with a cigarette..

        1. malignnarc says:

          You’ve shifted the emphasis, the reference was to emotional intelligence not emotional competence. If those items you have listed form the basis of a core of emotional competence then yes I do not possess a harmony with myself although I am in tune with what I need and how to get it. I actually do accept myself, this is the way it is – hence why I am freely tell it so. Love is a strange concept. My idea of love is different to yours. Peace. I will accept that, there is no peace, ever.
          I’m not miserable, I am always on the up.
          Yes you are right that I depend on others, I do so very much because of fuel and this is needed to address the need for power.
          I don’t smoke but I didn’t understand your last sentence.

          1. TheFlowerandRock says:

            Yes, however we have lightly broached how there is a lack of wisdom in separating our states of being and there for competence and intelligence are at all levels interdependent. Love is indeed a strange concept and is somewhat crazy making when seeking in a definitive manner. Self truth is much more empowering and is interdependent on empathy. I think what Yo is saying with the analogy of smoking is that a smoker is suppressing something that perhaps a non smoker does not. In the context of what Yo is saying it makes sense, however even non smokers are not immune to suppression. We do smell better, however.

    2. TheFlowerandRock says:


      1. Yo says:

        About smokers: they get nikotine from smoking vs. Non-smokers have this nikotine by default (produced by body)
        Analogue: to love urself/to have peace with urself/be in harmony with urself we (=not MNcs) dont need anything vs. MNcs needs attention from external word= “nikotine” to feel integrity

        P.s. hereby nd in all my future posts if i say MN i mean “a defected person”

        1. malignnarc says:

          I appreciate English isn’t your first language, Yo, so when you write “defected person” you mean “defective.” A defected person is someone who has abandoned their country in favour of another one, e.g. during the cold war a Soviet citizen leaving the UUSR and moving to the UK.

          1. TheFlowerandRock says:


        2. TheFlowerandRock says:

          Hello Yo, I enjoyed typing that and when I did I said ” Hello Yo” aloud and it caused me to dance a little, so thank you. The body does not produce nicotine. I appreciate your use of the analogy, analogies can be helpful in taking complex issues to the tangible and I appreciate your intelligence in using them. In the context of how a narcissist experiences self love vs a non narcissist it makes sense, however we do need experiences outside of ourselves in order to be in harmony.

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  10. TheFlowerandRock says:

    Yes this is true at an inherent level and it is my belief that empathy is innate, however one must exercise this to form connection with self and others.

    1. nikitalondon says:

      Its possible 😃 To excersice that if the person wants.

  11. TheFlowerandRock says:

    What is brilliance? We live in a world where we have become possessed by the need to achieve by means of the intellect, and yet without emotional intelligence we will have very little affect in the world and at best will be short lived.

    1. malignnarc says:

      I am fortunate to possess both.

    2. nikitalondon says:

      WOW. This is soooo true! I like soooo much your comments 😃🌷.

      1. TheFlowerandRock says:

        Thank you Nikita, you are welcome. I enjoy to contribute and hope that this particular author will continue to allow me to do so.

        1. malignnarc says:

          Only if you behave F&R!

        2. nikitalondon says:

          I hope also… You bring so much… Not as much as him of course. Just pay attention to that …

          1. TheFlowerandRock says:

            What is it that you are wanting me to pay attention to?

          2. nikitalondon says:

            Pay attentiom To not steal the limelight away from HG. as you said ” will allow me”…
            And as your comments are so giving of insight… Or he said himself behave😂😂😂

  12. Cara says:

    Oh yes, what do I expect you to do about it, because how dare I expect you to do anything about anything. You who are so brilliant and multi-talented, good at so many things, never actually do any goddamn thing.

    1. malignnarc says:

      Precisely Cara.

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