Playing Games


In one of our sessions Dr E asked me to tell him what one of my favourite games was. I replied that he was presuming that I played games. He apologised and asked me what was one of my favourite things to do. I replied that I enjoy playing games. He started to sigh but managed to stifle it (that reminded me of an ex-girlfriend Becky, she used to do that a lot. She was quite sensible as she knew that sighing infuriates me. It suggests boredom. How can anyone be bored with me around?) and then asked what one of my favourites games was. I said I did not have a favourite game because I only played one game. He nodded and asked me what it was.

I explained that I love to confuse people. He invited me to elaborate. I was happy to do so. I explained that I derived enjoyment from seeing people bewildered and perplexed. I would, for example, accuse them of ignoring me. They would protest and explain that they had been regularly texting me. I would point out a gap between the texts, say of fifteen minutes (which is an eternity when I am waiting for a reply) and show that as clear evidence of them ignoring me. They would frown and state that I had not been in contact with them for a week and that was ignoring somebody. I would then tell them they were trying to pin their own problem on me and that they would regularly do this, that it was hurtful and if they loved me, as they said they did, they would not behave in such a way. I would explain therefore that they must not love me. They would then protest that they did love me yet maintain they had not ignored me. I would accuse them of hypocrisy and walk away. A quick glance over my shoulder would confirm to me, by the puzzled, anguished expression on their face, that they were indeed confused.

Alternatively, I might arrange to meet someone for dinner and then not show up. They would call me and ask where I was. I always ignore the first two telephone calls. On taking the third and listening to them demand to know where I was (because their temper was rising at this point) I would calmly point out that they had got the date wrong, that I was engaged elsewhere (although I usually was not) and why had they interrupted what I was doing to chastise me for their mistake? They would at first insist I was wrong, but I would calmly explain that I was not. How could I be wrong? I had another engagement and therefore would not have agreed to meet them for dinner when already engaged. I would feel that rush of excitement as the doubt crept into their voice. This encouraged me. I would then point out that they were clearly having some kind of memory lapse, probably bought on by excessive drinking and I would counsel them to moderate their consumption and indeed seek help. In some instances (Samantha was a prime proponent of this) she would shout and lose her temper. I would explain then that I could not deal with her when she was like this and not to call me until she had calmed down. I would then end the call and bask in my delight. It sometimes got even better when others would apologise and the piece de resistance would be when they would meekly say “Sorry, you might be right.” Bullseye! I would remind them I always am and would then let them end the call with another apology.

I spent three hours taking Doctor E through my many derivations and variations of this game. He only interrupted me when his secretary reminded me that he had another appointment. He was clearly fascinated to learn about this game that I play. After his secretary had exited the room he looked at me and asked me if I had a name for this game. I confessed that I had not (which irked me as he had found something I had not thought of) and I immediately raced through my mind a variety of names I might attach to my game. Before I could settle on  one, Dr E told me had a name for it. I was curious (although I feigned disinterest by saying nothing) and waited. He said nothing.

“Well, what is it then?” I snapped, irritated by his dilatory response.

“It’s called Gaslighting.”

I nodded. I had  a name for my game. I liked it but I didn’t thank him, he has probably seen it as a name of a shop or a book and pinched it. His type is a flagrant pilferer of other’s ideas. I didn’t muse on the source of the appellation, the important thing was that my game now had its own name. Gaslighting.

78 thoughts on “Playing Games

  1. centauride12 says:

    I can hear the steady thrum of the hoover as it snakes ever closer. Thank you for your benevolence HG!

  2. centauride12 says:

    Oh Honorable Gerent (deep bow) is this the beginning of your ST of me after such a short Golden Period?Please extend to me your favour in granting me bliss of your Grand Hoover before I am sucked into the vaccum of despair. I promise not to talk to the mirror again!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Ha ha , no there is no ST for you. Any apparent ST is purely by coincidence.

  3. 2mpathetic says:

    Oh benevolent HG,
    Let’s talk about me, oh we are soooo wonder twins! I too am in individual psychoanalytic psychotherapy with no meds. Dr. M found it fascinating that you have written about your trade secrets. He said, “I’ve only seen books from a doctoral perspective. What is this authors name?” I say the pseudonym is HG Tudor. He knows I’m an advid reader and read all of your books except the new one in about 5 days. So he asks which one do I recommend (trick). I say u mean which did I like best or which one do I think would help someone else? He says both (trick). I say I related most to Sex and the narcissist (available on<-lieutenant. And I recommend Sitting Target why the narcissist chooses u. (Buy it meat puppets, side point….combo word Muppets? My childhood is shattered). Dr. M says I need to tear apart why I did like to choose narcissistic/sociopathic men and vasilate between predator/victim mode. I would do this with a new N every 2 years as act of mastery or repetitive behavior. I am able to disassociate feelings. I also am very empathetic (hence name here, and on twitter….not hiding behind name HG) (I'm hot, right? This presents a paradox. How am I able to flip from empath to sociopath. Anyone anyone? Buehler? Thoughts HG Go! 😗

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Ha ha Bueller? Bueller? That scene always entertains me. Apparently the gentleman concerned was actually an economics expert and he did that in one take. In fact I am going to watch it on YouTube after I have written this comment. I would be interested to learn why you related most to Sex and the Narcissist and in what capacity? Perhaps you might enlighten me?

      1. 2mpathetic says:

        Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes (Gwen Stefani featured in Maroon 5s song My Heart is Open) U know me, think in movie quotes, book quotes and song lyrics. I will tell u all about it. Oh btw thats an excellent song for u to love bomb someone with. Ben Stein is the name of economics guy.

  4. 2mpathetic says:

    Oh thank HG (or other godlike entity of your choice),
    He responded. Phew.

  5. 2mpathetic says:

    You’re checking spam folder right? Anxiety mounting, why would you do that to me? It was a real question!

  6. 2mpathetic says:

    Oh and stop triangulating me with Alexis…!

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Who me? I would never do that.

  7. 2mpathetic says:

    Dear Fearless Leader (Boris & Natasha’s Boss),
    Are you saying “our kind” in that you include me as your fellow narcissist or because you recognize me as divergent as you too are divergent? Okay, I’m not like u is your answer, how bout we go with lesser divergent? Ego stroke ego stroke ego stroke (my jaw is getting sore, double entendre) BTW, ? Posed, I beg for your response.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Marvellous salutation.
      When I say our kind I am not including you. I mean my fellow members and I from Narc Club.

  8. 2mpathetic says:

    HG the (insert grandiose title),
    Do you get angry when people tell their stories on your blog? Does it draw attention to them too much? I only ask because my story is quite unusual and I would like to know if there is anyone else out there like me. My Dr. tells me my case is unusual. There must be someone else like me. I don’t want to take away attention from you. I guess you would just not allow my post and say it must have went to spam folder. Your thoughts (insert another grandiose title here) please.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello 2mpathetic, thank you for the greeting but do feel free to identify a suitably grandiose title for me. No I do not get angry when people tell their stories. I am interested. If somebody repeatedly tells their story with no real relevance to the particular post or they do not have a question I don’t see the point of it. They may as well talk to the mirror. However, for the most part I am interested in what people have to write as I am always keen to gather new intelligence and understanding of the way people have experienced our kind. Of course, they invariably frame a question for me too which gives me a platform which naturally I welcome. It also allows the other people here to compare it to their experiences and may provoke debate, something I am all for. If you wish to tell your story go ahead.

  9. centauride12 says:

    Good for you Alexis. I was seeing this guy a few months back, he is so definitely an N, although it was before starting to read your blog HG so didn’t fully understand what I was dealing with.

    He used to make arrangements with me but not confirm them and the text me about two hours after we were supposed to meet to lambast me for not confirming and saying I obviously wasn’t interested. Last time he did it I just copied and pasted my last message back to him…where I clearly told him if I didn’t hear back from him by 5pm on the day of our date I would make other plans. Then told him I’d make other plans…his reply “Oh”. I’d like to say it was the last I heard but he’s tried to hoover me several times since.

  10. The text /ignoring one…. The N (not MN) tried this one on me. By this time id well and truly worked out what the MN was and had been through NC period and was well on my way to recovery. The N one of his Lieutenants, had befriended me. It suited my purposes at the time and I was suspicious of him because of the MN. But he too showed signs of being an N and did the whole love bombing thing, he mentioned things about narcs very early on, I recall directly asking him if he was one. I forget what he said. Anywya I digress. He started to d&d me even though this was only a friendship and nothing ever at all happened between us. He gave me a long ST of a few weeks. We’d see each other in person and both act like nothing has happened. I never messaged him to ask why.

    He then after a few text me saying, ‘you never message me anymore’ I replied, ‘you must be paranoid N’ knowing he was expecting me to act as you describe above HG. But no way would I have given him that satisfaction. He then sent some friendly texts and I just ignored him.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Well handled Alexis.

      1. Thanks HG, as always your approval means so much to me.

        That said, if you withheld it, I would still secretly know that I had it. So any ignoring tactics won’t work on me 💋

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Ha ha you remain my favourite rascal Alexis.

  11. Leilani says:

    Dr. E has patience. Good post HG. I’ve heard of gaslighting somewhere. It’s at the tip of my tounge but still unable to remember.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Dr E likes the fees that he receives, although he did take a couple of breaks from my detailed exposition. Either a weak bladder or I was too much for him.
      Ha ha, very good, I see what you did there.

      1. TheFlowerandRock says:

        What form of therapy have you been mandated to that utilizes 3 hour sessions?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          It’s normally an hour to two hours with a break but there was a gap after me so I kept going as I had an audience and I was in my element. After all Dr E likes the fees as well.

          1. TheFlowerandRock says:

            What form of therapy is it?

          2. HG Tudor says:

            Individual psychoanalytic psychotherapy. No medication is involved.

      2. Drawing on the great wisdom of Dr Sigmund Freud to determine what makes HG stick. Somehow, I just don’t think it’s that simple….;)

        Here’s the thing though – psychoanalytic therapy asserts that psychological problems are rooted in the unconscious. How does that work with someone like you HG, who is brilliantly aware of exactly what you’re doing at all times?

        Or, do they assume that while you are conscious of WHAT you are doing at all times, you may not be conscious of WHY you behave in this way? Because it’s clear to me you have superior understanding of yourself and the way you are!

        It also asserts that manifest symptoms are caused by hidden or ‘latent’ disturbances, particularly unresolved issues during development/childhood or repressed trauma, some examples of which you have so graciously shared with us here.

        Treatment often looks to bring repressed conflicts to the surface where individuals can deal with it and again, you’ve shared some instances where this has occurred during sessions and your reaction to it.

        How I would love to cloak myself in invisibility and hear what these doctors say about you when your sessions are through!!!! You’ve likely got them completely baffled and confounded, which I most vigorously applaud.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          There has been a focus on harnessing my awareness of what I am and expanding that. I know they have been trying not to reinforce my brilliance for fear of adding fuel to the fire so to speak. I think they have been seeking to ascertain just how aware I am of what I do in order to decide where to take it to next. They have mentioned about deconstructing my sense of self,if I recall correctly, although I understand this will take some considerable time although I suspect that is just them driving up the fees again. It does not bother me of course because I am not paying. The latent disturbances which you mention is something that they are focusing on viz a viz the things which happened in my childhood, some of which I will discuss with them and other times I will not, so progress is slow in that regard. I do wonder what they say about me and I am sure that I provide them with plenty to discuss. I am also keeping my eyes peeled for identifying which of them has been lurking on this blog, as I am sure one of them (perhaps both) cannot resist doing so. I will work it out,I know their game.

      3. Leilani says:

        I can smell the fees that he receives all the way from Cali. It must be some fees. One on one therapy with no medication. Interesting and clean enough.

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Indeed. Still I suppose they are doing me some service and I enjoy elements of the sparring with them.

  12. Courtz says:

    Oh and yes… much of what you do write from a masculine perspective is, as you said, just as applicable to the female!!! I don’t know how many things I have read so far and just been absolutely gobsmacked at how spot on it is to this woman!!! I am sure you have been asked this a million times already and I just have not found the applicable info YET… (I’m working on getting through as much as fast as I possibly can…. eating this stuff up because as you say… I am an empath after all and just want to understand how this chick could be so cruel and make this all a damn game when she has smashed my self-esteem, demolished my self-worth, destroyed my self-confidence AND STILL WANTS TO STEAL MORE FROM ME!!!! lol)… however, back to the question… can someone have NPD and be completely unaware of it?? Then also, when pointed out by someone like myself… I am guessing that they simply think we are full of shit and that couldn’t possibly be them??! THEN… IF this is also true, why is it so hard to accept that they are a narcissist??

    Cheers again HG

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Hello Courtz, absolutely the case. Those who are the lesser of our kind have no idea of what they are and will always deny it if you tell them. Even if you sat down and pointed out all the behaviour all they would do is hear the criticism, their fury would be ignited and they would lash out,cold shoulder you or possibly retreat. They do not acknowledge what you are saying. That is lost to them. Instead what you say is a criticism and they will deny, deflect, lash out and plenty of other forms of defence mechanisms to reject what you are saying. The mid-range of our kind does not know what they are either and will respond in much the same way. The greater of our kind do know but will not allow you to pin the label on them. Instead they are more likely to project on to you and accuseyou of doing the things that you are levelling at us. You are welcome and thank you for reading.

      1. cjhawkes03 says:

        Thanks so much for answering this HG… much appreciated!!! Yep… that sounds COMPLETELY like her!!! Thank you for allowing us non-narc individuals the access to real info like this… its incredibly knowledgeable for me and its actually giving me closure for the 1st time in the over 15yrs on & off of abuse etc. As you write…. i am an empath… i crave understanding lol!!!
        Do you know WHY they cannot accept this truth about themselves?? Why… despite a pile of evidence screaming in their face that this is what they are… they cannot accept the diagnosis?? Is it because you guys think of yourselves as basically perfect and better than your “victims”…. think of yourselves as infallible??
        Again… thank you for this unique oppourtunity to see things from your eyes!! I have got so much more reading to do still lol!!!

        Cheers HG

        1. HG Tudor says:

          You are most welcome.

          I won’t accept the truth because it is a criticism. That criticism wounds me. That wound weakens the construct and threatens the release of the creature which will then in turn consign me to oblivion. Therefore although I know the truth I prefer not to acknowledge it, indeed it suits me better not to do so and I deploy my defence mechanisms to counter this which includes deflection, denial, projection and so on. Imagine something that is highly flammable. Your waving of the truth around is like a match near this flammable material. We do not even have chance to pull it away before it ignites and thus you get our reaction which must be that which extinguishes the fire/closes the wound as quickly as possible. We don’t get chance to do anything beforehand but as soon as the criticism manifests the ignition occurs. Our senses of superiority, entitlement, omnipotence and so on are there to protect us from these unwarranted (from our perspective) attacks on our status, brilliance etc. Keep reading, it is the key to understanding.

      2. cjhawkes03 says:

        Just one other question….. in your personal opinion…. is it a wise or good idea to attempt to get a DVO (Domestic Violence Order… preventing her from being allowed to see or contact me whatsoever – although even i can see 1 fault in this logic… this is when they would simply Dispatch their lieutenants i assume??! or be more covert and sneaky about what they are doing??! to avoid being caught!!!) against these people or is that likely to send them off the deep end??? What sort of response is it likely to illicit from the N??? Would it actually result in making them even more determined to get revenge on you for doing that to them instead of them just hopefully giving up and leaving you be??! Because yea… if its only going to result in a large escalation in her behaviour…. then i certainly wont go through with it… ill just stand my ground and do the things you have said that equate to no contact (erasing her, banishing her and making it so that she just never exsisted… to which i also did as advised and typed, printed and stuck where its in my face daily as she has been managing to have that much control over me from long distance however in the next 1 – 2 weeks… she is moving back to where I live and there capable of a much more brutal attack at hoovering me!!!).
        The other issue is that when it came to the court date… im lacking in a large amount of physical proof as i lost the saved texts etc thru transfering data process and im assuming that she would likely end up being extreamely convincing in the court room in front of a judge… convincing to the point of making ME look like im a nutcase whos full of it and there is nothing wrong with her…. is that a fairly correct assumption???

        Thanks once more HG!!!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          The DVO will be a provocation and also provides a stage for a lament about how horrible you are and look at what you are doing, it is all so unnecessary etc. If this secures your safety and provides you with additional defences in respect of NC then it is a step worth taking, so long of course as you have legitimate grounds. Do not threaten one if you cannot obtain it. If your N is a lesser, the existence of a DVO will most likely result in her backing off or if she does not, she will be arrested as the lesser lacks the guile and function to avoid the legal consequences of violation. A greater would utilise lieutenants to maintain the campaign and ensure a buffer exists between the harassment and the orchestrator to try to defeat the DVO’s effect.
          With regard to the court date, courts are stages for our kind. It is also the case that the female of our kind are able to exploit the still male dominated legal profession and judiciary through an Oscar-worthy performance so you and your lawyer need to be aware of that happening. It will absolutely be the case that she will play the victim and make you out to be the perp. Do not rule out the possibility she may even cross petition for an order against you. Build those defences and gird your loins.

          1. TheFlowerandRock says:

            This is very good advice.

          2. cjhawkes03 says:

            Cheers HG…. SOOO VERRY HELPFUL!!!

          3. HG Tudor says:

            You are welcome.

  13. Courtz says:

    Already started to read it!! Started today and smashed down a quarter of it so far and it sounds just spot on almost to my experiences with this woman!!!
    Thanks for such a speedy response HG

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

    2. nikitalondon says:

      Hi Kurt
      I have also read very sad stories of men suffering imcredible abuse from women … Pretty cruel. And they always complain there is not enough info and media on abused men.
      Welcome here. Its a good place to heal. 🎈🎈

      1. cjhawkes03 says:

        Hi mate… i agree…. there is not enough media or literature around men suffering abuse however “Courtz” is short for Courtney and im actually a female…. i was in a lesbian relationship lmfao (which is even more unheard in the media and literature…. not only women as abusers but also women in homosexual relationships that are abusers!!! She is bisexual…. and she used this as weapon against me many a time by ensnaring other males for a casual sex encounter or even just attention and flaunting etc in front of my face!!! However yes…. we were in a homosexual relationship lol). But thank you anyhow for extending the hand of welcome and i do hope your very right and this will turn out to be the place i need to be to heal from her wounds inflicted!!!!

    3. Leilani says:

      Hello Courtz, would you be so kind as to let me know how your readings went on Seduction and Ensnared? I haven’t touched the books. HG stated it is applicable to both though range varies.

      1. cjhawkes03 says:

        I most certainly can do Leilani!!! Will let you know how i go!!! So far ive only smashed out about the 1st 25% of seduction and the story line has just been almost picture perfect of the female narc in my life!!!! But i will keep you posted as i read further!!!

    4. Leilani says:

      Cool CJ, Cheers to you.

      1. cjhawkes03 says:

        My pleasure!!! And yea… keep u updated on my thoughts lol. Whatever suits you tho… im easy going about it!!! (Just SOOOO VERY GLAD that ive found this site and those books and am getting all the wealth of info and knowledge from HG’s perspective…. so helpful in giving me some real understanding and closure, and also awareness of whats potentially coming my way in the next however long etc etc!!!).

  14. Courtz says:

    I am very grateful for your honesty in sharing these blogs of yours…. I truly am…. But I am just astounded (as I have only just started to uncover and understand why my ex treated me the way she did and why I stupidly kept going back… and only just starting to fully understand the narcissist)… however yes… I am astounded at the depths of cruelty with which NPD ppl will treat others with and think its all just a game!!! Its not a game… it destroys others… which I’m sure you are fully aware of as is anybody reading this!!! Its just yea… having only just started to have my eyes truly opened… I’m just a wee bit astounded at the at how you guys view things as such simple, FUN games which have the power to decimate your victims!!!

    But again… I do thank you for being open and honest enough to share this stuff!! Would love to know so much more about the female narcissist tho as it was a female who has done what she did to me!!!


    1. HG Tudor says:

      Thank you. Although much of what I write is in the masculine it is just as applicable to female narcissists, it’s purely since most of our kind are men. If you want to read about a female narc at work read Seduction and Ensnared.

  15. Soaking it in says:

    Oh why do narcs have to be so charming and funny. There must be a private Narc only convention you all attend to swap stories to reuse. I bet HG your president! Since your only 21 years old that is a Narc achievement!
    I do have a question for you. Is your mother aware of this blog? Is she aware how you are helping others? I suspect she is not aware because surely she would be marching on in with her own comments.
    I think blogging is therapy for you and it’s been wonderful for others in the world to learn from the knowledge you have already gathered and learned. I no sharing this kind of information isn’t going to come from therapy, sitting across the desk or room. I have always known, or so been told, I don’t think like normal people do. Well when I don’t no what normal is and I don’t no anyone with BPD, I can’t help myself or my doctor. When I could see you thought like I did in many areas then I could see where my own problems were. I have always had to learn from other people. I don’t have the lifestyle that allowed me such public exposure to a large variety of people. It’s a true gift for me to read this blog. I hope your family sees some good in it. I have had many of my own revelations between your books and the blog. These experiences I would never have had in therapy with my team of doctors! I hope you have to remain in therapy for many more years to fulfill your agreement. So you can continue your work here, with the rest of us! The irony of this all. Your doing so much good and you have to hide behind a fake name with no real recognition for the good! Wouldn’t it be great if you could come out the other end with your real name on your last book?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Indeed I am Lord Most High Life President, how kind of you to notice.
      No my mother is not aware of this blog. She has no interest in what I do. Oh believe me, if she did know about it SII she could not resist weighing in. She is only interested in still trying to control me.
      Yes writing is part of the treatment. I of course love to write anyway and one day I may even make available for consumption my other output which I daresay will be of considerable interest.
      It is interesting to read that you have experienced your own revelations. Would you care to divulge them?
      You sound like my mother when you express a desire for me to remain in therapy for many more years! There is much more for me to divulge about what I am, what I have done, how I came to be and what I have yet to do. There is so much to inform people of and to explain. During one of my late night writing sessions I had stopped working on the current publication and instead reviewed the learther-bound journal which contains the various titles and planning for each book I wish to write. I had never counted them up before. As I flicked through the pages, I looked at the titles, such as “The Void”, “Dark Cupid”, “Bolthole” and “The Narcissistic Schools” alongwith the other titles which I have referred to recently on the blog and therefore shall not repeat and I totalled up how mnay titles and already planned material I have in the pipeline and the total arrived at 43.
      I receive plenty of recognition for what I do by virtue of the kind words I read here, on the FB page and in the many, many messages and e-mails I receive which are piling up somewhat at present. I obviously welcome all of that.
      The need for anonymity of course is to ensure that what I do both in terms of my personal and professional life is unaffected. Part of the reason why am I so successful is because they do not see me coming and I am not going to queer my pitch by allowing people to know my real identity, not at this stage, anyway. Might I reveal it in my final book? Possibly, but I can promise you that there are going to be some startling revelations along the way before that even happens. I am just getting started. Thank you for reading.

    2. 2mpathetic says:

      When did we find out he’s 21? He is not 21. No 21 year old talks of board games, Flash Gordon movie, Spandau Ballet or uses the word crockery. Jus sayin.

      1. HG Tudor says:

        What is it with you lot and me using the word crockery. It is the correct word. No I am not 21.
        I am 22.

      2. 2mpathetic says:

        22 now that’s a crock!

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Ha ha.

          1. Soaking it in says:

            lol, I think you once said you were 30. I don’t no you might act 5 at times HG I have heard that about Narcs. Now the word Crock. I have not heard that used in such away since I was 2 years old.

          2. HG Tudor says:

            5 ? Come on, I’m nearer 8 surely?

      3. 2mpathetic says:

        30? Nope. Example: Flash Gordon, like 1980. No 30 year old…..OK wait. Only a 30 year old sci-fi nerd would refer to such a thing. (Even though I myself recently watched this movie and posted on FB that they should remake it but keep the music) HG is either the hottest sci-fi nerd on the plant or the hottest older than 30 guy on the planet. I think the latter.
        Just a thought….what if he’s a pimply faced 15 year old, living in his mom’s basement, with an iMac and a high speed Internet connection, plagiarizing narc info from psychology today? U guys wants some mini pizzas? With some fontina cheese? My mom puts a lot on because she’s got the palsy. Look at this flashy thing,,,,lol

        1. HG Tudor says:

          I think my voice destroys that theory.

          1. 2mpathetic says:

            Speak up, I can’t hear you from the basement, I’m watching men in black!

          2. HG Tudor says:

            Keep up with your cheek and I will move you from the basement into the basement well. Then I will lower a copy of Sex and the narcissist just dangling it out of reach.
            ” it says sorry to the master and it gets to read the book”

          3. 2mpathetic says:

            I’m putting on my lotion right now sir!

          4. HG Tudor says:

            That’s more like it!

      4. Miss_stress says:

        Closer to fifty, I dare say.

  16. Yo says:

    The new guy shows some sort of irritation if i dont answer quickly, ” e.g. it took u 1 hour to answer my message”

    Can it be a normal reaction of a person or it s just NARCs reaction?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      If it is repeated this is a warning sign.

  17. 1jaded1 says:

    Gaslighting the board game. Forks in the road…called devaluation scenarios …roll the dice. Tongue in cheek. Twisted me.

    I like the chess piece. Despite N1 and the fact he threw pieces…and I swore I would never play, I reached out to my chessmaster friend. I expect no mercy, but if I ever win, I know he won’t throw pieces up in the air.

    He also plays backgammon. It is such a fun game too.

    What would you have named gaslighting, if you had the time?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I knew all along what it was 1Jaded. I was toying with Dr E. I think the description it already has entirely fits the bill.

      1. 1jaded1 says:

        Okay. That’s where my autistic side comes in. It read like you totally were irritated and didn’t know. Shame on me. Should have known better.

        Off topic, how is brexit treating you? It’s way early but the markets have been volatile. Were you expecting the outcome? If not, do you take it personally? Same with natural disasters, If your house was struck by lightning and your neighbors’ weren’t would you take it as a personal affront as in the universe was out to get you?

        1. HG Tudor says:

          Brexit is fascinating. So many repercussions, financial, legal and political. It has made me very busy as of late. I was expecting the outcome and therefore made moves to protect my interests which I am pleased to say worked. If I had not anticipated it as happening it would have been a conspiracy to cause me aggravation, absolutely the case, but thankfully I read the signs. It will settle down eventually but it has provided lots of entertainment, interest and opportunity in the meanwhile.

      2. 1jaded1 says:

        Fascinating is a perfect word. I’m happy you were able to anticipate. As unpopular of a view of was, I hoped for an exit. The stay was winning when I went to bed. My annoyance turned to joy upon waking. It’s amazing how many of the exits didn’t know what they were voting for and wanted a do over. Times are a changin’. It will be interesting. Thanks for the answer.

  18. Becoming Observant says:

    You have never heard of gaslighting?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Of course I had. Now read it again knowing that fact and see what I was doing.

  19. 2mpathetic says:

    In that case….
    So there we were, uh I mean I was (I’m thinking in we’s already), laying on my chaise sipping a peach Margarita with a double shot of patron. I was reading your new book, Why: Understanding the Narcissist Behavior (book plug=fuel) That I command Everyone buy right now from (stupid sheep, still fuel) and I thought about Coldplay. Chris Martin Empath Extraordinaire sings hymn for the weekend….feeling drunk and high…High? Then it hits me…I was in Colorado last December at Marijuana Mart & seen this hot guy behind the counter…I smile and walk over, lean in close, touch his arm and say “your name tag says HG, what’s that stand for?” He says Home Grown. I sip Margarita then start searching the Denver County land records for Home Grown Tudor…..I’m on u HG and I’m not playing old
    Disclaimer: Marijuana is legal in Colorado so if any of you MI-5, James Bond, Sherlock types wanna arrest HG for selling, he’s totally legit. God damn I would make a great lieutenant.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You do make me laugh. Keep them coming.

  20. nikitalondon says:

    Mean mean 😢😢😢

  21. 2mpathetic says:

    Oh HG,
    What will you do when you meet a chess grandmaster?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Play backgammon.

  22. twinkletoes says:

    This is what I feared would happen at the airport…..

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