The Narcissistic Truths – No. 101
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My narc used to change the subject often when i try to bring up an issue that is bothering me. Definitely control through distraction.
I am also easily distracted and I can forgive and forget quickly. My ex picked up on that in the beginning.
She purposely tried to make me mad at her and then would ask me the next day how I wasn’t upset anymore. I told her I wake up ans it’s a new day to me and I’m not mad or upset at her. I should have been. I was always crying.
HG, can you spot that quickly in an IP?
Is there a certain test that you give?
Yes the capacity for your ability to forgive is something we look for. A simple test is how you react when we spill a drink over you.
Explain this…..like what are the level?
Pissed off- no good fuel/back away slowly
Oh, don’t worry about it- good fuel/potential
Laughs it off-?
My ex had a habit of spilling drinks on me….especially at events or if I was in a really nice outfit feeling good.
Hello SDM, I don’t follow the question. Could you clarify? What level, the fuel? How is pissed off/don’t worry/laughs it off – you or us?
Drink spilling is quite a common tactic of ours. Used to effect an introduction when targeting and also as you have found out to provoke you for the purposes of fuel.
The mind games are the distraction then the dollops of love bombing. It gets to a point where you hate so much being unhappy from the mind games that you happily accept the love bombs to smooth it over. Im guilty of easily forgetting whats been done bc surely it mustnt of been that bad if it feels this good right now?
I suspect the times we get dollops of feel good are when the other supply are getting the dose of mind game and reverse. Its like were on a schedule. I noticed with my narc once i looked closely there were patterns. Hes very into his schedules and not ocd but he likes to keep things going as usual. Id watched a vid on how to keep a narc on their toes and theyd said change things up and dont be your usual predictable self. Ive dabbled a bit in that tip and it seems to work. Hes a bit off when i do this and doesnt know exactly whats going on lol its a bit of respite from the usual “schedule”.
Constant confusion is their aim so youre more pliable.
The hard part is to stay focus on the issue that we are upset about. My narc will go back deep into my past, to get me off of the subject.
I get distracted pretty easily. They don’t have to work that hard on it.
I can’t stay mad for a long time because I forget what I was upset about.
I am MAD at you though, Mr. Tudor!
You’re getting a frown from me right now. Well no, I don’t want wrinkles. You’re getting a ‘thought frown’ and a Grrrr.