The Narc Days of Christmas – No. 7

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19 thoughts on “The Narc Days of Christmas – No. 7”

  1. Sad to this say this actually made me laugh
    It Is so spot on
    Don’t they just love giving the cold shoulder
    the no talking routine
    My advice enjoy the peace and quiet and make the most of it
    Don’t try and talk them round and fuss over them
    Because that’s what they want so they can ignore you all the more

    1. Spot on! Two years ago at Christmas my N went into n/c mode, I bought a dog. This dog has shown me the N for who he is. Buy a dog, the N will hate it because you have shifted your attention away. I’ve found his reaction so funny. Btw the dog knows he’s a bad guy, he still growls and barks at him 😂😂😂

  2. HG- If a mid ranger picks a fight with his girlfriend and they fight for 10 minutes how long would that fuel last before he would need to get fuel from secondary sources or get more fuel from her?

    1. ABW
      That is a tough one. Protect your children as much as you can. My 7-year-old knows her father is a narcissist, she still loves him and I do not want to hurt her feelings. It is very difficult when children are involved. Depending on the age of the children, you may want to consider keeping the gift.

      “We want to control you and draw fuel from you. We use the children to achieve this” – Save The Children

      1. Hi K,

        Yes , unfortunately I know it’s all about fuel, facade and making himself look good in his new appliance ‘s eyes.( he didn’t care much about Xmas gifts during our marriage) but the children don’t… They will not understand. I’ll find the way. I’m not going to keep it ( whatever that is) , not after everything he did to us.

      2. I don’t blame you one bit ABW. It is all about the facade and fuel; they are machines that never stop.

  3. The worst gift ever; I can’t stand silences and being refused communication. But well, now it’s Christmas time and I’ve reciprocated his gift marvellously I might say. For a couple of months now he hasn’t heard a word from me either. And it’s not even a silent treatment; I intend for it to stay that way.

  4. He finally messaged me today after five days. But I had the most validating shocking experience tonight one of his distant cousins that I only met once followed me on instagram and messaged me and what he said was shocking. He told me his cousin only likes people who do what he says and agree with everything he says and don’t argue with him and do work for him and tell him what a great person he is sweet mother of Jesus he was describeing a narc in broken English but didn’t know the word narcissist he told me if I want to have a relationship with his cousin I’ll basically have to agree with everything he says but just secretly do what he wants and he volunteered this info sweet validation. It was fucking amazing pardon my French

      1. No I didn’t bother English is like his fourth language and even a lot of English speakers don’t know what a narc is but he was describing one perfectly without realizing what he was doing he said he had experience with this because his father and older brother are the same way as his cousin my narc so I guess it runs in the family

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