Nope.. never cared …
but when he ignored.. that killed me…
now so nice to have him blocked. All the anxiety is finally gone… hard at first but now I love it!
This was me at the beginning of our relationship. We were both on a mutual site and after a few months someone signs up with the same age, same place of birth…a lot of sames. He started saying things only he and i knew. He wanted me to know it was him. He was himself without the mask on this site. It disgusted me. I confronted him in a way as to not flat out accuse and he played dumb. After that point i was consumed almost obsessed with when he was on the site and his posts etc it was awful 🙁 he really disgusted me. When i look back i see so clearly what i was dealing with. One thing stood out and he was so good at creating a “character” or facade. This was the point i googled it and found out he was a sociopath. Later i found out from HG’s site and works the “whys”. It all clicked into place why he enjoyed me upset, why he liked to play games and gaslight, why when i became comfortable he turned it up a notch. The whys fit into place.
I decided to quit the site and havent been back in years. Its a form of denial on my part bc to stay would mean seeing him in his true form and being upset and obsessed. Things have been way better between us but he still peeks out from behind that mask every so often and i think back to that person.
The obsession while on that site made me physically and mentally sick…never again. Id rather not see that side of him bc itll mean the end.
I don’t know why, but your timing is always uncanny, HG. I checked when I got up and he was and he was on Messenger at 2:00 a.m….and then I find this post. Excellent insight.
Yes, to an extent.
I am so sleepy, goodnight = I am using a different messaging platform to talk to the other one(s).
So I would check. Thank you Skype for providing the invisible status . I often wondered why he didn’t just use the invisible status. Most likely because the other one(s) would question him about it and become suspicious.
Or perhaps he wanted me to see him, to get a reaction from me.
I am 32 and he is almost 37, surely we are too old for these childish games?!
Then again, this is the same man who lies about his location and age (and so many other things ), to meet and interact with women online. Can a Narchole survive on just a virtual fuel matrix? Perhaps he can until he finds just the right appliance. A bit like Goldinarc. Then he will actually do all those things he future faked with me.
He was Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. I liked and cared about Dr Jekyll, I wanted him to win. But in the end, Mr Hyde killed him off. I still miss Dr Jekyll, he wasn’t perfect either but I really liked him.
I think HG would say that it was Mr Hyde all along, Dr Jekyll never existed.
When mine was in legal battle with his ex-wife, he’d say, “It is all about winning; I will win this at all costs.” Disagreeing over extra child support put him in full-on-battle-mode. So HG, I have no doubt that you carry out your mission statement with fervor and that you somehow manage to always come out on top.
Has Gillian recovered from having the wind knocked out of her sail?
Victory or death certainly sounds like a motivator! What does victory look like HG? Or is that too expansive or evolving a concept to answer… I ask this out of genuine curiosity and from good intent. It made me feel sad when I read this thread – typical bloody empath!
Please may I ask for some directions to the relevant works? I am aware that I still have a lot to read and have not come across This topic as yet. Thank you
Sorry HG, I just clocked that this is an older conversation, not sure how I found myself here… I have not participated in any blogs before now, so please excuse my novice antics. And my likely stupid questions, that have probably been answered a million times. ( I think I’m having an ET dominant day ! Can you tell…. lol)
Thank you for taking the time to respond anyway, I appreciate it.
I will just keep reading and pipe down, I feel I have a lot to catch up on.
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This blog is gonna stand the test of time like a classic album. People will find it years in the future and it will save their lives.
Damn right.
HG you have a spelling error! Did you sack your proof reader?
Thank you.
true
Nope.. never cared …
but when he ignored.. that killed me…
now so nice to have him blocked. All the anxiety is finally gone… hard at first but now I love it!
This was me at the beginning of our relationship. We were both on a mutual site and after a few months someone signs up with the same age, same place of birth…a lot of sames. He started saying things only he and i knew. He wanted me to know it was him. He was himself without the mask on this site. It disgusted me. I confronted him in a way as to not flat out accuse and he played dumb. After that point i was consumed almost obsessed with when he was on the site and his posts etc it was awful 🙁 he really disgusted me. When i look back i see so clearly what i was dealing with. One thing stood out and he was so good at creating a “character” or facade. This was the point i googled it and found out he was a sociopath. Later i found out from HG’s site and works the “whys”. It all clicked into place why he enjoyed me upset, why he liked to play games and gaslight, why when i became comfortable he turned it up a notch. The whys fit into place.
I decided to quit the site and havent been back in years. Its a form of denial on my part bc to stay would mean seeing him in his true form and being upset and obsessed. Things have been way better between us but he still peeks out from behind that mask every so often and i think back to that person.
The obsession while on that site made me physically and mentally sick…never again. Id rather not see that side of him bc itll mean the end.
I don’t know why, but your timing is always uncanny, HG. I checked when I got up and he was and he was on Messenger at 2:00 a.m….and then I find this post. Excellent insight.
Geyserempath
Why are you checking?
Narc Angel: Good point!
This is so true. It’s often the reason why I block them. Not so they can’t monitor me…it’s so I stop checking.
Yes, to an extent.
I am so sleepy, goodnight = I am using a different messaging platform to talk to the other one(s).
So I would check. Thank you Skype for providing the invisible status . I often wondered why he didn’t just use the invisible status. Most likely because the other one(s) would question him about it and become suspicious.
Or perhaps he wanted me to see him, to get a reaction from me.
I am 32 and he is almost 37, surely we are too old for these childish games?!
Then again, this is the same man who lies about his location and age (and so many other things ), to meet and interact with women online. Can a Narchole survive on just a virtual fuel matrix? Perhaps he can until he finds just the right appliance. A bit like Goldinarc. Then he will actually do all those things he future faked with me.
He was Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. I liked and cared about Dr Jekyll, I wanted him to win. But in the end, Mr Hyde killed him off. I still miss Dr Jekyll, he wasn’t perfect either but I really liked him.
I think HG would say that it was Mr Hyde all along, Dr Jekyll never existed.
You become obsessed with them PERIOD. Its Truly an Addiction
Correct.
BurntKrispyKeen:
Ditto.
By the way, if you could summarize your mission statement into one sentence, what would it be?
Victoria aut morte.
When mine was in legal battle with his ex-wife, he’d say, “It is all about winning; I will win this at all costs.” Disagreeing over extra child support put him in full-on-battle-mode. So HG, I have no doubt that you carry out your mission statement with fervor and that you somehow manage to always come out on top.
Has Gillian recovered from having the wind knocked out of her sail?
We shall see this week.
Victory or death certainly sounds like a motivator! What does victory look like HG? Or is that too expansive or evolving a concept to answer… I ask this out of genuine curiosity and from good intent. It made me feel sad when I read this thread – typical bloody empath!
Already answered elsewhere
Please may I ask for some directions to the relevant works? I am aware that I still have a lot to read and have not come across This topic as yet. Thank you
Sorry HG, I just clocked that this is an older conversation, not sure how I found myself here… I have not participated in any blogs before now, so please excuse my novice antics. And my likely stupid questions, that have probably been answered a million times. ( I think I’m having an ET dominant day ! Can you tell…. lol)
Thank you for taking the time to respond anyway, I appreciate it.
I will just keep reading and pipe down, I feel I have a lot to catch up on.
That’s okay, no need to apologise.
Well, if you didn’t offer such good advice….