9 thoughts on “The Narcissist’s Social Media Laws – No. 8”
HG,
Random social media question for you. Why would an MRN’s Facebook be empty and non-existent for months if he is having another baby with the IPPS? As in….there is no formal announcement of the pregnancy in the usual “attention whoring” manner that everything else in his life used to be constantly posted about. HOWEVER, the IPPS’ Facebook page shows maternity pictures of herself taken by a professional photographer (where she is posing with their first child). The MRN is NOT in ANY of the pictures.
I continue to scratch my head and be confused about this. Compared to usual social media behavior it is baffling and makes no sense. What gives?
He does not want people to know who might only know about it through social media (rather than being told in person) because that is likely to have an adverse consequence for him from those who see it online.
Could you clarify further about “adverse consequence”? I had a feeling it was to keep things vague for the 2nd (or possibly 3rd) life he must lead? Did I assume correctly?
Oddly ive not found this to be in this particular way with my narc. He gets off on his posts and the attention they draw and will show me to brag and also to covertly triangulate or cause insecurity but hes never expected me to praise his posts. I do so if i like the post but if its a post that has caused conflict i wont. Some of his political posts i wont give him any feedback on and will deliberately ignore. Its funny bc he will keep putting it my face until i respond and ill say oh and thats it. I dont agree with posts meant to cause conflict and anger that doesnt make me feel good like it does him. He finds it funny. The provocation article comes to mind.
On the flipside he does like some of my posts and compliments on them but i think its part of the management of his source- me. Maybe he does like them idk its hard to tell whats real with a narc and they dont even know anymore whats real. The facade becomes reality in many ways.
I meant to add that there has been posts i have responded to bc ive found them downright mean. Once he posted one about michelle obama saying something about her being a transvestite. Idk why people have to be so cruel to others to post garbage like that. I told him it was very mean and that i think shes pretty. Why some trump supporters find it necessary to post this i dont know but i found it disgusting. He didnt say much back but i still to this day find it so odd he can be incredibly sweet with animals and myself but find something like that funny? Degrading a woman. She didnt deserve that post.
You seem like a class act and you deserve more than someone so tacky, no one, least of all Michelle, needs some confused idiot’s approval. (my) Narcy is also into alt-right conspiracy theories, immigrants are why he left the big city (rent prices) – i suspect he missed a father role in his life because that crowd all draws insecure men seeking (absent) male role models – Trump’s their Daddy, but i have no idea about his social media activity around it. He’s a Jewish neo-Nazi, which is sad.
I have seen men like this on the ‘left’ as well, aggressively into whatever trendy socialism! But still compulsively egocentric and writing word salads about it, with sneaky misogyny thrown in. Male feminists who lecture you on feminism Or who feel like the real victims of the #metoo movement – please.
It’s not about the politics, but their ‘condition’.
HG,
Random social media question for you. Why would an MRN’s Facebook be empty and non-existent for months if he is having another baby with the IPPS? As in….there is no formal announcement of the pregnancy in the usual “attention whoring” manner that everything else in his life used to be constantly posted about. HOWEVER, the IPPS’ Facebook page shows maternity pictures of herself taken by a professional photographer (where she is posing with their first child). The MRN is NOT in ANY of the pictures.
I continue to scratch my head and be confused about this. Compared to usual social media behavior it is baffling and makes no sense. What gives?
He does not want people to know who might only know about it through social media (rather than being told in person) because that is likely to have an adverse consequence for him from those who see it online.
Could you clarify further about “adverse consequence”? I had a feeling it was to keep things vague for the 2nd (or possibly 3rd) life he must lead? Did I assume correctly?
Good point.
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Oddly ive not found this to be in this particular way with my narc. He gets off on his posts and the attention they draw and will show me to brag and also to covertly triangulate or cause insecurity but hes never expected me to praise his posts. I do so if i like the post but if its a post that has caused conflict i wont. Some of his political posts i wont give him any feedback on and will deliberately ignore. Its funny bc he will keep putting it my face until i respond and ill say oh and thats it. I dont agree with posts meant to cause conflict and anger that doesnt make me feel good like it does him. He finds it funny. The provocation article comes to mind.
On the flipside he does like some of my posts and compliments on them but i think its part of the management of his source- me. Maybe he does like them idk its hard to tell whats real with a narc and they dont even know anymore whats real. The facade becomes reality in many ways.
I meant to add that there has been posts i have responded to bc ive found them downright mean. Once he posted one about michelle obama saying something about her being a transvestite. Idk why people have to be so cruel to others to post garbage like that. I told him it was very mean and that i think shes pretty. Why some trump supporters find it necessary to post this i dont know but i found it disgusting. He didnt say much back but i still to this day find it so odd he can be incredibly sweet with animals and myself but find something like that funny? Degrading a woman. She didnt deserve that post.
narc affair,
You seem like a class act and you deserve more than someone so tacky, no one, least of all Michelle, needs some confused idiot’s approval. (my) Narcy is also into alt-right conspiracy theories, immigrants are why he left the big city (rent prices) – i suspect he missed a father role in his life because that crowd all draws insecure men seeking (absent) male role models – Trump’s their Daddy, but i have no idea about his social media activity around it. He’s a Jewish neo-Nazi, which is sad.
I have seen men like this on the ‘left’ as well, aggressively into whatever trendy socialism! But still compulsively egocentric and writing word salads about it, with sneaky misogyny thrown in. Male feminists who lecture you on feminism Or who feel like the real victims of the #metoo movement – please.
It’s not about the politics, but their ‘condition’.
But my ‘Aztec sacrifice theory’ was the best!