I experienced the opposite. All he cares about is money. That is why he is leaving me. He says that I didn’t fulfill my part of the bargain because I didn’t finish my schooling, he says I gave up. (I am still working on my schooling). He says I didn’t plan for the future, because I don’t have retirement.( he will be inheriting 4 million dollars and he makes such a big deal over retirement?) He says my job isn’t a real job because it’s low pay and no retirement. He says I don’t contribute financially. That I don’t deserve to have any of the house. If I had become a nurse and applied myself then he would consider giving me half of the house. He says I am a leech no better than the people on welfare. He says I am a miserable person to be around and everyone says I am sharp and direct. He says he wants me to have nothing. He wants me to struggle.
He says he bettered himself. But he has never tried to better himself when it comes to our relationship. I have read books and did everything I could to please him to change myself to be better wife, better cook, to go over and beyond to fulfill his needs. (He gives the bare minimum.) He said he would go to counseling. But not to work things out or to change his behavior. He just wants to go to tell his side of the story. To prove his point. But he doesn’t want to go to a woman therapist because a woman can’t relate to how a man feels or see it from his perspective because she isn’t a man so she couldn’t understand.
I told him that if he considers me giving up on my schooling as not fulfilling my end of the bargain he is doing the same thing. He is abandoning us. He is giving up on us. He is not fulfilling his end of the bargain.
I feel used. He only loved me for what I had to offer him. He never truly loved me just what I did for him. (But apparently he believes I didn’t do anything for him) I gave him 19 years of my life.
The next day I told him I had applied for a new job and suddenly he said Now you’re applying yourself. Your my best friend, I don’t want to screw you over.
He doesn’t want to pay spousal support or child support. He doesn’t want to pay lawyer fees. He doesn’t even want to pay the filing fee for the divorce papers.
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Pretty much everything infuriates these kind… really.
I experienced the opposite. All he cares about is money. That is why he is leaving me. He says that I didn’t fulfill my part of the bargain because I didn’t finish my schooling, he says I gave up. (I am still working on my schooling). He says I didn’t plan for the future, because I don’t have retirement.( he will be inheriting 4 million dollars and he makes such a big deal over retirement?) He says my job isn’t a real job because it’s low pay and no retirement. He says I don’t contribute financially. That I don’t deserve to have any of the house. If I had become a nurse and applied myself then he would consider giving me half of the house. He says I am a leech no better than the people on welfare. He says I am a miserable person to be around and everyone says I am sharp and direct. He says he wants me to have nothing. He wants me to struggle.
He says he bettered himself. But he has never tried to better himself when it comes to our relationship. I have read books and did everything I could to please him to change myself to be better wife, better cook, to go over and beyond to fulfill his needs. (He gives the bare minimum.) He said he would go to counseling. But not to work things out or to change his behavior. He just wants to go to tell his side of the story. To prove his point. But he doesn’t want to go to a woman therapist because a woman can’t relate to how a man feels or see it from his perspective because she isn’t a man so she couldn’t understand.
I told him that if he considers me giving up on my schooling as not fulfilling my end of the bargain he is doing the same thing. He is abandoning us. He is giving up on us. He is not fulfilling his end of the bargain.
I feel used. He only loved me for what I had to offer him. He never truly loved me just what I did for him. (But apparently he believes I didn’t do anything for him) I gave him 19 years of my life.
The next day I told him I had applied for a new job and suddenly he said Now you’re applying yourself. Your my best friend, I don’t want to screw you over.
He doesn’t want to pay spousal support or child support. He doesn’t want to pay lawyer fees. He doesn’t even want to pay the filing fee for the divorce papers.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Ignite and explode.
I will escape.
I will cut contact.
I will save my children.
I will spread the word about narckdom.
With knowledge comes freedom.
I am already free.
I have already succeeded.