A Letter to the Narcissist – No. 87

 

DIVA LETTER

If you had not been so dark, I may never have sought the light

If you had not caused me so much unrest, I may never have valued my peace

If you had not made me feel dread, I may never have appreciated the calm

If you had not been a compulsive liar, I may never have known the real importance of the truth

If you had not exposed me to the highs and the lows, I may never have reflected on the safety of an even keel

If you had not disrespected me, I may never have cherished morals

If you had not coached me on worthlessness, I may never have recognised my own worth

If you had not been so irresponsible, I may never have taken my own responsibilities so seriously

If you had not taught me pain, I may never have felt the immense relief

If you had not directed so much hatred, I may never have worked so hard to spread love

If you had not shown me vitriol, I may never have merited benevolence

If you had not shown me violence, I may never have prized gentleness

If you had not been so incensed, I may never have appreciated harmony

If you had not kept walking away, I may never have stood my own ground

If you had not been so weak, I may never have attained such strength

If you had not been such a coward, I may never have been so brave

If you had not educated me on compartmentalisation, I would never have been able to escape you

If you had not kept me caged, I would never have truly treasured my freedom

If you had not made me feel like I was dying, I would never have realised what it means to live

If you had not orchestrated my demise, I would never have learned how to survive

If you had not found me, I would never have found myself, or HG Tudor

 

Thank you…….I finally found the “good” in goodbye…….R.I.P……..Diva

 

 

6 thoughts on “A Letter to the Narcissist – No. 87

  1. lisk says:

    Brava Diva!

    You’ve inspired me to create my own “If not, then never” list.

    I might need to borrow a few of your items, especially, “If you had not found me, I would never have found myself, or HG Tudor”–and I would have never known the real truth about narcs in general, romantically or otherwise.

  2. Lorelei says:

    Best letter I’ve read—not a gripe session but indicates the ability to re-frame the experience and grow from it.

  3. Sunshine says:

    Absolutely 100% perfect – I am rising to a higher level of consciousness now – its the most incredible abundance I’ve ever felt – I’m the best now!

  4. susisorglos66 says:

    OmG , this is fantastic !! I could have written this letter !! Perfect !! I agree 200% 😉

  5. jessrnny says:

    “If you had not educated me on compartmentalisation, I would never have been able to escape you.”

    Ooh. Ya. What Diva said. A mindset of gratefulness throughout. Many lessons learned. A great strength letter. Would be good for victims to read on the regular.

  6. KellyD says:

    This is a great testament to the fact that it’s not all been wasted time, but rather immensely important lessons learned. Even the good in goodbye, which can be the hardest to accept.

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