Haughty Indicators From Narcissists



We regard ourselves as superior. Even a Victim Narcissist has a superior view of himself, he is special because of his illness and infirmity and this means that he should be treated better than everybody else. The Somatic Narcissist is better looking, physically fitter and has a tighter bottom than anyone else. The Cerebral Narcissist is cleverer, more intellectual, a brilliant advocate and has a brain the size of a planet and as for the Elite of us, well not only do we look great we are dazzling, witty, entertaining and knowledgeable, superior in every department to the likes of you. This lofty sense of ourselves is apparent all the time because we feel no need to hide our light under a bushel. Oh, we may attach some false modesty to some of our brags and boasts but it is only done to generate an ever more appreciative response from people around us. We like to remind people about our superiority repeatedly. It appears during seduction but you will naturally regard it as an attractive quality then, labelling it as confidence, a dynamic approach, someone who shows no fear and gets things done, an achiever, somebody successful and who doesn’t want to be associated with such a person. Accordingly, our superiority will be exhibited in plain sight but portrayed as good thing. It continues during devaluation as we repeatedly remind you that we are the master, you are the servant, we are in charge and you are not, we do and you are done to. Even when we hoover you we remain superior because someone who wants you back after the way you have behaved or someone who (falsely) recognises their own shortcomings must surely be superior mustn’t they? The unleashed smear campaign is another piece of our superiority. We are not smeared are we? We are impervious to it, nobody would dare do it and if they tried nobody would believe them because our innate superiority embodied in the façade that we have created. Every single step of your dance with our kind exudes our superiority. It is felt, seen, heard and witnessed, from the way we behave with you through to the way that we behave with others. It is natural to us and therefore should be expected. It is also necessary. If we are not superior to you, we cannot be in control. If we are not in control, then how can we keep you providing us with fuel? Our superiority is necessary. Our superiority is always evident. Here are twenty ways in which we demonstrate our superiority through the things we say.

  1. I don’t do domesticated
  2. I would never shop there. It is for the great unwashed.
  3. I wouldn’t expect you to understand what I am saying but you could at least try.
  4. Someone has to lead, someone has to make decisions.
  5. Don’t expect me to do something like that.
  6. Don’t be sorry, be accurate. Like me.
  7. I don’t have time for this.
  8. That isn’t something I would ever be found doing.
  9. People like me are above things like that.
  10. Yes, well it is about your level isn’t it?
  11. Don’t worry about it, how would you ever know that?
  12. These things are best left to people like me.
  13. It can be tough at the top you know.
  14. I don’t shovel shit.
  15. Do I look like a cleaner to you?
  16. I have more important things to do.
  17. This is minutiae and beneath me.
  18. Come back when you earn as much as I do.
  19. Show me a good loser and I will show you a loser.
  20. Do you know who I am?

14 thoughts on “Haughty Indicators From Narcissists

  1. Pati says:

    HG my husband would for sure comment on the picture cover. Since he has all his hair no thinning at his age (he is in his mid 40’s) he always says to men his age oh what shampoo do you use ? Or he would call them hi curly . So mean,then he turns around and tells me you should be lucky to have a handsome guy like me. Like whatever so what ! HG why are Narcs so conceited?

  2. Whitney says:

    HG on my first Narc detector I loved when you used Haughty. I didn’t know that word and it gives me power to understand.
    Since then they’ve all been haughty

    1. HG Tudor says:

      Most narcissists are, Whitney

  3. Lori says:

    Can a Lesser be an Elite?. I know I was involved with a Lesser. Somatic but he also has a lot of characteristics of a Cerebral as well. The way it looks to me is that when he was younger he was very much the Lesser Somatic but now due to aging and the internet seems to gain fuel from being more Cerebral? Is that possible ?

    1. HG Tudor says:


      1. Pati says:

        HG I thought that their Cadre and School never change ?

    2. Lori says:

      Wow that explains a lot. For some reason I had it in my head that a lesser could not be an Elite. I could never reconcile how this guy had elements of both cerebral and somatic yet without question be a lesser. While this guy does not have a lot of formal education, he is quite knowledgeable on certain topics. Now it all makes sense.

      Thank you

  4. WAF Tudorita says:

    Younger victim narc also is special bc the world won’t give him a chance, addiction, poverty so can’t pay support, (but CAN buy fast food cigs beer) – life just dealt him a bad hand, yes? One disaster after another gets in the way of accountability?

  5. Bibi says:

    When provoked, I have said some of these very things to narcissists, very calmly and without emotion. That’s gotta sting. I will fight back.

    “Now you’re being as cold as you’ve accused me of being!” Remember that one? Feel the burn, bitch.

  6. Em says:

    I heard most of these from my ex husband LesserN / never did household or parental duties. Beneath him. And from the next one too – plus … it’s not good enough for me – it’s only for the proletariat.

  7. Kathleen says:

    Thanks HG- As usual-i love the lists! It’s helpful and validating to list real life examples of generic narc traits. DSM and typical psych info limits the disorder to abstract behavior and terms -haughtiness, grandiosity, and preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success etc.
    If reading those words alone a person would likely be left scratching their head and thinking- well they don’t seem to..- just too limiting and clinical. Plus the greater, midrange and lower “present” so differently.
    Your work is great in how it so often depicts real life examples one may see from a mid, lower and greater and the salami-slicing situations and behaviors so many of us have experienced.
    DSM Decoder series?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      You are welcome.

    2. Lori says:

      They present so differently that I failed to see it in the last one. I had previously been involved with a mid ranger but this last one was a lesser and they presented completely different. The mid ranger was the Cassmova type and the Leaser was the rough troubled soul that had rough childhood. type. The Leaser you mistake for that really masculine type that isn’t that comfortable discussing emotions Thesw two couldn’t have been more different on the surface but as time went I see how they were very much the same.

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