A Letter to the Empath – No. 1


Ren´s Letter



This is a series whereby you get to write to the empath, namely yourself in order to impart your knowledge wisdom from where you are now to your past self at the beginning or in the midst of the narcissistic entanglement.


Dear An English Rose

I am your future self. I have hopped into my TARDIS and transported back to this day, five years ago to the day for me in 2020. No, we cannot meet. That would be disastrous to our time lines and the causal nexus.
Right now, you perceive you have escaped. You cannot know  what an unbelievable achievement that is. What you have done is utterly mind boggling stupendously awesomely brilliant. He would have killed you if you had stayed, you know? You have escaped, for now. So let out that breath. You are safe for the time being.
Ahh, I’ve triggered a memory haven’t I? I see you now frantically pushing it back. No, I don’t want to hear your excuses as to why you kept your head down. In realty, you probably did the right thing but for the wrong reason. I’m sorry, I do not mean to sound so harsh but then, you are mentally ill from what has happened to you and your mind has sought to protect you from the full horror of what you have experienced your entire life. That day will come when it all unfolds and when it does, you must be very brave and very strong.
But for now, I do know what is in the forefront of your mind. You are thinking about the furniture for the cottage, perhaps taking some more cheeky pictures (give me strength) and of course how the children will acclimatise to their new life? You will achieve all of this and more. The big problem is that right now, you cannot appreciate how much of your life has been built on shifting sands. But I mustn’t say too much. I don’t want you altering where I am right now. I can say though that 2019 will be a pivotal year for you. We are going to be tested in ways that would seem to be very hell on earth. But you/me/us will get through it. No, it cannot be avoided. That particular timeline was set in motion back in the September of 1995 and is a fixed point. It cannot be altered and it was always to to turn out this way. People act within their own natures and he would never have been able to change his. Or you, yours for that matter.
You are about to go on one hell of a ride. The ride of your life. You will meet people, experience things, achieve in ways you cannot even possibly comprehend now. What can I tell you? Hmm, you will meet an ex-solider who is not what he seems, a very sly biker, a knight (have fun with him!), a very angry man and of course Loki.The man who you are with and gave you your name will not last but I know you know that. He will disappear, you’ll never see him again. All of these relationships you must experience because one day, a great teacher will appear and you will finally understand.
But there are other matters, not just about relationships. You will go on to write (Yeah I know! We always hated that at school), you will help others and sometimes you will be attacked for it. You will go on to develop theories concerning chaos, causality, entropy and boundary conditions (remember those? THEY’RE BACK!) You will even question the nature of time itself. Sometimes you will believe you are going mad; you are not. I had ourselves tested. Twice. I’ve got the certificate somewhere…
Right now, you are going to have fun and fun you shall have. Don’t take on too much, be kind and gentle with yourself and remember that people are not what they seem so do not trust so easily!
Take care of yourself
P.S Be VERY wary of March ’18/’19 and ’20
P.P.S DON’T spend any money on therapy, it’s fucking pointless!
If you would like to write a Letter to the Empath, please do so and email it to narcissit1909@gmail.com headed “Letter to the Empath”.

17 thoughts on “A Letter to the Empath – No. 1

  1. Presque Vu says:

    Renarde what a beautiful beautiful well written letter!
    I loved the way it was designed to speak to yourself from years ago. It was like you had 5 mins in the Dr Who Police box to go back to that very moment and calm and reassure her. I loved how you said things will happen and they cannot be changed because of where you are now (in a good place). It was really touching, creative, honest and soul searching. Bravo!

    1. Renarde says:


      Thank you! Lovely words x

      I know all of us have many letters in us, I coud have picked the one who was just about to meet the UMS when 20. But it was the date you see. Five years to the day. That’s when I saw HG’s post and thought ‘Aye aye!’

  2. Violetta says:


    Thou rockest.

    I wasn’t going to.write one, because I knew I’d never listen to any warnings, but you’ve done something much better: you told your younger self all the good things you will achieve after the narc has supposedly destroyed your life.

    1. Renarde says:


      At the end of the day, after everything that’s been and gone down with the UMS I have the solace that I did not lie AND my children do not know the full truth. They are much to young to know.

      I have no regrets. He would have have destroyed me during the formal or afterwards and I mean post-weaponisation, if I had simply just decided ‘forget’ what HG writes about.

      I couldn’t do that. They will learn the truth. Others now in the family are aware, information is being disseminated and will do so for years.

      He stole my children then lied to cover his crimes. It’s that simple.

      Thank you lovely x

  3. Renarde says:

    P.S Love the picture HG and thank you for publishing my letter.

    1. HG Tudor says:

      No problem.

    2. Kristin says:

      First and foremost, I am so happy that you were able to escape and that you found pride in yourself which is well deserved! Your letter was beautiful, well written and more importantly, gave me hope. You addressed the self-doubt, the affect your ex-narc had on your mental health, the fear of the unknown and the affect leaving would have had on your children.

      I will admit that I broke down upon reading your letter but it was exactly what I needed to hear at this point. I am nervous around my narc husband and the fear and trepidation I have about leaving, after so many years of marriage, is absolutely paralyzing. To read your story and see that you survived helps put my situation is perspective. Logically I know I will be in a better place in many ways after I weather the storm that will emerge. HG is helping me reduce my ET and overcome the fear which will enable me to leave and prevent a mental breakdown.

      Thank you so much for your letter Renarde and thank you too, HG for posting it. 😘

      1. HG Tudor says:

        You are welcome.

      2. Renarde says:


        Oh lovely. I know that feeling that you describe very well indeed.

        In many ways, you have made the most difficult decision. Realising that the relationship is over. That’s an enormous step in itself. Now you are planning your exit strategy.

        You will weather the storm. You are going to get through this and we are all here. As well asd HG of course.

        Thank you for your words


        1. Kristin says:

          Thank you Renarde. Your letter will continue to inspire and encourage many. Congratulations on being the first and Happy Easter!

          1. Renarde says:


            You too! x

  4. Renarde says:

    Who-hoo! I got Empath Letter #1!

    WC and Kiim-E Thank you so much! Love you guys! X

    I have a very busy few days here. After weeks of nothing on the psychic airwaves, it hit a few days ago, right before the full moon.

    I had three messages within an hour (not hoovers). Then my parents in a roundabout way asked me to care for them. PN is in a very high risk category. Mum has been caring for him full time for over a year. Now she can only walk with sticks.

    Then to cap it all off, my Tom decided to bring in a baby hare, a leveret.

    So after chatting in the very early hours of the morning to a very prominent Occult author on the lead up to CV19, things that he had recorded during meditation in a cave abroad and of course what I had been recording in my journals; I finally got to sleep around 3.30.

    ONLY to be woken by said baby hare jumping on my face at 7 IN THE MORNING!

    NS, the next day I was shattered. I spent the day talking to others’ relaying messages and soothing troubled brows.

    I did manage to rescue the hare and let it out where it scampered away.

    Of course, I know my parents well. As HG says they grab fuel, in the now and of course, despite my very best reservations I did agree to help them. Putting my own life on hold. And of course, last night, not only did they not acknowledge my sacrifice they said ‘Oh, we don’t want you now. We don’t want you to talk about the UMS’

    Of course you don’t, you fuckers because you know damn well what you did.

    That woman who birthed me said ‘you just need to forget about it and move on’.

    Forget my children? Oh well done ma. My god you are a fucking idiot. Because not only have you even shown a basic lack of cognitive empathy, you have just shown me how little I mean to you.

    So guess what? I’ve had to sit here today knowing that the hoover will come and what I will say when it does?

    The answer is now a very firm and very clear NO. There is not enough money minted for me to want to help you both now.

    You’re on your own kids. Beds? Lie in it.

    1. Violetta says:

      This proves you’re a good person, because I would have made Easter Rabbit Stew.

      1. Renarde says:


        But he was soooo ickle!!!

  5. WhoCares says:


    I like the themes in this letter: honesty, self-forgiveness, pride, strength and humour. Glad that empath escaped!


  6. Kim e says:

    A mixture of pain and success. I said it before and I will say it again….You are awesome❤️❤️

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