I Love You and I Always Have

I LOVE YOU (AND I ALWAYS HAVE)

 

This is a well-used phrase by our kind and is wheeled out with regularity during love-bombing. At face value and of course that is how you will take it because you are in the midst of a veritable whirlwind of compliments, flattery and passion, this seems a straight forward enough comment to make.

However there is far more to it than meets the eye. Just as we operate from a different perspective to you, we also utilise language in a different way and one of the key ways of tackling our kind is to understand what we are REALLY saying when we use these delicious phrases and appealing comments.

So, what do my kind really mean when we say “I love you and I always have”?

My need to seduce you is considerable and therefore I will use language which will appeal to you and be so outlandish that it will blow you away. I do not actually love you. I do not love in the way that you do. I understand that the closest I come to it is infatuation. I am not in fact infatuated with you but more precisely with what you can do for me.

My needs are paramount. Yours are largely irrelevant. I write irrelevant because I do take them into account during the seduction but after that they are thrown to one side, but that is something different and not the purpose of explaining what I mean when I say the above phrase to you.

I say I love you and mean I am infatuated with you. I am infatuated with three things that you will give me through my successful seduction of you.

  1. Fuel, the most important item;
  2. Useful traits which I can apply to my construct and parade as my own achievement, characteristics and accomplishments to make me appear even more attractive to you and other people (and thus get more fuel); and
  3. Residual benefits such as a roof over my head or getting you to pay for things.

I want those three things. I want the fuel most of all but the other two matter as well. To get those things I need to seduce you. To seduce you I need to say things like this, grand statements which will amaze you and sweep you off your feet. Why will it have this effect? Well, because you are a love devotee. As an empathic individual one of your traits is that you are a love devotee.

This means you belief very much in the concept of love, how love is wonderful, how love can conquer all, how love crosses any boundary and love is amazing, splendid and the best thing in the world. I know you are a love devotee because I have studied you before I approached you. With this knowledge I know that making a statement like the one above will resonate with you considerably for the following reasons: –

  1. As a believer in love you want to hear that someone loves you;
  2. You want this love to be grand, sweeping and extraordinary. By explaining that I have always been in love with you, I achieve this. It is a statement which conjures up images in your mind’s eye of me waiting for years before I picked my moment to tell you, of me sitting with my love burning away and how you have never noticed. It appeals to you to think in such terms. It is romantic and glorious.
  3. I will have plausibility on my side. I may know you already as we may be friends or colleagues. I may be a neighbour. I may be your therapist even. If I do not know you in detail, we may know each other by sight and the occasional hello from attending the same gym or such like. You may not know me but I will generate (fabricate) a back story that I have watched you from the coffee shop every day as you walk past (once I have established that you do so) and I have been in love with you. This plausibility overcomes any natural hesitance you may have. The immensity of the love factor in this statement will overcome any slight scepticism you may have, that having been eroded already by the plausibility.

Saying this statement is a direct shot at your heart and is part of the harpoon strike that we engage in when we are seducing a victim.

It is not true however. We have chased plenty of people before you. We may have only set eyes on your two days ago and we do not love in the manner that you do. Everything about this statement is false, it serves our purpose to seduce you and to do so quickly.

 

4 thoughts on “I Love You and I Always Have

  1. Mercy says:

    I always doubted too truth seekers, even straight up calling BS. My problem was hope. Hoping I was wrong. Also thinking I could handle not being loved as long as my needs were met. Somehow in the chaotic confusion my needs became his needs and my hope became a desperate attempt to make him acknowledge my needs.

    1. Mercy,
      I agree. There are two silent assassins for me. Guilt, and hope. We might not be overtly romantic, but we really can fight!
      I think I was the opposite way to you. My needs were not being met but I truly cared for him and truly felt that he cared for me too. I just hoped that that somehow would be enough to fix everything. That the fairytale ending would come if I just stuck at it.
      Awww, that’s love devotee again isn’t it? Maybe I’m going to have to begrudgingly give up that point ! Ha ha
      It’s the strangest situation when you are caught up in it isn’t it? You really cannot see what is going on. I’m just now starting to see little sections of it more clearly. I think you are too.

    2. Fhyde says:

      Same here

  2. truthseeker6157 says:

    I have to disagree here.
    Technically yes, love devotee shows up in my traits. I know why it’s there. I do see a loving relationship as being necessary for happiness. That doesn’t necessarily mean that I fall for lines though. Even when uttered by a narcissist, whilst flashing his most winning smile and his best puppy dog eyes. I cannot be in the minority here. Similarly if I am in the minority and this approach is a trick of the trade then I might be naturally narc proof! Go me !
    I might be content to spend my day kissing someone ( if they’re good and hold me right) but that doesn’t mean I’m going to buy in to lines such as ‘I have always loved you.’ Likely response from this empath would be, ‘Aye Right.’ Too obvious.
    I did say I was a bad empath!

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