Are you or is somebody you know chained to the narcissist?
Are you a co-dependent? What does this mean?
How did you become this way? How does the narcissist know what you are?
How does the narcissist exploit this condition and how might you escape him?
These questions and more are posed and answered in this fascinating book. Delivered direct from the dark-hearted master, the narcissist provides his unique observations on those who are co-dependent and find themselves chained to the narcissist.
19 thoughts on “Chained”
Dear HG the God,
I missed my sport tonight (with the one who choked me) and went out with my friend instead.
I will regain the peace of clear thoughts. I will stop my addiction to chaos and bizzareness.
I’ve done worse things than a Narcissist. I will live a simple life now. With the complete honesty I had before my first ensnarement with your kind.
The devastation caused by your kind is long lasting HG. Your work is truly heroic.
I want an autographed copy of Chained in paperback with the new cover. Do you think the Elves could whip that up for my stocking?!
The elves are busy fixing the toilet seat, removing scratches to my Depeche Mode vinyls and replacing my moisturisers MB. Blame your fellow readers.
Even the elves are under the control of The Ultra!
Naturally. On a serious note, I would oblige you but it would not arrive for you in time for Christmas MB as I am overseas lurking in the depths of forests and such like.
Thank you HG. How kind of you to write that. Please be careful out there lurking. I worry about you!
Just being accurate MB.
Do not worry. Nothing defeats HG.
Hahaha – HG.
One of my favorite H.G books, right after “Sex and the Narcissist” 😉
But of course.
The Sex book is the best! Chained has been on my ‘to purchase’ list for a while.
Read it! It´s goooood! I loved it. But yes, the best is the Sex-book 😉 😀
It’s probably the only most frank book on sex available for real people……
Do Co-Ds *EVER* escape?
Read the book, the answer lies within.
I can’t. I have SO MUCH I haven’t read in queue!
Read this one next BC30!
I wish I had read it earlier. Certain things fell into place when reading it. I have Codependent as a minority element.
It’s interesting how the various minority elements show themselves. Some behaviours are absent then others really leap out.
Decision making. No problems there. I will defer occasionally but only if I think the other person has more specialty in that area. Choosing a mortgage for example. I usually deferred there. Otherwise, I just decide and sell it through if needed to ensure I get what I want. (narcy!)
Conflict resolution. Oh yes. I will do everything in my power to resolve conflict even though I hate conflict. I can stay calm, re phrase, summarise, influence, I’ll stand my ground and do it all to try and diffuse. More so as the third party, I will sometimes withdraw if personally involved in the conflict. I’ll only fight when I think I can win. Or I’ll bide my time until I can win. Likely a different element comes into play there.
Really glad I read this. It’s fascinating and I can see why my codependent element contributed to my interacting with the narcissist longer than I should have. It has made me feel better about things. Less frustrated with myself.
If the empath has a Codependent element in the school make up, I think it’s a must read. It certainly answered a lot of questions for me. Brilliant book!
I have literally all schools and cadres except Co-D. I suspect the IPPS is a Co-D, and for that reason, I not emotionally ready for it.
(I also do truly have a lot more to read in the meantime.)
I remember you saying you had a mix of schools and cadres wrapped up in the bundle that is you!
Totally understand why this one can be placed on the back burner for another time. Xx