Why The MatriNarc Knows Best
“I love you.”
“I have heard this is a good one for getting a reaction from you because this is what you always want to hear.”
“You won’t ever amount to anything.”
“Not while I am interfering in every facet of your life, controlling you and making your childhood and your adult life one long battle.”
“I just thought I would call you and see how you are.”
“You do not give me enough fuel. You are an ungrateful son/daughter and I regret the day I gave birth to you.”
“It is my birthday next week and I just wondered if you had anything planned.”
“I expect something lavish and spectacular so I can be centre stage. If you haven’t planned such an event you are cruel and uncaring, just as I always thought.”
“I am proud of you.”
“For once you have done something I approve of and now I can take all the credit for it.”
“You were quite a challenge when you were younger.”
“I thought you might resist my cold-hearted manipulation of you, but I broke you in the end.”
“I suppose you have heard the sad news about your Uncle Paul dying?”
“A death! A funeral! Such a wonderful stage for me to dominate and all those relatives to suck fuel from.”
“I am trying to help you,you know?”
“I am trying to control you, stop resisting me.”
“I have done so much for you. All I want is some thanks.”
“I think I have done so much for you. I need some fuel.”
“It was a joke. You take yourself so seriously.”
“It was not a joke. Damn you for seeing through it. I need to back track quickly so I am not accountable.”
“You were an accident.”
“Go on cry and make me feel powerful.”
“Your father and I have discussed this as we think…”
“I have decided….”
“Your father agrees with me so there is no point running to him.”
“Your father knows better than to contradict me.”
“I had such high hopes for you.”
“You aren’t doing what I want.”
“That never happened.”
“It did but you are not allowed to hold that against me.”
“We never thought you would leave home.”
“You were not meant to move out of my control.”
“We hardly ever see you these days.”
“You should be providing me with fuel more often.”
“You weren’t like this when you were little.”
“You were so much easier to control back then.”
“I don’t love you.”
“I don’t love you. I never have.”
18 thoughts on “Why The MatriNarc Knows Best”
My friend’s mother is a narc.
My friend has told me about the mean things her mom says. It’s awful.
We are both going to visit family over the summer, but she is dreading her visit. Makes me sad for her, but I’ll be here to listen when she gets back.
How strange, it seems my mother hacked the site…
Haha, yours, mine and several others! 😂
And my father too 😮
“Why The Matrinarc Knows Best” – Bollocks to that – I knew better than her, even when she was alive. I know even more now, and, now I am even better than she ever was. Knowing that, gives me such great pleasure and self-satisfaction.
“You were an accident” – yup, the bitch said that to me. Lucky me, to have my own ‘empath grenade’ that I threw back at her, many years later…. “I didn’t ask to be born”, a ‘404’ followed. Ho, hum.
Love your first paragraph, AspEmp. You are so loud and proud in that statement, and it gives me pleasure just to read it. There’s an incredible strength in being able to take back what is yours, and it sounds like that is just what you have done <3
There are parents who are undeserving of their children. Your mother sounds like one of them. For me, rather than say some people should not have children, I think I prefer some people are undeserving of them. There is not a child who comes into the world who is not deserving of their parent's love. I guess your grenade found its mark xox
Thank you LET. Yes, I took back my ‘life’ where that bloody bitch is concerned. I agree on your words “some people are undeserving of them”. Power to the Empath’s Grenades 😉
💗 you did!!
Yas! I did !!
Patri Narc bypasses 404-moments by asking questions:
“Excuse me, what?”
“What happened then?”
“What did they say?”
“Were you angry?”
His instincts sound as if they are highly tuned…… or is he aware of his narcissism?
He is an unaware Upper Mid Ranger but he´s a high-functioning narcissists with decent intellect. He reads body language very well and hears from your voice how you feel. Mostly he gets it right, just sometimes he bypasses the 404-moments by asking questions.
Laughing at “just sometimes he bypasses the 404-moments by asking questions” – probably what a lot of the MRs do ! Deflection at it’s best 😉
I have only seen the 404 😳 in a Middle Mid Ranger Type A. Surprisingly, my Upper Lesser Typ A Ex mostly got it right.
I’ve seen it in Lesser, MRs…… and mother (dunno what school she was but obviously the lower end of the spectrum LOL). Yeah, my smart-mouth can give plenty of 404s !!
Same for the Patri Narc:
“You haven´t called for a quite while…”
Where is my fuel?
“Of course you can try XY but if I may give you a good advice….”
How dare you going your own way? You fucking better do what I want!
“I´m only trying to help you”
I assert control and you fucking better do what I want!
“You´re so stubborn”
You´re not doing what I want
“Mr. XY (neighbor), this is my daughter Leela and she is [academic degree in NobodygivesaShit]”
Look at me what i great father I am!
“And was that situation problematic for you?”
Damn! Data not found! Gotta figure out the right reaction!
“It´s so nice to see you again”
It´s fuel party!
I love the way you give us more examples, Leela … that last one is a classic!
Thank you, LET! 🥰 Just telling what I observed with my Upper Mid Range Somatic Patri Narc. I´m not fully NC by the way, only ANC. 🙂