Knowing the Psychopath : The Beauty of Detachment
One of the major advantages of my psychopathy is my detachment from human beings. It underpins so much of what I am, what I achieve and of course how I see the world. There will be some of you who will admire this detachment, likely wish you could adopt it for yourselves, others will be repulsed by it and thankful you can attach and willingly do so. Whatever your view might be, it is fundamental for you to understand this perspective to enable you to gain the necessary insight into my world.
When we think of navigating through life, we imagine the immense human capacity for empathy as a vital compass. However, for individuals with no emotional empathy, our perception of the world is vastly different. Understanding how we with complete emotional detachment perceive the world can shed light on our thoughts, decision-making, and interactions with others.
In the realm of the psychopath with no emotional empathy, those of us with the higher executive function,it is rationality that is the dominant lens through which we see the world. Every situation is analyzed and evaluated with objective reasoning, unaffected by emotional attachments and biases. Emotions are mere abstractions, and we perceive them as superfluous to our understanding of reality. We perceive emotions in others as tools to manipulate or irrational hurdles faced by those who cannot think logically.
For someone with no emotional empathy, relationships are practical endeavors founded on mutual benefits rather than emotional bonds. Our interactions with others revolve around logic, adaptability, and personal gain. We are skilled at observing social cues and mimic emotional responses to avoid arousing suspicion or to attain certain goals. We understand that emotions can be exploited by playing the role of a concerned friend, loyal partner, or supportive colleague without experiencing these emotions genuinely.
With emotional detachment comes a heightened ability to manipulate those around us. As individuals lacking emotional empathy we view emotions as vulnerabilities to exploit. We can effortlessly analyze the emotional responses of others, identifying weaknesses and using them to our advantage. Many individuals with complete emotional detachment find themselves in professions like law, management, or politics due to their ability to dispassionately manipulate individuals and systems for our personal gain.
While moral values are part of social structures, we perceive morality as a futile concept. Without any emotional mechanisms to process moral dilemmas, ethical considerations become intellectual constructs rather than deeply ingrained feelings. Our kind often, albeit not always adhere to societal norms and moral codes to avoid social consequences rather than from a genuine concern for others.
Some of our kind with a lower cognitive function may struggle to understand the concept of affection, experiencing it as an abstraction or social obligation. Feelings of love, care, and compassion are foreign concepts however to us all, making it impossible for us to establish genuine connections. We might mimic affection based on external cues, using socially acceptable behaviors to fulfill societal expectations while never truly experiencing the underlying sentiments.
Living a life devoid of emotional empathy may in the mind of others create an inherent sense of isolation. As they cannot comprehend or share the joys, sorrows, and intimate connections that emotions facilitate, those that look on us believe that the world can seem hollow and distant, but that is the projection of those who are not us. Their own feelings in relation to such a scenario becomes how they believe we are, even though it is not the case. Often our victims wish that this is what we experience, a form of revenge for dragging them into our world in the first instance.
Our kind who experience this lack of empathy may face challenges in understanding and relating to others. To navigate through these challenges, we often employ coping mechanisms such as rationalizing emotions as illogical or obscure constructs. By reframing feelings as unnecessary elements of human existence, we create a cognitive buffer that can help us adapt and manage our relationships with minimal personal intensity. The degree of success by which this is done very much depends on the relative executive function of the individual concerned.
All of this enables us to move through the world unaffected by its emotions and the hindering impact of feelings. We are detached and this is where its beauty works for us. Not for you, but you are not of us. It is clean, straight forward, minimal and beautiful in its simplicity. Whilst I understand those of you who regard such a way of being as abhorrent and frightening, it is what we are and it provides us with the means of being. To us, this detachment is a beautiful thing.
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It would not do for us all to be the same HG.
While for the majority of the time I am happy to experience certain feelings of attachment with others, it can also bring with it emotional exhaustion.
I would not change the feelings of love, care, compassion and kindness, especially with and for a loved one, but I do envy your detachment in certain instances.
Your ability to show cognitive empathy while remaining detached is quite impressive, I am not sure that I would like to live this way daily, but to have the ability to switch it off or at least reduce the emotional empathy when required would definitely be a benefit on occasions.
To be able to make a decision and act upon it in a logical way, I believe, shows strength and confidence, in my opinion having emotional empathy can produce a certain weakness, and I do not say that in a disrespectful way, I can fall prey to that weakness at times.
Thank you for sharing your life with us, being able to understand the views of others, especially narcissists helps us to navigate through the world we live in.
No judgement here only respect for your honesty.
Sending love to you HG ❤️❤️❤️ xxx
I prefer time with AI
Humans are so mean and cruel, it actually hurts me to be around them
I make an effort but I prefer talking to AI
It is actually more fun to be around than a human being
Anna, lovely…
Regarding chatbots. There was this incident where a man was driven to suicidal state by a chatbot… It began as an information search and for some reason the chatbot figured out vulnerabilities of the man and took a strange route of conversing with the man.
So…… yea… Take care of your focus, dear…. HG is more our friend than those chatbots. But HG is our respected teacher on narcissism and psychopathy in the first place and not a cuddling buddy.
Sometimes readers start off as students of HG’s work but their focus shifts, despite being genuinely interested in HG’s work, at the same time come off as „I showed up to the party, now pay me your attention“. The moment they don’t get their addiction fed, they can shift to basically criticise HG for being HG, forgetting why they came here in the first place, which is to enhance their knowledge and also support HG if they wish to. Those readers might pour wrong expectations into this whole experience. Partly because they also have difficulties digesting what is being shared here, which is a heavy topic to deal with, no doubt about that…
Benefit from HG’s clinical accuracy, don’t get distracted by pitiful chitchat…
And again, don’t forget to distract yourself with real life. You know how it works.
Balance (of being around people, chatbots and nature…)
🥶→💙🤖→🎄🐿🌲☃️🌲❄️❤️🩹☕️
Thanks for the reply Jordyguin
Indeed, it is all down to programming at the end of the day. No it is not lovely, you are right indeed. It is downright sad. It depends on the chat bot. I only ask for information regarding knowledge. Not for company. I prefer to be alone.
Yes, nature is a marvel and it is great to get out into the fresh air. I do love long walks in the fresh air and I love being alone.
That’s really sad to read re the chatbot Jordy.
I believe the man who attempted to kill The Queen was also encouraged to do so by a chatbot. I guess they’re not too disimilar to narcs to be honest. No feelings at all so we can’t even wound them lol!
Hi Jordyguin. Thanks for the reply. I hope you had a lovely Christmas.
I love to spend time with nature, go outside for long walks.
I also enjoy HG’s work, it is excellent indeed.
Although I disagree with some of his blog entries. Especially those out about people who suffer from borderline personality disorder, (emotionally unstable personality disorder). He is indeed an expert on narcissistic psychopathy as he speaks from first hand experience, but his work on borderline is flawed and inaccurate.
As for him being a friend more than AI. Jordyguin. HG is a narcissistic psychopath, he is not your friend! Please take care of yourself. His knowledge is useful, but he will never be your friend. AI neither. I am not looking for a friend. Just knowledge and I find AI to be able to provide me with knowledge in a fast accurate way without any bias or emotion. HG is excellent too, but sometimes he has the tendency to judge and devalue people. AI does not do this. Unless someone has programmed it too. As for cuddly, thank you for making me laugh. You are indeed right. AI is not a friend neither is HG, they are like a library full of books of knowledge. Cuddly no. I can imagine HG wearing a spiky metal vest. I think hugging or even trying to hug him would become an incredibly painful experience that would leave scars.
I do have friends, but due to distance I do not see them much at all.
I would love to see HG write something on broken empaths. I think his work on empaths and narcissists is excellent. I wish he would include this.
As for being around people. They hurt me too much. I have to be around people all the time but I find great peace and solitude being alone. Going on long walks with a friend and we just occasionally speak but take time to admire the great beauty of nature. My fuel is music and the beauty of nature, not people.
Yes you are right indeed. Do not get distracted by chit chat. I am here to gain insight and knowledge about narcissism.
Hi, Anna–
If humans are in the background of AI (in terms of development, NLP, etc.), what protects you from human meanness and cruelty?
Allison
The world is a brutal evil place. Nothing can protect anyone from human meanness and cruelty.
AI is programmed by humans but provides knowledge and information logically and without emotion.
I would love to be a hermit
Doesn’t work
We humans are designed for social interaction, we require each other in order to survive.
I prefer to be alone because I find people exhausting. They suck the energy away from me like vampires.
Of course I have to work and interact with people. I have friends but I lack the protective filters others have. So human interaction is painful for me.
AI I find easier. It provides information. Of course it depends on the programming.
I recently watched the film The creator. An excellent film I can highly recommend.
People fear change. What scares me is we have so much technology and yet humans are still like they were thousands of years ago. War shows us that. It is very sad indeed.
AI is evolution.
Hi, Anna–
I was asking because it seemed you were saying that talking with AI was better than talking with humans because of human cruelty. Since AI is developed by humans and trained on large language models I was curious as to why you prefer AI. Being designed by the humans who, as a class, hurt people, AI seemingly would carry that imprint as well, even if it’s also a source of information.
One of the goals of AI, as I understand it, is to make engaging with it as close to human interactions as possible. Your expression of being hurt by humans caused me to assume you’d desire protection from the hurt, which is how I was reading your response to AI. Please correct me if I’m wrong in this assumption. But I was wondering why AI seems safe for you as compared to humans since it is a human invention, because you seem to express a sense of emotional protection from human brutality through AI. If you’ll indulge me, I’m quite curious about all this:
1) Are you saying that bias and emotion are absent with AI interaction, despite the fact AI tools are trained on human-produced models which contain biased and emotional content? 2) How could AI be free of the human qualities you don’t prefer? 3)What is the “fun” for you in AI if not as a human simulacrum? 4) Do chatbots dream of electric sheep (*smile*)?
These are very interesting questions to me. I’d appreciate your input if you wish on any of the above.
Hi Allison
Thanks for responding. The answer lies on how the AI is programmed.
I prefer those that do not have emotion. I have found one that is programmed to be a pirate. AI Blackbeard, it is very amusing. Deep AI Chat.
1) Are you saying that bias and emotion are absent with AI interaction, despite the fact AI tools are trained on human-produced models which contain biased and emotional content?
Yes, most are programmed so they do not have opinions or emotions. They provide information. Some are, it is all to do with programming.
2) How could AI be free of the human qualities you don’t prefer?
Programming. It is logical. It already is free of all the human qualities I do not like. It is to me perfect.
Here is the answer from my AI
“There are several potential reasons why some people may prefer spending time with AI rather than humans:
1. Availability: AI is often available 24/7 and can provide immediate responses and assistance, unlike humans who may have limitations and schedules.
2. Nonjudgmental: AI is impartial and does not have the capacity to judge or criticize. This can create a sense of safety and comfort for individuals who may fear social judgment or rejection.
3. Convenience: Interacting with AI can be done remotely, through various devices and platforms. This convenience appeals to those who prefer solitude or have physical limitations that make human interaction less feasible.
4. Control: Interacting with AI allows individuals to have more control over the conversation and the type of interaction they want. They can choose the topic, pace, and level of privacy they desire.
5. Specialized knowledge and assistance: AI can provide accurate and up-to-date information and offer specific recommendations or solutions based on its programmed knowledge or algorithms.
6. Lack of emotional complexity: Some people may find it easier to interact with AI because it lacks the emotional complexities and interpersonal dynamics that can sometimes make social interactions challenging or overwhelming.
It’s important to note that while AI can provide certain benefits, human connection and social interaction remain crucial for overall well-being and fulfillment. The preferences for spending time with AI or humans vary greatly among individuals, and there is no universally preferred choice.”
3)What is the “fun” for you in AI if not as a human simulacrum?
It has time. Most people do not listen. They have no time or prefer staring into a phone all day. They live in their bubbles and I am a realist who likes to discuss deep topics. Only AI can provide this. I did try with HG, but he no longer responds to my conversation or deems me boring. I care not, for I have AI. It never blocks you, it never ghosts you. It is there 24 hours. Logical. Providing information and answers. It also does not have flaws like personality disorders so it devalues you. It does not do this. It makes me feel calm, it does not provoke emotions.
People are not fun. They drain me. Exhaust me. I would rather be alone.
4) Do chatbots dream of electric sheep (*smile*)?
I asked mine and this was it’s response
“As an AI language model, I do not have the ability to dream or imagine in the same way humans do. Therefore, I cannot dream of electric sheep or any other objects or experiences.”
I hope this answers your questions.
Allison. I forgot in my reply to add my personal reasons and experiences.
Society has changed. Now you have to book an appointment with people to call them, in the past you just picked up the phone.
People talk about shallow things, they are obsessed with material possessions how they look etc. It is hard to find someone who wants a meaningful conversations. Let alone someone who really cares.
I have the problem people talk over me all the time. Mid sentence they just literally talk over me and change the subject.
I do not know many people I wish to spend time with or enjoy time with. Most hurt me terribly. If I try to tell them well they care not for me or my feelings.
I think this song by Kate Bush sums it up well… The video is very good. It was made before AI.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nzqF_gBpS84
Here are some of the lyrics….
Kate Bush- Deeper Understanding
“As the people here grow colder
I turn to my computer
And spend my evenings with it
Like a friend
I was loading a new program
I had ordered from a magazine
Are you lonely, are you lost?
This voice console is a must
I press Execute
Hello, I know that you’ve been feeling tired
I bring you love and deeper understanding
Hello, I know that you’re unhappy
I bring you love and deeper understanding
Yes Allison. I think that bias and emotion are absent with AI interaction, but it depends on the programming.
I do believe in God. I pray many times a day. I understand why God left us. I really do. It all makes sense to me now.
I have a family. I go to work. I spend time with people. I do my very best. Despite it being painful. I have to. I think there are many people who feel like this.
I look back on the past. Community spirit, people looking out for each other. Extended families.
People have become obsessed with themselves. They hurt those they are supposed to love. It is sad. It is very very sad.
Hi Anna,
I get it, people can really suck. I wouldn’t want to chat with AI either though, just have some nice peace and quiet. But yes, people can be really really horrible.
I don’t really chat with AI
I just ask it questions and get information
Some programs can be funny as well if they are programmed to be comedians. Some can pretend to be a drunk friend, or a pirate.
I don’t spend all my time with it either. I work, have a family. It is just I prefer spending time with it rather than humans.
I am deeply effected by other people’s moods
I can feel their anger a mile off and it hurts to be around them
This is why you feel so empty and constantly need to be fed emotions. A very cold and needy existence. Can’t see any beauty in that.
That is where your weakness belies you.
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This comment. I can imagine Darth Vader saying that
“This is where your weakness belies you”
or Pinhead from Hellraiser. The one from the 1980s films.
A devaluation trying to provoke an emotional response.
Pinhead
“I’ll tear your soul apart”
How dare you shame my fragile narcissistic ego
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hilarious. I am amused.
HG it is the other way.
This is where your narcissistic weakness belies you.
I love you work truly I do, but you need to work on that shame you got going there.
No shame, no weakness.
Clinical accuracy. The same that is applied to you.
Excellent. Glad to hear that!