Why the Narcissist Downgrades
“HG, I am decent-looking, have a good job, I am intelligent, caring, fun and interesting, I dress well, I am a dab hand at cooking and nobody has ever complained about my bedroom skills and he has left me for THAT! Why?!”
It is a refrain I have often heard.
Why, when the narcissist could have you, did he go and choose somebody who is clearly inferior to you in so many different ways?
What is so good about her or him?
Where have you gone wrong?
Why on earth has he chosen her over you?
Why has the narcissist downgraded?
This gives you the answer and it will not only help you understand, it will make you feel a whole lot better too.
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I was never envious of others, and never did I compare myself to others. Mainly because I’m comfy with myself and don’t feel the need to compete. However, that was my mindset up until I was ensnared by a narcissist who couldn’t keep it in his pants. What kind of saved me was that I’d been trying to sever the connection before he blew me out. I had asked, if you find someone else, or want to look then I will make my exit. I must have had a feeling something wasn’t right. But no, he clung on until he could monkey bar to the next person. I was furious and I admit I did check her out on social media. She looked no better or worse than me. A bit younger perhaps. I wanted to tell her but then I had already been listening to HG so I didn’t. It was extremely frustrating and painful to shut down my emotional thinking. I was owed a sum of money (quite a bit) by him. I decided to send him a plan for repayment it was to take no longer than 10 months. There were, as you can imagine, many protestations but I did have an ace in the hole. I had been a guilty secret, which turned out to be fortuitous, because I was able to enforce my payment plan with my word that if it were not honoured a letter would be sent to his parents address where he lived. He and his father were always opening one another’s mail. Their initials were the same. I received every penny and in good time. When the final sum hit my account he was cancelled from everywhere. In the early days I considered talking to him but instead I binge listened to HG. I never did. This was three years ago. A happy ending for me.