Poll : How Did The Narcissist Behave Towards The Ex?
It is usually the case that there will have been an ex when you engaged with your narcissist, where the entanglement falls within the romantic dynamic.
How did the narcissist behave with regard to the ex? Was he or she never mentioned or barely referred to, as if there was never one or if there was, he or she had simply vanished off the planet? Perhaps the ex was smeared, called the psycho ex or the crazy harpy? Alternatively, did the narcissist speak well of the ex and did so in the highest terms in order to demonstrate there was no ill feeling or did you later realise that there was triangulation taking place as the various virtues of the ex were espoused to make you jealous, hurt or irritated?
Perhaps the narcissist started off smearing the ex but then it changed and he or she shifting tack, being pleasant to and speaking well of this ex? Did the narcissist return to the ex at any point, either whilst still involved with you or afterwards or perhaps even both. You may choose as many as are applicable before casting your vote and do expand on your experiences in the comments section.
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She was a “cold bitch that didn’t cry at her own brothers funeral.” Of course I got to know her well and she is an absolutely lovely soul.
My ex denied having an ex but when his family told me of one relationship, 6 weeks that he’d had, he admitted it and then proceeded to smear her. He displayed the whole relationship and because of its short duration, it became a non-issue at the time, though, it should’ve been big red flags for me, the denial, downplaying and smearing. I didn’t know about narcissism then but even then my gut didn’t like it.
It’s amazing when we look back isn’t it AV. I think it’s the curse of the empath (before we find HG) to presume people think in a somewhat similar way to us…
Yes, I thought it was so odd because it was so different from me. I had had a six year relationship which had included marriage, a child and a divorce, and I did not, do not, smear that person. So when my ex smeared this woman, I was blown away. I should’ve listened to my gut right there. Instead, 23 years later, he did it to me too. I’m glad he’s out of my life.