The Narcissist´s Conditional Asterisk

  Ordinarily, all you would see above, would be the words ‘I love you’. You would always fail to notice the huge asterisk next to those words. This is the Narcissist’s Conditional Asterisk. Everything the narcissist says or does has this asterisk next to it. Except you never see it. If the words or actions […]

Never Let Go

  I was engaged in a discussion recently with Dr E. The conversation concerned relationships. “So, when you end a relationship, tell me how do you feel about it?” he began as he unfolded his notebook and found a fresh page. “I do not end my relationships,” I replied. “I see, so they are always […]

I See Sanctuary

When I first meet you and I look into your eyes I find a certain sanctuary. Your optimistic eyes seem like paradise to me. I can see the hope, the desire and the adoration burning in your eyes. Be they brown, blue, green or grey I can see the promise of salvation. That is why […]

Toxic Logic

Confusion is at the heart of the narcissistic dynamic. Confusion causes several things to happen. You provide fuel far more readily, you submit to our control, you are easier to manipulate, your blame yourself, you cling on tighter and you do not move forward. Confusion reigns during devaluation. Confusion abounds post escape and especially post […]