I want you to do your best. That is a noble intention is it not? I want you to try harder each day. I want you to aim high and strive to improve on what you achieved the previous day. Though exhaustion may be clouding your vision and that ache in your limbs reminds you of the strenuous ministrations that you have attended to, I know that you can push through it and do it more, better, faster and stronger. I believe in you. Those other imposters are mere charlatans. Am I not the one who has given you a perfect love? You need to keep that perfect love and earn it. Accordingly, each day I will pull it away from you. On a Monday it might be the case that I do not kiss you. I will not give you an explanation for this withholding as you must work it out. Once you have you need to work hard to recover my kiss. The next day I will not return the hug you always give me when we first get up. Rather than complaining hold your tongue and consider this all part of your on going education. If you want my perfect love to manifest through those warm, safe hugs that you relish then you must please me so that you may have them again.

You repeatedly comment to me that there has to be give and take in a relationship. I am doing exactly what you ask for. I take away in order to make you give more and then you will be rewarded. In order to avoid any complacency on your part you will find that the next time I withdraw from kissing you, your first response which reinstated my luscious embrace will not work a second time. No that would be far too easy. You need to ascertain what different act you must accomplish in order to secure my tender kisses. I know you will do it. Who would not in order to feel my mouth against yours and that soaring sensation inside as the relief floods through you, knowing that you have secured it return. Admit it, the potential loss of my affection at any time for any reason excites you. You do not want mediocrity. You want excitement. You want to feel like you are flying, soaring, bursting and spinning with delight. I am the only one who can supply that to you and thus you willingly engage with me in these games as I push you further and further, pulling back a little more each time so you wrack your brain and strain your sinews to find the answer once again. It would be wrong of me to say I only do this for your benefit. I do not. I do it wholly for mine since I need you to please me. You please me by being the puppet jerking on my strings, doing everything at my behest. The surge of power that I get from this control surpasses anything you might get from our relationship, but are we not both getting something from it, so where’s the harm in pleasing me?

19 thoughts on “Please

  1. Violet says:

    You just described all of my boyfriends and my upbringing with my family. What to make of that? I swallowed it hook, line and sinker. Most damaging my mother who used these tactics in her parenting. ANd for what? Maintaining control until I left and didn’t speak to her ever again. She wouldn’t know me now and yet I have to make a decision about how to see this, how to judge what happened. It is SO FAR out of my experience that I have no words. If I use judgment with my own values against someone without them, it describes the behaviour but not the reality. I may be shaking my head in disbelief for the rest of my life. So damn earnest was she. And later? She had no life goals at all, after me. I don’t understand.

  2. Maddie says:

    What’s the harm in pleasing me G.?????

    1. HG Tudor says:

      None at all.

      1. Maddie says:

        Then what are You waiting for?

  3. apocalipznow says:

    All the worlds indeed a stage
    And we are merely players.
    Performers and portayers.
    Each anothers audience
    Outside the gilded cage.

    Cast in this unlikely role
    Ill-equipped to act
    With insufficient tact
    One must put up barriers
    To keep oneself intact


  4. Lil one says:

    He is not giving you anything real . It’s an illusion. Every thing he does is not real it’s an act .. except when he is manipulatin you hurting you using you those actions are real . He said it himself a puppet on a string . To control you . You have no value at all . He can’t manipulate an actual object like a chair he won’t get a response out of that . That’s why his using you .

    1. HG Tudor says:


    2. Christine says:

      Brilliant comment πŸ‘

  5. TheFlowerandRock says:

    The comfort that the narcissist experiences, comfort, as being the joy of sadism, is the drive of the belief in counter wishful thinking, this is to say that he adheres to his construction of a worldview that commands of him and in turn, those around him, to believe only in a world that is created by him. This is his only defense towards annihilating his terror of desiring that which he is terrified of—Freedom.

    And perhaps in this moment, right here, we ought to be firmly planted in something comfortable

    Resistance of the amour-propre, which means, I can’t bear the thought of being freed by anyone other than myself.

    Such a worldview of war, that seething, hot desire of inflicting pain to the point where by the rationalization towards the disbelief of ones own existence is amplified at the slightest emergence of a healing agent. This is the message both sent and received through the sting of the slap, the deadened look of disappointment, the raging fists and frenzied fits, the exquisite chemical concoction of paranoia and anxiety, the cutting criticisms, the blame shifting, the shame pill that scrapes and quashes the ability to speak, to tell, to be heard. The apparitions left behind from such an abomination, have nowhere to go, they have become so translucent that they have disappeared into their own sight, where- by they see everything as their own making.

    Narcissism is not asking to oblige of its pleasures, it is commanding the consent of devaluation.

    I am sending you a downpour.

    1. Alice says:

      Excellent comment!

      1. TheFlowerandRock says:

        Hello Alice. Thank you. I hope it serves as helpful and though provoking.

  6. nikitalondon says:

    It is very difficult to have such education but when I look back and forward seems very real.
    It is very often mentioned the word surge of power. Altough I do believe codependants and narcs have a common basis, the power element puts a milkyway in between. Its something I dont get a grip on.
    Also take away to receive is something hard to understand.
    I like to give alot without somebody having to take away from me…. Therefor…
    all of the above is something I still have to work out in my mind..
    I dont remember having read this postijg before altgough the picture was immediately familiar so maybe I did..
    But its good to read about such reality so gracias for posting again HG. Feliz dia β˜€οΈ Or better said, have an empowered day πŸ’‹

  7. T says:

    ‘And now you’re taking applications
    For your love
    You wanted certain specifications
    I circled the one that said all the above
    Work… for love…..’

  8. Sheri says:

    i have a question that doesn’t pertain to this entry. Can I send an email?

    1. HG Tudor says:

      By all means. I am away at present so only able (time and connectivity) to deal with blog comments but I will respond in a few days

  9. Cara says:

    Well, there DOES have to be give & take in a relationship. Although from what I’m told, that doesn’t mean one person gets to do all the taking (which may be how & why some of my relationships failed).

  10. Ali says:

    I hate you

    1. HG Tudor says:

      I know

  11. Fool me 1 time says:

    But sometimes for us pleasing is what pleases us! Being able to please someone especially if in childhoods you could never please anyone! Xxx

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