10 Commandments
1. I am right. You are wrong.
Everything I say and do is founded in the logic of my world and it follows that is has to be right. It equally follows therefore that whatever you say and do is wrong. I cannot ever allow you to be seen to be right because that means I am ceding control to somebody whom I regard as inferior. This undermines my sense of superiority. Maintaining this state of me being right and you being wrong requires various manipulative techniques including blame-shifting, projection, denial and deflection. Of course I am relying on your need to be understood and your desire to change me that you will always approach this stance of mine head on. My position will seem illogical to you and you will react to it and keep doing so.
2. There is no you and me. There is only me.
You are purely an extension of myself. I want to subsume everything about you into me. This is part of the reason why I seduce you with such totality. I am unable to discern where you begin and where I end. I regard you as an appliance that is to be plugged into me and is there to do my bidding, providing me with fuel, looking after me and responding to everything that I command. I forbid you to act independently of me, have interests beyond me and to interact with others. I am what is important. You must focus on me and only me. Your needs become secondary to my needs.
3. Do as I say, not as I do.
Do not question me. Who are you to question someone as brilliant as me? Know your place. Submit to me and carry out my whims. Accede to my commands. I am entitled to do as I please and therefore any contradiction in my behaviour is a mistaken belief on your part. You may regard what I say and do as hypocrisy but you are wrong once again. This is pragmatism on my part and that is why I succeed whilst you fail.
4. One is never enough
Such is my might that one of you is not enough to sustain me. It is my right to gain fuel from all those that I interact with. This means I will be unfaithful but my infidelity is purely a means to an end. By all means react to my affairs and indiscretions, for it is all excellent fuel for me, but you will not stop me from taking another. Expect to be triangulated with other people and objects, for my appetite is so vast I must have many supply lines of fuel and this means you will become a cog inside a vast machine, as wheels turn within wheels.
5. Your pain is my gain
I cannot exist without drawing negative fuel from you at some point. It is retribution for your failings. There is no hope for an alternative. Your devaluation will happen as it has with many before you and those who are yet to come. It is a process and your agony, hurt and distress is purely part of the necessary equation to sustain me. It is drawn from you through many machinations, some you may see and others you will not.
6. You are worthless yet I will never leave you alone
You are inferior to me and that inferiority infuriates me since I am reminded that I must depend on someone weak and pathetic. This in turn generates hatred and despising of this chained situation I find myself in. I will cast you to one side once you have served your purpose and my disgust for you can no longer be tolerated. This is not the end however because I will always return to exhibit my power to draw you back one again and suck further fuel from you.
7. I am everywhere. I am everything
I am omnipotent and omniscient. I have my spies and errand boys all around as they feed me information about you which I can then use against you and to further my agendas. I have my Lieutenants carrying out my orders without question. I instil myself in every aspect of your life, making you see me, hear me and smell me, even after I am no longer physically near you. I imbue my essence into so much that my toxic memory pervades you for years after you have been cast aside, allowing me to return triumphant, as if nothing ever happened, to draw you into my false world once more.
8. The games are always being played.
The quest for fuel is unending. To achieve this I must engage in repeated and sustained manipulations and machinations. You and others are but pawns on my giant chessboard as I move you hither and thither in order to achieve my aims. I plot, plan and scheme before I organise, arrange and orchestrate. Each and every day I must engage in these nefarious games in order to secure my existence and as my chosen primary appliance you will be caught in this malicious web, right in the centre. My game-playing means nothing is as it seems, that truth is a stranger to me and lies flow from my mouth as easily as expelled breath.
9. I will never change
I will issue false promises of changing, empty protestations that I shall seek help and perfidious declarations of knowing I need to alter my behaviour but I never shall. I deny what I am, although for the most part I know full well what I am. I see no reason to change. Why should I when this how I have been created? Why should I when this is all I know? Why should I when it is all your fault anyway?
10. Fuel is the rule.
Fuel is at the centre of everything that I do. My actions and decisions are based on acquiring the precious resource. My interaction with strangers, minions, acquaintances and friends is all hinged on the gathering of fuel. The way in which I deal with colleagues and family is always based on the greatest potential for the collection of fuel. My thoughts are invaded with the need to gain fuel, my actions are dictated by the requirement to garner fuel. Fuel is the reason you were chosen. Fuel is the reason you were seduced, debased and discarded. Fuel is why I came back. Again and again.
Fuel is everything.
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HG, you forgot “Thou shalt have no other Gods before me” and “Thou shalt give me what I want, when I want, without question, ever, if you know what’s good for you, which you clearly don’t or this commandment wouldn’t even be necessary.”
Sending much admiration your way, love!
B&T, I think for me not always being the one to try and fix things! Always doing and getting nothing in return! It is my own fault I have always done this! It would be nice to be able to say what have you done for me lately? And when they look at me with that stupid look on there face; I would like to be able to say exactly! Good bye! Xx
The good news is, Fool Me, you could change this about yourself if you wanted to.
I suppose if it`s not already second nature, it can be difficult to train yourself to think, respond and act differently, but it is possible.
The thing is to understand that, in dealing with our kind, you cannot fix it – you will not get anything (that you want or need) in return – we will not “do” anything for you lately or ever, for that matter.
HG has given you (and all his faithful readers) tremendous insight, knowledge and information in an effort to make you stronger and more able to recognize these behaviours should you come across them again.
Apply what he is imparting with you here to your own life and make the changes you want to make.
HG’s courageous sharing and selfless outpouring of his innermost thoughts and machinations is his gift to you and all who seek understanding and healing.
In fact, I would say to all of you who never got closure – HG is giving it to you in spades. And I know you are all tremendously grateful to him for it.
Thank you B&T! I’m working on that right now!!! Xx
No. 7
I think the Narc did see me as an extension of himself. Hence his omnipotent statements that indicated that he really thought he knew what I was thinking and feeling better than I did.
Even if we’d been minimal contact for months, (and only then because of money owed), he still thought he knew what I was thinking, doing, saying, feeling.
Such a boundary invasion this but then the narc knew no boundaries, or rather I was always to respect his, but he never had to respect mine.
Now I feel angry with the audacity of it. Just f**k off.
So this is very pertinent and sums up concisely the internal framework/beliefs of the narc who used to be in my life.
Fuel….there is a internal drive for fuel. Drive, instinct, ID, overrides the ego, supersedes every other consideration.
Fuel…our expression, our emotion toward you. So what do we represent to you? We are an object, an object that fills you up, for a while. The void needs to be filled.
But we are a part of you, so not seperate. So really like the reflection in the pond that poor Narcissus got fixated upon. Actually the reflection didn’t fill him up. He died.
You keep notes for the day of reckoning. Lol…wrathful.
The 10 commandments is the perfect perfect tittle for this sad list highlighting a mindset that would have to be changed to attain sustainable happiness❤️😘
Spoken like a wrathful god. So glad to be agnostic, no offense. Like the bravery song says…give me something to believe. In the meantime, stealing a grain of salt from Lot’s wife and hoping my hand doesn’t get chopped off.
Don`t The Bravery also have a song called Honest Mistake….:)
B&T, you are starting to become my Hero! Now if only I could apply your attitude for myself, I would be much better off!! Xx
That`s very kind of you to say, Fool Me. What is it that you think you could use more of? Confidence? Ability to move onward and upward at all times, regardless of obstacles, etc?
I`ve always said that being what I am has numerous benefits. In fact, I don`t happen to think there are any cons. Others will tell me there are, but I can`t trust the naysayers because ultimately, they are just out to harm me out of jealousy, envy, their own stupidity, etc.
Blood and Thunder – They sure do!
I think we honestly need the discard to slip us out of our trance with the narc. Just think, if not dicarded without an explanation then you might have more reason for justification of their actions. It was not until Dark Narc did this to me for the third time that I truly opened my eyes and said…wait something is seriously effed up with this man. Now I look at some of the things he said and dis that at the time I was okay with and say wtf was I thinking! If not discarded I may still be drinking the bs flavored koolaid.
Dear Moses,
In between reading about the roots of Chill hop, which I’m really liking right now, and Prussian eugenics, I read some of your material. I am stuck on one of your recurring themes. You say that your appliance changes. They stop putting out quality fuel. And because of the change in fuel production you must punish. Why is it you don’t just tell the appliance I need more from you? Why the mind reading? With you being so apt with self expression, I wonder why you don’t articulate that to the faulty appliance? How are they just supposed to know? Your thoughts please….
Yours, Zipporah
Because they ought to know and do it if they truly adore us as they say they do. Why should we have to tell them, we have already done plenty by giving them everything so far during the golden period, they should do it as a matter of course not because they are told to.
HG….
I understand that you do everything. And they do adore you. Is it a weakness to say I’m not getting enough from you? I need more? Isn’t it more like asserting authority and telling the person they need to give more? I worked with a guy that every time you would ask after his girlfriend, then fiance, then wife, would say she’s on her way out. I would laugh but one day I asked him why he always said that. He said you need to keep them on their toes. Why can’t you just tell them they better shape up? Why degrade someone into showing you love, haha, I realize I’m suggesting you just scare them a bit…those questions are not rhetorical and don’t say because strawberry ice cream.
But I do,it is called devaluation.
But just as you expect us to keep churning out that positive, potent fuel, why would we expect you to shut down the golden period? We don’t. You ought to know that to keep earning our priceless adoration and love, you need to keep listening to us as well. As a matter of course.
I do listen to you, your pleading, your sobs, yourshouting, your begging, your mollifying, I listen well.
To turn against us and build up your arsenal. Not to really communicate and learn to compromise.
Absolutely. The minute you have to start telling someone they need to smarten up or provide more or give more, you know there`s trouble brewing.
It should just be because it just is.
If you give everything, you should get everything in return.
So many like to make the bold claim that they can and will provide any and all that is necessary, but when it comes right down to it, not many can actually measure up.
It`s disappointing, really.
Bingo.
If I didn’t measure up, I wouldn’t have been chosen in the first place. I always carry my weight. I expect my S.O. to carry theirs. Not just for an initial trial period.
Did you have your palm up and did you click your fingers when you wrote this Clarece, I can feel the feistiness.
No need to. Completely deadpan.
She’s learning!
But you still ended up discarded, Clarece. So, while you measured up for a while, it didn’t last.
Quite the opposite. I’m realizing he was no match for my depth and his stupidity for what he has passed by and it becomes more and more amusing how like clockwork he keeps reappearing to hoover me, just as H.G. forecasts.
Seems you enjoy gettiing hoovered Clarence 😂😂😂😂
You can`t imagine how thrilled I am to hear that you`ve come to that realization, Clarece.
I wish you the best in your journey forward.
ABB, I just love your letters to HG.
I wish I knew of this blog before being discarded…I wouldn’t have nearly the hangups (because, of course, I would have run first).
Not really related to this post but I heard a joke today and my first thought was that the man in the joke had to be a narcissist…see what you think.
Man says to his wife “My Olympic condoms have just arrived, I think I’ll wear gold tonight.”
Wife replies “Why not wear silver and cum second for a change?”
Thanks to you HG I see narcs everywhere lol!!
Boom tish! We are everywhere of course.
He never ceases to shock me as I find out he and other will be attending an adult party. I say nothing as my Damn jealousy tears it’s ugly head. The sooner I leave the better for me.
Unbelievable that there are actually people that think like this. lol
Oh HG! ⛽️⛽️⛽️