The One and Only



I really do think the world of you, you know. I have not met anybody like you. No don’t shake your head. I know you are modest but you should accept a compliment when it is given, heaven knows you deserve it. I have to admit I have had a few relationships, but you know, we have all been there haven’t we? I used to think I knew what love was. I used to think that the person I was with was what I wanted, the answer to my prayers and that special someone. All of that was not the case. In fact, it is quite apparent to me that they were really just practice runs to allow me to perfect my love in readiness for your arrival. I know it may seem strange but I feel like that I have always known you and moreover that somehow that I always knew we would be together. I used to tell myself in previous relationships that this was it, this was the one, but something would go wrong. I guess I was not a very good judge of characters back then. I kept picking the wrong ones. Goodness me I could tell you some tales. I have hooked up with some real fruit loops in my time. I seem to attract them. I think it is because when I want to be with someone I give my absolute all to that person. I see no point in holding back, do you? It has to be everything or it is worth nothing. I can see you nodding, I thought you would agree. You and I are on the same wave length. I can sense it. I have an aptitude for it. A sixth sense. I have to admit I have not always been blessed with it and it has taken some time to fine tune it, I guess that is why I had to go through the rollercoaster ride with some of my exs. Still, although they did not treat me well, no it is okay, you don’t need to know about all of that. I want to talk about you and me, that is far more important. Yes, they did not treat me well at all but that’s for another story I do not want to spoil tonight talking about their jealous rages and violent tempers. Thank goodness you are not like that. No it is fine you do not have to persuade me of that being the case. I know you are not like them. I can tell you are a far better person. Do you know how I know? It is in the way that you move. Yes, it is. You move with a grace I have not seen before. That tells me that you are self-assured but not in a flamboyant manner. You know who you are and you move around with a grace and a presence which brings reassurance. I will let you into a little secret. Before I spoke to you I used to watch you. Not in a stalker kind of way, more as in an interested observer kind of way. I saw how people reacted to you, with warmth and delight whenever you spoke to them and I thought to myself when I saw how their faces lit up and how their eyes widened in pleasure that you were probably the kind of person who spends more time looking after other people than you do spend looking after yourself. I am right aren’t I? It is not good trying to hide and look at the floor I can see I am right. I usually am about people. It is something of a gift but one I am now able to use to avoid the people who would hurt me and believe me there have been a few of them and instead find someone who will respect and love me in the same way that I will love and respect them.

It is all about finding that mutuality isn’t it? I bet you and I have much in common. Well, I know from our last date we share similar tastes in music and travel destinations and that just proves my point. I should imagine that if we discussed politics, although I don’t intend to tonight, there will be plenty of time to do that in the future, we would have similar views. You see that I have been able to work out, after all the mishaps and the people that have let me down, who is right for me and who I am right for. I am a straight-forward kind of fellow. I will put you on a pedestal and worship you, yes I will, because somebody like you, someone so special and caring deserves that. Oh I know you modern independent ladies are all about equality and believe me I am one hundred percent behind that but I do know that once upon a time you used to pretend to be a princess and that never leaves you. How do I know that? I have a sister you see and I saw how she played and made-up games based around being a fairy or a princess, good characters who wanted that happy ever after. I know it has never left her and so by the same token I know that someone like you, a good and decent and honest people still has that desire to be treated properly and every once in a while reminded of that fact. I can tell by your smile that you agree with me and I am glad of that because I know how well I will treat you. I have much to give to you and you deserve to be treated right. You see, I sense, like me you have been hurt in the past. I can see it in your eyes. You are hoping that nothing spoils what we have because it is showing such promise isn’t it? Yes, I thought you would agree. I can tell by the slightly guarded manner you have, but don’t be concerned, that is no bad thing given the way that some people behave, but I am not like them. You have no need to be concerned about me. I will only ever look after you and have your best interests at heart. That is why you and I have been brought together, two people who just want to love and be loved. It is not much to ask is it? That is why when I first met you I realised that you are the one.

You rise from your chair to go to the bathroom and I sit back in my chair and smile. I can say that speech backwards now and it works every time.

18 thoughts on “The One and Only

  1. Empath23 says:

    This sounds so familiar!
    I was his angel, his soul mate, the one, it was destiny, it was God bringing us together, it was written in the stars and meant to be, at least for a couple months at least.

  2. Darkness Falls Again says:

    Sarah no I dont fall for cheesy lines, yet HGs voice reminds me of something, it effects me in many ways.
    I stick to my values, and I have paid dearly for it to.

  3. Cara says:

    Well of course you can say that speech backwards…you can probably say it in a few different languages, too.

  4. Forgotten says:

    IT WOULD BE EASIER for us to be really the ONE then YOU WOULD BECOME THE ONE too… wouldn’t that be amazing? no…. cause we bore You after some time…our love adoration is boring… that hurts…

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  6. Darkness Falls Again says:

    Normally this wouldnt work, yet if I was sitting there listening to HG”s voice, yup puddle of me it would be and he could do what he pleased. So I feel for those ladys they never had a chance.
    That voice…….

    1. Sarah says:

      DFA, not if you stay true to your values, but will admit HG has an amazing voice! To me, HG is soooo a pleasure delayer at heart from a lifetime of self-control, but I imagine him more going on cues from the ladies (I think?). I will NEVER forget my dad gave me a promise ring and told me, “Sarah, NEVER give the cow’s milk away for free – ever.” I was like, “Yes, Sir!” But I think it’s important to realize that ALL GUYS will take if you give it…Narcissist’s (at least in the beginning during ensnarement) are more concerned about fulfilling YOUR desires(I think?)…this goes into the saying “Be careful what you wish for”…just my take anyways 😉 i STILL wear my promise ring from dad!

    2. Sunshine says:

      Is it even his voice?

  7. I’d have rolled my eyes if any guy said this to me…. everyone is broken, it is too cliché. Some of just happen to have glue made from diamonds.

    1. The Punisher says:

      Agreed DC! I might play with him first though 😉 Long as he’s not HGs level, I like to still exist when all is said and done.

      1. Oh Punisher, I do like the way you think! 😉

  8. HG knows that there is some truth in what he says but for the greater of the great’s if any of you cast your memories back there would have been ‘flashcards’, hey HG? Here is an example and I will keep it real basic and off the track of a direct hit which if they can deliver they will in a smooth way to get a little thrill along the way. I won’t even go into the ‘you’re so wholesome spill.’ Example is: ‘You came walking toward me and your shiny brunette hair was bouncing and I had a moment, believe me it was a moment. You reminded me of that ad, you know the one where the brunettes hair was bouncing as she walked in the colgate ad, by the way what toothpaste do you use?’
    HG may be able to clarify further 🙂 These are not innocent remarks is the hint. There is more to them.

  9. 1jaded1 says:

    HG..I will never fall for that speech again. I have to use the bathroom now.

  10. Sarah says:

    HG, you are quite the charmer that is for sure, but I am sure until she got up to go to the bathroom, you would have swore you meant it with suave 😉 great writing as always and liked the pic!

  11. Snow White says:

    I did think I was the one. I believed that more than anything else.
    It was hard to accept that I wasn’t. Admitting that hurt.

    I heard all about how good of a person I was, how all the others hurt her, and how much we had in common.
    Looking back I could write chapters on all the red flags I saw in the first month. But because I thought I was the one I kept on going.
    She is the one who missed out. It’s her loss now.

    I will recognize that speech from now on.

  12. BeowulfSabrina says:

    Very scary, this is what my hub said to me, word for word. I am such an idiot. I believed him. I thought we were special. I’ve been devalued and discarded in a horribly cruel way, and have gone 100% no contact, which is very difficult after 25 years of devoted love.

  13. AH OH says:

    UGH! So frustration to know this is the absolute truth.
    I am talking about the very last sentence in the post.

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