The Ten Laws of Narcissistic Possession


1. You belong to me.

I own you. From the moment I first engaged with you, you became mine. That is the unwritten contract that forms between you and me. I engulf you, I possess you and I subsume your identity into mine. I do not recognise you as someone who is separate and distinct from me, with your own hopes, fears and desires. You have been plugged into me from the start, my appliance which is there to provide me with fuel, obey me and accede to my commands. This mind set is what governs the entirety of our relationship and is what is behind so much of what I do and say to you. By understanding that this is how I view you in relation to me you will realise that once I have begun to entangle you, the concept of you evaporates and you become part of me.

2. What is yours is mine

As part of this unwritten contract I immediately take power, custody and control of everything which you own. Your money is mine to spend. Your friends become my friends and ripe for recruitment into the ranks of my lieutenants. Your house is my house where I shall install myself before you know it, using your utilities freely although never paying for them. It is not your car, it is my car now. I recognise no boundaries and therefore you will find that your possessions will always be sequestrated for my use. You are not allowed to own anything in your own right. From the cake you have saved for later to your shower gel, I will take it and use it. This sense of entitlement extends beyond the material. I will take your dignity, your sanity and your self-esteem too. I have no use for those things, they cannot serve me in any way but I will take them all the same. I am an asset stripper and you will be stripped.

3. Blame belongs to you

I am never at fault. I am never responsible and I am never accountable. Culpability and I are not bedfellows. I escape liability for anything and everything that I do and instead the blame will always rest with you. Even if you have done nothing wrong I will pin the blame on you as this serves my purposes to draw fuel from you, control you and denigrate you. If I forget to remove something from the cooker, it is your fault. If I forget to pay a parking ticket on time, it is your fault. If I forget an anniversary, it is your fault. Each and every mishap, failure and problem which arises will always be attributed to you because I cannot be held to account.

4. I take what I want from whomsoever that I choose

I walk this world as a colossus and it is my right  to do as I please. I will take whatever my eye rests on as I am entitled to do so. I will steal because I can. If I want something then I will take it. I will take the credit for achievements when they belong to someone else. I will pinch the partner of a friend because I want her in my bed and not his. I will park my car where I like and I am not to suffer any consequence. I will borrow from neighbours and never return anything. It is my right to take and you must never challenge or criticise me as I exercise this right.

6. What is mine stays mine

All resources that are mine remain mine and are for my exclusive use. I will not lend anything to anybody, they should go and buy their own. I will not share. I will stockpile money secretly, notwithstanding that we apparently have a joint account. I have my own shelf inside the fridge for my food which nobody else is to touch. Nobody is allowed to sit in my favourite chair, not even when I am not there. Nobody is to play my CDs or read my books. They are not for you, they are for me. My friends are my friends, yes they will pretend to like you, purely for the sake of appearance but they will never actually be your friends. Anything that is mine remains as mine.

7. I go where I please

I own the right to go anywhere that I like. I am not to be stopped or questioned as to where I am going or where I have been. I move in between and through, an unstoppable force in light of my vast sense of entitlement. I walk through doorways marked private, I attend meetings to which I have not been invited, I will turn up at your social occasions even though I was not asked to attend. I will step over the threshold, vault the red rope and penetrate all areas because I must always know what is going on. Besides, my presence is such that I am always welcome, who would not want someone as brilliant as I with them? I am access all areas.

8. I own the spotlight

The spotlight must be trained on me at all times as it belongs to me. It is for my use to highlight how interesting, witty and successful I am. It lights up my podium where I stand elevated and superior and woe betide you should you try to point it anywhere else. You must never interfere with my ownership of the spotlight for to do so will invite my fury at your transgression. It is a device that must be aimed at me so that the world is always to see me, so that I can receive the adoration which I am entitled to.

9. I owe you nothing

I owe you nothing because in the beginning I gave you everything. It does not matter that since then you have given me your all, your love, your affection, your time, your money, your dignity and your will to live. You can festoon me with gifts, run around after me, nurse me, pleasure me, support and soothe me but this is what you ought to be doing as I am entitled to be treated in this manner. I have no sense of needing to reciprocate, someone as high born as me need not deign to fawn over you, not any more, not once I have captured you and bound you tight to me. You are nothing without me, worthless and pathetic and therefore I owe you nothing, despite the fact you gave me everything.

10. You belong to me.

I thought I would remind you of this fact. It would not do to forget that now, would it?


41 thoughts on “The Ten Laws of Narcissistic Possession”

      1. I believe that is what we were born to do. Unfortunately somewhere along the line the interpretation by most came to be: But it had better be determined to be positive under some fictitious and imposed moral guideline of the collective.

      2. But just imagine what this world would be like, NarcAngel, if none of us felt empathy or remorse and did what we saw fit, whenever, and with whomever we chose!

      3. Matilda

        There was no suggestion not to have empathy or remorse. It was simply do what you want when you want and with whom. You automatically interpreted like most the bad things. But what a world it would be if we were free to do what when and with whom and the intentions are good. It is what we tell our children is it not? That they can be and do anything? But somewhere along the line we become jaded and fail to believe it for ourselves. Cmon! Empaths are supposed to be more positive!! Lol Think today for yourself (ok dream) how it would be if you could do what when and with whom today without some collective moral compass to answer to. I bet It would be only good things yes?

  1. Reading “you belong to me” always makes me feel sad, HG. You have helped me understand the dynamics and why he needs to have this sense of ownership, but it’s so difficult. Especially because he might not even remember me anymore. But to him I’m like his old toy, right? “I will not play with her, but no one else will as well.”

      1. LOVE. You always manage to make me laugh and thats not easy. Thank you. Btw-I’ve got my shorty shorts on and my sponge is full of fuel. Where is everyone else for the Narc wash?

      2. Ah Oh, currently no one wants them. I’ve had to advertise internationally. Other countries are more embracing of slavery.

        NA, yay! I’m in! We have to encircle Mr. Tudor but keep a 10 ft distance for his personal space. Anything closer would constitute a ‘hoog’ and you know all hell will break loose then.

  2. this post is my favourite. … You could be a law creator dear G. . You have incredible abilities to create ANYTHING just with words… You make a reader experience every possible emotion and feeling…. You make everything seem so real… sometimes You even create a portal to the past….

  3. I just realised that the moment which marks the beginning of the end is when she asks herself: ‘seriously?!’. That’s when all of these outlandish behaviour patterns described above mount and they cannot be ignored or minimised anymore. The narc simply knows no limits, and that will be his downfall.

    I suggest that you write that down in your little black book of manipulations, HG! Note to thyself: I shall spread my delusions of grandeur and excessive entitlement more thinly to avoid appliance malfunction! 😀

    It amazes me how you can trick so many people, for so long!! What do you think is the reason for that?

    PS: No. 5 is missing 🙂

      1. Yes, true! But however focused you are on the result, none of your tactics would work if the other party was not so readily compliant! People usually choose the easy way out if possible, that’s your main advantage. We need to learn to embrace the word ‘NO’! 🙂

      2. Yes, NarcAngel, but what does it mean?

        “5. I withhold what I want from whomsoever that I choose” 😀 😀

  4. Matilda
    My interpretation is:

    #5. That the rules are his period and if theres no #5 then he decreed it. He may or may not explain his action depending on his mood or if it benefits him.

      1. Sure HG, you won’t leave my comment in! Because I questioning your superiority in it! You wouldn’t ever dare to leave such a comment here…you are not strong enough for that!!!

      2. Ha ha, I have no issue with being challenged in this arena (ask Clarece for example) as I find relevant debate interesting. If someone just attacks me, it will be fuel, not particularly potent, but fuel all the same.

      3. Katrin
        You obviously are not a regular here to not know of the intellect and sense of humor he injects into his posts to keep it interesting and make us think. I imagine he was amused to see who noticed but forget? Not on your humorless life.

  5. I definety have been enlightened & appreciate how in just little time I’ve learned from you how you individuals actually work. But. Its so wrong on every level …=nobody owns anybody nobody shall be demanded or told to do anything etc…this is where a major line needs to. Be crossed someday …I appreciate your wor ,,& learning from you. . but this is not how the world works .

  6. Hi Lisa.Ogden….if you are here…then in essence this IS how your world was working but you are looking to now get off the roller coaster…that means that you fit here in this blog with a variety of subscribers that also want to do the same.

    All of us that are here truth be told have been as well living our own version of this roller coaster type of life. Both Narcissists and Em-paths alike.
    Some for a very, very long time as in from the time of infancy.
    For some, we have been living them so long that when the ground isn’t moving beneath our feet and our emotions are not being skyrocketed and then plummeted…we don’t quite feel right… when we are off them so to speak.
    I assure you that walking barefoot on the ground in soft green grass and therefore being able to “Ground yourself” is something that only happens during the so called “golden periods” in your life and on allowed respites. it won’t matter how much you are a child of god or weather you worship Mother Earth or Father Time or believe in Santa Clause.
    Most of us grow up wanting “one of those” what the hell is one of those?
    it could be anything we want when we feel a sense of wanting to possesses something…that starts from infancy.

    Where it goes from there, anyone’s guess.
    Well what kinds of things do we wish for?
    Our “own siblings”, our “own friends”, our “own spouse”. What don’t we think of as “ours” once we have it…and have you ever heard some people refer to their children as “our Billy or our Suzie”, hell up until how long ago were we not able to vote as women, become outwardly educated, still considered chattel, so where do you think Narcissism originates any way… and how long have we been on this planet…there is always a hierarchy, their is always dominance, there will always be survival of the fittest mentalities, there will always be manipulation of the species in the name of evolution.

    It is genetically imposed on some and also then individual environmental aspects form from that as well, it is also caught for some that don’t have the above factors predisposing them and then it is taught to work for them much more like a like a virus.
    They are usually the ones that have the best chance of escaping the savage scared tissue in every cell effects.
    It is a way of life for some of the species of this planet, it is and has actually remained part of the… “survival of the species”… of this planet of which we are just some.

    Now to you HG.
    I am still going to be a big advocate in suggesting that all your newer readers and subscribers get a big comfy spot, all their favorite refreshments and dig in deep and read as many of your posts and readers comments from the very beginning and up to where they came in at their beginning. I swear to you all it will prove to be valuable…to the extremes.

    If you were looking for a wee respite yourself HG You would love it here in The Valley of Nova Scotia today…White out conditions next couple days!!
    All the fireplaces are lit…go right ahead and pull up one of those nice leather chairs, go on, put your feet up and get comfy, here, let me pour you a nice stiff drink of whats your pleasure. cabinets full, fridge is full to overflowing,
    I’d love to hear all about
    Everything…slowly and with great detail for we have nothing but time here to do what ever tickles your fancy today…lots of friendly neighbors within walking distance for laters at the local “Rovers Return” 😉 lol.

    Then perhaps in exchange for your respite you will feel so inclined to return the favor and send that invite to join you and your “Kim” Christmas eve for that very special private dinner she has arranged for just the two of you.
    You can pass me off as your long lost Welsh cousin that you were just dying to meet and just couldn’t think of a better time to get us all together.
    I’m sure that seat is spoken for this year, so it’s back in the Que for me…
    how’s 20 20 looking?…

    Seasons Greetings.
    Yours truly


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