You are being manipulated and you may not even know how.
This will tell you.
Beat the narcissist and know their machinations.

24 thoughts on “Manipulated”

  1. H. G what happens if you show a narcissist unconditional acceptance and only give positive fuel? Will he lose interest?

    1. It depends on how potent, frequent and in what quantity this positive fuel is provided. Past experience does suggest that where provided by an IPPS it does become stale. An IPSS or NISS is able to provide this for a longer period and receive an elongated golden period because the narcissist does not draw down on that positive fuel to the same extent as he or she would with an IPPS and thus this preserves the potency.

      As for the unconditional acceptance, I assume you are referring to the person’s narcissism? With a Lesser of Mid-Ranger it makes no difference because they do not know what they are. With a Greater, I must confess I am interested to see how somebody would maintain fuel levels knowing the full extent of what I am.

      1. They would need lots of sleep, a healthy diet, daily meditation, hot yoga, and monthly massages with reiki.
        Recipe for success with a greater ☺

      2. Oh and they need to perform a sage smudging ritual throughout the house every week. This will clear out all the negative juju that accumulates. I also recommend healing crystals to keep the energy flowing.

      3. I thought you had said that at some point you would HAVE TO switch to negative fuel. You would have to learn to self-fuel or to be content with positive fuel first (so much for unconditional).
        Everything else is again dependent on your conditions: either your Primary Source gives you everything and anything you ask for whenever you ask for it or you would tell her that it was her fault that you HAD to switch to negative fuel now.
        And lots of other things.

      4. Thank you ava101. The fact is we look to The One, to be that person who provides that positive fuel endlessly so there is that permanent golden period. Experience has taught me that I have to switch to negative fuel because of the positive fuel becoming stale, less frequent or less copious. It is the desire vs the experience.

      5. And I can’t even accept my own fxxxx narc-mother unconditionally, I could kill her for her passive-aggressive manipulation and 0 compassion & entitlement right now.

      6. HG: but an empath who knows you and accepts you still wouldn’t change that … she would completely exhaust herself to provide more positive fuel than humanly possible, maybe before you had a chance to destroy … 😉 Maybe.

      7. Thank you HG. 🙂 Yes, her ever-perfect facade. I guess you’re right, as always.
        First, she gave me the wedding band of my grandmother, and there’s nothing I would have valued more. Then, she cooked something for me she perfectly well knows I cannot eat because of a health condition.

      8. Yes, sage smudging is burning sage in the house, using a feather to fan the smoke. The smoke clears the negative energy and blesses the space. You must do it in every room. Do not forget the closets and storage area.

      9. Oh no Mr. Tudor, that will not do. I shall mail a care package to Kim. She must be the one who does the smudging. I will send her the chants that go along with it too.

  2. Listening to your YouTube channel triggered some memories that I would rather forget & stay buried in Hell where they belong…. but your voice & whatever you were saying brought some issues to the surface. Thank you, HG. It genuinely sucked to remember, but I cried & wrote out all the memories coming back to me. The experience helped me realize how incredibly far I have come & how much I have evolved.
    Anyways, I shall continue to listen to you, Sam Vaknin, & the Spartan Life Coach on YouTube in order to get better.
    Thanks again & God willing, I hope you change for the better….my therapist insists narcissists can change if they want to (Honestly, I do not believe her, but miracles can happen 😉).

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